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Thanks, but at the moment I don't think I'm ready to try for another baby... I just want to focus on myself, my family, and enjoy life.

I'm still young in my 20s and I still have plenty of time to have more children in the nearest future.

Basiljoe:
I've learnt from your experience.
So sorry to hear about your baby.
The good lord with give you triplets. 🙏🏽

The reasons against doing such will be anecdotal at best.


It literally means nothing- it's just a question of personality.



Is it everyone who is not posting on social media that is doing well in their (private/offline) lives? When there are people living off of the money they make from being social media creators.

Samantha125:
I lost my baby last month because of Instagram...

I'm sorry about your loss.

Seeing what you've gone through and the subject of the thread, are you comfortable putting such an intimate and personal detail of yourself on a troll-filled forum such as Nairaland?

I would think you'll be more cautious of posting...more of your life events online as you've been on the receiving end of the downside of social media?

Toh.

Posting of achievements on social media to me is seeking unnecessary validation and trying to show better than syndrome. That's how one will unconsciously post what should never have been posted. I have been there and I burnt my hands badly.
Since that experience 12 yrs ago, you can never see anything on my social media accounts, even WhatsApp, I use often times use random pics as profile pic.
Nobody knows shit about me except very close personal friends. And of course, few details on LinkedIn just for formalities sake.

Like someone said, they can't 'ruin what they don't know'

sylve11:
The peace of mind that comes with staying low is a luxury the wicked can't afford.

I have come to understand something about some people who post their achievements online; some of them are weak mentally. The only way to get that approval from people is to show it off.

Big lie
Posting online is not show off
It depends on how you see it
Some of us post for fun 🤩 or to entertain our contacts.
Do whatever works for you but don’t judge others based on your opinion

Basiljoe:
Back story:

LMAO.


You people dey kill me for this thread.


You're literally arguing against posting about one's life on social media by *checks notes* sharing stories about yourselves and family members.


If a troll should fixate their attention on you now, you think the fact that you're "anonymous" will shake them off from digging up details about you?

A part of me wants to chalk it down to the hypocritical, contradictory nature of humans...but another part of me sees it as a means of connecting and communicating with other people for the sake of a communal feeling. And that's what I'll go with.


As you can evidently see, sharing your perspective here is not an attempt at trying to pepper anybody. I'm sure you did not think twice about any haters or scammers from NL when you were name-dropping those places and that you're into tech. 'Evil manifestion' (or whatever it is) does not need to see your face to work. According to some spiritual practitioners like that, it's all about energy and intent.

Every comment you've made on NL over the years that contains a bit yourself is... I don't know. There is just a little difference from and the ones who do the same on other media platforms.

They are sharing key moments of their lives with people who follow them, appreciate it and root for them. Our parents share the news of their children wins with family members who equally are happy and celebratory. We do same through social media. That you can find cases of people having sour experiences after posting to social media doesn't mean you cannot find much more people who are thriving and progressing even as they post to social media.

Samantha125:
Yes, I did got her arrested.

Good to know.

Stay strong.

Magnoliaa:
I'm sorry about your loss.

Seeing what you've gone through and the subject of the thread, are you comfortable putting such an intimate and personal detail of yourself on a troll-filled forum such as Nairaland?

I would think you'll be more cautious of posting...more of your life events online as you've been on the receiving end of the downside of social media?

Toh.

Please allow her. Don't start please.

Thank you.

Zonefree:
Please allow her. Don't start please.

Thank you.

Not the selective moralist coming out to play in the wild.


Don't make me sick please. You better do what's good for you, take the best advice you can give yourself and scram out of my mentions.

Acting as if he's suddenly the sharer of love and light and the custodian of empathy online.



Like he wouldn't be the first person to troll her after faking a faux "friendship" and then falling out with her.


Mtcheeeww.

Magnoliaa:
Not the selective moralist coming out to play in the wild.


Don't make me sick please. You better do what's good for you, take the best advice you can give yourself and scram out of my mentions.

