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I'm suffering a lot. I can no longer think straight because of so many issues and challenges confronting me. I'm mentally, socially, physically, psychologically and physiologically affected. Do you know that my hearts beats faster than normal? I'm always anxious and having premonition. I can't stay in a noisy place. I try to stop my students from making even the faintest noise in class, I like to be all alone in a quiet place.
I'm scared of sharing my plight with people. Aside my kid siblings, I don't have anybody I can trust to confide in. My siblings are too young to understand or help out. Also, I didn't grow up with my siblings, we live apart, so the bond, cohesion and chemistry is almost non-existent. I'm only trying to form that bond now since I'm the firstborn.
I was raised in toxic and hostile environments, and I went through lots of cruel, dehumanizing and debasing treatment from relatives, I was hated and treated like a slave and outcast. As a result, I find it hard relating with people even at this age. My advice to parents on nairaland is to never allow their kids stay with relatives except on a brief visit. No matter how poor you are, manage the little you have with your children until they become adults and can stand for themselves. Don't just release them to anybody to help you train. The way a child is raised and groomed from childhood goes a long to determine how he acts when he becomes an adult. If you're raised in a hostile home where u can't express yourself as a child due to maltreatment, you end up becoming timid later as an adult. I was never loved or cared for. As an orphan, I suffered so much. I believe many of us can relate to what I'm saying. I'm a victim of this, and I know how it hurts. Thankfully, I'm gradually coming out of my shell.
We must learn to prioritize our mental health. Mental Health is even more critical and crucial than the physical health. Most times, I'm sad due to overwhelming challenges. It's even much worse when you can't speak out. Those of you who have families you can speak to, you are Lucky and blessed.
I'll soon be thrown out of my apartment when my rent expires. The thought of this alone can torment and cause me depression. There many days and nights I stay without food cos I can't afford it. In all these, My hope is on God. I'll continue to work hard and pray God blesses the works of my hands.

Op I pray that Allah SWT should ease all your worries and give you comfort in your time of need.

Kumta:
Op I pray that Allah SWT should ease all your worries and give you comfort in your time of need.

Amin🙏🙏
Allah bless and guide you Sir. Thanks so much

You are loved bro.

It’s just a phase that must prepare you for exploits in your later life, embrace it like a man looking forward to a great future.


Plenty hugs for you.

Moniker947:
I'm suffering a lot. I can no longer think straight because of so many issues and challenges confronting me. I'm mentally, socially, physically, psychologically and physiologically affected. I'm scared of sharing my plight with people. Aside my kid siblings, I don't have anybody I can trust to confide in. My siblings are too young to understand or help out. Also, I didn't grow up with my siblings, we live apart, so the bond, cohesion and chemistry is almost non-existent. I'm only trying to form that bond now since I'm the firstborn.
I was raised in toxic and hostile environments, and I went through lots of dehumanizing treatment from relatives, I was hated and treated like a slave and outcast. As a result, I find it hard relating with people even at this age. My advice to parents on nairaland is to never allow their kids stay with relatives except on a brief visit. No matter how poor you are, manage the little you have with your children until they become adults and can stand for themselves. Don't just release them to anybody to help you train. The way a child is raised and groomed from childhood goes a long to determine how he acts when he becomes an adult. If you're raised in a hostile home where u can't express yourself as a child due to maltreatment, you end up becoming timid later as an adult. I believe many of us can relate to what I'm saying. I'm a victim of this, and I know how it hurts. Thankfully, I'm gradually coming out of my shell.
We must learn to prioritize our mental health. Mental Health is even more critical and crucial than the physical health. Most times, I'm sad due to overwhelming challenges. It's even much worse when you can't speak out. Those of you who have families you can speak to, you are Lucky and blessed.
I'll soon be thrown out of my apartment when my rent expires. The thought of this alone can torment and cause me depression. My hope is on God. I'll continue to work hard and pray God blesses the works of my hands.

I understand your position. those who have been there can relate also. You have to be strong. If your parents are still alive, get in touch with them.

jackmrandy:
I understand your position. those who have been there can relate also. You have to be strong. If your parents are still alive, get in touch with them.

They are no longer alive

gasparpisciotta:
You are loved bro.

It’s just a phase that must prepare you for exploits in your later life, embrace it like a man looking forward to a great future.


Plenty hugs for you.

Thanks so much brother, I sincerely appreciate.