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Why is it that people around you try to guilt trip you when you refuse to attend a church on Sunday morning.

I am relaxing in my home, watching a movie and reading a book afterwards on a Sunday morning, what could be wrong with that.

Going to church to listen to the same things I have heard over before is nothing but indoctrination.

What exactly would I go to a church for? To listen to a jobless pastor, sing emotional songs, dance or what?

I am sick and tired of people thinking you have to be in a church on a Sunday Morning.

This brainwashing and indoctrinations have run so deep we are even expected to feel guilty for not going to church.
Religion is 90% of emotional manipulations and 10% of fear.

You even have time to be paying attention to such people

Presently,where I reside,there are about 4 different churches surrounding my house.......And of which about two of the bishops personally like me so much to the extent that they do invite me to come to their homes to come spend time with them....but na me dey see Dem dey run cuz I love my kinda free life......

But the truth is that--No matter how you may try to guilt trip me into believing that I'm a Devil for not going to church,it won't work on me,cuz I don too experience such things

It's human nature to feel indebted regarding worship so if you don't have the same feelings they will QUESTION you thinking you're in some cult or coven because to them there is no human who doesn't want people around to join them in celebrating one thing or another and the easiest means of getting into such a gathering is through the church.

Maybe the devil plays trick on me when I go to church on Sundays. I wonder why I do sleep in church

Nnamdipapa:
Why is it that people around you try to guilt trip you when you refuse to attend a church on Sunday morning.

I am relaxing in my home, watching a movie and reading a book afterwards on a Sunday morning, what could be wrong with that.

Going to church to listen to the same things I have heard over before is nothing but indoctrination.

What exactly would I go to a church for? To listen to a jobless pastor, sing emotional songs, dance or what?

I am sick and tired of people thinking you have to be in a church on a Sunday Morning.

This brainwashing and indoctrinations have run so deep we are even expected to feel guilty for not going to church.

The universe have finally chosen you to be free bro...!

Congratulations...!!

Floky215:
The universe have finally chosen you to be free bro...!

Congratulations...!!

I know right? You go to listen to a pastor preach from a book you are not allowed to question.

Nnamdipapa:
I know right? You go to listen to a pastor preach from a book you are not allowed to question.

That book is is filled with just some few truth and an upward of a thousand lies...!!

Nnamdipapa:
I know right? You go to listen to a pastor preach from a book you are not allowed to question.

how about you ask and you let someone answer

Floky215:
That book is is filled with just some few truth and an upward of a thousand lies...!!

mention few of what you find true and some out of the thousand lies you have found in it, hopefully you will find the truth if you indeed seek it sincerely

Why did Matthew misquote from Zechariah 11:12-13, which mentions thirty pieces of silver being cast to the potter in the house of the Lord:
"Then I said to them, 'If it is agreeable to you, give me my wages; and if not, refrain.' So they weighed out for my wages thirty pieces of silver. And the Lord said to me, 'Throw it to the potter'—that princely price they set on me. So I took the thirty pieces of silver and threw them into the house of the Lord for the potter."

This is a very BIG SCAM

Where did Jeremiah say this in Matthew 27:9-10, NKJV: Then was fulfilled what was spoken by Jeremiah the prophet, saying, “And they took the thirty pieces of silver, the value of Him who was priced, whom they of the children of Israel priced, 10 and gave them for the potter’s field, as the Lord directed me.” Matthew 27:9-10, NKJV.

God Almighty of the Original Torah in the first Temple in Jerusalem is the only True God.

gohf:
mention few of what you find true and some out of the thousand lies you have found in it, hopefully you will find the truth if you indeed seek it sincerely

If you pick up that book, you can read from from Genesis to Revelation thrice a year depending...peharps if you have done that you would see all the lies and contradictions there and also the few truth place there to hold the lies together to confused and deceive the people...!!

Floky215:
If you pick up that book, you can read from from Genesis to Revelation thrice a year depending...peharps if you have done that you would see all the lies and contradictions there and also the few truth place there to hold the lies together to confused and deceive the people...!!

I have done that in a space of 20years and I will gladly accept African mythology than what is in that book.

Abrahamic religion is nothing but mental slavery.

Nnamdipapa:
Why is it that people around you try to guilt trip you when you refuse to attend a church on Sunday morning.

I am relaxing in my home, watching a movie and reading a book afterwards on a Sunday morning, what could be wrong with that.

Going to church to listen to the same things I have heard over before is nothing but indoctrination.

