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Wat I don't really understand is that they still envy those at home.
If they know u just build house or buy fancy car in Nigeria, they won't pick your call again.

I have a friend like that. He went awol.

That's why I like Chinese and Indians. If one excape into US, his 10year goal is how to bring family, friends,etc into America.

But Nigerians, they will be saying it's not easy.. it's not easy here in America o

Most Nigerian living abroad are extremely selfish. Ignore them and focus on improving your own life. The earlier, the better for you.

From experience...

You should stop disturbing your cousin, and let him breathe.

Instead of you to greet your cousin and pray for them, you are there disturbing him.

DO you know what they go through in a foreign land. Or you think it is easy for them.

ChizzyBuna:
I reached out to a cousin of mine in Norway. I begged him for small financial assistance any amount no matter how small.
He read the message and said he will see what he will do.

That was january 15, since then he rarely reply my message and if he reply he ignores my cry for help

I tried writing him again but tears started rolling from my eyes.
I felt so depressed begging my cousin and him just playing me like a child. Ignoring my messages

I need advice, should i call it quit and distance myself from him?

TTPAAR:
😂😂😂😂😂Badt guy!

Op... No take am personal. Move on!

Never feel offended when people don't respond to ur request or plea. Just move on, holding pains will make ur life worse.

I dey tell you.. Not even knowing what they're going thru sef..


But some people abroad just wicked sha

ChizzyBuna:
I reached out to a cousin of mine in Norway. I begged him for small financial assistance any amount no matter how small.
He read the message and said he will see what he will do.

That was january 15, since then he rarely reply my message and if he reply he ignores my cry for help

I tried writing him again but tears started rolling from my eyes.
I felt so depressed begging my cousin and him just playing me like a child. Ignoring my messages

I need advice, should i call it quit and distance myself from him?

Is he sitting properly in the bus? Before you can lap person, you must be sitting comfortably yourself.

Before you cultivate the "entitled mentality", you should know that many people overseas are struggling their arss out to survive. Don't be deceived by the pictures and video they take beside fountains at the city centre. Many actually live in a cubicle but will post the finest of pictures and videos on social media to deceive "themselves".

Unless you've seen his revenue vs his expenditure and you are very sure he has that disposable income, don't expect that your cousin must do as you wish. People are patching up overseas too. The struggle is everywhere.

lagosrd:
Stop feeling entitled. He owes you nothing. You can't simply say his state of mind there and what he is currently passing through.

Respect yourself. Nobody respect beggars . even if I don't have, stay on your labe Tull help comes. I don't like begging for anything. I sort myself out and God has been showing forth.

Pray make e no hook u. You think anybody is happy to beg for help? No sensible person can ever be happy

UK is the worse. so expensive.

CaptainFM1:
Is he sitting properly in the bus? Before you can lap person, you must be sitting comfortably yourself.

Before you cultivate the "entitled mentality", you should know that many people overseas are struggling their arss out to survive. Don't be deceived by the pictures and video they take beside fountains at the city centre. Many actually live in a cubicle but will post the finest of pictures and videos to deceive "themselves".

Unless you've seen his revenue vs his expenditure and you are very sure he has that disposable income, don't expect that your cousin must do as you wish. People are patching up overseas too. The struggle is everywhere.

It is still entitlement mentality, do you know how many times he has asked for money before, and the cousin might have gotton into a huge debt, and cannot aford to send any money, people go through a lot and remain quiet so others do not gossip.

Nigerians are useless, because he did not answer him, he is taking it personal, oya let him take it personal

I have not seen a set of rude entitled wicked people

Everyone should just stay by himself and not disturb. Let us have peace jare

HilsonDick:
Pray make e no hook u. You think anybody is happy to beg for help? No sensible person can ever be happy

Ignore him now. Abi na byforce he must give you money. Find your help somewhere.

ChizzyBuna:
I reached out to a cousin of mine in Norway. I begged him for small financial assistance any amount no matter how small.
He read the message and said he will see what he will do.

That was january 15, since then he rarely reply my message and if he reply he ignores my cry for help

I tried writing him again but tears started rolling from my eyes.
I felt so depressed begging my cousin and him just playing me like a child. Ignoring my messages

I need advice, should i call it quit and distance myself from him?

Have you thought of exploring other options apart from your cousin?

SeriouslySense:
UK is the worse. so expensive.

Exactly. I schooled there on scholarship and I don't fancy the UK ahead of Nigeria.

If you are doing well, please also remember to send money to those abroad if you really like them

SeriouslySense:
It is still entitlement mentality, do you know how many times he has asked for money before, and the cousin might have gotton into a huge debt, and cannot aford to send any money, people go through a lot and remain quiet so others do not gossip.

Nigerians are useless, because he did not answer him, he is taking it personal, oya let him take it personal

I have not seen a set of rude entitled wicked people

You just made a valid point. For the cousin to have ignored him, I believe that wasn't his first time asking for financial help from the guy. I guess the guy is already fed up with the incessant beggings and decided to avoid him. If that was the first time, I strongly believe the guy wouldn't just ignore him.
Well, try reason me small tin make I use eat today Biko. 9ja hard. I'm not entitled to any help though, but if u help, I go too appreciate

ChizzyBuna:
He told me he has been working on some big deals.. even if it is $30 bro os that too much for someone earning abroad

Most people abroad are struggling
Abroad is not like Nigeria
In Nigeria you can afford to play(as I am chatting now I am chatting from home. I have not gone to work) but when abroad you don’t have that luxury
You always have loads of bills to pay. People work double shifts to meet up.

Then one edddiot in Nigeria will sit down and be expecting someone grinding his assssss to be sending him money

werisetogether:
Have you thought of exploring other options apart from your cousin?

