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BlindAngel:
You really don't understand, she won't let me go. She says she's sticking with me forever that she has already given birth, that she already has a scar when giving birth through CS, that I should make her whole the way she was before I met her that it's the only condition that would make her go.

I told her that there are women out that have given birth to 3 or 4 children through same CS that's she's hyping and today they are no more with their partners due to the fact that things didn't worked out. But she always insist that that's their own that she isn't going anywhere.

otipoju:
It's okay. Let me let you into one truth today. 95% of men regret their marriage and wish they married someone else.

You have to take responsibility for your actions. Nobody forced you to sleep with her maybe you were tipsy when you did. But you got to own your actions.

She is the mother of your child and that is something that you can't change abd you have to ensure that the relationship is healthy. If not your child is gonna be dealing with some serious emotional baggage that will prevent him from amounting to anything meaningful in life.

I know you are angry, but you have to apologize to your wife for humiliating her like that in public. Try and make it up to her by doing stuff for the burial if you have the means

She is already a broken woman based on the damage that her father already dud to her, you don't have to do the same. She will just kill you and herself one day.

It is not her fault that she us not physically attractive and rubbing it in her face us killing her everyday and perhaps that is why she us wishing you a slow and painful death.

Don't think she cannot poison you one day. You are really pushing her to the limit.

Manage the situation better brotherly, for your own good. What is destroyed is hard to fix.

Even if she no dey physically attractive, that is not what you will tell a woman to discharge her...na you carry yourself ho meet am and in the spiritual courts she go win you hands down ooo.

Spiritual justice no be by who sabi pray pass ooo. All that one about her other sisters and their baby daddies will not count if she judge your matter.

Na case by case. You need to seriously appease her for your own good. If not it is guaranteed that you will be cut off slowly as she said...she is actually describing the pain you are giving her by your harsh and insensitive words...you are killing her slowly and painfully.

Manage this thing with wisdom of manhood. No be sey you dey fear.

BlindAngel:
Still feels like yesterday when I was pleading with her endlessly that I'm not in anyway ready for marriage, still feels like yesterday when she showed me all sorts of hell to the extend I didn't realized when I bowed to pressure and agreed to marry her. I agree that I disgraced her but I won't forget the torture that I went through during the period she was pressuring me endlessly. If she has listened to me back then and stayed calm, until I'm fully ready for marriage all these won't have been happening.

pryme:
Which State is your wife from? It sounds like a State I know very well to do this.

BlindAngel:
Good evening Nairalanders, few months ago I posted here regarding how my wife forced me into marriage that I wasn't in anyway ready for because she got pregnant. I posted about the regret I'm still battling until date, because the love isn't there from my own end and I'm also not in anyway attracted to her physically. I have told her severally that I want to option out of the marriage and not doing again but until date she has refused to let me go.

Back to the main point, my wife lost her dad this morning. Her deceased dad has two wife's and several concubines that gave birth to lots of children, my wife doesn't know some of her half brothers and sisters.

So I went to their family house this morning to console them. The eldest son of the family (her half brother) told me and another in law that we'd be the one to pay for mortuary expenses and casket, and when the burial is getting closer they'd give us a list of things to buy and we'd both bring one goats each.

To be brutally honest I wasn't mad because of this latest expense, I got furious immediately and right on the spot because of the pressure my wife pressured me into getting married to her, by now I'd have been totally free of these unnecessary expenses. More than 19 of her sisters, both biological and half sisters that has given birth, no single expense was listed for their man that they got pregnant for and has a child for. But I and the other in law that paid dowry are the one going through these unnecessary expenses.

So immediately he told me about everything, I charged at my wife right on the spot, right in front of her mom, her brothers, her sisters and some of her friends that came for condolence visit. I got so furious and started shouting at the top of my voice, I reminded her how she forced me into marriage that I'm not in anyway prepared and ready for, both physically, psychologically, emotionally, financially. (I have been reminding her regarding this almost on a daily basis and whenever we are quarreling.

I reminded her how she threatened me with suicide and our of fear of the unknown I wasted almost 4m in getting married to her. I told her that I'd have been free of these expenses if not for her pressure.

Immediately she burst into tears, and started crying endlessly.

Her mom and sisters started yelling at me and I yelled back at all of them. They told me I met her a Virgin and now she's no longer good for me (truly, the whole family thought that I was the one that took her virginity) My wife and I agreed to keep it a secret, but the constant remainder from her mom and sisters made me let the cat out of the bag, I told them that I didn't met her a Virgin that she has already started having sex when I met her, they didn't believe me but with my tone, I know they'd.

