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abba190b:
you should thank God. I am 30 years with no job and nothing. I see my mates getting married building houses while to eat na Wahala for me. Wallahi its very depressing im just suffering and smiling, lots of time I think about considering the ROPE

bro why not learn a trade??

I swear u won't regret it.

I am not talking about barber or vulcanizer oh

LordBiden:
But I have never seen a rich mechanic.
Except for the abroad based ones.
And the trade is not for the weak.

See you

That is what u guys you to think...very shallow thinking that lack insight..bro I am not insulting you please..


No matter what u re doing, if u know it well money will be finding you

Breatheon:
@33, I'm more afraid of the future

So reality is dawning on me for the tasks ahead.

Presently 33 with N85k/month salary job

During my days in school, I had thought life will be far better after school but here I am earning 85k/month and that is money that cannot even meet my immediate needs and not to talk of wants and unto other responsibilities.

By age, I'm supposed to have been married but still living in one room which is not advisable to even think of marriage in this condition.

To arrange myself for marriage, I need at least a one bedroom, furnished and comfortable. The yearly rent for that is about 400-450k

Then I am also worried about renewing the rent every year, year and year.

How about catering for the family? Aside rent, feeding, school fees (once married, you begin to reproduce), medical, clothing and so so and so forth.

To live a good life, you need a car for mobility sake as a family.

I can't continue to pay rent. Meaning I need to build a house.

Obviously, the 85k salary is not enough. I need to start a business.

And so many other issues giving me stress and sleepless night.

So my worry is, where would i get the money to do all these with these kind of job i am doing? For years i may not even raise a million naira.

I have seen situations where people no longer able to change clothes just because they now have a family and I'm trying to avoid that by all means.

I'm really really afraid of the future.

I feel there shouldn't be any future.

Send a DM, we should for a progressive club 33 to motivate and connect opportunities.

Where's your location?

iamonpointa:
Keep your head up. A man's situation can change in one moment.

I was broke to a point where I'd usually think of ending things. Lack of courage and the thought of my mama was why I couldn't do it.

Till the end of 2019. I could barely save anything from my income. At the beginning of the following year, things started to get better and better. It got much better in subsequent years till the point where I was earning about 100x of what I used to earn in 2019.

A lot of my problems are gone, but new ones are here. I'll be 30 in a few months, and doing alright financially. But I'm still not in a relationship let alone married. Perhaps it's due to PTSD from my broke days. The thought of being responsible for other people scares me. Even though the financial responsibility I take in my family is more that of someone with 3 wives.

As somebody has said. Age is only there to put pressure on you.

Your life doesn't exist in the past or future. Where you've been and where you'll be doesn't matter. All you have is this moment. Your life only exists in the moment. And all you can do is make the most out of it.
Always ask yourself whether you are doing your absolute best. If the answer is yes, then there's nothing to worry about. What you are making right now doesn't matter because it will change as long as you keep doing your best.

"If you do your best every day, you don't have to worry about the future" - Jordan Peterson

Living in the past brings regret and living in the future brings anxiety. You suffer twice when you give yourself anxiety about the future.

You may have little control over your current income but you definitely have control over whether it makes or breaks you. The exact same thing can happen to two people. One may allow it to crush them and the other may use it to bring a beast out of themself.
It doesn't matter what happens to you, what matters is what you do about it.

You need to maintain a clear head and prepare for opportunities. Take care of yourself as best as you can. Opportunities may pass without your knowledge if you allow your current situation to keep you down.

Develop a sense of curiosity about what other people are doing to make money and copy them. It doesn't always require you to learn a skill or have capital. You can help other people sell their items and get a commission. People make a lot of money doing this.


Read books and listen to podcasts

Thank you so much for this. I hope ops will read this

abba190b:
you should thank God. I am 30 years with no job and nothing. I see my mates getting married building houses while to eat na Wahala for me. Wallahi its very depressing im just suffering and smiling, lots of time I think about considering the ROPE

Abeg no consider rope

LordBiden:
But I have never seen a rich mechanic.
Except for the abroad based ones.
And the trade is not for the weak.

This one na lazy man, excuses everywhere, you think anyone that has made it to somewhere in life today did so with excuses and self pity?, dey there 40 is on the way.