Not tonight, satan.

Zonefree:
Not tonight, satan.

Oh I thought you were about good vibes and positive feelings now?


All the women whose stories have graced the FP on NL, all who have been victims of senseless, primitive crimes, did you think to restrain yourself before making evil comments about them and having your ilk pile on them?

They were strangers and so it doesn't matter?


Go and look in the mirror and see for yourself EXACTLY the person who personifies every negative label you have for me.

Magnoliaa:
Oh I thought you were about good vibes and positive feelings now?


All the women whose stories have graced the FP on NL, all who have been victims of devastating, primitive crimes, did you think to restrain yourself before making evil comments about them and having your ilk pile on them?

They were strangers and so it doesn't matter?


Go and look in the mirror and see for yourself EXACTLY the person who personifies every negative label you have for me.

This woman, what is actually your problem?

Zonefree:
This woman, what is actually your problem?

Get the heck out of my mentions, Zonefree.


Get the bleeping off.


You don't quote me, you don't have any reason to have an issue with me or deal with my satanic self.

Stay away from my posts and mind the business that pays you.

Magnoliaa:
Get the heck out of my mentions, Zonefree.


Get the bleeping off.


You don't quote me, you don't have any reason to have an issue with me or deal with my satanic self.

Stay away from my posts and mind the business that pays you.

Okay, love.

Personally speaking I'll say NAY, I'm not a fan of social media and I don't need random people knowing about my achievements.

Yay but not everything

I post for fun and also for validation.

I stopped because I don't get the validation and it makes me feel bad. My former mates from university, secondary school still get hundreds of thousands of likes, but I get very few. Maybe six, maybe ten. I got tired of the disappointment, so that's one reason I got discouraged from posting.

Number two, the fear of spiritual attacks. I have a picture of my little boy on Facebook but I'm going to remove it soon.

Number three, the stupid competition and endless jealousy of other women. My son was born with hair, but I decided to post a picture of him when we cut all his hair, tagging it 'memories'. Immediately, a former friend that has over millions of likes on every of her posts went to post her own son, tagging it 'memories' as well, with his full hair. I immediately got annoyed, like you have it all, must you kill my moment. I posted my son with hair but she must have known how I would feel and mischievously didn't view my own. She just wanted to kill my moment of joy. I decided to leave social media for them that are always having five million likes while people view mine and I have so little likes.

Another fair skinned pretty girl on my WhatsApp took it as a personal fight when I started posting my naming ceremony pictures and baby pictures. She never had before in the long time that I had her contact, posted pictures, but once I did my own, she started posting pictures of her relatives baby living abroad. Like... How am I fighting you, I don't even know you. To the extent that I posted on Whatsapp and immediately she posted something that triggered me. Once I put up another post that made her know it pained me, she put up a cryptic post immediately saying 'you do me, I do you' 'you do me, I do you'. Actually it was a meme of a politician saying that aggressively. As I was posting my baby she was posting that her relatives baby like say na fight. Honestly, I think light skinned women get mad when they see less beautiful or black women get married and have babies before they do. Same for extremely beautiful women. Some of them have a very black heart. They think a less beautiful woman shouldn't have anything. The can also be insanely jealous.

If I'm not going to get those likes, it's personally painful and embarrassing to me, especially when my mates are posting their babies and receiving tons of likes. Millions. Then I'd rather avoid the disappointment and not post. Like, my baby is very cute, so what the hell.

Let me add, my mates post pictures that are far out than mine. They post pictures of themselves abroad, finishing books, winning awards, big restaurants abroad, flight tickets and experiences, themselves I'm different countries, themselves with expensive hair and clothes with clean skin and people like them. My personal former friend dey post her trips to Japan, her constant visits to big restaurants to eat... I know it's genuine because I know their wealthy families or successes and skills from way back.

