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I am currently residing in one of the countries that could be correctly classified as first world country and I have seen enough that made me come to the conclusion that African marital union has more chances of hitting the rock than surviving in diaspora.

The case study of this discuss will focus more on Nigeria and Nigerian marriages. References will be made to marital experience of other cultures such as Indians, the Chinese etc to buttress the fact that our greed, pride and dishonesty it at the center of all marital battles.

The whole essence of this expose is to make husband and wife come to the understanding that there is no differences that cannot be resolved.

The most important question is why do Nigerian and other black african marriages crash abroa?

To be continued......

Sir,would you say that whites marriages are not crashing at astronomical rates than the Nigerian or other Africans diaspora marriages. Is it based on observation or through some sources.

Man who is the provider in Nigeria never did chores had two maids . In some cases has side chick or beat the wife. Goes abroad where there is no maid for the average person refuses to assist with the kids and chores. Wife who is also working does all the house chores and cooking. Gets tired and fed up. Sends the man packing. Your wife is going for night shift but you cant cook for her some men will say they want fresh food .

For those who beat their wives abroad is the perfect revenge and they plan how to deal with the man from day one.

Woman who has been practicing my money is my money goes abroad and starts working. Doesn’t contribute to the bills and makes the husband spend all his money with savings. While she sends money home for her family. Man gets fed up, runs for his life.

If your marriage was is transactional with no love it will crash easily abroad shikena

Nigerian marriages can thrive abroad if couples approach the challenges of relocation with teamwork, mutual respect, and open communication. Instead of focusing on negatives like pride or greed, they can leverage opportunities such as better systems, cultural values, and learning from other communities to strengthen their union. With proper planning, therapy when needed, and a commitment to shared goals, Nigerian couples can build resilient relationships and succeed together in the diaspora.

No point comparing us to the Chinese or Indians (these ones engage in honour killings) as we are fundamentally different people. Compare us to other Black Africans.

P.S. The term "other Black Africans" excludes dem unfortunate Arabized Africans known as Somalians and Sudanese.

This thread is a nonsense thread. Marriage wey go work go work; the one wey go fail go fail. Abroad doesn't determine anything. Mods close the thread, abeg.

Akpaamunsi:
This thread is a nonsense thread. Marriage wey go work go work; the one wey go fail go fail. Abroad doesn't determine anything. Mods close the thread, abeg.

Statistics disagree with you.

There are fundamental problems with Made in Nigeria marriages taken to abroad.

ednut1:
Man who is the provider in Nigeria never did chores had two maids . In some cases has side chick or beat the wife. Goes abroad where there is no maid for the average person refuses to assist with the kids and chores. Wife who is also working does all the house chores and cooking. Gets tired and fed up. Sends the man packing. Your wife is going for night shift but you cant cook for her some men will say they want fresh food .

For those who beat their wives abroad is the perfect revenge and they plan how to deal with the man from day one.

Woman who has been practicing my money is my money goes abroad and starts working. Doesn’t contribute to the bills and makes the husband spend all his money with savings. While she sends money home for her family. Man gets fed up, runs for his life.

If your marriage was is transactional with no love it will crash easily abroad shikena

Gbam all the causes right there

Gerrard59:
No point comparing us to the Chinese or Indians (these ones engage in honour killings) as we are fundamentally different people. Compare us to other Black Africans.

P.S. The term "other Black Africans" excludes dem unfortunate Arabized Africans known as Somalians and Sudanese.

Why call people unfortunate? Can you control who your neighbours are?So you haven't changed this your racist attitude?

Mtchew,nonsense

missjekyll:
Why call people unfortunate? Can you control who your neighbours are?So you haven't changed this your racist attitude?

Mtchew,nonsense

They don't align with other Black people. Some of them don't see themselves as black people. Do you force people to like you or do you do attachee every now and then? How many Somalians in the lovey-dovey UK of yours mix up with other Black Africans, including Kenyans?

Stop parroting the R word...it has become hackneyed and useless overall.

Gerrard59:
They don't align with other Black people. Some of them don't see themselves as black people. Do you force people to like you or do you do attachee every now and then? How many Somalians in the lovey-dovey UK of yours mix up with other Black Africans, including Kenyans?

Stop parroting the R word...it has become hackneyed and useless overall.

If they don't mix up with you,it must be a you thing. I have worked with Sudanese and Somalian colleagues . They are great to work with.

And yes you are a Racist.

happens in every society but in Nigeria where most people get into transactional relationship and as the result get fed up when there's no more funds entering into the family , they seek divorce


check the divorce rate of the baby boomer and the millennial generation abroad

you'll see the later has higher divorce rate


why


late stage capitalism and consumerism has done more harm than good to most families