I also made mentioned that I'm not buying any goat or paying for mortuary or taking any list from them. That it's their dad and they should take care of every responsibilities, after all he has uncountable children, why putting some of the expense on me? I walked away, and switched off my phone until now that I'm just putting it on.

I know that I acted wrongly and allowed my anger to get the best part of me. But I was furious because no single bill went to her sister's baby father's, absolutely nothing was listed for them. I got furious because these expenses won't be on me right now if not for her pressuring me into marriage that I want ready for. I was furious because I and the other in law that they billed became the scape goat by doing the right thing by getting married and not leaving theirs daughter In ruins, where as those that got their daughter pregnant without getting married to them were totally free from these unnecessary bills. I'm in so much pains and regret right now.

maasoap:
According to Op, there was no point in time he thought he loved her, from the past till now. He even said that she used pregnancy and threat to kill herself to force him into this marriage. And the Op feelings for her haven't changed positively till this hour. What else do you people want to hear from him? And if one kills the other tomorrow, all of you will still be asking question that why couldn't they divorce before it got to that stage.
As for me not being married or not in a long term marriage, my relationships experience is rich and interesting enough to write a story book . I follow my guts, I follow my heart, I don't allow pressure from anyone to dictate my decision.

bibleprayerhub:
Everything I want to say u just said it

Imagine in front of your inlaw

It shows you don't respect your wife and your in-laws

U could have called your wife one corner and tell her u don't have money. I love you thank u

Go and apologize and do the right thing

BlindAngel:
I won't have been married to her if not for her endless threats, problems and troubles she gave me during the period that she founded out newly that she was pregnant. Until this very moment I'm still blaming myself for not been able to stand my ground as a man by not bowing to such pressure in making such important life decision. It's really not about the punna.

BadBradley:
do in your tradition, it is the in-laws that will foot and bury a man? Not his sons and not his brothers and relatives but his daughters' husbands.

Are you from Congo?

BlindAngel:
You really don't understand, she won't let me go. She says she's sticking with me forever that she has already given birth, that she already has a scar when giving birth through CS, that I should make her whole the way she was before I met her that it's the only condition that would make her go.

I told her that there are women out that have given birth to 3 or 4 children through same CS that's she's hyping and today they are no more with their partners due to the fact that things didn't worked out. But she always insist that that's their own that she isn't going anywhere.

BlindAngel:
I'm not a simp boss, u really don't know what I went through during those period when she newly found out that she was pregnant. I saw hell and didn't know exactly when I later bowed to the pressure.

BlindAngel:
Thank you, I will be careful. She called me this morning and started talking about how I embarrassed her in front of her family and friends, then she hanged up. I went home this evening and I didn't see her at home, I've called everyone close to her and until now her whereabouts is unknown, her numbers isn't going through and her WhatsApp profile picture has turned white.

Nevertheless, I'd find out tomorrow what's really going on.

BlindAngel:
Good evening Nairalanders, few months ago I posted here regarding how my wife forced me into marriage that I wasn't in anyway ready for because she got pregnant. I posted about the regret I'm still battling until date, because the love isn't there from my own end and I'm also not in anyway attracted to her physically. I have told her severally that I want to option out of the marriage and not doing again but until date she has refused to let me go.

Back to the main point, my wife lost her dad this morning. Her deceased dad has two wife's and several concubines that gave birth to lots of children, my wife doesn't know some of her half brothers and sisters.

So I went to their family house this morning to console them. The eldest son of the family (her half brother) told me and another in law that we'd be the one to pay for mortuary expenses and casket, and when the burial is getting closer they'd give us a list of things to buy and we'd both bring one goats each.

To be brutally honest I wasn't mad because of this latest expense, I got furious immediately and right on the spot because of the pressure my wife pressured me into getting married to her, by now I'd have been totally free of these unnecessary expenses. More than 19 of her sisters, both biological and half sisters that has given birth, no single expense was listed for their man that they got pregnant for and has a child for. But I and the other in law that paid dowry are the one going through these unnecessary expenses.

So immediately he told me about everything, I charged at my wife right on the spot, right in front of her mom, her brothers, her sisters and some of her friends that came for condolence visit. I got so furious and started shouting at the top of my voice, I reminded her how she forced me into marriage that I'm not in anyway prepared and ready for, both physically, psychologically, emotionally, financially. (I have been reminding her regarding this almost on a daily basis and whenever we are quarreling.

I reminded her how she threatened me with suicide and our of fear of the unknown I wasted almost 4m in getting married to her. I told her that I'd have been free of these expenses if not for her pressure.

Immediately she burst into tears, and started crying endlessly.

