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Today I felt happy that a friend is feeling sad and regretting an action. Somehow, it felt odd, but I had actually looked forward to the day I will make such happen.


I was pursuing this contract from this big organisation since 2022. Due to my position where I work, I wouldn't be allowed to execute same through my private company. So I approached my friend to use his company to go for the job. My plan was to resign and face the business once it clicks. Meanwhile, I was to pay him a commission for using his company. He agreed. He gave me all the details I needed about his company to apply for the job. 2 years went by and we almost forgot about it.

June last year, the job clicked, out of nowhere I received an email (I am the only one who has access to the email and phone number I submitted). I contacted my friend and told him. When he asked about my plan, I told him I would raise money to buy the equipment (I would need a loan of about $1m to make up to procure the needed equipment). My friend suddenly started acting funny. He specifically said I shouldn't bother let him use his equipment to start the job (he has one already). But I refused.

Now I knew he has become interested in the business, I suggested we contribute money 50-50 and the also split 50-50 (that way, I won't need to go for any form of loan). He insisted I shouldn't spend any money until our trial period is over (6 months), by which time we and the client company would have considered if to continue the business by both parties. I insisted I would have to drop capital for the business since he has become actively interested in the business all of a sudden.

While I was planning to drop my part of the money, my friend dropped a bombshell. He was no longer interested in the business. The business suddenly didn't align with the core values of his company. I was stranded. I pleaded and cajoled, but his mind was made up. He then promised to introduce me to another friend of his whom I could partner with, this time around, I would provide the equipment myself, or anyhow I agree with the new proposed partner. He was to set up a meeting. That meeting never happened until after 5 months. I kept calling and following up. Sometimes he will ignore my calls for weeks.

I travelled for the meeting and it seemed successful. I sent the contract to the new person and could only follow up through my friend. It took another 2 months for my friend to tell me the man had declined. I was shattered. Now my friend comforted me by assuring me that he will now partner with me. I arranged to buy the equipment. I had gotten a proforma invoice, secured the loan, and he suddenly came again and said the only condition to this will be that he buys the equipment through his company.

I had complained that I can buy the equipment in my name, then transfer the asset to his company (I just needed a document showing I own(ed) the equipment. I really wanted to now share both the investment and profit with him). He refused and insisted I asked the supplier to change the name on the invoice to his company. I reluctantly did. Linked him up with the supplier. It was at this point I called my client company and they told me the agreement had expired. They promised we can only open a new discussion by December of 2025. I told my friend. I assured him I can still make it happen.

At this point, I feared he may dump the purchasing of the equipment, which may harm my reputation with the supplier (or so I thought). Also, he knew that was a critical moment, so he engaged me in a negotiation of sharing formula. The first arrow he shot straight into my gullet was "now that I made all the investment, what will I give you". I thought I didn't hear well, but he meant it. It dawned on me that this was what he was after from the onset. He proposed to pay me to manage the equipment (I don suffer), I agreed. My spirit had hibernated. He went further to say he can't pay me what I requested as 'salary' for managing the equipment, that he has to slash it by 60%.

At this point, I told him I was ready to walk away from the business without any benefits. I offered to train a manager he will present and let go. I was pained but I did very well masking it. I just wanted him to go to rest first make I plan wetin I wan do, 11 months is still a long time to get out of his evil hands. He sounded so devilish, not like the helpful friend who wanted me to succeed. Since that day, I didn't call him (I used to call him every 2 days when I was following up on him). Last week I saw his missed and sent him a message and said "what's up".

I missed his call yesterday. And today, while I was in a meeting in the office, he called me. I picked the call and he said "ever since I paid for this equipment you no longer call me". I said, almost in whisper, 'I am in a meeting now, let's talk later'. He dropped. Barely 2 hours later, he called again. I was still in the meeting (it was a top management 2024 review meeting) and so I stepped out into the kitchen and said 'I am still in a meeting, let's talk later'. He ignored what I said and said "I am regretting buying this equipment". A stream of joy flooded my soul, then I said 'why do you say so? Well, I am still in a meeting, let's talk when I am home'. I dropped the call.

I have called him twice at 10pm sharp but he didn't take any. I won't bother sending him a message. When I engage him, I will simply tell him 'put it up for sale'. Right now, I am not even ready to buy it back from him, I can only wait till around September, by then I can buy the equipment myself. It seems odd that I am happy he is regretting. But I actually planned to feed him bitter pills for trying to edge me out of a business I brought. I am currently searching out other worthy partners I would use by November. This has taught me that you can never really confirm if a friend is a friend when money has not stood between both of you. His action to me seems to be the height of greed.

Note: Please don't make any effort to contact me privately, this is not intended to defravd anyone as has been insinuated by Came4amod below. If you must make any comment, let it end here.

That dude is not your friend.
He's a greedy, enemy of progress.
Stop calling him your friend.

