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I will chose my motger for she asking me that stupid question

Samantha125:
What if her father's business is far from your house, but closer to her father's house and the position her father wants to give her comes with a reasonable salary?

What will you then do? Because there are some ladies who are in this situation as we speak.

These are family administrative challenges which require wisdom to navigate around them; they by no means should lead to anyone choosing between a spouse and your parents


Different people have different crucial roles

Your husband is not your father and your father is not your husband


The institution of marriage requires a high level of wisdom, maturity and willingness to make sacrifices for the Union to succeed

What will even bring up such conversation

That's an easy one

No one should ever be asked to chose between their mother and their spouse. If a mother ask of that then she shouldn't be chosen and id it is the spouse that ask of that he or she shouldn't be chosen too. However the situation that led to this discuss could help decide the true answer as the position of ones parent and spouse are not same and shouldn't require chosing at all.

IgboGoat:
In reflecting on the hypothetical question of choosing between my mother and my wife, I have come to the conclusion that, in such an unlikely scenario, I would prioritize my mother. This decision stems from a few key observations:

1. Unwavering Support: Mothers consistently give to their children, regardless of their age or circumstances. For example, when I recently embarked on a challenging journey to pursue my master’s degree, my mother contributed significantly, providing financial support of approximately 2 million NGN and foodstuffs for my travel. In contrast, my wife did not contribute to this endeavor but instead focused on financial demands and obligations I needed to fulfill before leaving.


2. Differing Priorities: I have observed that my wife tends to prioritize her family of origin over our household. Her financial contributions often lean toward supporting her parents rather than addressing our shared responsibilities at home.


3. Constructive Support vs. Criticism: A mother’s nurturing nature often involves understanding her child’s weaknesses and helping them grow. Conversely, my wife has been more critical of my shortcomings and has, at times, shared these with her family members, which can feel undermining.


4. Unconditional Love: A mother’s love is deeply rooted and unconditional, while affection in marriage often seems conditional, influenced by circumstances or expectations.



These reflections highlight the enduring sacrifices and selflessness of a mother, making her irreplaceable in my life. While this is a personal perspective, it underscores the unique and invaluable bond between a mother and her child.

Share your views

Question for simps.

After two nights, if she calls my line, na another woman voice she go hear.


Useless Question

Wotoporiously speaking

A good wife will never ask a question like this, na only bad woman wey wan divide family dey ask this kind yeye question.

Take it or leave it

IgboGoat:
In reflecting on the hypothetical question of choosing between my mother and my wife, I have come to the conclusion that, in such an unlikely scenario, I would prioritize my mother. This decision stems from a few key observations:

1. Unwavering Support: Mothers consistently give to their children, regardless of their age or circumstances. For example, when I recently embarked on a challenging journey to pursue my master’s degree, my mother contributed significantly, providing financial support of approximately 2 million NGN and foodstuffs for my travel. In contrast, my wife did not contribute to this endeavor but instead focused on financial demands and obligations I needed to fulfill before leaving.


2. Differing Priorities: I have observed that my wife tends to prioritize her family of origin over our household. Her financial contributions often lean toward supporting her parents rather than addressing our shared responsibilities at home.


3. Constructive Support vs. Criticism: A mother’s nurturing nature often involves understanding her child’s weaknesses and helping them grow. Conversely, my wife has been more critical of my shortcomings and has, at times, shared these with her family members, which can feel undermining.


4. Unconditional Love: A mother’s love is deeply rooted and unconditional, while affection in marriage often seems conditional, influenced by circumstances or expectations.



These reflections highlight the enduring sacrifices and selflessness of a mother, making her irreplaceable in my life. While this is a personal perspective, it underscores the unique and invaluable bond between a mother and her child.

Share your views

Wisdom of Solomon. I'll tell such woman to bring a knife.

I can't relate.

What a question and audacity? I do not allow my parents meddle into the affairs of my home and that has been the issue I'm having with my mom as regards my wife. However, if my wife stands up to me to ask such a silly question, she goes back to her father's house. Shikenah!

IgboGoat:
In reflecting on the hypothetical question of choosing between my mother and my wife, I have come to the conclusion that, in such an unlikely scenario, I would prioritize my mother. This decision stems from a few key observations:

1. Unwavering Support: Mothers consistently give to their children, regardless of their age or circumstances. For example, when I recently embarked on a challenging journey to pursue my master’s degree, my mother contributed significantly, providing financial support of approximately 2 million NGN and foodstuffs for my travel. In contrast, my wife did not contribute to this endeavor but instead focused on financial demands and obligations I needed to fulfill before leaving.


