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Oblongata:
Who born me well to tell my papa to keep quiet? Talk less of banning him from my car?

Till I lost both of them it never crossed my mind in my wildest imagination to tell any of them to keep quiet!

How na?

This indomie generation sef? Small money wey God give you, you done dey flex for your source…

Later dem go begin dey wonder why dem no progress in life!

What goes around must surely come around!

And I am not playing the tribal card but you are definitely not from SW…

I understand the excesses of this generation but bro trust me, it had heen happening for long or why did we have the story of the prodigal son It's social media that is letting us see bad behaviour in 3D but this has nothing to do with a generation. It's not today papa have had sons that were misbehaving and it's during burial, that bad child will cry the most. I think this is an experience of life. We can react angrily and this is human emotion, it has nothing to do with Indomie. When we keep blaming Gen Z or Indomie generation, are we looking in the car mirror? Objects in mirror are closer than they appear

Who gave birth to them? Who raised them? That is the failure no one wants to address, they forget that children did not just come from nowhere to learn behaviour, it is their environment that retrained them, so their failure is a reflection of those who raised them.


The fact that OP realizes that he made a mistake is a sign of maturity but I will not pretend online that all adults were saint to their parents, even in the land of omoluabi or any conservative society. We learn differently and let's be honest, old people have their excesses. It is how we respond to them that shows the maturity and experience in life. Old habits die hard and some old people can be unforgiving over petty issues. They have become kids again.

sharpwriter:
Can she drive or had she at any point in time driven herself?

Never.She totally refused to learn.

TheChameleon:
You are Igbo... so its expected.

U are a very dull bigot.

ChizzyBuna:
I will find a good spot to park and my father will start pointing that i should park in another spot.

Sometimes he will shout that i should go left. Then he realize that right us the correct road.

As a driver, you have vision of where you are going.

Now imagine passenger telling you move here, go there, stop right, slow down, go fast...

I had to warn him never to ever enter my car again. Unless he will keep quiet while i drive.

Now he has reported me to my mum. My mum told me he feels bad.

You're a fool. People get old and frail both in body and mind and hen they tend to act out of place sometimes. Instead of U to correct him with love u are here like a bastard child typing with Ur useless fingers that shouted down ur own dad. I don't care the kind of man he is or was at his prime cos now he's old and weak while U are strong and instead of using Ur useless strength to his advantage Ur here making a mess of ur stupid self. Sometimes even on calls my mom acts ignorant of things I have told her before but I understand it comes with age sometimes so I joke with her about it and explain everything for her to understand again. These are aged people who are getting closer to the other side. The least U can do is make life comfortable for them as much as u can before they're gone. U don't even know those bumps affect his bones differently than they do urs. To beat U to stupor dey hungry me. Ur children will do U worse and u will cry when U remember how U handled Ur old man... Idiot!

Your father will always be your father no matter how grown you've become. You must learn to tolerate some things from him and never shout, warn or threatened him. Same goes for your mother. They mean no harm, instead just looking out for you.

Biko apologize and beg for his forgiveness ASAP.

ChizzyBuna:
I love and respect my dad so much
He is old in age but he can still drive

The issue is anytime I'm driving him
Instead of him to relax
He will turn to Conductor every 2 seconds, sometimes he will shout that I'm speeding to fast but I'm not going past 60 kmph


Today I drove him to village and on the way he did the same shouting and telling me to look out for bumps.

This distracts me and makes me lose focus. Out of anger i shouted back at him to keep quiet and allow me drive.
That i have eyes and i can see the bumps

Now i told him that he should never enter my car or unless he will keep quiet and allow me concentrate on my driving.
No talking, he should keep it shut through out the whole journey.

Now he is feeling bad, did i do anything bad??

Tell him to sit at the back seat. You did not handle it well.
No one drives me without me complaining,even if you are Schumacher. I now sit at the back when I am not at the driver's seat

ChizzyBuna:
I love and respect my dad so much
He is old in age but he can still drive

The issue is anytime I'm driving him
Instead of him to relax
He will turn to Conductor every 2 seconds, sometimes he will shout that I'm speeding to fast but I'm not going past 60 kmph


Today I drove him to village and on the way he did the same shouting and telling me to look out for bumps.