With all this ... I should still be posting myself in my modest settings and life? Sitting by the wall, or at a small restaurant, or by my window in my house? They just remind me of luxury that I'm not living, successes that I haven't achieved, worst of all little to no likes or attention for my own. Is it not better to not post than to be buying myself depression with each post? I don't even branch Instagram much again, for my personal sanity.

purples25:
I post for fun and also for validation.

I styself depression with each post? I don't even branch Instagram much again, for ny sanity

Mama, your low self esteem and need for validation needs to be thoroughly worked on.

Like seriously why will you be pained when someone gets millions of likes and you only get few likes.
Can you convert the likes to money?


Always be satisfied with what you have, think of millions wey no even get phone to post, talk more of get any likes.

If you keep using people's lives to compare with yours, you'll remain a forever bitter person stuck in a loop on never ending sorrows....


I'm sorry if I sound harsh, but please work on your mindset.

purples25:
I post for fun and also for validation.

I stopped because I don't get the validation and it makes me feel bad. My former mates from university, secondary school still get hundreds of thousands of likes, but I get very few. Maybe six, maybe ten. I got tired of the disappointment, so that's one reason I got discouraged from posting.

Number two, the fear of spiritual attacks. I have a picture of my little boy on Facebook but I'm going to remove it soon.

Number three, the stupid competition and endless jealousy of other women. My son was born with hair, but I decided to post a picture of him when we cut all his hair, tagging it 'memories'. Immediately, a former friend that has over millions of likes on every of her posts went to post her own son, tagging it 'memories' as well, with his full hair. I immediately got annoyed, like you have it all, must you kill my moment. I posted my son with hair but she must have known how I would feel and mischievously didn't view my own. She just wanted to kill my moment of joy. I decided to leave social media for them that are always having five million likes while people view mine and I have so little likes.

Another fair skinned pretty girl on my WhatsApp took it as a personal fight when I started posting my naming ceremony pictures and baby pictures. She never had before in the long time that I had her contact, posted pictures, but once I did my own, she started posting pictures of her relatives baby living abroad. Like... How am I fighting you, I don't even know you. To the extent that I posted on Whatsapp and immediately she posted something that triggered me. Once I put up another post that made her know it pained me, she put up a cryptic post immediately saying 'you do me, I do you' 'you do me, I do you'. Actually it was a meme of a politician saying that aggressively. As I was posting my baby she was posting that her relatives baby like say na fight. Honestly, I think light skinned women get mad when they see less beautiful or black women get married and have babies before they do. Same for extremely beautiful women. Some of them have a very black heart. They think a less beautiful woman shouldn't have anything. The can also be insanely jealous.

If I'm not going to get those likes, it's personally painful and embarrassing to me, especially when my mates are posting their babies and receiving tons of likes. Millions. Then I'd rather avoid the disappointment and not post. Like, my baby is very cute, so what the hell.

Let me add, my mates post pictures that are far out than mine. They post pictures of themselves abroad, finishing books, winning awards, big restaurants abroad, flight tickets and experiences, themselves I'm different countries, themselves with expensive hair and clothes with clean skin and people like them. My personal former friend dey post her trips to Japan, her constant visits to big restaurants to eat... I know it's genuine because I know their wealthy families or successes and skills from way back.

With all this ... I should still be posting myself in my modest settings and life? Sitting by the wall, or at a small restaurant, or by my window in my house? They just remind me of luxury that I'm not living, successes that I haven't achieved, worst of all little to no likes or attention for my own. Is it not better to not post than to be buying myself depression with each post? I don't even branch Instagram much again, for my personal sanity.

Chimooooo

Thanks.

Nairaland is a faceless forum and we don't know each other here, we're basically strangers... And there isn't any social media that isn't toxic because trolls will forever be trolls... They will look for a reason to troll you regardless of what you do or say.

And I like talking about my life problems because sometimes talking helps and others can also learn something from my experiences.

Magnoliaa:
I'm sorry about your loss.

Seeing what you've gone through and the subject of the thread, are you comfortable putting such an intimate and personal detail of yourself on a troll-filled forum such as Nairaland?

