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Naija Men, Let’s Wise Up O by ejitest1(op): 2:39pm On Feb 02, 2025
As a married man, you're expected to be the provider for your family. But you must be careful not to let your loved ones drain your finances.

It's time to be financially prudent, brothers! You must manage your money wisely, avoid unnecessary expenses, and prioritize your family's needs.

Don't let your family members turn you into an ATM! Set boundaries, communicate clearly, and make sure everyone understands the importance of financial discipline.

And to your wonderful wife, you need her support! She can help protect your family's finances by:

Cautioning her family members to respect your financial boundaries
Contributing to the family income (if she's not already doing so)
Supporting your financial decisions and helping you make wise choices

Re: Naija Men, Let’s Wise Up O by blackpanthar: 4:14pm On Feb 02, 2025
it is best to ghost
Re: Naija Men, Let’s Wise Up O by Tayorshd87(m): 7:18pm On Feb 02, 2025
Na mumu dey accept such trash all in the name of love and marriage.

Even after giving birth to my son and mother in-law was around taking care of the baby i.e my wife mother .

I keep telling and asking my wife when will she leave because I can not come and drain all in the name of love 😗

I hate what I don't like.
Re: Naija Men, Let’s Wise Up O by Nnamdipapa(m): 7:23pm On Feb 02, 2025
Tayorshd87:
Na mumu dey accept such trash all in the name of love and marriage.

Even after giving birth to my son and mother in-law was around taking care of the baby i.e my wife mother .

I keep telling and asking my wife when will she leave because I can not come and drain all in the name of love 😗

I hate what I don't like.
I gave an ultimatum for MIL never to pass the night in my house again because she misbehaved the last time.
Re: Naija Men, Let’s Wise Up O by Nobody: 9:03pm On Feb 02, 2025
Nnamdipapa:
I gave an ultimatum for MIL never to pass the night in my house again because she misbehaved the last time.
women naturally love to control even their son inlaw, while her daughter may even ask the hubby to obey her mum's selfish attempts at controlling him
Re: Naija Men, Let’s Wise Up O by Nnamdipapa(m): 9:07pm On Feb 02, 2025
Creamypie:
women naturally love to control even their son inlaw
She tried that with me and failed. She always said" I am old enough to be your mom" and I would reply my mom would never try half the shits I get to tolerate from her. I told my wife the day your mom steps in my house, I am walking out of the marriage and I will force her to choose between her mom and her marriage.
Re: Naija Men, Let’s Wise Up O by GarkiAccessory(m): 10:57am On Feb 07, 2025
blackpanthar:
it is best to ghost
Bro the way you replied me the last time, it was not too cool, in addition you have not responded to the additional enquiries.
Re: Naija Men, Let’s Wise Up O by blackpanthar: 2:52am On Feb 08, 2025
GarkiAccessory:
Bro the way you replied me the last time, it was not too cool, in addition you have not responded to the additional enquiries.
Oh so sorry, I don't know what you are referring to... kindly show me my reply... and based on what topic
Re: Naija Men, Let’s Wise Up O by Kobojunkie:
ejitest1:
➜As a married man, you're expected to be the provider for your family. But you must be careful not to let your loved ones drain your finances.
It's time to be financially prudent, brothers! You must manage your money wisely, avoid unnecessary expenses, and prioritize your family's needs. Don't let your family members turn you into an ATM! Set boundaries, communicate clearly, and make sure everyone understands the importance of financial discipline. And to your wonderful wife, you need her support! She can help protect your family's finances by: Cautioning her family members to respect your financial boundaries. Contributing to the family income (if she's not already doing so). Supporting your financial decisions and helping you make wise choices
Man go go carry another full-grown adult as dependent only to then complain and cry foul when that fully grown adult reveals she is exactly that, a fully grown adult with a will of her own. 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄

Stop deceiving yourselves with this nonsense of being a provider for your family and all. If you are not very well off then you have no business marrying a woman who does not equally bring in income to support the household which is EQUALLY hers to provide for and nurture. If you are not very well off and you cannot stand being your woman's equal in marriage, then maybe marriage— and probably the raising of children— isn't at all for you. undecided
Re: Naija Men, Let’s Wise Up O by gerizzim: 10:15am On Feb 08, 2025
Nnamdipapa:
She tried that with me and failed. She always said" I am old enough to be your mom" and I would reply my mom would never try half the shits I get to tolerate from her. I told my wife the day your mom steps in my house, I am walking out of the marriage and I will force her to choose between her mom and her marriage.
Charlie, it is not in your good interest quarrelling with your wife's mother. Na tact you go dey use follow her
Re: Naija Men, Let’s Wise Up O by Nnamdipapa(m): 2:12pm On Feb 08, 2025
gerizzim:
Charlie, it is not in your good interest quarrelling with your wife's mother. Na tact you go dey use follow her
Na, I am a triuble maker and I already drew the line for her. I won't take shit in my family.
Re: Naija Men, Let’s Wise Up O by MufasaLion: 3:06pm On Feb 08, 2025
Creamypie:
women naturally love to control even their son inlaw, while her daughter may even ask the hubby to obey her mum's selfish attempts at controlling him
Only an immature, poor or foolish man will let anybody control him especially his in-laws.
Re: Naija Men, Let’s Wise Up O by MufasaLion: 3:07pm On Feb 08, 2025
gerizzim:
Charlie, it is not in your good interest quarrelling with your wife's mother. Na tact you go dey use follow her
A man must stand his ground. Moreover, you don't know exactly what transpired between them.
Re: Naija Men, Let’s Wise Up O by ibechris(m): 5:32pm On Feb 08, 2025
Marriage no be for children...everybody wan pursue their mother in law...while me dey here dey miss my lovely and most beautiful hearted woman I have ever known (my late mother in law).

