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Oga calm down... It is hard to leave your lovely friends, family members and girlfriend (pregnant) down here to travel but you should do it.
Take the travel opportunity, be mature and know that you can't always be around your friends. The truth is you will not always be around, its either you travel or your friends travel to leave you.
They say "20 Children can't play together for 20 years". You need to be your own man, earn a decent living, care for your pregnant girlfriend or bring her over and start off your own life.
It may not be a one-in-a-life-time opportunity, but you should utilize the little chances you have

Episode22:
Hello Nairalanders, I'm not here to brag, I just need advice before I get lost.

I have two relatives living abroad (UK), both are from my mothers side, same father and same mother...

Just few days ago, I was called and told that they are making plans to send me to the UK early next year to go and stay with my uncle and find something doing there... they already communicated with my uncle abroad, and they just wanted to surprise me.

I'm 29 years old now, I graduated from school last two years as a petroleum engineering. Though, I'm not doing any work for now. My girlfriend is pregnant for me, and I have not disclosed it to anybody yet.

But the truth is that my mind doesn't want to go, I'm not ready and I have told them. They have already started telling me this is a one time opportunity, and that if I miss it, I won't see it again, but I have made up my mind that I don't want to go.

I just can't leave my friends here, I just don't know but I can't..

I need advice,

Why should I go, when my self and my mind is not ready...

You are 29, unemployed but have time and energy to impregnate a woman but couldn't channel the same energy in looking for a job or get something doing. You have been giving a once in a lifetime opportunity and you're are bragging, better go check yourself well.

SMH
Some years ago I made similar mistake by choosing Tertiary admission over US travel. Today I'm still in regret. To get ordinary visa interview date no dey easy again not to talk of the visa itself. Announce the pregnancy, do the needfuls concerning marriage as little as you can, leave the country for UK and build yourself and for your new home. Don't dull

NoahHadNoArk:
If you have any chance to leave this dead country, seize that opportunity as fast as you can and don’t look back.


Your friendssssss and girlfriends whom you reluctant to let go of, you will be of better help to them if you outside the country and sending them hard currency to better their lives.



Unless you earning 500k per month, living in your own house and having no fears for tomorrow then by all means stay back.

But if you buying beans 600naira a cup like I did on Saturday, 200 naira for one egg like I did on Sunday, and 1300 naira for a liter of petrol like I did this morning to fill my gen just to pump water since we’ve not had light since February,

If you worried about getting harassed on transit by clueless police officers standing at checkpoints seeking to fleece you of your hard earned money, if the name TPain is on your lips like every other Nigerian……

Go ahead and ask yourself why you even thinking twice about this once in a lifetime opportunity, if it’s not village people goading you into staying back so they can monitor your activities and have the final say.


I’ve said more than enough


My peace I leave you

You hit the nail on the head

Op dis country no tire you?

Episode22:
Hello Nairalanders, I'm not here to brag, I just need advice before I get lost.

I have two relatives living abroad (UK), both are from my mothers side, same father and same mother...

Just few days ago, I was called and told that they are making plans to send me to the UK early next year to go and stay with my uncle and find something doing there... they already communicated with my uncle abroad, and they just wanted to surprise me.

I'm 29 years old now, I graduated from school last two years as a petroleum engineering. Though, I'm not doing any work for now. My girlfriend is pregnant for me, and I have not disclosed it to anybody yet.

But the truth is that my mind doesn't want to go, I'm not ready and I have told them. They have already started telling me this is a one time opportunity, and that if I miss it, I won't see it again, but I have made up my mind that I don't want to go.

I just can't leave my friends here, I just don't know but I can't..

I need advice,

Why should I go, when my self and my mind is not ready...

me too... My parent wants to force me to Netherlands but I have told them I won't go

Does it have to be permanent?

Go and secure your residence, then come back if you have to, and shuttle in between as you like.

Don't think of japa as the average Nigerian that see it as a permanent, irreversible, one- dimensional move abroad.

But see it as securing another card in your list of cards, that you can play anytime you want.

For example, it's easier to get a visa to the US, Canada or Schengen if you're applying from the UK. Your bank statements will be in pounds, and the consular is more likely to believe you won't overstay your visa.

You also want to add it to your resume that you've been out there, seen the so called UK, and have a better perspective to determine if you'll stay there or not, or will stay there later.