OlawaleBammie:
bro why not learn a trade??

I swear u won't regret it.

I am not talking about barber or vulcanizer oh

recommend good one

SKhanmi:
Diversify. Find other means of income, preferably something online.

Amazon KDP for example, can be done alongside your job. Domaining too. People still make money from online surveys/AI trainings

Or find someone to teach you USDT arbitrage although that takes a lot of time and capital.

None of them is easy though. So you have to be disciplined.

Forget your age and face your fears.

i am interested in usdt arbitrage. is there a link you can teach me too.

What is car dealership?

pman06:
Then find a trader who's rich in your area, whose trade is worth learning, then reach out to them also. This was an advise I gave a friend years back, he's now into car dealership.

Well I can't believe people still earn 85k salary.

This is 2024 and no one should earn less than 200k in this current inflation.[/quote]Southerners are really trying sha. With the high cost of living I keep hearing over that place, If I no know persin, I no go even reason relocate to una side at all. Atleast not now n

May God continue to provide for us all.

budaatum:
There's a car mechanics near you. Go and ask if they'd accept you as an apprentice in your spare time, you'd pay.

Do it for at least 2 years and the future will scare you much less.

Do note, other apprenticeship opportunities (like computer mending, or photography etc) may exist and be more up your line.

so what will he b eating for d 2 years he's learning?

How do you recharge the battery of the pos during work?

And where do you get cash from, to give your customers?

Olichoke:
Bros, I'm 35 years. I resigned from a job of 65k almost 3 years ago. We relocated to a countryside. From the savings of my wife and I, we collected pos terminals and started doing pos business. Today, we earn around 10k daily. We are paying our bills comfortably. And doing other little investments. Go and collect pos terminal and entre street to hustle. It has challenges but your determination will crush the challenges. That's my piece of advice from my own experience.

Blitzking:
Start a business..but look at your pocket..you should av started this business long ago what av u been doing. If I didn't study my kind of course in the university I would av gone for a course that wasnt too demanding and in which I can finish in record time..while focusing in on my learning a business line and starting it..paid employment is not for everyone..please learn a skill or trade and start something..

so where will he get money to start business?

Solcampbell:
Come to the north and you will see where men are marrying two wives with exactly
that amount as monthly salary, keeping them in two seperate houses

As an unmarried man in his late 20s, I live alone in a two room self contain apartment whose yearly rent is just 120k, with a light bill of just 2k per month. Infact na even recently them increase am from 1500 because of tinubu. Mind you, this is Kano city, secured, and neighborhood decent even though the area is not highbrow. we also get an average of 12hrs light a day.

The last time I spent on food was on Sunday when I went to the market with just 20k and I got all I needed for the coming week and the next

You southerners are really trying sha. With the high cost of living I keep hearing over that place, If I no know persin, I no go even reason relocating to una side at all. Atleast not now n

May God continue to provide for all us.

Insha Allah, Thanks for your input.

How does the ghost writing work?

Scamburster:
Oga let me lend my own advice.

search for GM (ghost writing), ever since you are a graduate so it's more easier even illerates are cashing out from it. It's a online skills which you can achieve with your spare time and it paid in foreign currency($).
Over procrastination is my own undoing about that skill since I registered it over last five months ago, though I have a business I am into already just needed outside hustle, those that were just two months in the skill have already winning contracts from left to right.
so my advice is just search for it and thank me later.

dogo568:
Go back to school, study nursing and japa. Nigeria has failed you. This country is a shit hole. My problem is that youths keep voting terrible people into office.

so u will b d one to sponsor him in school abi

Many of u will just drop stupid things online

Asin, you are selling ice fish for a living?

Lacash:
Well about me, I did so many odd jobs growing up and thinking about the future, but the curiosity and the fear of the future makes me kept changing them till I found the one that can guarantee and prepare me for the future. I went into the trade of Ice fish agent with assurance that the future can be fully secured if I put by best into it, so I dived into it leaving everything behind without any iota of light on sight, but I believe it would worth it in the end. I served for about 3 years with so much passion and commitment, and today with the help of God, I’m married with kids, owning a ryde and some properties to my name. Try and set a goal, then work vigorously towards it with prayers and in no time, you will see that becoming a reality 💯💯. Don’t forget with prayers cos with God on our side, nothing is impossible 💯

Factcheck0001:
so what will he b eating for d 2 years he's learning?

