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dheilaw1:
ask questions if you are not sure of something, stop displaying foolishness. My neighbor came with his elder sister as his wife. They are both here in the UK right now.

Obviously, I am the foolish one, by not playing the fast game.

It's people like you that will bad mouth Nigeria.
Welldone.

God will expose all of you.

eazzzy1:
If after school they both go their own way, what is the benefit of the arrangement to the girl? Should she not start schooling while the guy pays half of her tuition too?

She should have exposed the scam to the home office before they told her to leave the country. They both would have been sent home.

Good point.

The benefit of the arrangement to the girl is entry to the UK. It's up to her to know what what she will do when she gets there.

If the deal was bad for her, it must have been negotiated from the beginning, not breaking it halfway through. It is not not up to the other party to squeeze out a nice deal for you, that's your responsibility.

I agree that the deal doesn't favour her much (except entry to the UK), but she should not have agreed to it in the first place. When deal has been agreed/sign, it becomes binding.

It's like being angry you bought a flight from an agency 10x the price, when you could have refused it or negotiated it before paying. Fight for your interest and I fight fight mine.

The deal is not the fair for the girl. It's rigged from onset. All the power is in the guys hand. Her destiny to enter, remain and prolong her stay is on him.

But where she was outsmarted was on the negotiating table. She should not have agreed to it. It's her responsibility to squeeze out maximum benefit during negotiations.

But again, if you enter a deal with someone that is reasonable and have human conscience, then the deal can be revised. For example, giving her time to change from dependence, or reducing the payment load.

Or She will remunerate funds towards his studies to the best of her ability, to sustain their legal status, until she is independent of him.

These things are not hard. Not doing with someone not buried in pure selfishness.

Atk1nson:
This is plain stupidity.

She has no idea how hard it is to raise 3 children in a country like the UK without public fund and spousal support. The career sacrifice She will have to make as a single parent of 3 children.

She would need at least a 2 bedroom apartment. If they are less than 10 years old, she will have to drop and pick them from school, pay for after school of She can't pick them by 3pm, ensure there is always someone at home with them with no recourse to public funds for at least 5 years.

She is also unlikely to find anyone willing to shoulder than responsibility in a country where people love to live their best life.

She just set herself

2 are teens and one is going on 11. She claimed domestic violence and they came and took them to a "safe place" she then took opportunity to file for asylum claiming he might harm her if she goes to naija after her education. So my guy is just hanging. She has removed him from her dependant and I don't know his next plan.

004gist:
It's a common practice. I was asking the lady how far ur previous oga. She said she don't have any idea where he is. She just mail home office n they got him removed.

Just imagine? This Japa is not easy o.

delishpot:
2 are teens and one is going on 11. She claimed domestic violence and they came and took them to a "safe place" she then took opportunity to file for asylum claiming he might harm her if she goes to naija after her education. So my guy is just hanging. She has removed him from her dependant and I don't know his next plan.

Speak of the devil. Asylum -seeker life is not as easy as she thinks. She will living on bare minimum handout from the government and will not be able to get a good job till her asylum claim is determined which could take years

Atk1nson:
Speak of the devil. Asylum -seeker life is not as easy as she thinks. She will living on bare minimum handout from the government and will not be able to get a good job till her asylum claim is determined which could take years

It's crazy. I guess she thought it over and came to the conclusion that asylum is the fastest way to get residency because the post grad visa doesn't come cheap and it doesn't guarantee anything. COS too don scarce so better to throw him under the bus and seek asylum.

delishpot:
It's crazy. I guess she thought it over and came to the conclusion that asylum is the fastest way to get residency because the post grad visa doesn't come cheap and it doesn't guarantee anything. COS too don scarce so better to throw him under the bus and seek asylum.

Crazy world.