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I recently introduced my girlfriend to my parents and they decided to ask some prophets, one said she is 75% percent ok but others said we are not compatible and that my girlfriend's behavior will change and she will turn me against my family sometimes in the future. My parents are now demanding that I breakup the relationship with her and never see her again.

The issue now is I love my girlfriend so much and I know she loves me back too and we have been dating for 4 years now so letting her go is really hard.

I need all your inputs on how to navigate this situation. Thanks in advance.

Sa0831:
I recently introduced my girlfriend to my parents and they decided to ask some prophets, one said she is 75% percent ok but four of them said we are not compatible and that my girlfriend's behavior will change and she will turn me against my family sometimes in the future. My parents are now demanding that I breakup the relationship with her and never see her again.

The issue now is I love my girlfriend so much and I know she loves me back too and we have been dating for 4 years now so letting her go is really hard.

I need all your inputs on how to navigate this situation. Thanks in advance.

I'll advise you break up with your parents first.

Some African parents are archaic, what the heck! They worship their pastors and literally agrees to everything they tell them, which is not supposed to be so.

You think your babe will ever forgive you? You need to stand you ground, let love lead. Perhaps give them space.

Sa0831:
I recently introduced my girlfriend to my parents and they decided to ask some prophets, one said she is 75% percent ok but four of them said we are not compatible and that my girlfriend's behavior will change and she will turn me against my family sometimes in the future. My parents are now demanding that I breakup the relationship with her and never see her again.

The issue now is I love my girlfriend so much and I know she loves me back too and we have been dating for 4 years now so letting her go is really hard.

I need all your inputs on how to navigate this situation. Thanks in advance.

Make your decision and stand by it if you're sure she's worth it!!!.. Love alone is not enough

Peakdesign23:
Some African parents are archaic, what the heck! They worship their pastors and literally agrees to everything they tell them, which is not supposed to be so.

You think your babe will ever forgive you? You need to stand you ground, let love lead. Perhaps give them space.

Thanks for your input. Yes, I have been defending my relationship but that have been causing problems between myself and my parents.

dawnomike:
Make your decision and stand by it if you're sure she's worth it!!!.. Love alone is not enough

Yes, she is. But I'm also not sure if she will want to proceed with me if she learns that my parents don't like her.

Zonefree:
I'll advise you break up with your parents first.

Hmmm

I can see this post was made 2 months ago so the matter may have been resolved.
But if it hasn’t, here is my own 2cent:

It seems your parents don’t like her, because why would they go to consult 4 pastors.
You are the one that has dated this person for 4 years. You are the one that knows if that’s the person you want to be with for the rest of your life.
How long have the pastors known her?
Stand your ground like a man. Will you continue to allow your parents to make your own life decisions? Talk with your parents. If they actually have your best interest at heart they will come around.
Unless they don’t even want you to marry. Some families have a hard time allowing their children to get married because they feel that their children won’t be as close to them again.

If you know you can’t stand up for this girl, let her go. If she’s really all that she will find someone that him and his family would cherish.

Sa0831:
I recently introduced my girlfriend to my parents and they decided to ask some prophets, one said she is 75% percent ok but others said we are not compatible and that my girlfriend's behavior will change and she will turn me against my family sometimes in the future. My parents are now demanding that I breakup the relationship with her and never see her again.

The issue now is I love my girlfriend so much and I know she loves me back too and we have been dating for 4 years now so letting her go is really hard.

I need all your inputs on how to navigate this situation. Thanks in advance.

I can see this post was made 2 months ago so the matter may have been resolved.
But if it hasn’t, here is my own 2cent:

It seems your parents don’t like her, because why would they go to consult 4 pastors.
You are the one that has dated this person for 4 years. You are the one that knows if that’s the person you want to be with for the rest of your life.
How long have the pastors known her?
Stand your ground like a man. Will you continue to allow your parents to make your own life decisions? Talk with your parents. If they actually have your best interest at heart they will come around.
Unless they don’t even want you to marry. Some families have a hard time allowing their children to get married because they feel that their children won’t be as close to them again.

If you know you can’t stand up for this girl, let her go. If she’s really all that she will find someone that him and his family would cherish.

Sa0831:
I recently introduced my girlfriend to my parents and they decided to ask some prophets, one said she is 75% percent ok but others said we are not compatible and that my girlfriend's behavior will change and she will turn me against my family sometimes in the future. My parents are now demanding that I breakup the relationship with her and never see her again.

The issue now is I love my girlfriend so much and I know she loves me back too and we have been dating for 4 years now so letting her go is really hard.

I need all your inputs on how to navigate this situation. Thanks in advance.

are you ready for marriage

Vdwa49fr:
I can see this post was made 2 months ago so the matter may have been resolved.
But if it hasn’t, here is my own 2cent:

It seems your parents don’t like her, because why would they go to consult 4 pastors.
You are the one that has dated this person for 4 years. You are the one that knows if that’s the person you want to be with for the rest of your life.
How long have the pastors known her?
Stand your ground like a man. Will you continue to allow your parents to make your own life decisions? Talk with your parents. If they actually have your best interest at heart they will come around.
Unless they don’t even want you to marry. Some families have a hard time allowing their children to get married because they feel that their children won’t be as close to them again.

If you know you can’t stand up for this girl, let her go. If she’s really all that she will find someone that him and his family would cherish.

Thanks for your input.

It hasn't been resolved. They consulted more pastors just to prove to me that I need to end the relationship. I have talked to them but they are still hell bent, they said they don't hate her but they are only following what the pastors told them.

delkuf:
are you ready for marriage

Yes, I am.

Sa0831:
Thanks for your input.

It hasn't been resolved. They consulted more pastors just to prove to me that I need to end the relationship. I have talked to them but they are still hell bent, they said they don't hate her but they are only following what the pastors told them.

Interesting. Some people really do allow religion to take over their sensibilities. Even the white people that brought Christianity don’t behave like this.
At this point it’s up to you. Everyone here has given you one advice or the other.
If you’ve done everything to convince them, what’s left? You either go ahead and marry her or you listen to them and break up.