He already has a job. It pays him 85k a month, he can continue buying food from that. The apprenticeship is like Sunday school. He can attend after work and weekends.

I think some of you think my suggestion of mechanic or computer mender or photo etc were to make him an expert in any of those skills, when in fact, just changing oil, which he'd learn in month 1, for his friends and those they recommends, if done right, could likely earn him 85k a year. And that's not counting transferrable skills he'd find more marketable and profit from in the future.

Perhaps consider my suggestion as a seed. You never know how big and productive it would be until you grow it and it produces fruits so you may see.

placeofallure:
Yeah! They don't seem to know.

My tailor has a car that he sometimes uses for Uber. The car was stolen at the Mechanic's. Without batting an eyelid, he bought another one. You'd think he's a mere tailor but he can conveniently pay the salaries of graduates.

Evans was also a store owner

Many of u think life is that easy, many of u get fooled by what people show u n not what they do underground

Nadingo:
May Gazzuzz's soul continue to rest in peace. That Nigga could buy you when he was alive. Other Mechos here like Femtopford, kingreign rake in millions dey dia dey cap nonsense

bro, pls is Gazzuzz late and when was that?

Sapeleboy911:
Don't give up or be afraid, see it as a motivation. Work hard and learn to step out of your comfort zone, also don't let peer pressure to have the better part of you, because it can lead to depression. Rather let it motivate you to work hard.
I once lived in a rural area where the average pay was around #45 - 50k, and my receiving #100k then made me feel somehow relaxed and lazy. It dawned on me when PMB came on board, my 100k couldn't even last for 20 days. The internet was my saving grace. Explore the internet search for what turns you on, learn a skill around it, and in dew time you will smile. There are enormous opportunities on the internet.

Now he's on the Internet seeking solution. Be kind to share what saved you with him. Someone also shared what saved you on the Internet and you were lucky to find it. Not everybody is Internet savvy.

Reverseng:
Life is simple. When you begin to embrace simplicity, you start to attract simplicity

To be prepared for marriage, you need to understand the first message up there. Know yourself. Who are you ?

Know your self because you'll only attract who you are for marriage. And if your self is lack of contentment, woe unto you when you attract an uncontented woman for marriage.

There is nothing like enough. Have you seen enough money before? How much is enough money. Enough is a psychological quantity. You can never have it all.

To live a good life, you have to work towards knowing yourself. Don't rush into marriage only to rush out. I know my advice may seem vague to Yiu because I'm not telling you to learn programming or forex or all of that.

That's not what you need. Whatever skill anyone recommends to you will only carry you as far as you want it to carry you

Can you dedicate 4-5 years to a skill even when money isn't forthcoming yet?

Can you be humble enough to learn from someone younger than you

Can you be patient with good character?
How discipled are you when you start making money? Will you land on money just to blow it away on nonsense people tag as 'living life'

Are you loyal enough to remains faithful to the wife you think you need now?

Can you give a customer quality regardless of the economic situation?

Know your self. It's a journey. All will be added as you progress, hopefully.
Money isn't all. Nice clothes isn't all. Flashy lifestyle isn't it. Focus on Self

I hope my other posts can help you.

You just shared basically principles and nuggets to follow in life. Discipline is everything

Factcheck0001:
Evans was also a store owner

Many of u think life is that easy, many of u get fooled by what people show u n not what they do underground

You could be right but don't make it seem like it's not achievable, too, through hard work and dedication.

This particular tailor is family, for starters. His whole family spent two days at my place this New Year holiday that passed; so I know him.

Number 2, he's good in every sense of the word. Give him any style to sew, he's game! Shirts, Suit, Native...His precision with copied styles is crazy! He sews for Glo, GTB, Virgin Atlantic, and many prominent families I won't mention.

Number 3, his work ethic is fantastic. I always tell him he should consider giving lectures on work ethic. That alone is a money spinner.

The only reason I'm able to afford him is because we're family.

Now without some shady, hideous practices, tell me how somebody like this won't make his money. He has an enviable clientele and it's still growing.

People can be successful at whatever, provided they have the right attitude to their enterprise. That's my point!

placeofallure:
You could be right but don't make it seem like it's not achievable, too, through hard work and dedication.