This distracts me and makes me lose focus. Out of anger i shouted back at him to keep quiet and allow me drive.
That i have eyes and i can see the bumps

Now i told him that he should never enter my car or unless he will keep quiet and allow me concentrate on my driving.
No talking, he should keep it shut through out the whole journey.

Now he is feeling bad, did i do anything bad??

not only your daddy, you father knows how to drive too abi That is how anyone that knows how to drive use to do when you are driving them but go and beg him

What goes around comes around. When your own children bans you from entering their cars then you will know whether you are rude or not.

Natbrowny:
👉 Buy a drink ur dad likes.
👉 Present the drink to him
👉 Sit down with him and apologise for ur outburst and remind him u r now an adult who can drive without been told what to do.

He is just been a dad. When u get to face similar scenario with ur son. U'll understand better.

If it was ur mom, i believe u'll find a way to say sorry.

Do same for pops. And make him smile for the next few days. Pops will always be pops. Mine will still want to tell me how to operate WhatsApp, somtin wey na me teach am o 😂 . I just dey smile even though atyms its annoying. Dem be our first teacher, they believe they'll teach us everything, its kinda a habit for everyone

Thank you for this. This is a breath of fresh air, from all the wokeness around us

U Bleep up guy. No matter what tolerate him, when he dies u go miss am o

It only takes 1 second to crash, more worse if you're speeding.

Travel slowly and allow more time for your journey.

If any mishap happens, you'd wish you listened to your father.

ChizzyBuna:
I will find a good spot to park and my father will start pointing that i should park in another spot.

Sometimes he will shout that i should go left. Then he realize that right us the correct road.

As a driver, you have vision of where you are going.

Now imagine passenger telling you move here, go there, stop right, slow down, go fast...

I had to warn him never to ever enter my car again. Unless he will keep quiet while i drive.

Now he has reported me to my mum. My mum told me he feels bad.

Wonderful. Wonderful.
I thought I was the only one.
The l last time I drove my dad was maybe 2016/17.
Complain, Complain, Complain, Complain, Complain!
Exactly like OPs dad.
I just used style to disconnect myself.
I don't drive him anywhere again.
I leave car for him to drive where he wants.
But I will never carry him anywhere again.
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The only protest I did, one day, when the complain-complain was too much,
I just parked at the side of the road and told him to sit in the back seat and relax.
Na there he vex, enter taxi, go him way.
I was even happy to drive in peace without him FOR ONCE in my life.

TheChameleon:
You are Igbo... so its expected.

You are so pathetic. Why such a bitter life?
Always ruining your life with tribalism

I am sure the man rejected using you for money rituals. Now he has himself to blame.

Lose- lose situation.

60km per hour can feel like a lot of speed to an elderly person.

Each time you go over a bump or pothole, their bodies probably feel it like 3 or 4 times as much a young person's body.

One has to be considerate and patient with them.

I will never talk to my parents that way. That's humiliation. I pray never to ever get to that point.

Even when I think they're wrong, I say my bit respectfully and quietly try and change the topic

12345baba:
U Bleep up guy. No matter what tolerate him, when he dies u go miss am o

Tolerate what?
When dad was young, was he not speeding?
Did he listen to his own dad to slow down?
Now that OP is speeding, Dad is shouting left and right.
Abeg comot for the car or drive yourself.

Factcheck0001:
Omo who train these people self?

U tell your papa make e keep quiet?
Like make e shut up?

Omo things dey happen ooo

Honestly, i wonder the kind of upbringing some people had to the extent of talking to their parents like that.

You can't even say this to elderly persons in your family, let alone your biological father.

You weren't only rude but crazy. Even God respect parenthood and enjoined us to respect them unconditionally.

ChizzyBuna:
I love and respect my dad so much
He is old in age but he can still drive

The issue is anytime I'm driving him
Instead of him to relax
He will turn to Conductor every 2 seconds, sometimes he will shout that I'm speeding to fast but I'm not going past 60 kmph


Today I drove him to village and on the way he did the same shouting and telling me to look out for bumps.