Mariangeles:
That dude is not your friend.
He's a greedy, enemy of progress.
Stop calling him your friend.

I still remember when he came through for me in 21 when I had some financial issues. He allowed me repay him by piecemeal. It just dawned on me he feels I should remain subservient to him. But a part of me is telling me some demon possessed him that period, it was really unlike him. Because he had, at some point during this deal, offered to support me with the money I wanted to go get as loan but with a condition I repay him within 6 months, which I agreed to. The last time we met, I caught him smoking (he wasn't doing that before). I don't know other vices he had picked up. He changed. (He had repented from using psychadelics)

Both of you are greedy...

You probably would have done same to him and try to edge him out if things had gone the way you wanted.


He wised up and saw your own greed when you insisted on getting a loan to buy equipment he already had to start the job. That is what made him change not smoke. (now you are attacking his reputation - Mr good friend! )

If I was in his place I would have pulled out at the point you insisted on getting that loan when I had the equipments!

ruffhandu:
I still remember when he came through for me in 21 when I had some financial issues. He allowed me repay him by piecemeal. It just dawned on me he feels I should remain subservient to him. But a part of me is telling me some demon possessed him that period, it was really unlike him. Because he had, at some point during this deal, offered to support me with the money I wanted to go get as loan but with a condition I repay him within 6 months, which I agreed to. The last time we met, I caught him smoking (he wasn't doing that before). I don't other vices he had picked up. He changed.

You caught A grown man smoking?

At his own convenience?

Lmao...

ruffhandu:
I still remember when he came through for me in 21 when I had some financial issues. He allowed me repay him by piecemeal. It just dawned on me he feels I should remain subservient to him. But a part of me is telling me some demon possessed him that period, it was really unlike him. Because he had, at some point during this deal, offered to support me with the money I wanted to go get as loan but with a condition I repay him within 6 months, which I agreed to. The last time we met, I caught him smoking (he wasn't doing that before). I don't other vices he had picked up. He changed.

I'd say you both don't trust each other enough to consider yourselves as friends.
You both wanted to play each other [more him than you sha], and everything casted.

I called your "friend" greedy because you brought the deal, and he wanted by all means to hijack it. His type is called onye mpiawa azu in Igbo.
He's not straightforward.

Real friends win together.
You both should go your separate ways.

brain54:
Both of you are greedy...

You probably would have done same to him and try to edge him out if things had gone the way you wanted.


He wised up and saw your own greed when you insisted on getting a loan to buy equipment he already had to start the job. That is what made him change not smoke. (now you are attacking his reputation - Mr good friend! )

If I was in his place I would have pulled out at the point you insisted on getting that loan when I had the equipments!

Lol. Why won't I invest on a business I found? If he had offered his for hire, it would be fine. He simply didn't want me in. He was not smart, I have the contacts and he can't do shit without me. He has to face his own business and let me start mine. The offer i made him was simple- i use your company, put in my money and the work, and ypu take a fee without doing jack. Now I will get a worth partner.

illicit:
You caught A grown man smoking?

At his own convenience?

Lmao...

Yes bro, many things were not written here. He was hiding that from me because he wasn't supposed to be doing it.

ruffhandu:
Today I felt happy that a friend is feeling sad and regretting an action. Somehow, it felt odd, but I had actually looked forward to the day I will make such happen.


I was pursuing this contract from this big organisation since 2022. Due to my position where I work, I wouldn't be allowed to execute same through my private company. So I approached my friend to use his company to go for the job. My plan was to resign and face the business once it clicks. Meanwhile, I was to pay him a commission for using his company. He agreed. He gave me all the details I needed about his company to apply for the job. 2 years went by and we almost forgot about it.

June last year, the job clicked, out of nowhere I received an email (I am the only one who has access to the email and phone number I submitted). I contacted my friend and told him. When he asked about my plan, I told him I would raise money to buy the equipment (I would need a loan of about $1m to make up to procure the needed equipment). My friend suddenly started acting funny. He specifically said I shouldn't bother let him use his equipment to start the job (he has one already). But I refused.

Now I knew he has become interested in the business, I suggested we contribute money 50-50 and the also split 50-50 (that way, I won't need to go for any form of loan). He insisted I shouldn't spend any money until our trial period is over (6 months), by which time we and the client company would have considered if to continue the business by both parties. I insisted I would have to drop capital for the business since he has become actively interested in the business all of a sudden.

While I was planning to drop my part of the money, my friend dropped a bombshell. He was no longer interested in the business. The business suddenly didn't align with the core values of his company. I was stranded. I pleaded and cajoled, but his mind was made up. He then promised to introduce me to another friend of his whom I could partner with, this time around, I would provide the equipment myself, or anyhow I agree with the new proposed partner. He was to set up a meeting. That meeting never happened until after 5 months. I kept calling and following up. Sometimes he will ignore my calls for weeks.

