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Golan007:
If be was a poor man, who would shoulder the responsibility?


Now that he is unavailable, let the world handle it.

I really don't understand how difficult this is.

Child support law in America is unpredictable millionaire child support may be less than 5k a month and a struggling man may be 15k a month.
Different judge, different reasons, different amount

EmperorCaesar:


See Man's insensitivity to another man's plight/death


Dr. Ikenna married to the worst family in the world.

I just wonder how the friends couldnt rally round and help him get stable mentally at his darkest moment

Philosopher Seneca said "Death is the wish of some, the relief of many, and the end of all. It sets the slave at liberty, carries the banished man home, and places all mortals on the same level, insomuch that life itself were a punishment without it"

Lovely quote

Mynd44:
True without going to threaten to shoot them

Maybe

This womanizer have kids ? Why do scandals and troubles follow this van lare man every where

Mynd44:
I think he deserves to be insensitive considering that the Dr. Ikenna held his ex-wife, nanny and his own children at gun point. He shot himself when police showed up

If this is true then I can slightly understand

zero8zero:
https://www.gistreel.com/late-dr-ikennas-father-in-law-reveals-reason-for-15k-child-support/

https://m.lindaikejisblog.com/2025/2/dr-ikenna-erinne-thank-god-he-didnt-sh00t-my-daughter-and-grandchildren-in-his-m-at-dness-francis-van-lare-says-as-he-defends-hefty-child-support-payment.html

there bullied this young man to his death! Men are becoming too fragile and weaker expecially when it comes to their children! I have seen this happen many times, the best way is to not give in to the provocation! You will be taunted and provoked with a camera by the corner! Don’t fall for it!!
Who you get married to in the western world matters oo!
All this things!

EmperorCaesar:
Philosopher Seneca said "Death is the wish of some, the relief of many, and the end of all. It sets the slave at liberty, carries the banished man home, and places all mortals on the same level, insomuch that life itself were a punishment without it"

Elder or Younger ?

IPOB family matter

Very stupid response. Like father like daughter. God punish you wicked father-in- law

So this Francis Van Lare na the father in-law...this man wey dey constitute nuisance online as poi-master......except someone is just using his pictures for those posts sha. His online persona is all about talking about all the women he has poi-ed in this life. Nothing else to put online other than poi. I hope I'm wrong and someone is just using his pictures and maybe a parody account to write all that trash, else he is a piece of trash, and no sane person should have anything to do with the likes of him or even his family.

xpressionx:
Very irresponsible man he went and had as inlaw

After going through the man’s Facebook page I was shocked that a guy would be so stupid to marry the daughter of such a man.

One goat mentioned me and said it does not matter.

Despite his critical remarks, Van-Lare extended his condolences. “May his soul rest in peace regardless. My family will raise the children without him.”

What other choice do they have now? You could raise the kids without him but the court decided to wreck and ruin him financially through child support payments? Nonsense

givedemwotowoto:
They will actually get the money. Most people at his professional level have insurance policies worth millions so the family will be fine

I'm not sure suicide would be in his policy.

Mynd44:
I think he deserves to be insensitive considering that the Dr. Ikenna held his ex-wife, nanny and his own children at gun point. He shot himself when police showed up

They were never married.

Now that he is Dead let that daughter of Eve go and Take care of the boy ..

Wicked father in-law and daughter.
The same thing happened to my brother.
They placed high sum of child support bill on my brother.
That's why most men in America have refused to marry them.
Marriage in the western world is a trap for men.

This shows they are not remorseful even at his death. Men should be careful and sensitive to the family they chuck their head to. Some families are naturally wicked and runs in their DNA. If you enter such family, otilo

The family you marry into sometimes determines how that marriage goes. Don’t forget this is the same man that dropped a list of useless women he slept with. Na him person open marry him daughter .

https://www.nairaland.com/7935656/nigeria-man-releases-list-ladies

See handsome man that just killed himself just like that.

A lady I know and I have chatted with on Facebook told me that the guy is a very quiet guy.

He does not talk or say anything even when you push him.

They went to the same secondary school.

Let the woman now pay the $15,000 by herself.

Love of money is truly the root of all evil.