This distracts me and makes me lose focus. Out of anger i shouted back at him to keep quiet and allow me drive.
That i have eyes and i can see the bumps

Now i told him that he should never enter my car or unless he will keep quiet and allow me concentrate on my driving.
No talking, he should keep it shut through out the whole journey.

Now he is feeling bad, did i do anything bad??

You better go ask the man for forgiveness, though I suspect this to be a fabricated story.

Always remember that he has come of age, thus, always tend to portray those children behaviors.

You don't know what you have until you loose him. Everyday I wish mine was still with me.

Never you take your parent(s) for joke.

Bimpe29:
You weren't only rude but crazy. Even God respect parenthood and enjoined us them unconditionally.

Even God has command parents not to provoke their children.
So what are you talking about?

ChizzyBuna:
I will find a good spot to park and my father will start pointing that i should park in another spot.

Sometimes he will shout that i should go left. Then he realize that right us the correct road.

As a driver, you have vision of where you are going.

Now imagine passenger telling you move here, go there, stop right, slow down, go fast...

I had to warn him never to ever enter my car again. Unless he will keep quiet while i drive.

Now he has reported me to my mum. My mum told me he feels bad.

Shouting at him is not enough, you for tear am correct Slap Mumu ewu pikin like you......... mtcheeeewww 🥱🥱

You better goan apologize.......... infact you are very very stupid for shouting at him.

TheChameleon:
You are Igbo... so its expected.

So if he is Hausa or Yoruba, what could have happened, educate us pls ...

Same attitude like my dad..

ChizzyBuna:
I love and respect my dad so much
He is old in age but he can still drive

The issue is anytime I'm driving him
Instead of him to relax
He will turn to Conductor every 2 seconds, sometimes he will shout that I'm speeding to fast but I'm not going past 60 kmph


Today I drove him to village and on the way he did the same shouting and telling me to look out for bumps.

This distracts me and makes me lose focus. Out of anger i shouted back at him to keep quiet and allow me drive.
That i have eyes and i can see the bumps

Now i told him that he should never enter my car or unless he will keep quiet and allow me concentrate on my driving.
No talking, he should keep it shut through out the whole journey.

Now he is feeling bad, did i do anything bad??

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ChizzyBuna:
I love and respect my dad so much
He is old in age but he can still drive

The issue is anytime I'm driving him
Instead of him to relax
He will turn to Conductor every 2 seconds, sometimes he will shout that I'm speeding to fast but I'm not going past 60 kmph


Today I drove him to village and on the way he did the same shouting and telling me to look out for bumps.

This distracts me and makes me lose focus. Out of anger i shouted back at him to keep quiet and allow me drive.
That i have eyes and i can see the bumps

Now i told him that he should never enter my car or unless he will keep quiet and allow me concentrate on my driving.
No talking, he should keep it shut through out the whole journey.

Now he is feeling bad, did i do anything bad??

With all these tribal insults in the comments, i hope you will learn something from them.
As an Igboman, it's not everything that happens you quickly bring to a yoruba forum that is full of useless, hateful yoruba bastards.
Make una dey use una senses know how to live in Nigeria, because i understand many Igbos still haven't understood how divided the country is and how hateful people from other tribes are, and that's very unfortunate.

Your son would do exactly that to you before you are your father's age.

He will shout at you to shut up or even beat you up in Jesus Name!

You are rude to a protective father and you come here to lie that you were not driving at high speed.

ChizzyBuna:
I love and respect my dad so much
He is old in age but he can still drive

The issue is anytime I'm driving him
Instead of him to relax
He will turn to Conductor every 2 seconds, sometimes he will shout that I'm speeding to fast but I'm not going past 60 kmph


Today I drove him to village and on the way he did the same shouting and telling me to look out for bumps.

This distracts me and makes me lose focus. Out of anger i shouted back at him to keep quiet and allow me drive.
That i have eyes and i can see the bumps

Now i told him that he should never enter my car or unless he will keep quiet and allow me concentrate on my driving.
No talking, he should keep it shut through out the whole journey.

