₦airaland Forum

luminouz:
Lmaooo...you are telling me to do exactly what I don't do. Oh I have so many achievements but NL is also SM. If I start counting them here, I'm fûcked. I prefer to be the punkass, brokeass, redpill troll everyone here thinks I am. It's more fun that way.

Nice engaging with you on this topic but now it's back to troll mode.

Same time tomorrow? See ya!!

Didn't expect anything less. Happy trolling.

femi4:
Just do you. No village people anywhere. Away with this naija mentality. Oyinbo will do preggy trimester till she put to bed on social media n nothing will happen

Lol, I don't think you watch CBS reality/justice, Crime investigation channels? If you do, you won't say this.

luminouz:
😳😳😳😳....

See people wey I dey reply on NL. See the mental state of this one. A woman who will post her family online and get depressed if she doesn't get likes!! WTF is the matter with these women? Are you not loved at home by your husband or you lack self-love ni? You are angry another woman is posting to trigger you when all you hunt for is likes and validation? At least she is validating you.😁😁

I just hope your husband is safe. Don't allow armed robbers come to kill him for your mistakes biko. May God save us men sha

Hahahahah as in the comment tire person. I just want to believe she's joking, because if it's the true state of her feelings, then the person needs help.

femi4:
Just do you. No village people anywhere. Away with this naija mentality. Oyinbo will do preggy trimester till she put to bed on social media n nothing will happen

People fail to understand that there are benefits and risks in every single thing that we do.

Posting one's achievements on social media has some benefits as well as risks. Does the benefit outweigh the risks? What exactly are these risks? Are they actual risks based on cold facts or are they just Nollywood inspired?

DrAda:
People fail to understand that there are benefits and risks in every single thing that we do.

Posting one's achievements on social media has some benefits as well as risks. Does the benefit outweigh the risks? What exactly are these risks? Are they actual risks based on cold facts or are they just Nollywood inspired?

No spiritual risk whatsoever. Leave that thing

Davido et al has been flaunting riches on social media, which village people don bring his money down

Nay

femi4:
No spiritual risk whatsoever. Leave that thing

I totally agree. These risks simply do not exist. I fear for our collective mental state. It's really primitive

Wotoporiously speaking

Only Graduation pics and job promotion are achievements, the rest you wrote there are normal activities people do on a daily, them dey reward person for dinner dates and vacation trips?

For me I don't like posting my achievements online so it's a nay for me

purples25:
I post for fun and also for validation.

I stopped because I don't get the validation and it makes me feel bad. My former mates from university, secondary school still get hundreds of thousands of likes, but I get very few. Maybe six, maybe ten. I got tired of the disappointment, so that's one reason I got discouraged from posting.

Number two, the fear of spiritual attacks. I have a picture of my little boy on Facebook but I'm going to remove it soon.
uld still be posting myself in my modest settings and life? Sitting by the wall, or at a small restaurant, or by my window in my house? They just remind me of luxury that I'm not living, successes that I haven't achieved, worst of all little to no likes or attention for my own. Is it not better to not post than to be buying myself depression with each post? I don't even branch Instagram much again, for my personal sanity.

I find your post very interesting and honest. It is something many people struggle with, especially as how they envisaged life never came to fruition. There are ways to mitigate the worry. One such is acknowledging that there are people bigger than us just as we are bigger than others. The goal is to live a fulfilled life on your terms, not on others. So a friend who travels to Japan did so because she could afford it. If you can travel to Ghana or Kenya for tourism, good as well. A way to achieve this is to play to your strengths. Once you play to your strengths, you become very good at it and achieve the best you want in life. There are many ways to kill the rat, the koko is that the rat is dead. Also, understand where you are coming from and where you are now. You have done well. In life, one cannot always have it all. You win some and lose some. But be proud of your winnings.