I travelled for the meeting and it seemed successful. I sent the contract to the new person and could only follow up through my friend. It took another 2 months for my friend to tell me the man had declined. I was shattered. Now my friend comforted me by assuring me that he will now partner with me. I arranged to buy the equipment. I had gotten a proforma invoice, secured the loan, and he suddenly came again and said the only condition to this will be that he buys the equipment through his company.

I had complained that I can buy the equipment in my name, then transfer the asset to his company (I just needed a document showing I own(ed) the equipment. I really wanted to now share both the investment and profit with him). He refused and insisted I asked the supplier to change the name on the invoice to his company. I reluctantly did. Linked him up with the supplier. It was at this point I called my client company and they told me the agreement had expired. They promised we can only open a new discussion by December of 2025. I told my friend. I assured him I can still make it happen.

At this point, I feared he may dump the purchasing of the equipment, which may harm my reputation with the supplier (or so I thought). Also, he knew that was a critical moment, so he engaged me in a negotiation of sharing formula. The first arrow he shot straight into my gullet was "now that I made all the investment, what will I give you". I thought I didn't hear well, but he meant it. It dawned on me that this was what he was after from the onset. He proposed to pay me to manage the equipment (I don suffer), I agreed. My spirit had hibernated. He went further to say he can't pay me what I requested as 'salary' for managing the equipment, that he has to slash it by 60%.

At this point, I told him I was ready to walk away from the business without any benefits. I offered to train a manager he will present and let go. I was pained but I did very well masking it. I just wanted him to go to rest first make I plan wetin I wan do, 11 months is still a long time to get out of his evil hands. He sounded so devilish, not like the helpful friend who wanted me to succeed. Since that day, I didn't call him (I used to call him every 2 days when I was following up on him). Last week I saw his missed and sent him a message and said "what's up".

I missed his call yesterday. And today, while I was in a meeting in the office, he called me. I picked the call and he said "ever since I paid for this equipment you no longer call me". I said, almost in whisper, 'I am in a meeting now, let's talk later'. He dropped. Barely 2 hours later, he called again. I was still in the meeting (it was a top management 2024 review meeting) and so I stepped out into the kitchen and said 'I am still in a meeting, let's talk later'. He ignored what I said and said "I am regretting buying this equipment". A stream of joy flooded my soul, then I said 'why do you say so? Well, I am still in a meeting, let's talk when I am home'. I dropped the call.

I have called him twice at 10pm sharp but he didn't take any. I won't bother sending him a message. When I engage him, I will simply tell him 'put it up for sale'. Right now, I am not even ready to buy it back from him, I can only wait till around September, by then I can buy the equipment myself. It seems odd that I am happy he is regretting. But I actually planned to feed him bitter pills for trying to edge me out of a business I brought. I am currently searching out other worthy partners I would use by November. This has taught me that you can never really confirm if a friend is a friend when money has not stood between both of you. His action to me seems to be the height of greed.

And good story .. anyone who's mouth is watering .. and trying to make quick money from another man's story should also tread with caution.. because this story .. is really unnecessarily detailed .. and it's may be a sophisticated phishing attack . Aiming at greedy fools with cash .
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Mariangeles:
I'd say you both don't trust each other enough to consider yourselves as friends.
You both wanted to play each other [more him than you sha], and everything casted.

I called your "friend" greedy because you brought the deal, and he wanted by all means to hijack it. His type is called onye mpiawa azu in Igbo.
He's not straightforward.

Real friends win together.
You both should go your separate ways.

But how exactly did I want to play him?

Came4amod:
And good story .. anyone who's mouth is watering .. and trying to make quick money from another man's story should also tread with caution.. because this story .. is really unnecessarily detailed .. and it's may be a sophisticated phishing attack . Aiming at greedy fools with cash .
....
.

Hahahahaha. Phising attack for where?

ruffhandu:
Yes bro, many things were not written here. He was hiding that from me because he wasn't supposed to be doing it.

Okay tho but now that you know nko

You guys were not really friends...

ruffhandu:
But how exactly did I want to play him?

He took a huge risk by putting his company at stake, and all you wanted was to give him "commission" out of the profit you were going to make.
What if everything had gone south in the process, and he somehow lost his company?
You should've partnered with him from the onset.

Me, I wouldn't risk my company/business for something I'm not fully part of.
He had a lot to lose.

Mariangeles:
He took a huge risk by putting his company at stake, and all you wanted was to give him "commission" out of the profit you were going to make.
What if everything had gone south in the process, and he somehow lost his company?
You should've partnered with him from the onset.

Me, I wouldn't risk my company/business for something I'm not fully part of.
He had a lot to lose.

No way, nothing will go wrong. I made a solid proposal, to buy an insurance in my name against any liability. Nah, I covered that.

illicit:
Okay tho but now that you know nko

You guys were not really friends...

We are still until we are not. It's just that we may not make good business partners. We will talk today, I didn't pick his call yesterday night after he missed my call by 10pm, it was late.