What exactly would I go to a church for? To listen to a jobless pastor, sing emotional songs, dance or what?

I am sick and tired of people thinking you have to be in a church on a Sunday Morning.

This brainwashing and indoctrinations have run so deep we are even expected to feel guilty for not going to church.
Religion is 90% of emotional manipulations and 10% of fear.

I find your perspective on church attendance to be a complex and thought-provoking one. I understand your frustration with feeling pressured or guilt-tripped, but I believe it's important to consider this issue from multiple angles.

Historically the tradition of Sunday church attendance has deep roots in Christian practice, dating back to the earliest days of the Church. It's not merely about "indoctrination," but about community, shared worship, and spiritual growth. But I acknowledge that the way this tradition is sometimes enforced or communicated can feel oppressive to some individuals.

The guilt you're experiencing is likely a result of what we call "social norms" and "cognitive dissonance." People around you have internalized church attendance as a moral imperative, and when they see someone not conforming to this norm, it creates discomfort, which they may express through attempts to influence your behavior.

Research has shown different psychological motivations for church attendance among different personality types. For instance, studies have found that extraverts tend to have higher scores on measures of extrinsic religiosity (attending church for social or external reasons), while introverts score higher on intrinsic religiosity (a more personal, internalized faith). Your preference for a quiet Sunday at home could be related to your personality type and how you best connect with your spirituality.

But I would caution against dismissing all religious practice as "brainwashing" or "emotional manipulation." While there are instances of manipulation in some religious contexts, for many people, religious practice provides genuine meaning, comfort, and a sense of community. The psychological benefits of religious involvement have been documented in numerous studies.

That being said, your feelings are valid, and no one should be made to feel guilty for how they choose to spend their personal time. If you find spiritual fulfillment in quiet reflection, reading, or other activities, that's perfectly valid. The key is to find what genuinely nourishes your spirit and contributes to your well-being.

I would encourage you to explore the rich traditions and diverse expressions of faith that exist beyond the specific church experiences you've had. I would suggest examining why this pressure affects you so deeply and perhaps having open, honest conversations with those around you about your feelings and beliefs.

Remember, spirituality is a deeply personal journey. While community can be an important part of that journey for many, it's not the only path. The most important thing is to cultivate a genuine, authentic relationship with the divine (or whatever you consider sacred) in a way that resonates with you personally.

The goal of any spiritual practice should be personal growth, ethical living, and connection to something greater than ourselves - not conformity to social expectations or fear-based compliance. If you're achieving these goals through your current practices, then you have every right to feel confident in your choices.

armchairscholar:
I find your perspective on church attendance to be a complex and thought-provoking one. Although I understand your frustration with feeling pressured or guilt-tripped, I believe it's important to consider this issue from multiple angles.

Historically the tradition of Sunday church attendance has deep roots in Christian practice, dating back to the earliest days of the Church. It's not merely about "indoctrination," but about community, shared worship, and spiritual growth. But I acknowledge that the way this tradition is sometimes enforced or communicated can feel oppressive to some individuals.

The guilt you're experiencing is likely a result of what we call "social norms" and "cognitive dissonance." People around you have internalized church attendance as a moral imperative, and when they see someone not conforming to this norm, it creates discomfort, which they may express through attempts to influence your behavior(Francis et al., 2010, pp. 821–827).

Research has shown different psychological motivations for church attendance among different personality types. For instance, studies have found that extraverts tend to have higher scores on measures of extrinsic religiosity (attending church for social or external reasons), while introverts score higher on intrinsic religiosity (a more personal, internalized faith)(Francis et al., 2010, pp. 821–827). Your preference for a quiet Sunday at home could be related to your personality type and how you best connect with your spirituality.

But I would caution against dismissing all religious practice as "brainwashing" or "emotional manipulation." While there are instances of manipulation in some religious contexts, for many people, religious practice provides genuine meaning, comfort, and a sense of community(Francis & Hermans, 2010). The psychological benefits of religious involvement have been documented in numerous studies.

That being said, your feelings are valid, and no one should be made to feel guilty for how they choose to spend their personal time. If you find spiritual fulfillment in quiet reflection, reading, or other activities, that's perfectly valid. The key is to find what genuinely nourishes your spirit and contributes to your well-being.

I would encourage you to explore the rich traditions and diverse expressions of faith that exist beyond the specific church experiences you've had. I would suggest examining why this pressure affects you so deeply and perhaps having open, honest conversations with those around you about your feelings and beliefs.