Good question

ChizzyBuna:
we started out chatting and i havent seen him in 18 yrs. So i finally got his number.
He respond to the chats on time until i asked him for little cash.
It is better he tells me no than to play me like this

You got his number and started billing him...
That guy might later link you up business wise in the future. Becareful not to chase him away with your billings. Never ask him for money again... you people should just ne catching up... in that he'll get to see you as a good friend and might recommend some business to you, not dash you money

ChizzyBuna:
we started out chatting and i havent seen him in 18 yrs. So i finally got his number.
He respond to the chats on time until i asked him for little cash.
It is better he tells me no than to play me like this

You are sounding entitled.

But he also should have responded even if he doesn't have.

"is that too much for someone earning abroad"?
What is this nuisance level of entitlement? As per you work keep for him hand?
If you ask and he obliges, good, if he doesn't, keep it moving.
Dang.

ChizzyBuna:
He told me he has been working on some big deals.. even if it is $30 bro os that too much for someone earning abroad

My brother or sister please kindly move on... He/she doesn't have for now or can't give you....
Depression because someone didn't give you money... Please which generation of people be this?

In abroad if someone is not working or not on time to work they will be stressed up and tension

And due to the war in Ukraine prizes of everything is increasing, rent going up, food going up and in UK tax is hell, people need peace of mind, let no one in Nigeria add to their burden.

If they love their family abroad they should send something self, just to make them feel loved too

NOETHNICITY:
Most people abroad are struggling
Abroad is not like Nigeria
In Nigeria you can afford to play(as I am chatting now I am chatting from home. I have not gone to work) but when abroad you don’t have that luxury
You always have loads of bills to pay. People work double shifts to meet up.

Then one edddiot in Nigeria will sit down and be expecting someone grinding his assssss to be sending him money

I need advice, should i call it quit and distance myself from him?

You are in Nigeria.

You own your own car.

Do you know if he owns a car, or even a bicycle, in Norway?

Living abroad does not automatically translate a person into wealth. Your cousin has asked that you give him time, give him that time.

It's just over a month, and you're already whining. That, to me, is entitlement.

ChizzyBuna:
I reached out to a cousin of mine in Norway. I begged him for small financial assistance any amount no matter how small.
He read the message and said he will see what he will do.

That was january 15, since then he rarely reply my message and if he reply he ignores my cry for help

I tried writing him again but tears started rolling from my eyes.
I felt so depressed begging my cousin and him just playing me like a child. Ignoring my messages

I need advice, should i call it quit and distance myself from him?

Get a paying job and make your own living.
Stop crying around, nobody owes you anything.
Not even your parents.
Sorry, you have to find out like that.

ChizzyBuna:
He told me he has been working on some big deals.. even if it is $30 bro os that too much for someone earning abroad

ogun go kill you. You think say $30 dollars na beans?

Thunder fire you there!!!!

ChizzyBuna:
someone that was born there and is earning big.
I swear i go pick myself up and go
When fortune smiles at me
If that boy ever near me to claim blood. I go disgrace am publicly.

Chiboy keep your head up🤧

Think again about what you wrote here when you are not angry.

Fortune hasn’t smiled on you yet but you are already thinking of how you will disgrace someone when fortune smiles on you. If you are fortune will you smile on you?

ChizzyBuna:
I reached out to a cousin of mine in Norway. I begged him for small financial assistance any amount no matter how small.
He read the message and said he will see what he will do.

That was january 15, since then he rarely reply my message and if he reply he ignores my cry for help

I tried writing him again but tears started rolling from my eyes.
I felt so depressed begging my cousin and him just playing me like a child. Ignoring my messages

I need advice, should i call it quit and distance myself from him?

The message is clear that he doesn’t want to assist. Life is also tough in the western worlds and he is trying to keep up with expenditures and other things. You are not the only one demanding for help. Please let him be

@op I understand what you’re going through, the hardship is hitting hard every day especially if you’re a family man, I don’t judge people and your cousin maybe going through hell too cuz staying abroad doesn’t mean you are financially ok.

Though some people are naturally stingy and some have the mindset of no one was there for me when I was struggling to travel abroad so no one is entitle to my money.
Secondly we Africans are wired differently when it comes to being kind and generous. I’ve first hand evidence of foreigners who knows the situation of Nigeria and gives people money to ease the hardship…

ChizzyBuna:
someone that was born there and is earning big.
I swear i go pick myself up and go
When fortune smiles at me
If that boy ever near me to claim blood. I go disgrace am publicly.

Chiboy keep your head up🤧

Cane your line bro.

ChizzyBuna:
we started out chatting and i havent seen him in 18 yrs. So i finally got his number.
He respond to the chats on time until i asked him for little cash.
It is better he tells me no than to play me like this

You are asking someone you haven't seen and probably not spoken to in 18 years for money at the first instance when you meet?

Some Nigerians and how they reason.

I would also likely not respond, just so you know it is not unusual.

Bankowner:
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You are in Nigeria.

You own your own car.

Do you know if he owns a car, or even a bicycle, in Norway?

Living abroad does not automatically translate a person into wealth. Your cousin has asked that you give him time, give him that time.

It's just over a month, and you're already whining. That, to me, is entitlement.

Strong entitlement. Someone he said he has not seen for 18 years suddenly picks up his contact from somewhere and starts asking for money with an expectation the guy must respond.

Another entitlement mentality 🙄do you think they pick money like flower? You asked him just last month, give him some time and stop pressuring him,
people make financial plans and you can't just disrupt it like that.

killuminati:



You say he dey for Norway, that means there's NO WAY just move on..

Hahahaha. Una too get mouth for this Nairaland.