₦airaland Forum

Acidosis:
Yes, dear. I mean, it's fine to lose interest in sex, but encouraging one's spouse to get it elsewhere? 🙄

Esthered:
It may be a casual remark and nit necessarily full endorsement of an open marriage.

Tommydare:
Ain't nothing like open marriage if we are to be realistic. It's either you are in or out.

Namaster:
Oh boy!

1. Married for 10 years.
2. Has 3 kids.
3. RECENTLY got a job with BETTER pay.
4. NEVER initiates sex.
5. RATIONS sex and it's down to just 4 times in 30 days.
6. CONSTANTLY complains of stress.
7. BLATANTLY tells you to get your sex elsewhere.

Dude, this woman NO LONGER finds you attractive if she ever did.

She has achieved her goal in marriage. She has 3 kids and has gotten a job with MORE money so she does not need yours anymore.

By the way, realise this:

NO man ever thinks his wife is even CAPABLE of cheating on him.

They'd SLAM their chest with confidence and proclaim it to the world. Meanwhile, the said wife is giving professional porrnstars a run for their money with ANOTHER man.

So NEVER discount the possibility that she's cheating on you.

BUT even if she's not, the fact remains that she is NOT attracted to you anymore.

Sex is an INCREDIBLE way to relieve stress.
A stressed woman who finds you attractive would be EAGER to jump your bones. Not refuse you.

Also, a wife who STILL loves her husband and finds him attractive would NEVER advise him to go out and fuccck OTHER women. Instead, she'd do better.

The fact that she was even the one who brought it up should be a HUGE warning siren inside your skull.

She could be INSTIGATING you to cheat because she ALREADY cheated and is attempting to assuage her guilt.

Someone suggested you do MORE chores with the hope of getting MORE sex.

That's RIDICULOUS!

It has NEVER worked. And it'll NOT work for you, either. In fact, it could AGGRAVATE the issue.

Women HATE it when men do "nice things" for them with the hope of getting sex.

They find it REPULSIVE. And close their legs, padlock their pussies and melt down the keys for good measure.

Doing more chores will NEVER get you more sex 'cause she'd counter with the argument that it's something you should have been doing anyway.

So, it'll NEVER work!

The fact is something FUNDAMENTAL has changed for your wife and she has REPLACED you.
Either with ANOTHER man or her new job.

You have 2 SIMPLE choices:

1. STAY in a sexless marriage.
2. DON'T stay in a sexless marriage.

It's up to you.

But before you make your decision, consider this:

Your wife no longer cares whom you stick your dick in, as long as it's NOT her.

Namaster:
Oh boy!

1. Married for 10 years.
2. Has 3 kids.
3. RECENTLY got a job with BETTER pay.
4. NEVER initiates sex.
5. RATIONS sex and it's down to just 4 times in 30 days.
6. CONSTANTLY complains of stress.
7. BLATANTLY tells you to get your sex elsewhere.

Dude, this woman NO LONGER finds you attractive if she ever did.

She has achieved her goal in marriage. She has 3 kids and has gotten a job with MORE money so she does not need yours anymore.

By the way, realise this:

NO man ever thinks his wife is even CAPABLE of cheating on him.

They'd SLAM their chest with confidence and proclaim it to the world. Meanwhile, the said wife is giving professional porrnstars a run for their money with ANOTHER man.

So NEVER discount the possibility that she's cheating on you.

BUT even if she's not, the fact remains that she is NOT attracted to you anymore.

Sex is an INCREDIBLE way to relieve stress.
A stressed woman who finds you attractive would be EAGER to jump your bones. Not refuse you.

Also, a wife who STILL loves her husband and finds him attractive would NEVER advise him to go out and fuccck OTHER women. Instead, she'd do better.

The fact that she was even the one who brought it up should be a HUGE warning siren inside your skull.

She could be INSTIGATING you to cheat because she ALREADY cheated and is attempting to assuage her guilt.

Someone suggested you do MORE chores with the hope of getting MORE sex.

That's RIDICULOUS!

It has NEVER worked. And it'll NOT work for you, either. In fact, it could AGGRAVATE the issue.

Women HATE it when men do "nice things" for them with the hope of getting sex.

They find it REPULSIVE. And close their legs, padlock their pussies and melt down the keys for good measure.

Doing more chores will NEVER get you more sex 'cause she'd counter with the argument that it's something you should have been doing anyway.

So, it'll NEVER work!