Hohaiiiode:
there bullied this young man to his death! Men are becoming too fragile and weaker expecially when it comes to their children! I have seen this happen many times, the best way is to not give in to the provocation! You will be taunted and provoked with a camera by the corner! Don’t fall for it!!
Who[b][/b][/b]you get married to[b] [b][/b]in the western world matters oo!
All this things!

Plus the family too.

tutudesz:
Child support law in America is unpredictable millionaire child support may be less than 5k a month and a struggling man may be 15k a month.
Different judge, different reasons, different amount

It is madness. Sometimes, some judges use it as punishment for whatever reasons they might have which include hatred and racism

Nnamdipapa, come and see...

It's clear as daylight, that guy didn't take his life because of child support obligation. He took his life because his medical license would have been revoked because of his irresponsible behavior. Trust me guys, it's a pattern in their family!

Is this not the same man that once uploaded the list of women he has had intimacy with? The late doctor obviously entered a wrong and irresponsible family

Golan007:
I'm not sure suicide would be in his policy.

Some policies exclude suicide only within one year of insurance.

Na this man be the FIL?
This old man with plenty ex-wife problems.
Same old man that posted pictures of ladies he has been intimate with.


It is nice to read the "full story".
News on marriages/divorce in the abroad is usually over-sensationalized by the Nigerian M community. When I saw he lost all his license and blablabla. I was like, not again.

I still think $15k monthy is much though.
How much does the young man earn? I want to believe he has been paying it before or has the ability to pay it for them to slam him such.

PriceActionZ:
In as much the man wanted to defend his daughter, but to me , he seems manipulative and sounds like a bully. This is the type of a father that will always interfere negatively to someone's marriage and give morale to the lady anytime she misbehave. The guy should have come back home instead of being a Lilly liver. He was likely bullied to depression. Child support, no access to the kids, no access to her ex incase they want to make things up, every month, paying over 3k$ by my calculations there. Common..... American legal system is something else. The father was so lucky that the guy had a rethink not to wipe his kids and his wife in revenge before turning gun on himself. Will his writeup be the same?

"Devil advocate" read the pic attached before you continuing ur blind argument base on gender sentiment!
If indeed no access to kids, can't he go to same court her wife went,when she was looking for child's supports? and report her?
Meanwhile, in Africa where there is no such laws, did they need to tell you before you give ex wife child's Support? If you are a rational human being?( Is that not what is happening mostly in our society zoo? In which,father would divorce wife together with his children)


You guys would just sit down and conjure nonsense to defend ur gender/tribe. Yet, you want society to safe from criminals from untrained kids.

NB. Person that carried gun to threaten or held his own family hostage no matter the situation, can we say such man is a gentleman? Did you even imagine how such man would have be violence and subjected wife to physical abuse while they were together?

Ibo wo-MEN and simping + cowardice.

This is why their yaml3gg3rs shamelessly and desperately chase Yoruba guys.

It is the low testosterone. 99% of the wo-MEN hid under the bed this Monday.

Na them dey do ALUFA male pass. See this simp who killed himself.

One Yoruba guy I know in the same situation did reverse JAPA - JAPADA!!!

The babe dey beg am to return for the sake of the 4 kids now

Why am I not surprised?

See the kind of Father-in-law the poor man went to have.

He went to marry from a Philandering Family.

A shameless Father-in-law with a long list of his sexual escapades all over the internet.

Ladies be very careful the type of family you marry from.

tutudesz:
The reason given is understandable, but I believe both him and his ex wife could've come to an agreeable amount.

you mean a wife who would be hellbent on destroying him and showing him that na woman she be??

givedemwotowoto:
I don’t want to speculate on whether $15,000 was outrageous or not because I don’t have all the information, but any man who pays child support should make 100% decision of what school his children go to, and what events and activities they’re enrolled in that cost money. That’s what every provider who is with their children do. That decision should not be made by the woman and forced on the man by the court. If the wife doesn’t agree, she can get a job and augment. The child belongs to the man too and he wants the best for them.

I know litigation costs a lot of money, but he could’ve appealed the decision rather than take the suicide route.

Update: I see some people think the family will be broke because of his exit, but that’s not usually the case, probably most men at his career level have insurance policies worth millions, often facilitated through their workplaces and/or private insurance, so the family should be fine financially.

suicide voids life insurance. The insurance money is lost.