Additionally, be genuinely happy for other people who post their winnings as they show that anyone could achieve them. I believe life na turn by turn provided one works for it with a bit of luck here and there. I had mates and contemporaries who moved to study abroad with generous scholarships and worked in multinational corporations. I was happy for them and knew I wanted the same. But the route does not have to be the same. I charted my course, and today, I am glad I achieved the same as they did. Few years difference between theirs and mine. The koko is to play to your strengths, be grateful and contented. Yes, you can always and will always get more, but be happy for what you have now while you strive for more.

As for your "friend" who posts pictures as a counterpose, if possible, silence her posts or delete contact. Alternatively, bar her from viewing your posts. This race of life, na only one person dey run am.

Acidosis:
It still depends on how you see it. There’s a new industry in town: content creation and lifestyle. Look at the likes of Chef T and Veekee James, who are already commercialising their lifestyles. Chef T has been "showing off" are new home and baby for weeks now online. Na we dey see “showoff,” they see “more bank alerts” from YouTube, TikTok, X, etc.

I think people should not box themselves in.

There are many people who prefer to stay low-key, whether they have something going on or not (I fall into this category), and that’s perfectly fine too but we can’t all be the same.

Those ones are entertainers in various niches, using social media as their platform to express themselves.

Data on social media is information (the currency of this age). Why giving out vital information about yourself for free when you are not earning from it.

More importantly, I think everyone should know whether they stand to gain or lose something by the information one puts out there.

Wetin Man Go Do na

Except it's linkedin ....nay.

Though I may edit my experience but I don't loud it as people aren't smiling.

Not for me.

pocohantas:
The major reason I don't post on Facebook is billing. I don't believe anybody would attack me spiritually. At best, I don't want any member of my family kidnapped.

I have a friend who has digital footprint dating back to when she was 14 sef. Now that I am older, I envy her. Because she has lots of memories and she is replicating same for her kids.
And see, some people are just living their lives like you are living yours. They are not trying to impress you. You are not that important. So get rid of that mentality of, they are showing off to you. Nigerians just hate to see good things. If they see a happy couple, they start attacking. But when they see the ones breaking each other's head, they would engage with 5000 comments.

The bold is true. Apart from following the person, unless closely related, how does someone travel destinations affect one's life? Me, I look forward to such as I make plans to experience the same, if I am interested. I love seeing people enjoy themselves as they worked hard for it. Anyone who develops bad belle because of such does him/herself more harm than good.

Way back the Travel section was rich with travel pictures and experiences. Do you still see that in 2024? All we have is, "Which country can I enter with 1.2m?"

IMO, four reasons:

- The recent set of japarians haven't settled well in terms of finance and residency to indulge in such.
- The previous/older set that showed pictures have gotten older, and wish such, life gets busier
- COVID disrupted travel.
- Bad belle full Nairaland. This point reminds me of the lass who got so much vitriol when she posted her trips across Nigeria. I was shocked to the bones. She was called all sorts of names from the regular ashawo to lesbian. Well, as a follower of good life, I followed her on IG and today, the "ashawo" is married to a medical doctor and they have a child.

I love people that post with discretion. Whether poor, middle class or rich, I like all posts and engage them.

GBAM!

luminouz:
It may work for you and that's fine but don't ever think evil people or village people don't monitor. That's a very wrong assumption.

Seeking online validation by posting my life has never worked for me. It's not in my nature and never worked out well. I excel better when I keep my mouth shut and my hands busy hustling. My star/moon or whatever zodiac attracts too much envy and jealousy from others and I can't keep looking over my shoulder. You seem fine though...good luck

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femi4:
Just do you. No village people anywhere. Away with this naija mentality. Oyinbo will do preggy trimester till she put to bed on social media n nothing will happen

How was Pop smoke killed?

You don’t know shitt about how people can get you with your social media post.

A boy was posting wads of $$$ online and got shot right inside his home by people who just got a tip online.

Many instances I cannot list. People have met their death and problems from online space.


Same way people can get at you when you expose too much to them.