The fact is something FUNDAMENTAL has changed for your wife and she has REPLACED you.
Either with ANOTHER man or her new job.

You have 2 SIMPLE choices:

1. STAY in a sexless marriage.
2. DON'T stay in a sexless marriage.

It's up to you.

But before you make your decision, consider this:

Your wife no longer cares whom you stick your dick in, as long as it's NOT her.

Kobojunkie:
Did The UN do an independent census of Nigerians? So, you never figure out at this point in time that many of the numbers we obtain from the UN and other organizations incorporate the erroneous figure fed them by your government which has not conducted a census since 2006? 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄

Esthered:
Someone said women relieve stress through sex...he's a man, how can he relate.
After 2 children, it feels different down there and his wife has 3. We get drier as we age and have more children. Note that sex becomes painful and easier with lubricant but slight discomfort is still there sometimes. Then there'd work stress for her coupled with running the home.

Mothers who are stressed don't use sex to relax but sleep is the primary relaxation or a time free of children or work stress.

Gerrard59:
Good to read this from a married woman and mother. It is good it comes from that category as another Nairaland woman has said women in their 40s love sex.

Obaaderemi2:
➜You don't need a census to find out something like birth rate. There's something called sample survey in statistics. Families are getting smaller across the world including Nigeria. Stop talking like a fool. Family planning is now commonplace and cheaper than it used to be. Women are getting into professions more than before. I gave you stats and because it didn't favor your narrative then it's wrong.
➜But then you posted something on population earlier on and think it's the gospel truth, even when we haven't had a census since 2006. Gosh! Some People are just funny 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄

Namaster:
Oh boy!

1. Married for 10 years.
2. Has 3 kids.
3. RECENTLY got a job with BETTER pay.
4. NEVER initiates sex.
5. RATIONS sex and it's down to just 4 times in 30 days.
6. CONSTANTLY complains of stress.
7. BLATANTLY tells you to get your sex elsewhere.

Dude, this woman NO LONGER finds you attractive if she ever did.

She has achieved her goal in marriage. She has 3 kids and has gotten a job with MORE money so she does not need yours anymore.

By the way, realise this:

NO man ever thinks his wife is even CAPABLE of cheating on him.

They'd SLAM their chest with confidence and proclaim it to the world. Meanwhile, the said wife is giving professional porrnstars a run for their money with ANOTHER man.

So NEVER discount the possibility that she's cheating on you.

BUT even if she's not, the fact remains that she is NOT attracted to you anymore.

Sex is an INCREDIBLE way to relieve stress.
A stressed woman who finds you attractive would be EAGER to jump your bones. Not refuse you.

Also, a wife who STILL loves her husband and finds him attractive would NEVER advise him to go out and fuccck OTHER women. Instead, she'd do better.

The fact that she was even the one who brought it up should be a HUGE warning siren inside your skull.

She could be INSTIGATING you to cheat because she ALREADY cheated and is attempting to assuage her guilt.

Someone suggested you do MORE chores with the hope of getting MORE sex.

That's RIDICULOUS!

It has NEVER worked. And it'll NOT work for you, either. In fact, it could AGGRAVATE the issue.

Women HATE it when men do "nice things" for them with the hope of getting sex.

They find it REPULSIVE. And close their legs, padlock their pussies and melt down the keys for good measure.

Doing more chores will NEVER get you more sex 'cause she'd counter with the argument that it's something you should have been doing anyway.

So, it'll NEVER work!

The fact is something FUNDAMENTAL has changed for your wife and she has REPLACED you.
Either with ANOTHER man or her new job.

You have 2 SIMPLE choices:

1. STAY in a sexless marriage.
2. DON'T stay in a sexless marriage.

It's up to you.

But before you make your decision, consider this:

Your wife no longer cares whom you stick your dick in, as long as it's NOT her.

Esthered:
Someone said women relieve stress through sex...he's a man, how can he relate.
After 2 children, it feels different down there and his wife has 3. We get drier as we age and have more children. Note that sex becomes painful and easier with lubricant but slight discomfort is still there sometimes. Then there'd work stress for her coupled with running the home.

Mothers who are stressed don't use sex to relax but sleep is the primary relaxation or a time free of children or work stress.

Dear OP, please try and know her stressor and see if you can eliminate or minimize it. She'll be more interested like in the past.

Those alpha miels shouting cheating don't have women accountable to them. They don't know that after sex and during sex, a mother is thinking about tasks undone, food for the children....immediately after he cums, we get up to continue the tasks while he RELAXES to regain strength.

