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Roland17:
Yes sir, na my professional background be that and even though we don dive into more lucrative aspects of healthcare, I still dey in touch and maintain relevant certifications/ licenses.

Roland17:
Yes sir, na my professional background be that and even though we don dive into more lucrative aspects of healthcare, I still dey in touch and maintain relevant certifications/ licenses.

Roland17:
There are developmental milestones every child achieves as they age. Those milestones are typically physiological, biological, intellectual/ cognitive. When there is a deficit in any of the aspects listed, then we need to ask why?

Flogging doesn’t correct a deficit in emotional regulation. When you flog, you are not beating a child’s inability to properly regulate their emotions, rather, you are beating the child’s response to their inability to properly regulate their emotions. In this instance the response is anger or other maladaptive behaviors. Beating may suppress anger which is the response but it will not resolve the deficit in emotional regulation. Remember I said suppress anger, not resolve anger.

The process of developing proper emotional regulation takes a lifetime but usually starts at 2 when kids start to explore the different emotions they are feeling. That is the best time to help children learn proper emotional regulation. Helping them understand emotions like crying, smiling, anger, confusion, excitment etc makes the foundation strong. Redirect inappropriate responses immediately and consistently at this age. Encourage them to use their words. Also, their environment remains the biggest factor of influence. What surrounds the child? What is the child seeing? What they see informs how they interpret certain emotions.

Every disciplinary approach has the ability to have the same effect. The most important thing is the intention behind discipline and ensuring the approach/ choice of discipline matches the situation. Also, what are your own emotions when you are disciplining your child? Do adults mix their own frustrations with life when they discipline their children? For me, it has to be a combination and knowing what is effective and how to use it. Also, being flexible with approach.

If my child breaks TV as response to anger, e go collect before we dive into “why”? I am quite traditional but I also know my growing up is different from today. Know what your child responds to and that is effective and be flexible enough to explore options. Also, ensure discipline is age appropriate before you tempt a teenage son to handle you.. I have always said, my children will earn my friendship when they grow but until then I will parent.

Ibime:
Definitely faster than Sane

Walker, Mbappe and Bale is debatable

When he said even R9 knows he's faster, he wasn't joking cos they spent one year together at Inter

Only Tijani is clear of Martins on eye test, the others he mentioned will require stopwatch to test it

Ibime:
Is beating a good way of correcting lack of emotional regulation? If not, what would you suggest?

I'm a big believer in flogging when it has effect. But flogging does not regulate some children. I was one of those. I can take cane all day so it was never a corrective action for me. I rather my pale flog me than shout at me in those days.

Theflint1:
Ahmed Musa nko?

Ibime:
Mbappe is faster than Henry BTW

R9 was not that fast to put him in Mbappe speed levels

But R9 and Henry are made to look faster than they are because they were the best at running with the ball at speed. Many people have speed but few can do it with the ball at feet

Dennis Bergkamp was faster in Arsenal preseason sprint tests than Henry and was the fastest Arsenal player, he won it every year till about 2002. Check the record books. However Bergkamp style was never to run with the ball at speed, he played more conventional CAM style football than wingplay

Roland17:
There are developmental milestones every child achieves as they age. Those milestones are typically physiological, biological, intellectual/ cognitive. When there is a deficit in any of the aspects listed, then we need to ask why?

Flogging doesn’t correct a deficit in emotional regulation. When you flog, you are not beating a child’s inability to properly regulate their emotions, rather, you are beating the child’s response to their inability to properly regulate their emotions. In this instance the response is anger or other maladaptive behaviors. Beating may suppress anger which is the response but it will not resolve the deficit in emotional regulation. Remember I said suppress anger, not resolve anger.

The process of developing proper emotional regulation takes a lifetime but usually starts at 2 when kids start to explore the different emotions they are feeling. That is the best time to help children learn proper emotional regulation. Helping them understand emotions like crying, smiling, anger, confusion, excitment etc makes the foundation strong. Redirect inappropriate responses immediately and consistently at this age. Encourage them to use their words. Also, their environment remains the biggest factor of influence. What surrounds the child? What is the child seeing? What they see informs how they interpret certain emotions.

Every disciplinary approach has the ability to have the same effect. The most important thing is the intention behind discipline and ensuring the approach/ choice of discipline matches the situation. Also, what are your own emotions when you are disciplining your child? Do adults mix their own frustrations with life when they discipline their children? For me, it has to be a combination and knowing what is effective and how to use it. Also, being flexible with approach.