Also, being a UK resident gives you additional advantages such as buying flight and shopping online with your British Bank account, unlike Nigerian Bank that can't do international transactions online.

Also, a UK residence makes it easy for you to benefit from something called "substitute visa", which means that you won't need a visa to enter lots of countries because having a British residence permit let's you benefit from visa free regime.

Village people can be inside you, not external. So please my guy, go secure that card, add to your list of card, and when life situation arises that requires you to play the UK card, you won't regret by saying "had I known".

LaIabobo:
You still haven’t said any valid reason for not wanting to leave Nigeria. You are 29yo and jobless. Yet you went on to impregnate your girlfriend??

You better figure your life out and real fast.

Hopefully you don’t regret this decision.

.....my brother the thing weak, this issue is not even debatable, how is he going to look after the unborn kid and his babe ?

Some one is looking for this and you are here looking for advice please go and work hard so that your galfriend can join you or ask for your girlfriend advice too

Berankis:
Oga calm down... It is hard to leave your lovely friends, family members and girlfriend (pregnant) down here to travel but you should do it.
Take the travel opportunity, be mature and know that you can't always be around your friends. The truth is you will not always be around, its either you travel or your friends travel to leave you.
They say "20 Children can't play together for 20 years". You need to be your own man, earn a decent living, care for your pregnant girlfriend or bring her over and start off your own life.
It may not be a one-in-a-life-time but you should utilize the littles chances you have

....I like this quote "20 children can't play together for 20years"

DAMEHLISM:
Probably you don't want to leave your girlfriend...

I lough you in China. Send me your family number, I want to switch family.. let me be washing your uncles plate abroad, I will be happy to be your uncles plate washer

Seems you're not normal, the opportunity I have been waiting for over a decade and never get, you are wasting it.

Starz825:
Even your gf go advice you to go ....

At least you can work there and send money home to her to take care of herself Nd the baby...till you re able to pay her bride price and bring her over ...

Omo na opportunity be this for you...if you are serious with your life and your relationship with your pregnant girl friend

Some girls won't give such advice because they will be scared that if he goes to UK, he will mostly meet another lady and then forget her. He has not done anything on her head, therefore she won't advice him to go to UK. In fact the reason that guy is having double mind is because of his girlfriend. Remove his girlfriend from the picture and my guy will jump at the opportunity to leave this country.

NoahHadNoArk:
Seems to me you are trapped and you are in trouble.



But from one brother to another brother I will tell you leave this country and don’t look back.

Go ahead and make plans for her to join you in UK when you have the means


But do not allow a pregnancy to hinder or thwart your dreams of getting a better life.

Something is making me feel this opportunity may not arise again, so seize it and make the best use of it.



When you finally decide to leave, do not Tel anyone. Gf, friends, hood guys or cousins.


Take everyone by surprise when they call you after weeks of not seeing you and you tell them you in London.


You will find me one day to thank me…….but until then, May God’s Grace abide with you, even as I wish you journey mercies on your trip.

She go throw u commot house o
No bring her o
No hear mumu advise o

How many months pregnant?

Episode22:
my girlfriend is pregnant, only me know about it for now.. im still in my mother's house..

Episode22:
Hello Nairalanders, I'm not here to brag, I just need advice before I get lost.

I have two relatives living abroad (UK), both are from my mothers side, same father and same mother...

Just few days ago, I was called and told that they are making plans to send me to the UK early next year to go and stay with my uncle and find something doing there... they already communicated with my uncle abroad, and they just wanted to surprise me.

I'm 29 years old now, I graduated from school last two years as a petroleum engineering. Though, I'm not doing any work for now. My girlfriend is pregnant for me, and I have not disclosed it to anybody yet.

But the truth is that my mind doesn't want to go, I'm not ready and I have told them. They have already started telling me this is a one time opportunity, and that if I miss it, I won't see it again, but I have made up my mind that I don't want to go.

I just can't leave my friends here, I just don't know but I can't..