Remember, spirituality is a deeply personal journey. While community can be an important part of that journey for many, it's not the only path. The most important thing is to cultivate a genuine, authentic relationship with the divine (or whatever you consider sacred) in a way that resonates with you personally.

The goal of any spiritual practice should be personal growth, ethical living, and connection to something greater than ourselves - not conformity to social expectations or fear-based compliance. If you're achieving these goals through your current practices, then you have every right to feel confident in your choices.

I can bet my left-smooth-shaved-blokkos that this is from an AI, likely Chat GPT. Lets be original or give credits where it's due

Nnamdipapa:
I can bet my left-smooth-shaved-blokkos that this is from an AI, likely Chat GPT. Lets be original or give credits where it's due

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armchairscholar:
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Floky215:
If you pick up that book, you can read from from Genesis to Revelation thrice a year depending...peharps if you have done that you would see all the lies and contradictions there and also the few truth place there to hold the lies together to confused and deceive the people...!!

wow so you that has should find it easier to tell us, after all you are probably about to finish the bible again for the third time this year, seeing as you started Genesis in Sept you should remember all the lies and contradictions you saw at least some of them 🫡

Floky215:
The universe have finally chosen you to be free bro...!

Congratulations...!!

Is the universe also responsible for all the problems in this world?

Michael547:
Is the universe also responsible for all the problems in this world?

How is your question relevant to anything?

Nnamdipapa:
How is your question relevant to anything?

You accepted the remarks that the universe chose you to be free. So don't you think that the same universe has made others not to be free and have problems?

Michael547:
You accepted the remarks that the universe chose you to be free. So don't you think that the same universe has made others not to be free and have problems?

"Not to be free" and "having problems" can be mutually exclusive and does not have to occur together

Nnamdipapa:
"Not to be free" and "having problems" can be mutually exclusive and does not have to occur together

So what is responsible for people "not to be free" and "having problems" apart from the universe that chose you "to be free"?

Michael547:
So what is responsible for people "not to be free" and "having problems" apart from the universe that chose you "to be free"?

You are making a big mistake if you think I am gon get into an argument with you.

Nnamdipapa:
You are making a big mistake if you think I am gon get into an argument with you.

🤣🤣🤣.....funny man. You've been caught on your "universe" freed you logic.

Michael547:
🤣🤣🤣.....funny man. You've been caught on your "universe" freed you logic.

Whatever makes you happy man, I am making a new year resolutions never to involve in any pointless argument or discussion to leads to a waste of time.

It was the other guy that raised the issue about universe not me.

Nnamdipapa:
Whatever makes you happy man, I am making a new year resolutions never to involve in any pointless argument or discussion to leads to a waste of time.

It was the other guy that raised the issue about universe not me.

Lol....but you saw no need to question his ideas but accepted it because of your bias towards religion. Sorry oo.

In my case it is my mum...

She usually drives past my house on her way to church.
She always like "you did not go it church again?
You that was a former mass server..bla bla...

Yesterday I asked her politely..
Do they share money there or is it not the one I have that the priest wants to collect?

I stopped being a Christian in 2009...and since then I have not looked back.
I am not an atheist...I know there is a creator. I don't have faith there is.....big difference..
I follow my Igbo traditional religion...I want to re connect with my ancestors. That's the reason I am going to the village soon.....

I want to be the best version of my self...

Michael547:
Lol....but you saw no need to question his ideas but accepted it because of your bias towards religion. Sorry oo.

Because it would also be pointless and a waste of my time. I am working all through the time.

I won't be engaging pointlessly on NL anymore.

Nnamdipapa:
Because it would also be pointless and a waste of my time. I am working all through the time.

I won't be engaging pointlessly on NL anymore.

🤣🤣🤣....but you see a point in religion. Oga rest.

Michael547:
🤣🤣🤣....but you see a point in religion. Oga rest.

Religion has always been a big part of my life while growing up and I came out of it when I saw the level of deception and mind control involved.
All my siblings are either ministers or married to pastors and always seeking to drag me to church.
There is no amount of NL arguments thall change my mind so I don't waste my time with strangers except I am asked a direct question.
I am more of a humanist now.

Nnamdipapa:
Religion has always been a big part of my life while growing up and I came out of it when I saw the level of deception and mind control involved.
All my siblings are either ministers or married to pastors and always seeking to drag me to church.
There is no amount of NL arguments thall change my mind so I don't waste my time with strangers except I am asked a direct question.
I am more of a humanist now.

Nice opinion. Can you explain how humans came into existence?