If my child breaks TV as response to anger, e go collect before we dive into “why”? I am quite traditional but I also know my growing up is different from today. Know what your child responds to and that is effective and be flexible enough to explore options. Also, ensure discipline is age appropriate before you tempt a teenage son to handle you.. I have always said, my children will earn my friendship when they grow but until then I will parent.

OkpaNsukkaisBae:
There's no difference. They all are human invention to control people.

Ibime:
Nice one boss. I go still like to reach out to you privately. I get one agidi head for house wey I dey try tame, but that no be matter I fit discuss for village square

Roland17:
There are developmental milestones every child achieves as they age. Those milestones are typically physiological, biological, intellectual/ cognitive. When there is a deficit in any of the aspects listed, then we need to ask why?

Flogging doesn’t correct a deficit in emotional regulation. When you flog, you are not beating a child’s inability to properly regulate their emotions, rather, you are beating the child’s response to their inability to properly regulate their emotions. In this instance the response is anger or other maladaptive behaviors. Beating may suppress anger which is the response but it will not resolve the deficit in emotional regulation. Remember I said suppress anger, not resolve anger.

The process of developing proper emotional regulation takes a lifetime but usually starts at 2 when kids start to explore the different emotions they are feeling. That is the best time to help children learn proper emotional regulation. Helping them understand emotions like crying, smiling, anger, confusion, excitment etc makes the foundation strong. Redirect inappropriate responses immediately and consistently at this age. Encourage them to use their words. Also, their environment remains the biggest factor of influence. What surrounds the child? What is the child seeing? What they see informs how they interpret certain emotions.

Every disciplinary approach has the ability to have the same effect. The most important thing is the intention behind discipline and ensuring the approach/ choice of discipline matches the situation. Also, what are your own emotions when you are disciplining your child? Do adults mix their own frustrations with life when they discipline their children? For me, it has to be a combination and knowing what is effective and how to use it. Also, being flexible with approach.

If my child breaks TV as response to anger, e go collect before we dive into “why”? I am quite traditional but I also know my growing up is different from today. Know what your child responds to and that is effective and be flexible enough to explore options. Also, ensure discipline is age appropriate before you tempt a teenage son to handle you.. I have always said, my children will earn my friendship when they grow but until then I will parent.

Spy360:
You mean in reality, people can do evil and get away with it without any form of consequence?

obainojazz:
Well said boss…. I was barely beaten growing up unlike my siblings but I still grew up to be like the perfect boy who never entered any trouble
No beating yet I no turn out like Okpa and co

obainojazz:
Well said boss…. I was barely beaten growing up unlike my siblings but I still grew up to be like the perfect boy who never entered any trouble
No beating yet I no turn out like Okpa and co

TrebleChamp:
U no well 😁😁

chidekings:
make una free okpa na.....man has collected many strays.

obainojazz:
Well said boss…. I was barely beaten growing up unlike my siblings but I still grew up to be like the perfect boy who never entered any trouble
No beating yet I no turn out like Okpa and co

DeadPresidents:
My own na say, Pikin need to learn say every action get equal and opposite reaction.

If Bovi pikin break TV outside, them fit Cole Palm am before Bovi dey on ground to handle the situation.

As a kid, no matter how angry I get, them no born me to break TV because I understand the opposite reaction is no cartoons/movies/gaming/football for months (If i don’t lose access forever)

Every human considers action and effect that’s why you won’t pick up quarrel with the local street boxer. That’s the same reason kids learn to avoid stealing bitter leaf…it’s not worth it

Bovi’s kids understand there’s no effect to breaking TVs and fundamentals of human and animal behaviour is defined succinctly: "What gets rewarded, gets done"

OkpaNsukkaisBae:
Buhari 2.0

OkpaNsukkaisBae:
Buhari 2.0

iamoyindamola:
Ibime, nihilistjnr
Check out 'the cage'
It's a french series about a young mma fighter building his way to the top
It's on Netflix
Blueraydick if you like the creed or boxing/kick boxing you can watch it too

izzou:
[color=royalblue]This guy left Anambra worse in insecurity than he met it.

Just a pity that the opposition has no serious candidate.

As much as I disliked Late Ifeanyi Ubah, I was open to accept him as a replacement for this guy.

Make e just do comot. He can later rule Nigeria and replicate his confused security ideologies there.[/color]

OkpaNsukkaisBae:
The thing dey shock me oooh. He no dey write letter again. He no dey blame people from other SE states. I wish PDP & LP in Anambra can merge.

Ibime:
Is it in English or with subtitles?

Spy360:
You mean in reality, people can do evil and get away with it without any form of consequence?

iamoyindamola:
Yes