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May God help us, sometimes those things happen through peer pressure, family pressure, story about me my self, all my childhood friends are married,

most of my mother children are married and av babies, some av build there house but see me no job nothing to write home about for now, just av only my life, may Christ help us.

Don't give up or be afraid, see it as a motivation. Work hard and learn to step out of your comfort zone, also don't let peer pressure to have the better part of you, because it can lead to depression. Rather let it motivate you to work hard.
I once lived in a rural area where the average pay was around #45 - 50k, and my receiving #100k then made me feel somehow relaxed and lazy. It dawned on me when PMB came on board, my 100k couldn't even last for 20 days. The internet was my saving grace. Explore the internet search for what turns you on, learn a skill around it, and in dew time you will smile. There are enormous opportunities on the internet.

MY GUY stay POSITIVE
Have always wanted to be an AUTOMOBILE Engineer, but e shocked me to Grow to become a CAR DEALER, aside my LECTURING JOB, AUTOMOBILE na AUTOMOBILE sha, i became Agricultural ENGINEER and AUTOMOBILLE DEALER.. so na win win

abba190b:
help me I'm hungry

https://www.nairaland.com/8307427/how-sports-betting-ruined-life

FunnyDude:
The reality is no good job in Nigeria without connection.

Here's what you will do: Look for a service and offer it - anything online service, since you're a graduate you will make money.

You only need your brain, your computer or phone and your Internet to conquer poverty and the future.

Age is just a number.

Check my past threads to see what I've done.


Here's another advice I think you can consider

This no good job without connection you guys peddle around.

The private sector doesn't play with their money so need a lot of competent people to thrive.

telim:
be deceving your self the mechanic that fix my car as two bungalow, two wives, benz cls 500 and c300. You will see them dress dirty because of the nature of their job but they pay all there bills.

Two houses, two wives, two cars.

Is his name dimeji or oladeji?

I will also be 33 on April 12 and still serving my father's land with NYSC allawee but me no dey think those things too much o coz I know say God wey carry me come this far go send helpers of destiny to me, be it man or woman, short or tall, light or black.Your own better ooo walahi,you get 85l Job wey many people dey find and wey go be their testimony for this year. Better thank your God and don't think about those things too much. Be positive and take things slowly.cheer up niggar. I dey joint like this dey smoke loud and some beer.gpu care for some?🤒🍾🍷

Breatheon:
Who else is in the same shoe with me?

u fear too much.

Look for a working lady & mingle, everything will fall in place.

abba190b:
you should thank God. I am 30 years with no job and nothing. I see my mates getting married building houses while to eat na Wahala for me. Wallahi its very depressing im just suffering and smiling, lots of time I think about considering the ROPE

You and him should truly be grateful to God. Here I am at 34, without a job, no apartment to call my own, still squatting from one place to another. I don’t even have a girlfriend, let alone the thought of getting married. Sometimes, it feels like life keeps dealing me blows, but I still hold on to hope. You both don’t realize how much God has blessed you. Having a sense of stability, love, or direction is something many of us are still praying for every single day. Always remember to count your blessings, no matter how small they may seem.

Breatheon:
@33, I'm more afraid of the future

So reality is dawning on me for the tasks ahead.

Presently 33 with N85k/month salary job

During my days in school, I had thought life will be far better after school but here I am earning 85k/month and that is money that cannot even meet my immediate needs and not to talk of wants and unto other responsibilities.

By age, I'm supposed to have been married but still living in one room which is not advisable to even think of marriage in this condition.

To arrange myself for marriage, I need at least a one bedroom, furnished and comfortable. The yearly rent for that is about 400-450k

Then I am also worried about renewing the rent every year, year and year.

How about catering for the family? Aside rent, feeding, school fees (once married, you begin to reproduce), medical, clothing and so so and so forth.

To live a good life, you need a car for mobility sake as a family.

I can't continue to pay rent. Meaning I need to build a house.

Obviously, the 85k salary is not enough. I need to start a business.

And so many other issues giving me stress and sleepless night.

So my worry is, where would i get the money to do all these with these kind of job i am doing? For years i may not even raise a million naira.

I have seen situations where people no longer able to change clothes just because they now have a family and I'm trying to avoid that by all means.

I'm really really afraid of the future.

I feel there shouldn't be any future.

You have woken up. You are afraid. Don't listen to the people making you feel any better about yourself. The truth is that if nothing changes, your life is going to suck.

Now everyday I want you to wake up with that fear, the fear that if you stay the same, you are doomed. Now, I want you to look for the person you would like to become, and study them. After studying them, try to behave as they behave. In one year, come back to this topic.

Breatheon:
@33, I'm more afraid of the future

So reality is dawning on me for the tasks ahead.

