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Woman will cheat in your nose let alone in your absense for several months.

She will cheat. If you are brave to marry a woman, be brave enough to accept infidelity - that's if you ever find out. A woman would most certainly cheat. You don't have to be away. But if you're away, that makes it almost 100% certain.

And forget about that tradition. We have it in all parts of Edo and Delta from Onitsha area to the Auchi area. They're lies. They don't work. It's just a mythology

pelusi:
I traveled outside the country for 8 months now while my family is in Nigeria.

Now I will be returning to Nigeria next week. For this 7 months, I kept myself and did not mess around(slept) with any woman.

However, it's not that I don't trust my wife, but atimes I have an instincts that she may not hold herself like I did and may have fallen in hands of men.

Where I come from, it's an abomination for any married woman to sleep with another man because of the dare consequences it has on the husband of the adulterous woman.

Now I'm coming back soonest,I'm scared if she has slept with another man and I was suggesting before sleeping with her to sit her down and ask her to sincerely tell me if she has fallen in my absence,so that necessary things(cleansing) can be done before I sleep with her.

On the other hand, I'm reasoning whether asking her such will cause a misunderstanding in the marriage.

Please advise on the best way to go about this.

Ask her and tie it to the cleansing reason. But know it won't go down well...

Babana you married your wife so many reasons. I would advise you don't ask such questions because women tend to hold some words and bring it up whenever there is fight. That question might break your home

pelusi:
I traveled outside the country for 8 months now while my family is in Nigeria.

Now I will be returning to Nigeria next week. For this 7 months, I kept myself and did not mess around(slept) with any woman.

However, it's not that I don't trust my wife, but atimes I have an instincts that she may not hold herself like I did and may have fallen in hands of men.

Where I come from, it's an abomination for any married woman to sleep with another man because of the dare consequences it has on the husband of the adulterous woman.

Now I'm coming back soonest,I'm scared if she has slept with another man and I was suggesting before sleeping with her to sit her down and ask her to sincerely tell me if she has fallen in my absence,so that necessary things(cleansing) can be done before I sleep with her.

On the other hand, I'm reasoning whether asking her such will cause a misunderstanding in the marriage.

Please advise on the best way to go about this.

MuslimIgbo:
How will you know?

How can a man ever trust a girl he didn't meet or marry as a virgin?
It's stupidity to trust such girl.

MANY OF YOU AVERAGE GIRLS IN THIS GENERATION HAVE EVEN DATED MARRIED MEN...

IF A GIRL CAN SLEEP WITH MARRIED MEN WHILE SINGLE, WHAT'S SPECIAL ABOUT HER NOT SLEEPING AROUND WHILE MARRIED?

A GIRL WHO DOESN'T RESPECT OTHER PEOPLE'S MARRIAGE WHILE SINGLE CAN NEVER RESPECT HER OWN MARRIAGE.

THAT'S A FACT!

no vex just u sef ask your dad if he marry your mum as a virgin.

thesicilian:
Are you saying this because your instrument is smaller than every other person's?

Guy but you they madder oooo

What is your fear?
Your previous posts suggests you were no longer a stallion in bed.

pelusi:
I traveled outside the country for 8 months now while my family is in Nigeria.

Now I will be returning to Nigeria next week. For this 7 months, I kept myself and did not mess around(slept) with any woman.

However, it's not that I don't trust my wife, but atimes I have an instincts that she may not hold herself like I did and may have fallen in hands of men.

Where I come from, it's an abomination for any married woman to sleep with another man because of the dare consequences it has on the husband of the adulterous woman.

Now I'm coming back soonest,I'm scared if she has slept with another man and I was suggesting before sleeping with her to sit her down and ask her to sincerely tell me if she has fallen in my absence,so that necessary things(cleansing) can be done before I sleep with her.

On the other hand, I'm reasoning whether asking her such will cause a misunderstanding in the marriage.

Please advise on the best way to go about this.

If you're idoma by tribe and from ogbadibo LG you cannot suspect your wife of adultery without undergoing some rituals... suspecting your wife itself is crime

justtoodark:
do you tell your sexual history to women when you meet them....??
why do you await that from women....??

I don't care what you think
You might not be interested to know my sexual history as a girl, but it's impossible for me not to be interested in yours and any girl I meet IF YOU'RE NOT A VIRGIN.
SEX IS DIFFERENT FOR BOTH GENDERS WHETHER YOU BELIEVE IT OR NOT.