This particular tailor is family, for starters. His whole family spent two days at my place this New Year holiday that passed; so I know him.

Number 2, he's good in every sense of the word. Give him any style to sew, he's game! Shirts, Suit, Native...His precision with copied styles is crazy! He sews for Glo, GTB, Virgin Atlantic, and many prominent families I won't mention.

Number 3, his work ethic is fantastic. I always tell him he should consider giving lectures on work ethic. That alone is a money spinner.

The only reason I'm able to afford him is because we're family.

Now without some shady, hideous practices, tell me how somebody like this won't make his money. He has an enviable clientele and it's still growing.

People can be successful at whatever, provided they have the right attitude to their enterprise. That's my point!

ok

But trust nobody

I know what am saying, we have people into many shady things who still flaunts with their shops

abba190b:
you should thank God. I am 30 years with no job and nothing. I see my mates getting married building houses while to eat na Wahala for me. Wallahi its very depressing im just suffering and smiling, lots of time I think about considering the ROPE

Please never think about the rope. Think about the opportunities available for youth development and key into one. May God provide for you and guide you to the right path for progress.

delpee:
Please never think about the rope. Think about the opportunities available for youth development and key into one. May God provide for you and guide you to the right path for progress.

amen

Breatheon:
@33, I'm more afraid of the future

So reality is dawning on me for the tasks ahead.

Presently 33 with N85k/month salary job

During my days in school, I had thought life will be far better after school but here I am earning 85k/month and that is money that cannot even meet my immediate needs and not to talk of wants and unto other responsibilities.

By age, I'm supposed to have been married but still living in one room which is not advisable to even think of marriage in this condition.

To arrange myself for marriage, I need at least a one bedroom, furnished and comfortable. The yearly rent for that is about 400-450k

Then I am also worried about renewing the rent every year, year and year.

How about catering for the family? Aside rent, feeding, school fees (once married, you begin to reproduce), medical, clothing and so so and so forth.

To live a good life, you need a car for mobility sake as a family.

I can't continue to pay rent. Meaning I need to build a house.

Obviously, the 85k salary is not enough. I need to start a business.

And so many other issues giving me stress and sleepless night.

So my worry is, where would i get the money to do all these with these kind of job i am doing? For years i may not even raise a million naira.

I have seen situations where people no longer able to change clothes just because they now have a family and I'm trying to avoid that by all means.

I'm really really afraid of the future.

I feel there shouldn't be any future.

Change your circle of friends. Open yourself to new opportunities and be diligent in what you have for now

LordBiden:
But I have never seen a rich mechanic.
Except for the abroad based ones.
And the trade is not for the weak.

Dey play!
My mechanic lives in his comfortable 4bedroom duplex.
And 3flats house, housing three tenants currently.

LordBiden:
Only a few of them can boast of that especially the ones in high brow areas and with big connections.

The successful ones are mostly the criminal minded ones who would always look for faults to fleece customers monies.

Oga keep quiet, una go dey in comfort of your zone dey look Dem on some profession. Unless u know sabi your job, if u sabi repair car, mechanic go give u bastard money. I have a mechanic guy that drives Lexus 350. He sells spare parts too.

I'm posting this for boasting rights, knowing many had it much harder and tougher and had to do a lot more than I did.

budaatum:
My life back then when I started going in 79-80, was selling 5 boiled eggs for ₦1 or canned Coke for 50 kobo at Lagos-Ibadan Expressway tollgate from 8am to 6pm on Saturdays during term and Monday to Saturday during holidays.

Money earned went to buying school uniforms and shoes for me and my 4 siblings, and I'd make extra for myself by buying eggs and coke cheap off the lazy sellers and selling it after selling all mine.

Motor tyre will roll over my pre-teen foot often while I chased the bus so they don't run off with my money which they sometimes did.

Before 79, like in 75, ma would buy too much orange at Onipanu market and put some on mine and my older cousins head to go sell on the streets of Obanikoro. I was not yet 10 and sold only few of mine, but I think she sold lots because punters were buying a look at covered tits.

abba190b:
recommend good one

learn how to deal with automobile sparepart.

The repairing, the rebranding, the selling, buying it in scrab and selling it in part or after reparing