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| Staying With Your Husbands Brother,how Wise Is It? by wonderfulperson(f): 1:09pm On Oct 04, 2018 |
Please i will appreciate advice from friends here that have been in marriage for longer time, is it wise to stay with your husbands much younger brother(26 yrs old) where your husband doesnt work in that city, in other words, he does not stay with you he comes and goes back some weekends. |
| Re: Staying With Your Husbands Brother,how Wise Is It? by Ngenge(m): 1:17pm On Oct 04, 2018 |
It depends on certain factors. Are u working or is he working? How large is the house you are staying? 1 Like |
| Re: Staying With Your Husbands Brother,how Wise Is It? by olawaz1: 1:18pm On Oct 04, 2018 |
It is not good. This is call seclusion. Avoid it. Even no religion accept this... 3 Likes |
| Re: Staying With Your Husbands Brother,how Wise Is It? by sinaj(f): 1:21pm On Oct 04, 2018 |
Will you be strong enough to overcome temptation if they arise 5 Likes
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| Re: Staying With Your Husbands Brother,how Wise Is It? by GraGra247(m): 1:22pm On Oct 04, 2018 |
wonderfulperson: Its a No! No! No! No! Capital NO!! It kills marriages faster than poison especially in this case where your husband is hardly around. Your brother in law should give you people space. If not things will go wrong and your husband will still blame you. Make your husband see this thread. 4 Likes |
| Re: Staying With Your Husbands Brother,how Wise Is It? by wonderfulperson(f): 3:11pm On Oct 04, 2018 |
Ngenge: Is one bedroom apartment, and am not working yet, but he just started work |
| Re: Staying With Your Husbands Brother,how Wise Is It? by shege45: 4:17pm On Oct 04, 2018 |
Una go still f**k last last 1 Like |
| Re: Staying With Your Husbands Brother,how Wise Is It? by Nobody: 4:25pm On Oct 04, 2018 |
One bedroom apartment, even if you tick all boxes correctly, you see disrespect and proper SEE FINISH, that one is inevitable. Depending on your level of tolerance and his own personality, you can work things out with laid down rules. His stay should be temporal too. You can't completely say NO. Your brother inlaw is part of your family. 4 Likes |
| Re: Staying With Your Husbands Brother,how Wise Is It? by Kaybthaniels(m): 4:31pm On Oct 04, 2018 |
| Re: Staying With Your Husbands Brother,how Wise Is It? by yvelchstores(f): 9:00pm On Oct 04, 2018 |
I don't know why this is predominant amongst we igbos. I can't and won't. A typical Igbo man trusts his brother with his life and so trust him with his wife too. 3 Likes |
| Re: Staying With Your Husbands Brother,how Wise Is It? by sacx: 10:36am On Oct 05, 2018 |
It's a reg flag. Avoid it by every possible means 1 Like |
| Re: Staying With Your Husbands Brother,how Wise Is It? by wonderfulperson(f): 2:10pm On Oct 05, 2018 |
yettymuse: Thank you. |
| Re: Staying With Your Husbands Brother,how Wise Is It? by wonderfulperson(f): 2:11pm On Oct 05, 2018 |
GraGra247: Thank you. 1 Like |
| Re: Staying With Your Husbands Brother,how Wise Is It? by ladyP30(f): 3:00pm On Oct 05, 2018 |
Personally I don't like that idea of staying with anyone as a young couple to avoid any issues that may arise, nd you know hubby is not always around to witness everything that will be going on nd on your own part u will not be comfortable knowing fully well he is a guy I always like my privacy biko |
| Re: Staying With Your Husbands Brother,how Wise Is It? by Evacroft: 8:15pm On Oct 05, 2018 |
Whether ur Hubby is around or not pls dont,whether u live in a mansion or 1 bedroom Hut, Don't. Once he comes it might take years to get him to leave. Except it is those responsible nice inlaws that knows that which they are been given is ur space,else they stay put for years and in turns makes marriage extreme work. Goodluck |
| Re: Staying With Your Husbands Brother,how Wise Is It? by peacengine(m): 9:24pm On Oct 05, 2018 |
One bedroom  1 Like |
| Re: Staying With Your Husbands Brother,how Wise Is It? by kilode100(f): 5:34pm On Oct 06, 2018 |
Since you are not working, why don't you move to your husband's base? Na so e dey start o... 2 Likes |
| Re: Staying With Your Husbands Brother,how Wise Is It? by Alexgeneration(m): 1:19pm On Oct 07, 2018 |
wonderfulperson: Will you ask this same question if he was your brother? Will you be comfortable if your husband rejects an opportunity for your brother to come stay with him to better his life? I hope you will not feel bad if this your in-law refuses to help your children when they need it most? Wisdom is profitable to direct 1 Like |
| Re: Staying With Your Husbands Brother,how Wise Is It? by midastouch040(f): 3:39pm On Oct 07, 2018 |
Pls you guys or his parents should rent a room self con for him. He is 26 years of age. An adult. Your house is just one bedroom apartment. Where will he sleep and change clothes ? In your room? Parlour? Haba. If he still comes, Pls let it be temporary. Or you guys get a two bedroom apartment. 1 Like |
| Re: Staying With Your Husbands Brother,how Wise Is It? by jashar(f): 8:01am On Oct 08, 2018 |
I still don't get why relatives rush to live in newly married couples homes. Where were they staying before the couple got married? Madam, it's not wise to stay alone with your brother in law. Go and stay with your husband or let the brother in law stay somewhere else. 3 Likes |
| Re: Staying With Your Husbands Brother,how Wise Is It? by thorpido(m): 9:00am On Oct 08, 2018 |
It's an awkward arrangement. Since you are not working yet,why don't you move to where your hubby is? I can understand that that may be the only accommodation he can get in that city but your hubby and him should make his stay short by getting his own accommodation. |
| Re: Staying With Your Husbands Brother,how Wise Is It? by GuntersChain(m): 12:58pm On Oct 08, 2018 |
Will you be able to handle the complication that might arise from this effect. Do not fetch any infested firewood. You and your hubby should enjoy your marriage without any intrusion from family members. |
| Re: Staying With Your Husbands Brother,how Wise Is It? by robosky02(m): 1:09pm On May 11, 2020 |
Evacroft: Of course in-law are the root of many marriage aside sex and money |
| Re: Staying With Your Husbands Brother,how Wise Is It? by veave(f): 2:34pm On May 11, 2020 |
Why should anyone even think of that arrangement. One bedroom apartment? With a single man? You're trying to dress up and he barges in. Hehe. Okay |
| Re: Staying With Your Husbands Brother,how Wise Is It? by Mindlog: 3:19pm On May 11, 2020 |
Very inappropriate. |
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