EmperorCaesar:


Havent posted anything on my personal Whatsapp status since 2017, so its hard to even post anything on IG or Twitter...Only on Linkedin

I do things this way cause i no like attention. I once changed job three times(across three different fields) early this year and not even my best pals that i see everyday were even aware of it

I just like being under the radar. My personality

That aside, posting ones achievement wouldnt change anything . Village people and juju cant do shii

Life happens to people at anytime it so wishes

correct person

DissTroy:
Not for me. I'm only on social as a necessity because I'm service provider.

Last time I stated my location on Facebook or Instagram or Twitter was 10 years ago.

I deliberately crop my pictures or take them in neutral backgrounds so you can't guess who I am with. I've attended so many events recently yet the last time I posted on my timeline was months ago. I login daily.

You can't know the females I am close to or my relatives just from my timeline.

I avoid women who show-off or make content with personal details amongst other requirements. If you aren't lowkey like me, I don't want you. I'd ghost you.

I hang out with the high and mighty every other week but I never post pictures. I move them to my hard drive once I take them.

Looking at my timeline you'd only find my professional details and what I do - even my phone number too. You'd also find my pictures but almost only pictures of me alone. Strangers don't need to know those close to me. Heck! I reveal almost nothing about my personal life to people I see daily. You'd only know what I do for a living.

I comment actively in groups and utilize humour when I need to. You'd find me easily on social media, I'm very present, but you'd barely find personal details of me.

Be visible but let your personal life be invisible.
I've turned down many women I got intimate with after checking their timelines and finding out they are attention huggers posting their itinerary constantly. They weren't bad women - I just like low-key ones like myself.

does the emboldened mean you tasted the coochie?

posting it for who?

Samantha125:
Yes, I did... The case is still on going.

Good to know. Atleast the CCTV footage is evidence enough for any lawyer to put her where she belong.

ChiefOkporghe:
Chimooooo

Basiljoe:
Posting your achievements on social media like vacation trips, graduation pics, Job promotion, dinner dates, eating out in luxury restaurant's and others.

Do you think it's a wise or foolish decision?

Give logical reasons.

This is an interesting thread.

Indeed, if it's extremely personal details such as your current locations whenever you embark on leisure travels, names and details of all your kids including where they school, etc, then don't post them online because of security concerns from potential stalkers, house burglers and hired assassins. Even some of your domestic staff can be a potential threat if adequate background checks are NOT carried out.

But for business-related matters, you just have to publicized yourself because publicity is KING. That's how folks get to know your brand around the world in whatever business niche you're into. You just have to enhance your business security by carrying out a comprehensive threat assessment and get security gadgets such as CCTV cameras, alarms, tracking devices, portable spy pens, and more.

Gerrard59:
I find your post very interesting and honest. It is something many people struggle with, especially as how they envisaged life never came to fruition. There are ways to mitigate the worry. One such is acknowledging that there are people bigger than us just as we are bigger than others. The goal is to live a fulfilled life on your terms, not on others. So a friend who travels to Japan did so because she could afford it. If you can travel to Ghana or Kenya for tourism, good as well. A way to achieve this is to play to your strengths. Once you play to your strengths, you become very good at it and achieve the best you want in life. There are many ways to kill the rat, the koko is that the rat is dead. Also, understand where you are coming from and where you are now. You have done well. In life, one cannot always have it all. You win some and lose some. But be proud of your winnings.

Additionally, be genuinely happy for other people who post their winnings as they show that anyone could achieve them. I believe life na turn by turn provided one works for it with a bit of luck here and there. I had mates and contemporaries who moved to study abroad with generous scholarships and worked in multinational corporations. I was happy for them and knew I wanted the same. But the route does not have to be the same. I charted my course, and today, I am glad I achieved the same as they did. Few years difference between theirs and mine. The koko is to play to your strengths, be grateful and contented. Yes, you can always and will always get more, but be happy for what you have now while you strive for more.

As for your "friend" who posts pictures as a counterpose, if possible, silence her posts or delete contact. Alternatively, bar her from viewing your posts. This race of life, na only one person dey run am.

