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Kobojunkie:
Assuming she is doing all this out of genuine concern for that which is right and not that she has checked out of her marriage to you, then I say that woman is very unlucky to have you as a spouse! Kai!

Now that’s a special one from kobo my niggar?

It's either you are a trouble maker or she is not actually your wife

royalfly:
This is another perspective, he can have a reasonable conversation with her and find out why she is like that but I mean she comes off as submissive and I see no abuse but sincerely, the emotional abuse towards men are overlooked. I mean so much overlooked... truly women are no 1 when it comes to emotional abuse but no seem to care because he is a man. Experienced

From the OP’s post, there is nothing like emotional abuse.

She basically asked him to call the appropriate authorities who handles matters like his.

She is being professional and courteous. When there is a fallout, if she had helped— her career is done and this same man will leave her in her instant.

Ringstonermasks:
My wife is an army officer. A lieutenant. But she is very reclusive and always love dodging any misgivings even concerning me



I had issues with someone months ago, i called a friend that was a Sergent in thesame barrack to help me out, my wife heard d issue later and was against it. It was a serious matter later on.

We even had issue with someone from our area , and she told me to call the Police and that it not in her place to interfere.

My boy was attacked by someone, he called her to report and my wife warned him to not try it again.

She wasn't like that until we got married. Somehow this thing is irritating me cos it depressing. I discussed it wit a friend from her rank that told me it was unusual that she was supposed to help me out.

Bros, that woman does not love you. A real wife will be on fire to fight for you. But you are in big wahala, this kind wife you no fit divorce am.

Chinny024:
😉😉😉..One man's poison another's delicacy..Go on my dear..pikin or no pikin😂😂😂

Some men would rather lose amazing women simply because their success surpasses theirs. But life doesn’t have a single formula, why not support your wife’s career? In the end, it’s not a competition; it’s about shared happiness, peace, and the unique journey you choose together.

I would have to carry on 😂 but make e no be like say I too fast
Abeg my beautiful sister if you see someone like her to connect me with, my DM is always open..

Ringstonermasks:
u don't know how it feels...

Marrying a woman that is a feminist and woke. Always right and wants to be in charge of u like u are a baby. Tells u how to do and undo things yet she can never stage an arrest for u.

Why on earth would you marry a feminist??

Ringstonermasks:
No, that's not how a wife behaves.

A wife supposed to support her husband irrespective of the action, and then caution the husband in private.

What happened to calling the police to help my boy as i was unreachable that moment. She has the DPO number, her sister is a magistrate, that would be reasonable.

Y didn't she call my brother or someone to help my boy out?

You do know ‘the boy’ here is the husband friend?

Ringstonermasks:
My wife is an army officer. A lieutenant. But she is very reclusive and always love dodging any misgivings even concerning me



I had issues with someone months ago, i called a friend that was a Sergent in thesame barrack to help me out, my wife heard d issue later and was against it. It was a serious matter later on.

We even had issue with someone from our area , and she told me to call the Police and that it not in her place to interfere.

My boy was attacked by someone, he called her to report and my wife warned him to not try it again.

She wasn't like that until we got married. Somehow this thing is irritating me cos it depressing. I discussed it wit a friend from her rank that told me it was unusual that she was supposed to help me out.

The people saying things like “it’s not in her place to step in” if the roles were reversed and the soldier was the man, they would call him a weakling, like it’s not in her place to protect her family what? There is definitely more to the story and we gotta hear both sides of the story, the guy said she is controlling, no one is talking about that but you can control your man but can’t do so to protect your family. Let’s leave gender roles aside, marriage is an alliance, we use both our resources to ensure the lineage gets better, you cannot be silent on such issues, no one is saying she should brutalize whoever but what good is her position if she can’t protect her family, there is a limit to what the man can do in his own power, he is providing and doing the rest but her position here gives her connections that he won’t easily attain. I advise he stops involving her in issues of such because expectations would be a problem here. I don’t think he’s a weakling because how many of you guys can consider marrying a female soldier?. How many of you can even approach them lol…He is only worried that his wife has the platform to protect the family’s interests but she is nonchalant

With some of the comments on this post—- Nigerian deserves the kind of leaders they have now.
So, she does not love him or care for him because she refused to use her job to oppress people? Oh my..

pocohantas:
Naso. Now na feminist done enter am.
We the evil feminists are proud of her. I hope other women that go fighting their husband's battles can learn from her. Because some women, once the husband tells them small secret, they will carry it for head and start beefing in-laws and friends. Turn the table and men would settle it man-to-man.