Disciplined mothers don't cheat in a committed union I guarantee you. Ask your married sisters or mothers and stop capping nonsense.

kay29000:
At the bolded, are you trying to tell me women no longer enjoy sex once they have kids? What of the ones that cheat on their husband after having multiple kids? There are two married women disturbing my guy right now for sex. I knew them with him before they married, after marriage and having kids, they started disturbing him for sex. I saw the chats with my very eyes. So you're telling me if my guy isn't principled, and agrees to sleep with them, that they will be thinking of chores while having sex with him? lol!

kay29000:
➜At the bolded, are you trying to tell me women no longer enjoy sex once they have kids? What of the ones that cheat on their husband after having multiple kids?
➜There are two married women disturbing my guy right now for sex. I knew them with him before they married, after marriage and having kids, they started disturbing him for sex. I saw the chats with my very eyes.
➜So you're telling me if my guy isn't principled, and agrees to sleep with them, that they will be thinking of chores while having sex with him? lol!

Esthered:
We do enjoy sex no doubt. We try to forget everything and focus on the moment. People that understand my point of view understand sir.
Why are you comparing apples with oranges? Those are exceptions.
Are you also inferring that all mothers cheat?

Kobojunkie:
Not all women are the same. Like men, women have individual preferences when it comes to sex. So you have to deal with the particular woman you have based on her particular preferences or ideas regarding sex.

2. That two married women are currently disturbing you DOES NOT imply then that all married women are sexual deviants. There are equally married women out there who hate sex and would rather consider getting a divorce for peace's sake.

3. Each woman you meet out there is unique in her desires and preferences even regarding sex. Try to realize this for your own brain's sake!

kay29000:
➜I know that. But just like you're inferring that I'm generalising, the girl I responded to was also generalising. How does she know what all married women with kids think about during sex?

kay29000:
You're the one that was trying to speak for all married women with kids from your own point of view. You're one person, you don't know what other wives feel during sex.

Kobojunkie:
1. How many of those sample surveys have been recorded and reported since 2006 in Nigeria and carried out by what organization? A quick look at the UN and World Bank sites would reveal they too still depend to a great deal on data released by the NBS in Nigeria and we all know NBS has been resorting to forging the numbers for a while now. 🙄🙄🙄🙄

2. I quoted the population estimates based on guesstimates based on the 20-year-old census, numbers which I never claimed were gospel truth to begin with. You, however, suggested that your values are more current, and upon review, I found that those numbers are based on NBS-released numbers. So?

Obaaderemi2:
✓ @bolded, on which census? Nigerian figures which are not acceptable to you because they're usually false? ✓ You shot your own claims to pieces already. You no longer have the validity to say anything based on figures composed by Nigerians 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

Esthered:
It may have been said out frustration as no woman gives consent to an open marriage easily.

Kobojunkie:
Your retort does not make any sense given what I in fact stated though. 😩😩😩😩😩😩

kestolove95:
How can you b fvcking one woman for 10yrs? You people are really trying oo

Namaster:
Oh boy!

1. Married for 10 years.
2. Has 3 kids.
3. RECENTLY got a job with BETTER pay.
4. NEVER initiates sex.
5. RATIONS sex and it's down to just 4 times in 30 days.
6. CONSTANTLY complains of stress.
7. BLATANTLY tells you to get your sex elsewhere.

Dude, this woman NO LONGER finds you attractive if she ever did.

She has achieved her goal in marriage. She has 3 kids and has gotten a job with MORE money so she does not need yours anymore.

By the way, realise this:

NO man ever thinks his wife is even CAPABLE of cheating on him.

They'd SLAM their chest with confidence and proclaim it to the world. Meanwhile, the said wife is giving professional porrnstars a run for their money with ANOTHER man.

So NEVER discount the possibility that she's cheating on you.

BUT even if she's not, the fact remains that she is NOT attracted to you anymore.

Sex is an INCREDIBLE way to relieve stress.
A stressed woman who finds you attractive would be EAGER to jump your bones. Not refuse you.

Also, a wife who STILL loves her husband and finds him attractive would NEVER advise him to go out and fuccck OTHER women. Instead, she'd do better.

The fact that she was even the one who brought it up should be a HUGE warning siren inside your skull.

She could be INSTIGATING you to cheat because she ALREADY cheated and is attempting to assuage her guilt.

