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The two are important.
However, since my father has chosen my mum, so I will choose my wife. This is her chance to be chosen as the woman of my life. I can't deny her that.

Okay, if you say so.

Leonardo4:
It doesn't still relate

Samantha125:
But you guys would also be asking us to choose between our fathers and you.

This is true but mothers are irreplaceable and to both genders. Forget marriage oo. When the chips are down, you'd know how irreplaceable mum's are. I'd choose my mum again and again, over my wife, especially in areas where mums are treasured. My wife will still get the love she deserves, no doubt.

My lovely mum died last year and my wife said she'd fill the gap as a mother. She's not even been able to fill 10% of that vacuum that my mama left behind till now. it's almost a year since my mum passed.

Can a woman's tender care
Cease towards the child she bare?
Yes, she may forgetful be,
Yet will I remember thee...

A Methodist hymn.



But then again.... Here's the comparison like Nas( greatest lyricist ever)puts it:



Third chapter
This chapter called "Women", y'all been the rib since the beginnin'
A woman's intuition, is what a man is missin'
To understand your wisdom is something I had to learn
Somehow you the most unprotected on planet Earth
Your smile lift me up and your eyes kiss my soul
Your sweetness is honeycomb, such a lovely tone
You hold the power to make a house a home
Because of you, I wanna right my wrongs (love)
Kiss your mother 'cause we only get one (one)
A grandmother's words to her grandson
Beautiful minds develop in time (yeah)
Checks every month 'cause you held me for nine( months)
They might see an image of a woman who's flawed
But I see a woman in the image of God
Highest regards, I light a cigar
To man, woman and children, my Bible is ours (yeah). . .


Nas... 'My Bible'


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rxcA3Qkt00w

Samantha125:
Well, my mother has always been against the idea of mothers being entitled over their grown children and she's also advised me against it.

I know your mother advised you but what will you tell your own son when he comes to you to say his wife asked him to choose her or you? Will you advise him to prioritize his wife over you and that you are his father's responsibility and not his?

hopedey:
Mother..... because you can always get another wife/husband but you can never get another mother.

Mother is supreme.

mother's love is forever.... Title ''mama''

I don't like people who always reason with insults and can't have constructive arguments.


So bye.

77up:
Good wife will always know her boundary and never cross others by asking such stupid question of choosing from her or mum.

Only f00lish Jezebel or those mumu feminist can. I hope you are not one🤔

Samantha125:
Your mother is supposed to be your father's responsibility and not yours, she nurtured you because it was her duty as a mother.

Or do you now want to be her husband?

Become a mother first and come back and say this nonsense

I'll tell him to follow his heart.

Nonexisting1:
I know your mother advised you but what will you tell your own son when he comes to you to say his wife asked him to choose her or you? Will you advise him to prioritize his wife over you and that you are his father's responsibility and not his?

Samantha125:
But you guys would also be asking us to choose between our fathers and you.

I have literally never heard any man say that.

Funny enough, I'm more close to my father than my mother...

Eriokanmi:
This is true but mothers are irreplaceable and to both genders. Forget marriage oo. When the chips are down, you'd know how irreplaceable mum's are. I'd choose my.mum again and again, over my wife, especially in areas where mums are treasured. My wife will still get the love she deserves, no doubt.

My lovely mum died last year and my wife said she'd fill the gap as a mother. She's not even been able to fill 10% of that vacuum that my mama left behind till now. it's almost a year since my mum passed.

This is a question solely designed for weak men. Any woman who asks you this question recognizes you are a simp and sees weakness. She is only trying to exploit it. No woman asks a real man or Alpha male this kind of question, unless she is ready to leave the man.

Samantha125:
But you guys would also be asking us to choose between our fathers and you.

Never! Men don't engage in such.

Edoreborn:
My wife oo

You are a simp

What would Hakimi have done?. That should be your guideline as a Man.

Olufemiolaolu:
You are a simp

Better one.... He will learn the hard way.