I need advice,

Why should I go, when my self and my mind is not ready...

if i be your elder brother, i go tell you say make you do frog jump for one hour make you sweat and come back to your senses

omo the opportunity im looking for, how i wish i have a good family like the family this man has. i have 8 family members abroad both in usa and uk non never ready to help me move abroad...may God continue to bless those who want to send you out of this country to uk and have a better future

boss please dont think about staying, better japa and you are 29yrs

i wish i should just receive this kind news for new year gift, i no go think twice

its easy to make it abroad if you have online skills becuase you will work and earn yourself not you been a burden to others not 30k salary in nigeria that cant pay your bills.......i just need some one to help me move abroad, make i just see a kitchen or cleaning job that will give me 2000 pounds and save 1k a month and use that to start my life and save money for 1-2 yrs and invest it in my online skills that will generate me more thank 50k pounds a month after 2 yrs of working, 2 yrs is far, 9 months of working

brother japa, in the future many good chances will come for you, any one for nairaland fit help me move abroad may be europe or usa..... i go refund the person all there money back and pay back in interest... all the money paid for my travelling expenses......my wish for 2025 and birthday gift.....i will be 28 next yr and i dont see any future here in nigeria

i tried the japa this year but got stucked on the way when austria changed there fee to 400 euro, no 800k to move ahead with legalisation and lost the date i book with austria embassy even its hard to get a date now ...may God help me to continue it

brother japa o

I will advise you to heed to their call and move abroad, so many folks are looking for this opportunity that you're being offered on a platter of gold. I am in same position as you, am being begged by family abroad to move over, though am not doing badly but I have agreed to move

tamedu11:
I met someone sometime last year who shared similar story of himself. His parents wanted him to travel but he had few things to sort out here in Nigeria plus his girlfriend convinced him to stay due to love. He said it happened several years ago. Now, this same girlfriend has traveled abroad, married someone else while he seems trapped here in Nigeria. Both parents are now late. U seem like someone responsible and afraid of leaving his pregnant girlfriend at this point. However, sit down and discuss with the parties involved and make a concrete plan on how she can be well taken care of while u are away. And make arrangement for her to join u when appropriate.

This exact thing do my vcousin
Guess what
Him papa get bastard money then
Was working at cbn
Just guess (both parent are gone now )
The werey dey regret but when him papa dey alive spending 20m on enjoyment was nothing then
This was around 1997 to 2000 Sha

Episode22:
Hello Nairalanders, I'm not here to brag, I just need advice before I get lost.

I have two relatives living abroad (UK), both are from my mothers side, same father and same mother...

Just few days ago, I was called and told that they are making plans to send me to the UK early next year to go and stay with my uncle and find something doing there... they already communicated with my uncle abroad, and they just wanted to surprise me.

I'm 29 years old now, I graduated from school last two years as a petroleum engineering. Though, I'm not doing any work for now. My girlfriend is pregnant for me, and I have not disclosed it to anybody yet.

But the truth is that my mind doesn't want to go, I'm not ready and I have told them. They have already started telling me this is a one time opportunity, and that if I miss it, I won't see it again, but I have made up my mind that I don't want to go.

I just can't leave my friends here, I just don't know but I can't..

I need advice,

Why should I go, when my self and my mind is not ready...

I doubt u are 29, though u sound like "hellanus"..that useless hellanus has been foolish right from birth,the foolishness doubled up during his child naming ceremony

Mindlog:
With a standard visitor visa or a skilled worker visa?

Though I know this thread is another vivid imagination.

with visitor visa, i go still japa, make some one help me with it

Episode22:
Hello Nairalanders, I'm not here to brag, I just need advice before I get lost.

I have two relatives living abroad (UK), both are from my mothers side, same father and same mother...

Just few days ago, I was called and told that they are making plans to send me to the UK early next year to go and stay with my uncle and find something doing there... they already communicated with my uncle abroad, and they just wanted to surprise me.

I'm 29 years old now, I graduated from school last two years as a petroleum engineering. Though, I'm not doing any work for now. My girlfriend is pregnant for me, and I have not disclosed it to anybody yet.

But the truth is that my mind doesn't want to go, I'm not ready and I have told them. They have already started telling me this is a one time opportunity, and that if I miss it, I won't see it again, but I have made up my mind that I don't want to go.

I just can't leave my friends here, I just don't know but I can't..

I need advice,

Why should I go, when my self and my mind is not ready...

Your family thought when you get to UK all your financial needs would be over but it is a set up and pure lies.

Episode22:
my girlfriend is pregnant, only me know about it for now.. im still in my mother's house..

More reason to relocate and hustle. She won't be happy you turned down this opportunity.

Bye

imoh4king:
No wahala brother. i sincerely agree with your decision.