2. Differing Priorities: I have observed that my wife tends to prioritize her family of origin over our household. Her financial contributions often lean toward supporting her parents rather than addressing our shared responsibilities at home.


3. Constructive Support vs. Criticism: A mother’s nurturing nature often involves understanding her child’s weaknesses and helping them grow. Conversely, my wife has been more critical of my shortcomings and has, at times, shared these with her family members, which can feel undermining.


4. Unconditional Love: A mother’s love is deeply rooted and unconditional, while affection in marriage often seems conditional, influenced by circumstances or expectations.



These reflections highlight the enduring sacrifices and selflessness of a mother, making her irreplaceable in my life. While this is a personal perspective, it underscores the unique and invaluable bond between a mother and her child.

Share your views

I’ll choose her over and over again in a heartbeat

I will never complain, he should enjoy himself and his life while the time still allows him.

If she's a widow, still healthy and under the age of 60, she should then do something useful with her life.

dalass:
It is people like you who after becoming an aged mother yourself will be complaining that your son isn't there for you.

What if the mama is a widow?

The usual childish topic for debate.

Choose your landlady.

my wife

Samantha125:
Your mother is supposed to be your father's responsibility and not yours, she nurtured you because it was her duty as a mother.

Or do you now want to be her husband?

Don't worry, you will be come a mother too if you haven't sef , then you can come back to read your comment.


Op, I pray this never happen in my home because straight away, I'm picking my mum.

ThaThinka:
The place of a mother and that of a wife are completely different! May God not let me marry a foolish woman that would make such a demand.

But if the wife dares, I will miss her.

You are wise!

That women are selfish shouldn't make news today.

OP if your wife asks the above question, do NOT respond.

Samantha125:
Your mother is supposed to be your father's responsibility and not yours, she nurtured you because it was her duty as a mother.

Or do you now want to be her husband?

Or deh
That's why most of you never grow in wisdom...

Tell us who you'd like your brothers and sons to prioritise...

Stop asking foolish questions in 2025

Then get married to her.

77up:
Don't worry, you will be come a mother too if you haven't sef , then you can come back to read your comment.


Op, I pray this never happen in my home because straight away, I'm picking my mum.

Samantha125:
Men leave their households all the time to go and work far from home... Some of you guys have left your wives in Nigeria and haven't been back in years.

Wotoporiously speaking

I believe you're going off point here @samantha125

What does working overseas or far from home have to do with the question of choosing btw your wife and your mother? I don't see how this relates with the subject matter.

Samantha125:
Even if the father wants her to come and work in the family business? Would you still be okay with it?

Na only móron go get time dey reason with you

I'm not a bloke but if I was sorry ladies it will be the woman I've known longer

MrIcredible:
Na only móron go get time dey reason with you

Wotoporiously speaking

He sure me die say that babe dey take one or two before she come online 🤣🤣🤣😂

Samantha125:
But you guys would also be asking us to choose between our fathers and you.

Rest! You don already lost the battle

I don't have brothers, but I'd like my future sons to prioritise themselves like my parents advised us to prioritise ourselves.

Me I'd have had my time.

MrIcredible:
Or deh
That's why most of you never grow in wisdom...

Tell us who you'd like your brothers and sons to prioritise...

My Wife over my mother. But wouldn't let the needs of my mum go unmet. My mum is only deserving of my care and providence as a thank you gift for nurturing me but my wife owns my prioritization.

Samantha125:
Your mother is supposed to be your father's responsibility and not yours, she nurtured you because it was her duty as a mother.

Or do you now want to be her husband?

madam u don't know the bond some males have with their mum...like me lastborn. No woman can try it

But why was this thread taken to front page?🤦🤦🤦

DuttyChuks:
Rest! You don already lost the battle

Go check the comment of the person I was responding to first.

Streetmovement:
Wotoporiously speaking

I believe you're going off point here @samantha125

What does working overseas or far from home have to do with the question of choosing btw your wife and your mother? I don't see how this relates with the subject matter.

All women are selfish so I'll chose my mom forever. Only a foolish man would think His wife won't chose her mom if the reverse is the case.Women only care about themselves

kroger:
Where is A.Y and his wife today. Wife will come and go but your mum is irreplaceable.

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