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Yugoslavia247:
I can already tell that you have refused to take responsibility for your action. You went to see her against his wish because of i too know.
He posted it then you went to do the meeting.
Instead of take blame u will still blame ur husband.

Samantha125:
Some years ago, she and her friends attacked me, but I let that one slide.

But this year she came back again under false guise and poisoned me.

Basiljoe:
Posting your achievements on social media like vacation trips, graduation pics, Job promotion, dinner dates, eating out in luxury restaurant's and others.

Do you think it's a wise or foolish decision?

Give logical reasons.

Basiljoe:
I have mixed feelings.
I want to build an online brand, share my tech journey, life experiences, and possibly earn from content creation.

People will reach out to you easily for jobs if you're competent and experienced, but how do they do that if you don't have an online presence that could build trust.

At the same time, I want a low-key life of privacy. What they don't know, they can't ruin. 🤷🏽

Samantha125:
Thanks, but at the moment I don't think I'm ready to try for another baby... I just want to focus on myself, my family, and enjoy life.

I'm still young in my 20s and I still have plenty of time to have more children in the nearest future.

Samantha125:
I lost my baby last month because of Instagram... My husband is active on Instagram and he was so excited that we were going to have a baby that he even posted the picture of the ultrasound on his Instagram account, not knowing that his ex has been stalking him with a different account.

About a week later, she contacted me and started telling me about how she's now born again and turned a new leaf, that she wanted to make amends for what happened in the past... I assured her that I've long moved on from what happened and held no grudge against her... She then suggested that we should meet, so that we could bury the hatchet the right way, again I fell for her trick and told her that I'll let her know when I'm around Limpopo and we'd meet... Because I'm the type of a person who believes in second chances.

My husband warned me against the idea, but I assured him that I wasn't planning on being friends with her, but I just wanted to hear her out in person.

Last month I visited my parents in Limpopo and I informed her that I was around... We arranged our meeting and since it was a restaurant, I didn't think anything bad could happen... Long story short, I ended up fighting for my life in hospital and lost the baby... I had to undergo three surgeries, all because of that ultrasound my husband posted on his Instagram.

Like 2024 isn't my year.

easzypeaszy:
Wen celeb posts the likes of Davido u call it grace but wen ur friend do same u call it pride.

DonroxyII:
Human could be so Wicked ooo

Basiljoe:
Posting your achievements on social media like vacation trips, graduation pics, Job promotion, dinner dates, eating out in luxury restaurant's and others.

Do you think it's a wise or foolish decision?

Give logical reasons.

Samantha125:
Last month I visited my parents in Limpopo and I informed her that I was around... We arranged our meeting and since it was a restaurant, I didn't think anything bad could happen... Long story short, I ended up fighting for my life in hospital and lost the baby... I had to undergo three surgeries, all because of that ultrasound my husband posted on his Instagram.

Like 2024 isn't my year.

Basiljoe:
Posting your achievements on social media like vacation trips, graduation pics, Job promotion, dinner dates, eating out in luxury restaurant's and others.

Do you think it's a wise or foolish decision?

Give logical reasons.

Basiljoe:
Posting your achievements on social media like vacation trips, graduation pics, Job promotion, dinner dates, eating out in luxury restaurant's and others.

Do you think it's a wise or foolish decision?

Give logical reasons.

purples25:
I post for fun and also for validation.

I stopped because I don't get the validation and it makes me feel bad. My former mates from university, secondary school still get hundreds of thousands of likes, but I get very few. Maybe six, maybe ten. I got tired of the disappointment, so that's one reason I got discouraged from posting.

Number two, the fear of spiritual attacks. I have a picture of my little boy on Facebook but I'm going to remove it soon.

Number three, the stupid competition and endless jealousy of other women. My son was born with hair, but I decided to post a picture of him when we cut all his hair, tagging it 'memories'. Immediately, a former friend that has over millions of likes on every of her posts went to post her own son, tagging it 'memories' as well, with his full hair. I immediately got annoyed, like you have it all, must you kill my moment. I posted my son with hair but she must have known how I would feel and mischievously didn't view my own. She just wanted to kill my moment of joy. I decided to leave social media for them that are always having five million likes while people view mine and I have so little likes.