People like u would be the first to call the husband a coward if reverse was the case, that he's not man enough to take charge despite being a soldier...

Wrackcityoffici:
The people saying things like “it’s not in her place to step in” if the roles were reversed and the soldier was the man, they would call him a weakling, like it’s not in her place to protect her family what? There is definitely more to the story and we gotta hear both sides of the story, the guy said she is controlling, no one is talking about that but you can control your man but can’t do so to protect your family. Let’s leave gender roles aside, marriage is an alliance, we use both our resources to ensure the lineage gets better, you cannot be silent on such issues, no one is saying she should brutalize whoever but what good is her position if she can’t protect her family, there is a limit to what the man can do in his own power, he is providing and doing the rest but her position here gives her connections that he won’t easily attain. I advise he stops involving her in issues of such because expectations would be a problem here. I don’t think he’s a weakling because how many of you guys can consider marrying a female soldier?. How many of you can even approach them lol…He is only worried that his wife has the platform to protect the family’s interests but she is nonchalant

Again, the army’s job is not for private security. The issues here are private/civil- it’s either the police or the court not the army’s responsibility.

To think some of you are actually suggesting that she use her position in the army for personal disputes is beyond belief.

Like wtf

maziude:
You are part of the problem. You are using emotions to justify a wrong.

If he needs help, there are people called police and a place called a law court.

The army’s purpose is not to solve personal problems or personal vendetta.

Y’all are quick to scream ‘human rights’ if it was someone else being bundled by the army.

Stop the hypocrisy .

What are you talking about? I'm saying a man is complaining that his wife treats him like a baby and his own son almost died but she didn't care and you still think that man is crying about some police case? He is trapped and subjugated and the thread is his way of crying out.

You lots amazed me because you are just too emotional to read between the lines

N.B: On the police and army case...I think you are very màd. So if the woman is married to OP who is a soldier and is maltreated or her boy is beaten almost to death, WILL YOU ASK HER TO GO TO THE POLICE? Nope. You will call the soldier husband names for not protecting his wife. So now that the script is flipped, you are saying rubbish. Una mãd for this forum sha

Your wife is just like my elder brother's wife only that she is a policewoman married to a civilian husband. Very discipline woman, she hates oppression to the core. Her husband (My brother) is a trouble maker filled with pride and arrogance. After multiple case settlement at d station even when he's at fault, they support him. Finally, the wife warned him seriously never to appear at d station again with problems to be solved otherwise she would just pretend like she doesn't know him from anywhere. It's over a year now, we have not heard him involve in any case with any body.

luminouz:
What are you talking about? I'm saying a man is complaining that his wife treats him like a baby and his own son almost died but she didn't care and you still think that man is crying about some police case? He is trapped and subjugated and the thread is his way of crying out.

You lots amazed me because you are just too emotional to read between the lines

You got all that from his post? Maybe read his post again without your preloaded emotions.

The army is not a private security company.

Ringstonermasks:
My wife is an army officer. A lieutenant. But she is very reclusive and always love dodging any misgivings even concerning me



I had issues with someone months ago, i called a friend that was a Sergent in thesame barrack to help me out, my wife heard d issue later and was against it. It was a serious matter later on.

We even had issue with someone from our area , and she told me to call the Police and that it not in her place to interfere.

My boy was attacked by someone, he called her to report and my wife warned him to not try it again.

She wasn't like that until we got married. Somehow this thing is irritating me cos it depressing. I discussed it wit a friend from her rank that told me it was unusual that she was supposed to help me out.

Woman of the house
Just dey play
Dem no dey tell blind man say rain dey fall

maziude:
Again, the army’s job is not for private security. The issues here are private/civil- it’s either the police or the court not the army’s responsibility.