EVEN SCIENTIFICALLY, YOU'RE THE ONE WHO RECEIVES.
THE DNA OF ALL THE GUYS YOU EVER SLEPT WITH WITHOUT CONDOM IS STILL IN YOUR BODY SYSTEM AND WILL REMAIN THERE FOREVER...

Vice versa

pelusi:
I traveled outside the country for 8 months now while my family is in Nigeria.

Now I will be returning to Nigeria next week. For this 7 months, I kept myself and did not mess around(slept) with any woman.

However, it's not that I don't trust my wife, but atimes I have an instincts that she may not hold herself like I did and may have fallen in hands of men.

Where I come from, it's an abomination for any married woman to sleep with another man because of the dare consequences it has on the husband of the adulterous woman.

Now I'm coming back soonest,I'm scared if she has slept with another man and I was suggesting before sleeping with her to sit her down and ask her to sincerely tell me if she has fallen in my absence,so that necessary things(cleansing) can be done before I sleep with her.

On the other hand, I'm reasoning whether asking her such will cause a misunderstanding in the marriage.

Please advise on the best way to go about this.

Asking such question means you don't trust her and she won't find it funny.

If she's not from your place. First, educate her of the consequences of your sleeping with her if she has slept with other men. Tell her that it will also have dire consequences on her too. Add salt and pepper to the story and put fear into her. Then, give her some days, she will confess.

This Balthazar saga is making many men to overthink

You wife person wey you no trust. You be wetin. You be mumu.

Ask her ooo, the world has changed into a very chaotic place, people no longer care anymore, humans are completely out of control in these end of days

MuslimIgbo:
Don't listen to this advice
These are serpents and HYPOCRITES.

A taboo is a taboo

Na you go suffer the consequence.

IF YOU DIDN'T MEET OR MARRY HER AS A VIRGIN, NEVER EVER TRUST HER OR ANYTHING THAT COMES OUT OF HER MOUTH AS REGARDS HER SEXUAL HISTORY, EVEN WHILE YOU'RE MARRIED TO HER.

You are all brainwashed with nonsense superstitions.
Even if she did, do you think she’ll be truthful about it. If she was aware of such superstition and still went ahead to sleep with another man, what do you think would be her response and reaction if he asks her?

If she says no that she didn’t cheat on him, how would he prove that she’s been honest?

If he was worried about her cheating and didn’t trust her, he shouldn’t have married her in the first place. While he was away, he should be communicating with her constantly which might not be the case here.

Where are you guys from? Which places practice and believe this stuffs.

if they is something God have giving to us and we don't trust it, it is our instinct... trust me bro, ur instinct pick up some wave of information and that is why u are having self doubt. do ur findings first before, eating that food that faces the earth.

Latakia:
no vex j sef ask your dad if he marry your mum as a virgin.

Lol
My parents sexual information is none of my business.
I know topics like this usually trigger WHORÉS like you.... Like mother like daughter...

But let me ask,
Are you proud of your BODYCOUNT?
Will you like your daughter to be like you ?

Pelusi, both of you should go for an STDs/STIs test. This is my best advice. If anyone cheats, it gon reflect except her protection is 100% which I doubt.

Guy, I heard a woman on phone calling someone who sells v tightening cream. She said it is urgent , he is coming tonight.
Ask wether she lies or not. Trust fire!! Be wise watch her closely from her behaviour you will know too.

AlphaNugget:
Ask.

You paid her bride price. It is your right.

Meanwhile, OGs can know from how slack the pußsy is 🤥

KosiGee:
You are all brainwashed with nonsense superstitions.
Even if she did, do you think she’ll be truthful about it. If she was aware of such superstition and still went ahead to sleep with another man, what do you think would be her response and reaction if he asks her?

If she says no that she didn’t cheat on him, how would he prove that she’s been honest?

If he was worried about her cheating and didn’t trust her, he shouldn’t have married her in the first place. While he was away, he should be communicating with her constantly which might not be the case here.

Where are you guys from? Which places practice and believe this stuffs.

You're brainwashed with stupidity and hypocrisy. I know your type...
Meanwhile, it doesn't matter if she tells the truth or not, the man's business is to ask and find out the truth.

"O you who have believed, avoid much suspicion. Indeed, some suspicion is sin." (Quran 49:12)

This verse emphasizes the importance of not being overly suspicious, as it can lead to harmful behavior and sin. It encourages believers to focus on trust and avoid unnecessary doubts about others.

You will do well to avoid stuff that has the potential to cut your life short! I hope you are not in the company of husbands who ask to smell the pants their wife wore in the day to see whether she slept with another fellow during the day!!!

