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deluckiest:
we've been married for the past 11 years. I can't really tell why she's doing it. But it started when I was in the University and warned me not to have any female friend. Guess, she's feeling insecure.

Kobojunkieee:
You both probably should engage the aid of a professional marriage counselor at this point in time to better help you both understand the root of the problem, whether it is psychological or due to your behaviors in the marriage.

2. The good of professional marriage counseling is that it also helps you both make decisions about the status of your relationship and where you both wish to see it go next.

deluckiest:
Like I said, my wife and I have been married for 11 years, but she never told me from the beginning that she could monitor and access my phone anytime she likes. I think the only reason she confessed was when I introduced my female business partner to her.

My friend and I were working on a project, and I told my wife about it. I had the technical skills, while my partner was the sponsor. But my wife insisted I end the partnership and look for a male partner instead. She believed something was going on between us, even though there was nothing like that. Because of this, the business was put on hold and eventually failed.

For those asking, there’s no problem with my marriage. We are living peacefully, and both of us are doing well in our jobs.

The only challenge I have with her is that she invades my privacy.

Emperordynasty:
This story seems extremely Fake

Emperordynasty:
This story seems extremely Fake

TenQ:
Thanks a million to sir!
LOL!!

Emperordynasty:
This story seems extremely Fake

deluckiest:
We got married the same year I had my admission. I am financially stable.

psalmistkakah:
My wife was like that...I stood on my ground to stop this nonsense.....I even told her if I want a second wife she can't stop me , if I want cheat she can't stop me...but I remain faithful because I felt is d right..I told her if she continue with her lack of trust then I have no choice but cheat on her and wait for the consequences..She stop and now there is peace...too much of everything is bad... marriage no be prison

Ebubu6:
You're married?

Angelfrost:
Yes, over a decade.

OlawaleBammie:
But if it were to be the other way round u would have bn spitting venom so ooh..abi??

Oonikuure.

budaatum:
11 years and she hasn't found anything incriminating on your phone yet?

If so, consider her a blessing, and continue as you have. You'd appreciate her more when you celebrate your 50th wedding anniversary.

And yes, she's doing it because she's insecure. And your trustworthiness is her blessing, and the fact you are not a pig.

deluckiest:
She's feeling insecure. She has no reason to doubt my loyally. She's one of those ladies who always support their gender. She believes no woman.can misbehave without the influence of the man.

I want to put an an end to it. I don't want to continue tolerating her. This is 2025.

deluckiest:
For the past 6 years, my wife has been monitoring all my phone lines—MTN, Glo, and Airtel. She screenshots my chats, records my calls, and even gathers proof with pictures. Changing my phone numbers doesn’t help because she says as long as I use my NIN to register a SIM, she can still track everything I do, whether openly or secretly, unless she chooses not to.

I want to put an end to this, but I don’t want to get her into trouble with the law.

Has anyone gone through something like this? How did you handle it? Please share your advice.

budaatum:
Wa ku're. Emi re a si gun.

deluckiest:
Like I said, my wife and I have been married for 11 years, but she never told me from the beginning that she could monitor and access my phone anytime she likes. I think the only reason she confessed was when I introduced my female business partner to her.

My friend and I were working on a project, and I told my wife about it. I had the technical skills, while my partner was the sponsor. But my wife insisted I end the partnership and look for a male partner instead. She believed something was going on between us, even though there was nothing like that. Because of this, the business was put on hold and eventually failed.

For those asking, there’s no problem with my marriage. We are living peacefully, and both of us are doing well in our jobs.

The only challenge I have with her is that she invades my privacy.

maasoap:
Lol. What makes 2025 different from 2024, weak man?

Maysdevices:
Mr strong man, strong men die early

jerlady:
Some comments here make me understand that some people do not understood what marriage really is. There is absolutely NO PRIVACY IN MARRIAGE. You share private body parts but refuse to share phone contents . And talking about breaking the law, please show me which part of the law states that a wife checking her husband's phone is law-breaking.
Again, there are two possible reasons she checks your phone. First she doesn't trust you or men in general possibly stemming from a bad experience with you or other relationship. Secondly, you're probably too open and maybe oblivious to when another female is making a pass at you. Trust me a woman will detect the flirting technique of another mwoman from the first 'hello'.
If you truly have nothing to hide, keep assuring her and also seek professional help if she persists.
Giving a stern warning or generally wanting to go the hard way may not end well. And if you're a true Christian, talk to God about it and ask Him how to handle the situation. He's the One who can truly sustain marriage.

qtx:
Wait are you the wife and she is the husband or you are the husband while she is the wife? Again, did you carry things and your family to go and seek her hand in marriage or she did?
Omo, u no be man. See conditions o. Though I don't support infidelity in marriage but you sound like one weak guy whose wife is in charge while he is the assistant.

Change the SIM and the entire phone, and come back to thank me. There are secret apps that can be installed on devices to track all such. Not magic but tech.

Neptunium:
And who the heck is she? See how you're allowing someone torment you all in the name of marriage.


It started in University and you married her like that? Lmbo. You married a stubborn, insecure goat. Better get the law involved to get her to stop.

Insecure Goat

Psoul:
She knows the details of your Gmail account.
So long as you are using phone that is registered with that Gmail, she will keep monitoring all your activities.

With that your Gmail, she can remotely install any app she want on your devices. She can also access other passwords you use on that device.

Remove that Gmail account from that device.
Turn off your Location.

deluckiest:
I read some comments labeling me as a weakly. I'm sure those throwing the darts are not in marriage, else they will understand and know it takes the grace of God to maintain a peaceful married home. I am not weak, no stupid. I don't just want to take extreme measures that can crumble the peaceful home we're enjoying with the children. Besides, it is because of the children I'm actually taken it easy with her. I'm considering a better option to arrest the situation instead of taking that drastic decision that might scatter the home and hurt the children.

Serendipity2023:
This is not true

It's not possible to install sth remotely just by knowing the password

Psoul:
Oga stop saying what you don't know. I do install apps to my phone by using my gmail to log in to Google Play Store. It will bring out the name of my phones attached to that email and I will chose the one I want to install app in. I can install whatever app I want to my phone even if the phone in far away from me. Just the same way someone that knows the email/password attached to your can use it to log in to locate wherever you are so long as your phone location and data is on. If they are off, it will show the last place you visited before you turned your phone location off.
Stop saying that what you don't know does not exist. Try to learn.

maasoap:
Balderdash. I don't know when marriage means policing

edunaragold:
Bro let me advice u,na touchlite phone u go start to use ,my wife did same to me screen shot anything chat ,and took to show her people,thats were we broke .

edunaragold:
Bro let me advice u,na touchlite phone u go start to use ,my wife did same to me screen shot anything chat ,and took to show her people,thats were we broke .