Presently 33 with N85k/month salary job

During my days in school, I had thought life will be far better after school but here I am earning 85k/month and that is money that cannot even meet my immediate needs and not to talk of wants and unto other responsibilities.

By age, I'm supposed to have been married but still living in one room which is not advisable to even think of marriage in this condition.

To arrange myself for marriage, I need at least a one bedroom, furnished and comfortable. The yearly rent for that is about 400-450k

Then I am also worried about renewing the rent every year, year and year.

How about catering for the family? Aside rent, feeding, school fees (once married, you begin to reproduce), medical, clothing and so so and so forth.

To live a good life, you need a car for mobility sake as a family.

I can't continue to pay rent. Meaning I need to build a house.

Obviously, the 85k salary is not enough. I need to start a business.

And so many other issues giving me stress and sleepless night.

So my worry is, where would i get the money to do all these with these kind of job i am doing? For years i may not even raise a million naira.

I have seen situations where people no longer able to change clothes just because they now have a family and I'm trying to avoid that by all means.

I'm really really afraid of the future.

I feel there shouldn't be any future.

It's obviously true that life in Nigeria is very difficult right now but God has not forsaken us. Pls what you should do right now is to LEARN A SKILL / TRADE. Focus on succeeding at it and you'll excel.

go learn how to cook daily sure 2 odds or 1.5 odds... start with #100 capital

abba190b:
you should thank God. I am 30 years with no job and nothing. I see my mates getting married building houses while to eat na Wahala for me. Wallahi its very depressing im just suffering and smiling, lots of time I think about considering the ROPE

Calm , u go win eeejo 100k
Abi u no sabi d answer
Ego still do giveaway wey go Still survive ur ass one week

Breatheon:
Who else is in the same shoe with me?

Anyone earning below 250k is in the same boat

Just love everyone and show respect
Wish your enemies well
Bare no grudge
Be always optimistic
Bare no jealousy
Love your job and always give it your best , while keeping your dreams and aspirations in mind and feel within , you have all the blessings , wishes and good things in life , with this mind set and thoughts in mind , your life shall be peaceful, lovely and accomplishing and lastly do not fright in the face of any challenge, not been frightened will end the challenge before you and a new breakthrough will be accomplished here after.

So fear not....

Well I can't believe people still earn 85k salary.

This is 2024 and no one should earn less than 200k in this current inflation.

Go back to school, study nursing and japa. Nigeria has failed you. This country is a shit hole. My problem is that youths keep voting terrible people into office.

This is an excellent post.

Op decisions that needs to be made is atimes overwhelming.

But don't give up on hope.

Like it or not - you need to delete the likes of Facebook and Instagram and simply upskill.

Once u are in this corntry called Nigeria and with no good job or business u go fear till u old bro. cuz u no already that even the future empty. Na just faith Nigerian youth take dey get hope nothing else

FunnyDude:
I haven't seen a rich mechanic too. The ones that spoiled my car or the ones that stole from me and keep hiding till today. Most of them are wretched due to their wayward lifestyle.

It is like they swear for them, my mech is very promiscuous too

Get a site like www.vullz.com and be selling data and airtime as side-hustle.

Breatheon:
@33, I'm more afraid of the future

So reality is dawning on me for the tasks ahead.

Presently 33 with N85k/month salary job

During my days in school, I had thought life will be far better after school but here I am earning 85k/month and that is money that cannot even meet my immediate needs and not to talk of wants and unto other responsibilities.

By age, I'm supposed to have been married but still living in one room which is not advisable to even think of marriage in this condition.

To arrange myself for marriage, I need at least a one bedroom, furnished and comfortable. The yearly rent for that is about 400-450k

Then I am also worried about renewing the rent every year, year and year.

How about catering for the family? Aside rent, feeding, school fees (once married, you begin to reproduce), medical, clothing and so so and so forth.

To live a good life, you need a car for mobility sake as a family.

I can't continue to pay rent. Meaning I need to build a house.

Obviously, the 85k salary is not enough. I need to start a business.

And so many other issues giving me stress and sleepless night.

So my worry is, where would i get the money to do all these with these kind of job i am doing? For years i may not even raise a million naira.

I have seen situations where people no longer able to change clothes just because they now have a family and I'm trying to avoid that by all means.

I'm really really afraid of the future.

I feel there shouldn't be any future.

There's someone out there praying and fasting to get a job that will him/her at least 85k a month...from what you've listed, you are the one mounting pressure on your self. A man once told me "If you can plan well, you would discover that what you've is enough"

abba190b:
you should thank God. I am 30 years with no job and nothing. I see my mates getting married building houses while to eat na Wahala for me. Wallahi its very depressing im just suffering and smiling, lots of time I think about considering the ROPE

Don't die. Keep moving

Yes, that is time for guy man to know, it's not easy and that, life is in despair in 3rd world nation, maybe all these teenagers here, acting gragra would learn from you and plan better before their sun set.