To think some of you are actually suggesting that she use her position in the army for personal disputes is beyond belief.

Like wtf

Just shût it..it's your hypocrisy that disgusts the hell out of me

Honeydenz:
Your wife is just like my elder brother's wife only that she is a policewoman married to a civilian husband. Very discipline woman, she hates oppression to the core. Her husband (My brother) is a trouble maker filled with pride and arrogance. After multiple case settlement at d station even when he's at fault, they support him. Finally, the wife warned him seriously never to appear at d station again with problems to be solved otherwise she would just pretend like she doesn't know him from anywhere. It's over a year now, we have not heard him involve in any case with any body.

Thank you.

Some people are just too emotional.

Only God knows how many cases the woman in question has helped out using her uniform (which is wrong) . She probably got warned at work but the man is here on nairaland screaming ‘she hates me’ to gather sympathy from ‘alpha’ men.

maziude:
You got all that from his post? Maybe read his post again without your preloaded emotions.

The army is not a private security company.

Just shows you are shallow-minded and pea-brained.

I'm done engaging you

luminouz:
Just shût it..it's your hypocrisy that disgusts the hell out of me

It takes one to know one.

Good luck to you.

maziude:
Again, the army’s job is not for private security. The issues here are private/civil- it’s either the police or the court not the army’s responsibility.

To think some of you are actually suggesting that she use her position in the army for personal disputes is beyond belief.

Like wtf

The issue here is showing concern, whether as an army or a toilet cleaner, she is simply non challant… we are all humans at the end of the day, biden just signed a pardon for his son, you can’t care for someone and not do everything in your power to protect them, no one is saying she should be out beating someone, but you make efforts to protect your family, family over everything…she clearly had the DPO’s number, knowing if ahead placed the call, the case would be taken more seriously than when a civilian makes that report…IDK if she was a toilet cleaner, the effort to protect your family… it’s a different thing when your family abuse other people’s rights…there is definitely more to the story, noone can truly be certain till we hear from both parties

luminouz:
Just shows you are shallow-minded and pea-brained.

I'm done engaging you

Again, typical mindset - result to insult when they are called out.

Wrackcityoffici:
The issue here is showing concern, whether as an army or a toilet cleaner, she is simply non challant… we are all humans at the end of the day, biden just signed a pardon for his son, you can’t care for someone and not do everything in your power to protect them, no one is saying she should be out beating someone, but you make efforts to protect your family, family over everything…she clearly had the DPO’s number, knowing if ahead placed the call, the case would be taken more seriously than when a civilian makes that report…IDK if she was a toilet cleaner, the effort to protect your family… it’s a different thing when your family abuse other people’s rights…there is definitely more to the story, noone can truly be certain till we hear from both parties

You dey mind that mûmû. If the roles were reversed, she would raise hell and say the man is not caring. Rubbish

You said your wife is a Lieutenant, reason being that she's been disciplined, and a commissioned officer that recently graduated from NDA, not DSS or Recruit, she is being taught in school like that. You better cherish what you have.

Wrackcityoffici:
The issue here is showing concern, whether as an army or a toilet cleaner, she is simply non challant… we are all humans at the end of the day, biden just signed a pardon for his son, you can’t care for someone and not do everything in your power to protect them, no one is saying she should be out beating someone, but you make efforts to protect your family, family over everything…she clearly had the DPO’s number, knowing if ahead placed the call, the case would be taken more seriously than when a civilian makes that report…IDK if she was a toilet cleaner, the effort to protect your family… it’s a different thing when your family abuse other people’s rights…there is definitely more to the story, noone can truly be certain till we hear from both parties

I get and understand your point.

We are commenting on one side of the story here.

There is more to the story than the OP is letting on. She ‘probably’ has helped on numerous occasions but the OP won’t say such.

My response has been the army cannot and should be used to settle personal score like the OP wanted.

Ringstonermasks:
My wife is an army officer. A lieutenant. But she is very reclusive and always love dodging any misgivings even concerning me



I had issues with someone months ago, i called a friend that was a Sergent in thesame barrack to help me out, my wife heard d issue later and was against it. It was a serious matter later on.