Now he is feeling bad, did i do anything bad??

You no do anything bad actually...you are just stupid

What happens to you putting your temperament under control and allow this situation to pass..then try avoid you driving him or try and have conversations with him around this when you and him are a bit relax...and subtly pass that message to him that you will try to avoid driving him

You raised your voice against your father and you are trying to tell him you are now adult

Continue o...

Your child fit do same to you sha

ChizzyBuna:
I love and respect my dad so much
He is old in age but he can still drive

The issue is anytime I'm driving him
Instead of him to relax
He will turn to Conductor every 2 seconds, sometimes he will shout that I'm speeding to fast but I'm not going past 60 kmph


Today I drove him to village and on the way he did the same shouting and telling me to look out for bumps.

This distracts me and makes me lose focus. Out of anger i shouted back at him to keep quiet and allow me drive.
That i have eyes and i can see the bumps

Now i told him that he should never enter my car or unless he will keep quiet and allow me concentrate on my driving.
No talking, he should keep it shut through out the whole journey.

Now he is feeling bad, did i do anything bad??

OP...is like you didn't first drive your Dad in his car before buying your own, if not , you won't see anything wrong in how he wishes to direct you and be the boss in your own car...

Can you be a bit easy on yourself first, laugh with your Dad and joke with him while driving

Or are you using the car when on duty as a military personnel

Besides you have no right to tell your father not to enter your car or give him conditions on how he must comply with your own demands...

Be a jolly old fellow so you can reach his age abeg....life is not quarrelling abeg...

Tit4Tat1:
No u didn't, u would have tear him a hot slap... Ewu!!!

Na ewu op be tru tru

ChizzyBuna:
I love and respect my dad so much
He is old in age but he can still drive

The issue is anytime I'm driving him
Instead of him to relax
He will turn to Conductor every 2 seconds, sometimes he will shout that I'm speeding to fast but I'm not going past 60 kmph


Today I drove him to village and on the way he did the same shouting and telling me to look out for bumps.

This distracts me and makes me lose focus. Out of anger i shouted back at him to keep quiet and allow me drive.
That i have eyes and i can see the bumps

Now i told him that he should never enter my car or unless he will keep quiet and allow me concentrate on my driving.
No talking, he should keep it shut through out the whole journey.

Now he is feeling bad, did i do anything bad??

Yeah, you could have been nicer about it but nobody likes a backseat driver. Apologise to him for shouting at him but remain firm that you will not tolerate backseat driving. You can even compromise with him that you won't drive above a certain speed to reassure him you are being careful.

It's not a curse,your own chillf will do same to you in your old age.

ChizzyBuna:
I love and respect my dad so much
He is old in age but he can still drive

The issue is anytime I'm driving him
Instead of him to relax
He will turn to Conductor every 2 seconds, sometimes he will shout that I'm speeding to fast but I'm not going past 60 kmph


Today I drove him to village and on the way he did the same shouting and telling me to look out for bumps.

This distracts me and makes me lose focus. Out of anger i shouted back at him to keep quiet and allow me drive.
That i have eyes and i can see the bumps

Now i told him that he should never enter my car or unless he will keep quiet and allow me concentrate on my driving.
No talking, he should keep it shut through out the whole journey.

Now he is feeling bad, did i do anything bad??

ChizzyBuna:
I love and respect my dad so much
He is old in age but he can still drive

The issue is anytime I'm driving him
Instead of him to relax
He will turn to Conductor every 2 seconds, sometimes he will shout that I'm speeding to fast but I'm not going past 60 kmph


Today I drove him to village and on the way he did the same shouting and telling me to look out for bumps.

This distracts me and makes me lose focus. Out of anger i shouted back at him to keep quiet and allow me drive.
That i have eyes and i can see the bumps

Now i told him that he should never enter my car or unless he will keep quiet and allow me concentrate on my driving.
No talking, he should keep it shut through out the whole journey.

Now he is feeling bad, did i do anything bad??

You sure say na that man born you true true I doubt it