Bros anything to get moni just do it, nobody cares how it comes.. Only the depress state of mind i do have.. How can one make it big, betting hardly give u such. Am a hotel manager on 60k salary, if i no do small small ruins from work how i wan take make daily expenses lke food,medicine.i have a customer who opened up to me that he's into organ harvesting, a graduate of bio chemistry from a university i graduated from, why e even tell me na because we're from same state/village.. He told me that he can stand being intimidated n lacking things he need wen he no get helper for family.. Its not easy, current situation in this shit holes it's not smiling of low income earners

tobby20:
Calm , u go win eeejo 100k
Abi u no sabi d answer
Ego still do giveaway wey go Still survive ur ass one week

I hope so

Wealthoptulent:
MY GUY stay POSITIVE
Have always wanted to be an AUTOMOBILE Engineer, but e shocked me to Grow to become a CAR DEALER, aside my LECTURING JOB, AUTOMOBILE na AUTOMOBILE sha, i became Agricultural ENGINEER and AUTOMOBILLE DEALER.. so na win win

help me I'm hungry

Greenlandz:
I will also be 33 on April 12 and still serving my father's land with NYSC allawee but me no dey think those things too much o coz I know say God wey carry me come this far go send helpers of destiny to me, be it man or woman, short or tall, light or black.Your own better ooo walahi,you get 85l Job wey many people dey find and wey go be their testimony for this year. Better thank your God and don't think about those things too much. Be positive and take things slowly.cheer up niggar. I dey joint like this dey smoke loud and some beer.gpu care for some?🤒🍾🍷

Whr na dey see this moneyu still dey smoke loud

Learn not to compare yourself with others. You are unique in your own ways.

Op, limit ur thinking with prayer, one day u shall get their,
Ur problem is that u are too faster than ur shadow guy, stop comparting urself with people at the front ,always think back to enabled u glorify ur God,
Start ur plan within that 85k with prayer and see what God we do b4 end of this year.
Some guys out their are looking for that 85k u complain about, op in every situation give thanks to ur God.

Being afraid/stressed about life is a universal language. Everybody is stressed or afraid of something about life, even billionaires. Your situation can be work on. Try getting a better job or another source of income. For example, average American work more than one job to stay afloat. Marry only a woman who will add value to you and support you financially or you will sentenced yourself and family to a life of struggle if you marry a liability while you do not make enough. After marriage, have a child and two maximum. Best of luck while you face life with full determination to succeed

Breatheon:
@33, I'm more afraid of the future

So reality is dawning on me for the tasks ahead.

Presently 33 with N85k/month salary job

During my days in school, I had thought life will be far better after school but here I am earning 85k/month and that is money that cannot even meet my immediate needs and not to talk of wants and unto other responsibilities.

By age, I'm supposed to have been married but still living in one room which is not advisable to even think of marriage in this condition.

To arrange myself for marriage, I need at least a one bedroom, furnished and comfortable. The yearly rent for that is about 400-450k

Then I am also worried about renewing the rent every year, year and year.

How about catering for the family? Aside rent, feeding, school fees (once married, you begin to reproduce), medical, clothing and so so and so forth.

To live a good life, you need a car for mobility sake as a family.

I can't continue to pay rent. Meaning I need to build a house.

Obviously, the 85k salary is not enough. I need to start a business.

And so many other issues giving me stress and sleepless night.

So my worry is, where would i get the money to do all these with these kind of job i am doing? For years i may not even raise a million naira.

I have seen situations where people no longer able to change clothes just because they now have a family and I'm trying to avoid that by all means.

I'm really really afraid of the future.

I feel there shouldn't be any future.

As I read your post, I kept having a feeling that the way you're feeling you may consider the rope. Don't.

Your financial state is damn poor, agreed but not the worst in this same country.

The various things you're thinking of having before considering marriage shows that you know what is right. This is a plus for you. You're not entirely hopeless. You have knowledge, now use that knowledge.

All you need is a side hustle.

If you don't have an entitlement mentality but the mindset that there are opportunities all around you. It's just that we don't KNOW what is called OPPORTUNITY.

In this same Naija, you make make more money to add to that 85k you're earning now.

First, you need to think like an entrepreneur. Immediately, you'll begin to see what you are not seeing before that can begin to give you money. Then you can scale up.

Again, what kind of skills do you have? What kind of job are you doing?

Let's talk more. You can reach via my profile.