Marriage without stable finance na see finish.

U see this 2025,every man should go and learn about financial education. That is the only thing that would save u from Marriage wahala,with money not stolen money,u can tolerate any kind of human beings.
Re: Naija Men, Let’s Wise Up O by Dogalmighty17: 5:38pm On Feb 08, 2025
After the actions my inlaws put up, I banned all of them from ever nearing my house. Shishi I no dey send anybody. I don't have time for that in-law rubbish.
Re: Naija Men, Let’s Wise Up O by Dogalmighty17: 5:41pm On Feb 08, 2025
gerizzim:
Charlie, it is not in your good interest quarrelling with your wife's mother. Na tact you go dey use follow her
You never meet some useless mother-in-laws wey no dey consider the interest of their daughters marriage. They will want to frustrate you and instead of your wife to caution her mom, she will just be looking. So if you don't take matters into your own hands then what are you doing?
Re: Naija Men, Let’s Wise Up O by Pootle: 7:06pm On Feb 08, 2025
Nnamdipapa:
She tried that with me and failed. She always said" I am old enough to be your mom" and I would reply my mom would never try half the shits I get to tolerate from her. I told my wife the day your mom steps in my house, I am walking out of the marriage and I will force her to choose between her mom and her marriage.
no mind her, when she marry her own na so them com sitdon for her head, me i no go talk but my attitude go show you no longer accepted here. i hate nonsense
Re: Naija Men, Let’s Wise Up O by Nnamdipapa(m): 7:17pm On Feb 08, 2025
Pootle:
no mind her, when she marry her own na so them com sitdon for her head, me i no go talk but my attitude go show you no longer accepted here. i hate nonsense
I tried using attitudes, he nor work so I had to tell her my mind straight up. It is my house and I gat to set my rules.
Re: Naija Men, Let’s Wise Up O by okomi562:
Yk
Re: Naija Men, Let’s Wise Up O by GarkiAccessory(m): 3:23am On Feb 09, 2025
blackpanthar:
Oh so sorry, I don't know what you are referring to... kindly show me my reply... and based on what topic
On the Gmail

And also about the project you reffered me and others to, the person said that they have suspended the project until further notice
Re: Naija Men, Let’s Wise Up O by TheGreatIyaebe(f): 3:42am On Feb 09, 2025
Is it by force to date or marry? As a broke man, why chose to marry and start writing epistles on Nairaland.

I cannot date such a man.
Re: Naija Men, Let’s Wise Up O by AmalaAtiEwedu: 11:22am On Feb 09, 2025
TheGreatIyaebe:
Is it by force to date or marry? As a broke man, why chose to marry and start writing epistles on Nairaland.

I cannot date such a man.
why none of d guys wey d service ur toto in the name of date never marry u? cool

are u wet right now? cool
Re: Naija Men, Let’s Wise Up O by AmalaAtiEwedu: 11:24am On Feb 09, 2025
Tayorshd87:
Na mumu dey accept such trash all in the name of love and marriage.

Even after giving birth to my son and mother in-law was around taking care of the baby i.e my wife mother .

I keep telling and asking my wife when will she leave because I can not come and drain all in the name of love 😗

I hate what I don't like.
as ur wife born, her toto wide add abi e still be like before? cool
Re: Naija Men, Let’s Wise Up O by AmalaAtiEwedu: 11:26am On Feb 09, 2025
Nnamdipapa:
I gave an ultimatum for MIL never to pass the night in my house again because she misbehaved the last time.
u fit borrow me ur wife make i use empty my balls this week? cool
Re: Naija Men, Let’s Wise Up O by Nijimog: 8:41am On Feb 10, 2025
As a man, take charge of your home

If u looseguard, na u sabi

And besides respect should be reciprocal, so the mother inlaw should know her limit in the son inlaw's house. Then if she fail's in that aspect, nothing wrong for the son inlaw to put her in order
Re: Naija Men, Let’s Wise Up O by blackpanthar: 10:04pm On Feb 10, 2025
GarkiAccessory:
On the Gmail

And also about the project you reffered me and others to, the person said that they have suspended the project until further notice
Good Day sir, BHI resumed today and work has started. You are still in a new batch and your turn would come. Nevertheless, speak with any of the admins in your group. Sorry for the late reply, I have not been around.
Re: Naija Men, Let’s Wise Up O by GarkiAccessory(m): 7:44am On Feb 11, 2025
blackpanthar:
Good Day sir, BHI resumed today and work has started. You are still in a new batch and your turn would come. Nevertheless, speak with any of the admins in your group. Sorry for the late reply, I have not been around.
Okay Sir,
Thank you very much for your response, I appreciate. I will contact the admin right now.
Re: Naija Men, Let’s Wise Up O by GarkiAccessory(m): 12:18pm On Feb 17, 2025
blackpanthar:
Good Day sir, BHI resumed today and work has started. You are still in a new batch and your turn would come. Nevertheless, speak with any of the admins in your group. Sorry for the late reply, I have not been around.
Boss I am still on standby waiting, I have contacted them
They said they were sorry for the late response
Re: Naija Men, Let’s Wise Up O by IyanAtiEgusi: 10:53pm On Mar 19, 2025
TheGreatIyaebe:
Is it by force to date or marry? As a broke man, why chose to marry and start writing epistles on Nairaland.

I cannot date such a man.
na for which store u dey do sales girl?
abi u still dey tell people say u dey work for imaginary FG ministry ? cool
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