LET SWITCH PLACES....I can go on your behalf. i dont mind paying you monthly allowance when i start working over that side. Overseas isn't good for you right now, maybe later.
Should i send my contact.

Can someone travel to Germany and comeback to complete school here on Nigeria . Cultism wan finish me and my people said make I dey go Germany for now .
E make sense

Episode22:
Hello Nairalanders, I'm not here to brag, I just need advice before I get lost.

I have two relatives living abroad (UK), both are from my mothers side, same father and same mother...

Just few days ago, I was called and told that they are making plans to send me to the UK early next year to go and stay with my uncle and find something doing there... they already communicated with my uncle abroad, and they just wanted to surprise me.

I'm 29 years old now, I graduated from school last two years as a petroleum engineering. Though, I'm not doing any work for now. My girlfriend is pregnant for me, and I have not disclosed it to anybody yet.

But the truth is that my mind doesn't want to go, I'm not ready and I have told them. They have already started telling me this is a one time opportunity, and that if I miss it, I won't see it again, but I have made up my mind that I don't want to go.

I just can't leave my friends here, I just don't know but I can't..

I need advice,

Why should I go, when my self and my mind is not ready...

Can we trade places please? 🙏
Tell your family that you have someone to represent you.

Traveling abroad doesn't exactly guarantee your success in life. It's about mindset. You may just get the visa if their pressure is much and go spend like a month of two. You can be in Nigeria and still be successful..the UK many want you to believe is next to heaven is not, free speech is in danger and wokeness is taking over their mindset. Every nation has its own problems. I got visa 3 times and I refused to go live there.

Episode22:
Hello Nairalanders, I'm not here to brag, I just need advice before I get lost.

I have two relatives living abroad (UK), both are from my mothers side, same father and same mother...

Just few days ago, I was called and told that they are making plans to send me to the UK early next year to go and stay with my uncle and find something doing there... they already communicated with my uncle abroad, and they just wanted to surprise me.

I'm 29 years old now, I graduated from school last two years as a petroleum engineering. Though, I'm not doing any work for now. My girlfriend is pregnant for me, and I have not disclosed it to anybody yet.

But the truth is that my mind doesn't want to go, I'm not ready and I have told them. They have already started telling me this is a one time opportunity, and that if I miss it, I won't see it again, but I have made up my mind that I don't want to go.

I just can't leave my friends here, I just don't know but I can't..

I need advice,

Why should I go, when my self and my mind is not ready...

Village pipu don get this one. You no get job, but your prick dey strong to impregnate another jobless you. Don’t worry, no go UK oooo. Another protest is coming up soon, just join the protest and collect one bullet for Motherland

You are useless at 29yrs old? Shame on you lazy Nigerian youth. You have no job, but you are irresponsible enough to impregnate a woman?
Yet you ungrateful ass is refusing an opportunity that most people are dying for?
You are pathetic!

What's hilarious about this is that the opportunity to leave may come to his GF or one or two of his close friends within a year or two and they will leave.

He will wake up then.

Episode22:
Hello Nairalanders, I'm not here to brag, I just need advice before I get lost.

I have two relatives living abroad (UK), both are from my mothers side, same father and same mother...

Just few days ago, I was called and told that they are making plans to send me to the UK early next year to go and stay with my uncle and find something doing there... they already communicated with my uncle abroad, and they just wanted to surprise me.

I'm 29 years old now, I graduated from school last two years as a petroleum engineering. Though, I'm not doing any work for now. My girlfriend is pregnant for me, and I have not disclosed it to anybody yet.

But the truth is that my mind doesn't want to go, I'm not ready and I have told them. They have already started telling me this is a one time opportunity, and that if I miss it, I won't see it again, but I have made up my mind that I don't want to go.

I just can't leave my friends here, I just don't know but I can't..

I need advice,

Why should I go, when my self and my mind is not ready...

stagger:
At 29 year with a pregnant girlfriend, you have no business being in your mother's house. I left my parents at 23, got my first job at 24 years, bought a car at 25 and married at 29.

What's up with you guys not wanting to take responsibility for your life?

The girl is even the more senseless...opening her legs for someone without a job, living with his mother and afraid to take a plunge...I don already decode the whole setup.

Oshey
Lynus Williams aka Blord

saintnegroid:
me too... My parent wants to force me to Netherlands but I have told them I won't go

My own na Germany
My people no even want make I finish school here again o
Say I must go next year