Another fair skinned pretty girl on my WhatsApp took it as a personal fight when I started posting my naming ceremony pictures and baby pictures. She never had before in the long time that I had her contact, posted pictures, but once I did my own, she started posting pictures of her relatives baby living abroad. Like... How am I fighting you, I don't even know you. To the extent that I posted on Whatsapp and immediately she posted something that triggered me. Once I put up another post that made her know it pained me, she put up a cryptic post immediately saying 'you do me, I do you' 'you do me, I do you'. Actually it was a meme of a politician saying that aggressively. As I was posting my baby she was posting that her relatives baby like say na fight. Honestly, I think light skinned women get mad when they see less beautiful or black women get married and have babies before they do. Same for extremely beautiful women. Some of them have a very black heart. They think a less beautiful woman shouldn't have anything. The can also be insanely jealous.

If I'm not going to get those likes, it's personally painful and embarrassing to me, especially when my mates are posting their babies and receiving tons of likes. Millions. Then I'd rather avoid the disappointment and not post. Like, my baby is very cute, so what the hell.

Let me add, my mates post pictures that are far out than mine. They post pictures of themselves abroad, finishing books, winning awards, big restaurants abroad, flight tickets and experiences, themselves I'm different countries, themselves with expensive hair and clothes with clean skin and people like them. My personal former friend dey post her trips to Japan, her constant visits to big restaurants to eat... I know it's genuine because I know their wealthy families or successes and skills from way back.

With all this ... I should still be posting myself in my modest settings and life? Sitting by the wall, or at a small restaurant, or by my window in my house? They just remind me of luxury that I'm not living, successes that I haven't achieved, worst of all little to no likes or attention for my own. Is it not better to not post than to be buying myself depression with each post? I don't even branch Instagram much again, for my personal sanity.

Tigernut101:
Big lie
Posting online is not show off
It depends on how you see it
Some of us post for fun 🤩 or to entertain our contacts.
Do whatever works for you but don’t judge others based on your opinion

ChengHun:
Post your business on social media and keep your personal life to your self. The less people know about you, the happier you are

femi4:
Just do you. No village people anywhere. Away with this naija mentality. Oyinbo will do preggy trimester till she put to bed on social media n nothing will happen

DrAda:
This life is quite complex.

A number of persons here reported getting negative feedbacks when they post their achievements in the social media.

For me, it has been the absolute opposite. Anytime I post about my successes, more seem to roll in. Thinking back now, I think that's my primary motivation behind posting my successes online.

It helps me strive to do more and not be complacent but most importantly I attract important clients and stakeholders who are eager to partner with me based on my skill set

easzypeaszy:
Wen celeb posts the likes of Davido u call it grace but wen ur friend do same u call it pride.

Magnoliaa:
I'm sorry about your loss.

Seeing what you've gone through and the subject of the thread, are you comfortable putting such an intimate and personal detail of yourself on a troll-filled forum such as Nairaland?

I would think you'll be more cautious of posting...more of your life events online as you've been on the receiving end of the downside of social media?

Toh.

Heffalump:
Don't wait until you're 35 or 40 before planning the next baby. Studies show that it's better to have children earlier than old age. Drop the goddam things and start training them. Are you planning for someone else to train your kids?

At your age, the calculation should be that, before 35 you should have been done and dusted with "push labour".
My little cent!

Magnoliaa:
Not the selective moralist coming out to play in the wild.


Don't make me sick please. You better do what's good for you, take the best advice you can give yourself and scram out of my mentions.

joseph1832:
So sorry about what happened to you and your baby.

Please tell me you got the stupid woman arrested and prosecuted?

jayce232:
Sorry about your experience
In as much I don't approve of people showing off on social media, but I think your disobedience cost u your child & not the social media ultrasound post your husband made. Even after your husband warned u, u still went ahead with your plans behind his back.

pocohantas:
I think Purple in particular has really bad friends and they come off as classists.

I have two friends that are heavy posters and one took to content creation. I followed the content creator one when she had less than 30 followers and I like/engage all her posts. I must drop comments hyping her. Why would I be angry my friend is winning? Her husband is the doting type. Always buying her this and that. If you no get mind, you fit put her picture for bottle when you see her husband's doings.

I also belong to a group of female remote workers. Some of us are active on TikTok and IG. Some are not. To be sincere, the active ones amongst us have gotten more perks than we that keep hiding behind our private Instagram pages. Sometimes I wish I can be like them. But someday...someday...

Basiljoe:
Posting your achievements on social media like vacation trips, graduation pics, Job promotion, dinner dates, eating out in luxury restaurant's and others.

Do you think it's a wise or foolish decision?

Give logical reasons.