Someone suggested you do MORE chores with the hope of getting MORE sex.

That's RIDICULOUS!

It has NEVER worked. And it'll NOT work for you, either. In fact, it could AGGRAVATE the issue.

Women HATE it when men do "nice things" for them with the hope of getting sex.

They find it REPULSIVE. And close their legs, padlock their pussies and melt down the keys for good measure.

Doing more chores will NEVER get you more sex 'cause she'd counter with the argument that it's something you should have been doing anyway.

So, it'll NEVER work!

The fact is something FUNDAMENTAL has changed for your wife and she has REPLACED you.
Either with ANOTHER man or her new job.

You have 2 SIMPLE choices:

1. STAY in a sexless marriage.
2. DON'T stay in a sexless marriage.

It's up to you.

But before you make your decision, consider this:

Your wife no longer cares whom you stick your dick in, as long as it's NOT her.

Words of Wisdom

Namaster:
Oh boy!

1. Married for 10 years.
2. Has 3 kids.
3. RECENTLY got a job with BETTER pay.
4. NEVER initiates sex.
5. RATIONS sex and it's down to just 4 times in 30 days.
6. CONSTANTLY complains of stress.
7. BLATANTLY tells you to get your sex elsewhere.

Dude, this woman NO LONGER finds you attractive if she ever did.

She has achieved her goal in marriage. She has 3 kids and has gotten a job with MORE money so she does not need yours anymore.

By the way, realise this:

NO man ever thinks his wife is even CAPABLE of cheating on him.

They'd SLAM their chest with confidence and proclaim it to the world. Meanwhile, the said wife is giving professional porrnstars a run for their money with ANOTHER man.

So NEVER discount the possibility that she's cheating on you.

BUT even if she's not, the fact remains that she is NOT attracted to you anymore.

Sex is an INCREDIBLE way to relieve stress.
A stressed woman who finds you attractive would be EAGER to jump your bones. Not refuse you.

Also, a wife who STILL loves her husband and finds him attractive would NEVER advise him to go out and fuccck OTHER women. Instead, she'd do better.

The fact that she was even the one who brought it up should be a HUGE warning siren inside your skull.

She could be INSTIGATING you to cheat because she ALREADY cheated and is attempting to assuage her guilt.

Someone suggested you do MORE chores with the hope of getting MORE sex.

That's RIDICULOUS!

It has NEVER worked. And it'll NOT work for you, either. In fact, it could AGGRAVATE the issue.

Women HATE it when men do "nice things" for them with the hope of getting sex.

They find it REPULSIVE. And close their legs, padlock their pussies and melt down the keys for good measure.

Doing more chores will NEVER get you more sex 'cause she'd counter with the argument that it's something you should have been doing anyway.

So, it'll NEVER work!

The fact is something FUNDAMENTAL has changed for your wife and she has REPLACED you.
Either with ANOTHER man or her new job.

You have 2 SIMPLE choices:

1. STAY in a sexless marriage.
2. DON'T stay in a sexless marriage.

It's up to you.

But before you make your decision, consider this:

Your wife no longer cares whom you stick your dick in, as long as it's NOT her.

Obaaderemi2:
➜ Why are you bitter? I only used your vERY logic against you

Kobojunkie:
If it makes no sense considering what I in fact stated, how can it then be said that you used my very logic against me? 😏😏

Please stop arguing like an Odi and move on already!🙄🙄🙄🙄

donself9:
Dont mind that oversabi village headmaster, i guess china and india with a over 1 billion population are africans/black

kestolove95:
How can you b fvcking one woman for 10yrs? You people are really trying oo

Harddiskng:
You couldn’t have said it better, I just dey look as OP dey down play all the red flags.

She longer sees him as her leader and has placed lesser value on his leadership.

Op is not even acknowledging every possibility, if your partner starts rejecting sex there is very strong probability that they are getting it somewhere else.



Once your partner tells you to get another person to satisfy yourself, she is definitely cheating and doesn’t want to be only one END.

gabazin080:
I have been married for 10 years and we have 3 wonderful kids. She took a well paying but stressful job recently and her sex drive has reduced drastically. We now have sex like just 4 times in a month.

She doesn't ask and if i ask it is always excuse of fatigue.

She doesn't cheat, i am 100% sure of that.
She even told me she wont mind if i find another girl to satisfy my urge.

I am not the type that can cheat too.
So I am worried on what could cause this change. Someone told me it could be an infection