We even had issue with someone from our area , and she told me to call the Police and that it not in her place to interfere.

My boy was attacked by someone, he called her to report and my wife warned him to not try it again.

She wasn't like that until we got married. Somehow this thing is irritating me cos it depressing. I discussed it wit a friend from her rank that told me it was unusual that she was supposed to help me out.

So you married her so that you can make trouble/bragg that your wives is a soldier abi and you want Nigeria to move forward?

She is a smart woman who is not ready to jeopardize her job unnecessarily because of a man.

Ibkay32:
Some men would rather lose amazing women simply because their success surpasses theirs. But life doesn’t have a single formula, why not support your wife’s career? In the end, it’s not a competition; it’s about shared happiness, peace, and the unique journey you choose together.

I would have to carry on 😂 but make e no be like say I too fast
Abeg my beautiful sister if you see someone like her to connect me with, my DM is always open..

Exactly 💯..I wish the lady can just move on with her life and leave marriage drained mentality spouse

Ringstonermasks:
My wife is an army officer. A lieutenant. But she is very reclusive and always love dodging any misgivings even concerning me



I had issues with someone months ago, i called a friend that was a Sergent in thesame barrack to help me out, my wife heard d issue later and was against it. It was a serious matter later on.

We even had issue with someone from our area , and she told me to call the Police and that it not in her place to interfere.

My boy was attacked by someone, he called her to report and my wife warned him to not try it again.

She wasn't like that until we got married. Somehow this thing is irritating me cos it depressing. I discussed it wit a friend from her rank that told me it was unusual that she was supposed to help me out.

Sorry oga, you lacked emotional intelligence.
You're proud and arrogant.
Your wife who happens to be a lieutenant in the Army is educated and a commissioned officer 👮, not a soldier.
She is refined and disciplined like a true army.
Shey, you wan flex muscle, you wan brag, you wan form ba?
Your wife has schooled you and you appears to be a dull student.
Don't endanger your family with your gragra mentality.
This is 21st century.
Even ab0ki don wise.
Gain respect and honour by not using your connection with the military to oppress and intimidate others.
Always involve the police if it can't be settled amicably by you.

In future thesame woman will be addressed in your name as Maj.Gen. Mrs ....... Based on Merit!.
Buckle your seat belt, foot life bravely and make her proud of the man (a civilian) she calls her husband and your kids sees her as a mother not a monster who because of her position turned her into monster for your sake!.
See it this way, my wife is an Army Officer and never for once have I made her to go against the ethics of her profession even when family and friends are pressuring situation, some times the police are suprised my wife is a Military Officer. By this attitude you are pushing her faster to climb the ladder!.
How ever you want it good luck....

Ringstonermasks:
a wife supposed to support her husband. Even if she doesn't want to go, y can't she call police for the boy on my behalf or even handle the situation since I was unreachable that moment.

Don't mind Nairalanders. Always writing trash. There is no excuse for your wife's indifference.

Ringstonermasks:
No, that's not how a wife behaves.

A wife supposed to support her husband irrespective of the action, and then caution the husband in private.

What happened to calling the police to help my boy as i was unreachable that moment. She has the DPO number, her sister is a magistrate, that would be reasonable.


Y didn't she call my brother or someone to help my boy out?
What did your son do? Make we know first.

Really? So if you kill or rape someone your wife should support you because you are her husband,how are you different from Nigeria leaders?

Tell us what your boy did that his own mother refused to help him. Maybe he is one of those that feel that he can do anything because his mom is in the army.

pocohantas:
I must commend your wife.
You want her to go fight your battles and when she is caught, the narrative would be how women were not created to handle power.


The police is there for civil cases.
Go call them.

The man is a typical ill-educated and uncivilized Nigerian.

iamL:
Really? So if you kill or rape someone your wife should support you because you are her husband,how are you different from Nigeria leaders?

Tell us what your boy did that his own mother refused to help him. Maybe he is one of those that feel that he can do anything because his mom is in the army.

Just wait , the ‘wife doesn’t care about you’ crew are coming. 🤣