Thank you for sharing.

This is so loaded and I learnt a new stuff today

luminouz:
It may work for you and that's fine but don't ever think evil people or village people don't monitor. That's a very wrong assumption.

Seeking online validation by posting my life has never worked for me. It's not in my nature and never worked out well. I excel better when I keep my mouth shut and my hands busy hustling. My star/moon or whatever zodiac attracts too much envy and jealousy from others and I can't keep looking over my shoulder. You seem fine though...good luck

Oga which one be zodiac sign you Dey talk again like say you Dey special in one kind way why you Dey talk like woman?

And I'm very thankful for the cameras because if there weren't any, it would've been my word against hers and she'd have been still walking freely probably looking for a way to finish me off.

joseph1832:
Good to know. Atleast the CCTV footage is evidence enough for any lawyer to put her where she belong.

Therock5555:
Mama, your low self esteem and need for validation needs to be thoroughly worked on.

Like seriously why will you be pained when someone gets millions of likes and you only get few likes.
Can you convert the likes to money?


Always be satisfied with what you have, think of millions wey no even get phone to post, talk more of get any likes.

If you keep using people's lives to compare with yours, you'll remain a forever bitter person stuck in a loop on never ending sorrows....


I'm sorry if I sound harsh, but please work on your mindset.

Nor be small thing o.

pocohantas:
Well said. I have turned down remote work public speaking all because I want to be private. The last one I turned down was less than 3 months ago. I saw the videos on TikTok/Instagram and looking at the ladies that spoke, I felt this pain knowing I could have been one of them. Though my reason for turning down the last one was valid, but can you imagine the benefit that would have come with speaking at that event?


Thanks for your motivation. I really need to look into this.

Giving you bombastic side eye sha.

Make I nor talk.

joseph1832:
does the emboldened mean you tasted the coochie?

Mostly before. Unlike other men, the sex alone doesn't do it for me. Women have random sex daily with men whose faces they can't even remember. So I work on my seduction until she actually falls for me and wants me. Whatever happens,
she carries a part of me in heart till she passes on. Not just finding me cute but wanting to be something very intimate with.

During the process of seduction, I search her out online too. Women who post too much of their personal lives won't mind a scandal if your entanglement with them doesn't work out. The private ones count their losses and move on. No dragging or scandal.
That's why I avoid influencer-type wannabe baddies. I don't want to trend on Instablog. That's why I never get intimate with social media famous girls who curate their lives on their timelines. I never have.

femi4:
No spiritual risk whatsoever. Leave that thing

Davido et al has been flaunting riches on social media, which village people don bring his money down

and you think Davido sef no get where im dey visit? no try all these celebs o.

For me, it's a Nay, the peace I enjoy from nobody knowing anything about what I do and engage in just perfect for me.

Aside from happy new year that I posted 1st January, I haven't posted anything else this year.

EmperorCaesar:


Havent posted anything on my personal Whatsapp status since 2017, so its hard to even post anything on IG or Twitter...Only on Linkedin

I do things this way cause i no like attention. I once changed job three times(across three different fields) early this year and not even my best pals that i see everyday were even aware of it

I just like being under the radar. My personality

That aside, posting ones achievement wouldnt change anything . Village people and juju cant do shii

Life happens to people at anytime it so wishes

I think we have the same personality. And I think this type of trait is inborn.

A lot of people have tagged me secretive due to my behaviour of not showing off.

But it's their cup of tea.

I only tell things to people when it is absolutely necessary, anything aside that, I keep it to my self.

Basiljoe:
I have mixed feelings.
I want to build an online brand, share my tech journey, life experiences, and possibly earn from content creation.

People will reach out to you easily for jobs if you're competent and experienced, but how do they do that if you don't have an online presence that could build trust.

At the same time, I want a low-key life of privacy. What they don't know, they can't ruin. 🤷🏽

Una go dy deceive unself with content creation.... Live your life cuz no one gives a shyte about your life's journey.... Someone who's busy won't have time to think of such crap....