JastSiryin:
You only ask these sort of questions when you've got irrefutable evidence to the fact. Otherwise it's like asking a close friend if he plans on murdering or selling you out. It's just not a wise thing to do, objectively speaking

without trust i dont even understand how a relationship between man and woman can happen sef....

women have to give up alot to trust any man in todays world....
lets tell each other the truth....men and women are mostly happy as singles in this modern age....

ehikwe22:
Woman will cheat in your nose let alone in your absense for several months.

She will cheat. If you are brave to marry a woman, be brave enough to accept infidelity - that's if you ever find out. A woman would most certainly cheat. You don't have to be away. But if you're away, that makes it almost 100% certain.

And forget about that tradition. We have it in all parts of Edo and Delta from Onitsha area to the Auchi area. They're lies. They don't work. It's just a mythology

Absolutely
Especially those LOOSE and indiscipline ones... THOSE YOU DIDN'T MEET OR MARRY AS A VIRGIN.

MuslimIgbo:
Lol
My parents sexual information is none of my business.
I know topics like this usually trigger WHORÉS like you.... Like mother like daughter...

But let me ask,
Are you proud of your BODYCOUNT?
Will you like your daughter to be like you ?

it's your business and you must ask your dad.

Faber:
Go through her phone first...

Then from her phone you may see one or two clues...

Steal her blood or saliva while she is asleep and Use it for pregnancy test, before paternity fraud hits on you.

Or you consult a native doctor...If I marry tomorrow, which I dont see it happening, they no born any woman well to cheat on me. I know where I will go and I will be briefed of all your whereabouts. 💯 Tested and trusted

Hahahahahahahaha u funny walahiiii

The question doesn't make sense Na. You have to see something strong to ask such question.

Latakia:
it's your business and you must ask your dad.

Go ask your mother how many men she slept with before meeting your father and what's her BODYCOUNT since after marrying your father.
Then compare the figures with yours and you'll definitely see truth in what I have been saying.

Also ask her to tell you who your real father is...

pelusi:
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Please advise on the best way to go about this.

There is no point asking because, weda she cheated or not, the answer u will get is No from any woman...u will even get big fight seff weda she cheated or not because women are the kings of gaslighting...

The approach is to avoid sex for a few days forming tired or sick and notice her reaction....trust me.a woman that has not knack for 7months will definitely over rush her man, weda he's tired or not...
.....if there is no rushing/desire from her....u need to to do some FBI, enter her phone...call logs, whats app, and look out for new calls because side nigga may be looking for more action..

Hey!! ..just to be on be on the safe side....strap up in case another man's pregnancy is already waiting for you .....

MuslimIgbo:
Absolutely
Especially those LOOSE and indiscipline ones... THOSE YOU DIDN'T MEET OR MARRY AS A VIRGIN.

are you a VIRGIN hunter....??

i have a word for black men like you....stuuuuuuppppiiiidddd....!!

It shows there was little to no communication on your end even while you traveled…I understand your paranoia, na you sabi the kain woman wey you marry, but if you were making efforts to communicate during your absence, you would have known this or probably be certain she has no one else…sounds like you just went and left your wife and kids at home, and you guys talk once in a while, even when y’all talk, I bet there’s no vibe or ginger, so it feels like you don’t really know what she’s capable of because youve been absent but you trust her because she’s goes to church and does the normal but lowkey, you know you were absent during those months…if tou really were present, you would know or see signs even from miles away, you go see signs if you paid attention to details…I understand no family is perfect though, I really pray you guys sort things out, atleast you seem like the type that works hard to care for his family and you being scared to ask her means you trust her but lowkey we all know we can’t trust the flesh of that gender, our desires and the way it brings things hard to control

pelusi:
I traveled outside the country for 8 months now while my family is in Nigeria.

Now I will be returning to Nigeria next week. For this 7 months, I kept myself and did not mess around(slept) with any woman.

However, it's not that I don't trust my wife, but atimes I have an instincts that she may not hold herself like I did and may have fallen in hands of men.

Where I come from, it's an abomination for any married woman to sleep with another man because of the dare consequences it has on the husband of the adulterous woman.

Now I'm coming back soonest,I'm scared if she has slept with another man and I was suggesting before sleeping with her to sit her down and ask her to sincerely tell me if she has fallen in my absence,so that necessary things(cleansing) can be done before I sleep with her.

On the other hand, I'm reasoning whether asking her such will cause a misunderstanding in the marriage.

Please advise on the best way to go about this.

Yes
Ask her

Go ahead and ask her
Before thunder go strike you ontop Wetin you no know