Her mom and sisters started yelling at me and I yelled back at all of them. They told me I met her a Virgin and now she's no longer good for me (truly, the whole family thought that I was the one that took her virginity) My wife and I agreed to keep it a secret, but the constant remainder from her mom and sisters made me let the cat out of the bag, I told them that I didn't met her a Virgin that she has already started having sex when I met her, they didn't believe me but with my tone, I know they'd.

I also made mentioned that I'm not buying any goat or paying for mortuary or taking any list from them. That it's their dad and they should take care of every responsibilities, after all he has uncountable children, why putting some of the expense on me? I walked away, and switched off my phone until now that I'm just putting it on.

I know that I acted wrongly and allowed my anger to get the best part of me. But I was furious because no single bill went to her sister's baby father's, absolutely nothing was listed for them. I got furious because these expenses won't be on me right now if not for her pressuring me into marriage that I want ready for. I was furious because I and the other in law that they billed became the scape goat by doing the right thing by getting married and not leaving theirs daughter In ruins, where as those that got their daughter pregnant without getting married to them were totally free from these unnecessary bills. I'm in so much pains and regret right now.

Mariangeles:
Don't stay silent O!
If you do, they will intimidate and swallow you up.
Speak up when necessary, otherwise, they'd take you for a fool.

BlindAngel:
I'm 30, I got married to her 9 months ago, I was 29 then.

It'd be difficult and nearly impossible for me to end the marriage, she isn't in any way ready to let go. The only condition she has accepted for the marriage to come to an end is the fact that we'd both still be fully together after returning her bride price which I rejected, anything short of this she'd become a tigress whenever I talks about the discontinuation of the marriage.

BlindAngel:
Good evening Nairalanders, few months ago I posted here regarding how my wife forced me into marriage that I wasn't in anyway ready for because she got pregnant. I posted about the regret I'm still battling until date, because the love isn't there from my own end and I'm also not in anyway attracted to her physically. I have told her severally that I want to option out of the marriage and not doing again but until date she has refused to let me go.

Back to the main point, my wife lost her dad this morning. Her deceased dad has two wife's and several concubines that gave birth to lots of children, my wife doesn't know some of her half brothers and sisters.

So I went to their family house this morning to console them. The eldest son of the family (her half brother) told me and another in law that we'd be the one to pay for mortuary expenses and casket, and when the burial is getting closer they'd give us a list of things to buy and we'd both bring one goats each.

To be brutally honest I wasn't mad because of this latest expense, I got furious immediately and right on the spot because of the pressure my wife pressured me into getting married to her, by now I'd have been totally free of these unnecessary expenses. More than 19 of her sisters, both biological and half sisters that has given birth, no single expense was listed for their man that they got pregnant for and has a child for. But I and the other in law that paid dowry are the one going through these unnecessary expenses.

So immediately he told me about everything, I charged at my wife right on the spot, right in front of her mom, her brothers, her sisters and some of her friends that came for condolence visit. I got so furious and started shouting at the top of my voice, I reminded her how she forced me into marriage that I'm not in anyway prepared and ready for, both physically, psychologically, emotionally, financially. (I have been reminding her regarding this almost on a daily basis and whenever we are quarreling.

I reminded her how she threatened me with suicide and our of fear of the unknown I wasted almost 4m in getting married to her. I told her that I'd have been free of these expenses if not for her pressure.

Immediately she burst into tears, and started crying endlessly.

Her mom and sisters started yelling at me and I yelled back at all of them. They told me I met her a Virgin and now she's no longer good for me (truly, the whole family thought that I was the one that took her virginity) My wife and I agreed to keep it a secret, but the constant remainder from her mom and sisters made me let the cat out of the bag, I told them that I didn't met her a Virgin that she has already started having sex when I met her, they didn't believe me but with my tone, I know they'd.

I also made mentioned that I'm not buying any goat or paying for mortuary or taking any list from them. That it's their dad and they should take care of every responsibilities, after all he has uncountable children, why putting some of the expense on me? I walked away, and switched off my phone until now that I'm just putting it on.

I know that I acted wrongly and allowed my anger to get the best part of me. But I was furious because no single bill went to her sister's baby father's, absolutely nothing was listed for them. I got furious because these expenses won't be on me right now if not for her pressuring me into marriage that I want ready for. I was furious because I and the other in law that they billed became the scape goat by doing the right thing by getting married and not leaving theirs daughter In ruins, where as those that got their daughter pregnant without getting married to them were totally free from these unnecessary bills. I'm in so much pains and regret right now.

emmanuelewumi:
Simps are expected to see hell and bow to the manipulation of women.