I would think you'll be more cautious of posting...more of your life events online as you've been on the receiving end of the downside of social media?

Toh.

Samantha125:
I do blame myself for what happened, but at the same time, I didn't know that she was planning something sinister against me, the same way my husband didn't know that posting that picture was gonna cause trouble because people post their ultrasound pictures on social media all the time and nothing bad happens to them.

I can already tell that you have refused to take responsibility for your action. You went to see her against his wish because of i too know.
He posted it then you went to do the meeting.
Instead of take blame u will still blame ur husband.

Okay.

Yugoslavia247:
I can already tell that you have refused to take responsibility for your action. You went to see her against his wish because of i too know.
He posted it then you went to do the meeting.
Instead of take blame u will still blame ur husband.

Tigernut101:
Big lie
Posting online is not show off
It depends on how you see it
Some of us post for fun 🤩 or to entertain our contacts.
Do whatever works for you but don’t judge others based on your opinion

I agree with you jare.

I have observed something with this trend. Some certain star signs do not see issues with it while some others aren't okay with it.

Samantha125:
Thanks.

Nairaland is a faceless forum and we don't know each other here, we're basically strangers... And there isn't any social media that isn't toxic because trolls will forever be trolls... They will look for a reason to troll you regardless of what you do or say.

And I like talking about my life problems because sometimes talking helps and others can also learn something from my experiences.

Alright.

If sharing helps in anyway, then by all means, feel free 🧡.

I know some trolls might try to use the information against me someday, but I'll probably just watch and ignore.

Magnoliaa:
Alright.

If sharing helps in anyway, then by all means, feel free 🧡.

EmperorCaesar:


Havent posted anything on my personal Whatsapp status since 2017, so its hard to even post anything on IG or Twitter...Only on Linkedin

I do things this way cause i no like attention. I once changed job three times(across three different fields) early this year and not even my best pals that i see everyday were even aware of it

I just like being under the radar. My personality

That aside, posting ones achievement wouldnt change anything . Village people and juju cant do shii

Life happens to people at anytime it so wishes

This your bolder philosophy can hurt you in abundant measures if you don't adjust it for African Contemporary Realities!

African is a Spiritual Continent & Village People & Juju is Part of Our Heritage depending on the Energies of the Beholder !

Basiljoe:
I have mixed feelings.
I want to build an online brand, share my tech journey, life experiences, and possibly earn from content creation.

People will reach out to you easily for jobs if you're competent and experienced, but how do they do that if you don't have an online presence that could build trust.

At the same time, I want a low-key life of privacy. What they don't know, they can't ruin. 🤷🏽

It's Simple ... You can't do Mass Com jobs without being fortified either in God or Demon .... You will crash out because there are so many competing forces at Play beyond Ordinary ....

If you don't have what it takes, no gamble am ... Dem go Kee for & ur business !

Samantha125:
I lost my baby last month because of Instagram... My husband is active on Instagram and he was so excited that we were going to have a baby that he even posted the picture of the ultrasound on his Instagram account, not knowing that his ex has been stalking him with a different account.

About a week later, she contacted me and started telling me about how she's now born again and turned a new leaf, that she wanted to make amends for what happened in the past... I assured her that I've long moved on from what happened and held no grudge against her... She then suggested that we should meet, so that we could bury the hatchet the right way, again I fell for her trick and told her that I'll let her know when I'm around Limpopo and we'd meet... Because I'm the type of a person who believes in second chances.

My husband warned me against the idea, but I assured him that I wasn't planning on being friends with her, but I just wanted to hear her out in person.

Last month I visited my parents in Limpopo and I informed her that I was around... We arranged our meeting and since it was a restaurant, I didn't think anything bad could happen... Long story short, I ended up fighting for my life in hospital and lost the baby... I had to undergo three surgeries, all because of that ultrasound my husband posted on his Instagram.

Like 2024 isn't my year.

Human could be so Wicked ooo

This thread again. Mscheew.

Big fat NAAAAAAAY