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Modupetemmy1:
A neighbor at the market sent me this message some months ago
I was so scared that I had to get her arrested, the market leadership intervened and begged me to release her of which I did, ever since then I can be in my stall without her insulting me indirectly

We share same roof cos we are 3 under the shield but the third person mostly comes around on weekends

I have tried ignoring her severally yet everyday by day is name calling

If someone is standing in front of me and is talking to her,she would say the person should leave my frontage ooo because me I will go and call police

She calls me witch and all sorts of name, she is draining me psychologically

Where is the message she sent you some months ago?

Which message?

The message

I have never had any verbal confrontation with her, we have never had a fight but stopped greeting me and I locked up as well
The next thing I saw was her threatening messages and words of defamation

Modupetemmy1:
I have never had any verbal confrontation with her, we have never had a fight but stopped greeting me and I locked up as well
The next thing I saw was her threatening messages and words of defamation

I would've said ignore her, but it's not that simple.

Can you move away from there?

By the way, why do you have her contact saved in your phone?

Mariangeles:
I would've said ignore her, but it's not that simple.

Can you move away from there?

By the way, why do you have her contact saved in your phone?

We use same open stall, we are in talking terms before she suddenly stopped greeting me

When she was asked what prompted her action she could not give any tangible word

Dealing with a toxic neighbor can be extremely stressful and emotionally draining. Here's a suggested plan to help you address the situation:

Document Incidents
1. Keep a record: Start documenting every incident, including dates, times, and details of what happened.
2. Save evidence: Take photos or videos of any aggressive behavior, and save any threatening messages.

Seek Support
1. Market leadership: Reach out to the market leadership again, and provide them with the documentation. Ask for their assistance in resolving the matter.
2. Local authorities: Consider filing a formal complaint with the local authorities, such as the police or a community mediation center.
3. Support network: Talk to friends, family, or a therapist about the emotional toll this is taking on you.

Set Boundaries
1. Clear communication: If you feel comfortable, try talking to your neighbor directly and calmly. Explain how her behavior is affecting you and ask her to stop.
2. Physical boundaries: Consider installing a divider or screen to create a physical barrier between your stalls.
3. Avoid engagement: Consider ignoring her comments or not responding to her provocations.

Long-term Solutions
1. Relocation: If the situation doesn't improve, consider relocating your stall to a different area of the market.
2. Mediation: Suggest mediation through a neutral third-party to resolve the conflict.
3. Seek legal advice: If the harassment continues and you've tried all other avenues, consider seeking legal advice to explore your options.

Remember, prioritizing your mental health and well-being is essential. Don't hesitate to seek help and support to address this toxic situation.

You and her were threatening each other with the fetish aspect of Cele. Both of you should getat.