A simp will never agree that he is one

DoctorAyukebot:
Eat, dance and share what property is left of the rolling stone dad..Lol

DEXTROVERT:
Just imagine

Someone acts this way to your own daughter

You blasted her
You deflated her
You detest her
You think she forced herself on you
You disrespected her

I'm sore sad

If you have a daughter
And
A man did all these to her
Will you be ever happy on her behalf

Women have their short comings
But, you are man and wiser
Learn to keep those hurtful words away

I can't imagine everyday you tell my daughter, you hate her and she forced herself on you.

Better honorably divorce her,
She has gone through alot
No wonder she will reply you harshly

Let me tell you
No matter what she says to you
If you are sick today, the only one that will be by your bed is your wife, all those side chicks will run.

Pls give what you can, and if you don't have
Humbly tell them.
Start respecting your wife, your family will be blessed

Blackdisciple:
But I was furious because no single bill went to her sister's baby father's, absolutely nothing was listed for them

Probably since they did not come to do the right thing that's why they are not recognized in the family yet. So reminding your wife every time una fight that she forced you into married is killing her gradually. So fix it bro and as for your inlaws you might need to apologize to the mama, they never knew that their daughter was never a virgin as they thought hence you spending likely 4m for a wedding of a camouflage virgin..

BlindAngel:
Good evening Nairalanders, few months ago I posted here regarding how my wife forced me into marriage that I wasn't in anyway ready for because she got pregnant. I posted about the regret I'm still battling until date, because the love isn't there from my own end and I'm also not in anyway attracted to her physically. I have told her severally that I want to option out of the marriage and not doing again but until date she has refused to let me go.

Back to the main point, my wife lost her dad this morning. Her deceased dad has two wife's and several concubines that gave birth to lots of children, my wife doesn't know some of her half brothers and sisters.

So I went to their family house this morning to console them. The eldest son of the family (her half brother) told me and another in law that we'd be the one to pay for mortuary expenses and casket, and when the burial is getting closer they'd give us a list of things to buy and we'd both bring one goats each.

To be brutally honest I wasn't mad because of this latest expense, I got furious immediately and right on the spot because of the pressure my wife pressured me into getting married to her, by now I'd have been totally free of these unnecessary expenses. More than 19 of her sisters, both biological and half sisters that has given birth, no single expense was listed for their man that they got pregnant for and has a child for. But I and the other in law that paid dowry are the one going through these unnecessary expenses.

So immediately he told me about everything, I charged at my wife right on the spot, right in front of her mom, her brothers, her sisters and some of her friends that came for condolence visit. I got so furious and started shouting at the top of my voice, I reminded her how she forced me into marriage that I'm not in anyway prepared and ready for, both physically, psychologically, emotionally, financially. (I have been reminding her regarding this almost on a daily basis and whenever we are quarreling.

I reminded her how she threatened me with suicide and our of fear of the unknown I wasted almost 4m in getting married to her. I told her that I'd have been free of these expenses if not for her pressure.

Immediately she burst into tears, and started crying endlessly.

Her mom and sisters started yelling at me and I yelled back at all of them. They told me I met her a Virgin and now she's no longer good for me (truly, the whole family thought that I was the one that took her virginity) My wife and I agreed to keep it a secret, but the constant remainder from her mom and sisters made me let the cat out of the bag, I told them that I didn't met her a Virgin that she has already started having sex when I met her, they didn't believe me but with my tone, I know they'd.

I also made mentioned that I'm not buying any goat or paying for mortuary or taking any list from them. That it's their dad and they should take care of every responsibilities, after all he has uncountable children, why putting some of the expense on me? I walked away, and switched off my phone until now that I'm just putting it on.

I know that I acted wrongly and allowed my anger to get the best part of me. But I was furious because no single bill went to her sister's baby father's, absolutely nothing was listed for them. I got furious because these expenses won't be on me right now if not for her pressuring me into marriage that I want ready for. I was furious because I and the other in law that they billed became the scape goat by doing the right thing by getting married and not leaving theirs daughter In ruins, where as those that got their daughter pregnant without getting married to them were totally free from these unnecessary bills. I'm in so much pains and regret right now.

Procashtips:
But people sleep with prostitutes they have nothing for.

Asking the above question is not logical.

Alot of men can sleep with whatever as long as he's in the mood and the whatever is available and a female

idahme:
All the people I bleep you marry them? Be sincere with your answer

Procashtips:
The family is with no shame, leaving their daughter with a man who clearly showed he's not interested in her.

It's a failed family looking for meal tickets.

Nigerdeltaent:
how do you people have sex with someone you are not physically attracted to to the point of spermming inside her🤣🤣🤣

BlindAngel:
Ilaje, from Ondo state.