That's because most African female children are not close to their fathers.

ceejayluv:
I have literally never heard any man say that.

They do...

yommen:
Never! Men don't engage in such.

Mariangeles:
You actually think it's that easy?

Some men think what makes them strong men is being able to insult and degrade a woman boldly to the extent that they want.

Mariangeles:
You actually think it's that easy?

Some men think what makes them strong men is being able to insult and degrade a woman boldly to the extent that they want and regardless of the woman's emotions.

Samantha125:
Funny enough, I'm more close to my father than my mother...

I love my father too. But the topic isn't about choosing between wife and dad but choosing btw wife and mum. Opinions will differ on wife to father's choice. I'll choose my wife over my dad of course

IgboGoat:
In reflecting on the hypothetical question of choosing between my mother and my wife, I have come to the conclusion that, in such an unlikely scenario, I would prioritize my mother. This decision stems from a few key observations:

1. Unwavering Support: Mothers consistently give to their children, regardless of their age or circumstances. For example, when I recently embarked on a challenging journey to pursue my master’s degree, my mother contributed significantly, providing financial support of approximately 2 million NGN and foodstuffs for my travel. In contrast, my wife did not contribute to this endeavor but instead focused on financial demands and obligations I needed to fulfill before leaving.


2. Differing Priorities: I have observed that my wife tends to prioritize her family of origin over our household. Her financial contributions often lean toward supporting her parents rather than addressing our shared responsibilities at home.


3. Constructive Support vs. Criticism: A mother’s nurturing nature often involves understanding her child’s weaknesses and helping them grow. Conversely, my wife has been more critical of my shortcomings and has, at times, shared these with her family members, which can feel undermining.


4. Unconditional Love: A mother’s love is deeply rooted and unconditional, while affection in marriage often seems conditional, influenced by circumstances or expectations.



These reflections highlight the enduring sacrifices and selflessness of a mother, making her irreplaceable in my life. While this is a personal perspective, it underscores the unique and invaluable bond between a mother and her child.

Share your views

Omo re bi custard.

I'll pick my mum anyday

Eriokanmi:
I love my father too. But the topic isn't about choosing between wife and dad but choosing btw wife and mum. Opinions will differ on wife to father's choice. I'll choose my wife over my dad of course

Omo ale, I'll choose my parents anyday

I'd choose no one, if tables were turned.

Eriokanmi:
I love my father too. But the topic isn't about choosing between wife and dad but choosing btw wife and mum. Opinions will differ on wife to father's choice. I'll choose my wife over my dad of course

Only a wicked wife will do that, unless your mother is wicked and controlling which is bad for a man because she's lived her Life.

tosyne2much:
On a normal day, as long as you're married, you're meant to choose your wife over your mum and that's the way it should be.

If it's the other way round then you have married a useless woman

For a wife to even ask you such a question, it speaks volume about her unless the question was triggered by you neglecting your responsibilities while focusing on your family of origin

I have never seen both nonsense and sense in one paragraph. You need to be studied

Samantha125:
Your mother is supposed to be your father's responsibility and not yours, she nurtured you because it was her duty as a mother.

Or do you now want to be her husband?

so ur children should not take care of u cos u are their fathers responsibility?

Wives eventually becomes mothers. Its a cycle

Samantha125:
Your mother is supposed to be your father's responsibility and not yours, she nurtured you because it was her duty as a mother.

Or do you now want to be her husband?

Samantha125:
But you guys would also be asking us to choose between our fathers and you.

madam u are talking rubbish

U really don't understand the Nigerian culture about family, no sane man will ask his wife that question

It's an unwritten rule in Nigeria that the wife will love his family more than the husband

All husband knows about it n won't bother to ask

Na stupid wife go ask that kind question.

Hell yeah... Even my siblings and I never took care of our mother... Her husband is busy spoiling her ..

Godwin4444:
so ur children should not take care of u cos u are their fathers responsibility?