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TinubuCriminal:
Rubbish

When he repeatedly warned you against sleeping around like a harlot did you listen? No.

You wanted to prove that you are independent & no man can control you.

Now he has moved on from you & probably gotten your replacement all of a sudden you want to become serious & even play victim by gaslighting him with "emotional unintelligence" because he called your bluff.

So you need & crave his attention?
I thought you were Agu Nwanyi??
Oh so you are nothing without your husband's regard?
I didn't know oh

Lol

Correct your dirty self for your next hubby, that's if any man will still find you desirable.
You've fumbled this one.


Real men need to know that they hold their woman's existence in his hand.

nifemi25:
I will advice you call him whenever he is in good mood and talk to him on what it's boarding you..

Choiceme:
Today I realise how strong I am, to be married to a man who love malice and who sees it malice as normal and . My hubby, can keep malice for a month and be comfortable with it. He's not expressive and does not value communication,saying sorry is a taboo for him. Not only does he keep malice, he's emotionally off and withdrawn anytime hez suppose to be there.
Yes financially he there, but marriage is not based on money alone, if I choose to call 3 or four people now for financial assistance, I will get their support within an hour. Besides I work and I'm not a demanding person, infact I don't know how to spend, I was trained to save.
But companion and support is very much important to me, its unfortunate I feel really all alone in this thing called marriage. Can somebody advice a lonely married woman?

Rhassidy360:
Since you understand say he get PHD for keeping malice anytime way anything sup be the first to talk. Turn everything to play no worry nobody de count scores for una let him win. Small small he will drop the bad behavior.

Choiceme:
He can keep malice with you for a month...?? Or he actually kept malice with you for a month?? .....u even tried to invalidate his role as a finance provider by claiming u can get money from anywhere.....

I don't know your husband oooo...but the average man is not wired to keep malice with a woman he's fucking that long and one of the reasons is sex among other things......if ur man was not like that from the start, then he probably switched into that mode for reasons u are refusing to see

Make I ask you....Are you claiming u frequently try to break ice when u are not on same page and he actually chooses to remain in the malice??
..or u to claim baby girl .... "the man should be the one to beg and say sorry to me, weda I'm right or wrong" ... Last I checked, malice is a double lane road when no one is initiating peace, I bet he's accusing u of the same thing.

This man doesn't beat you, he provides, but somehow, the nigga ain't good enough because he doesn't quickly come and beg u and he's supposedly emotionally not there.....Madam you too make effort and see if you will get the change you want....are u emotionally there too?? Or u just want a man that will always anticipate ur needs and decipher your mood and make u happy .....

If u know u married a loner or an introvert, then u suppose know u say u must be the initiator of lots of things and find what works for your relationship....

If he was not like that from the start ...then it's a coping mechanism that started at some point and you probably need to ask him..

.I'm not accusing u of anything, and I am not saying he's right....I'm just saying, uve not described a horrible person... Maybe he's just a guy that desire more effort from his partner.

Choiceme:
The point is he has always been like that but before, it use to be 2 or three days programme, seems its getting worse now. There are times I've been wrong and I say sorry but he never accept but still hold malice until when he's satisfied, take note, he will never say sorry.
I don't know how to describe myself, I don't keep things in my mind I let go quickly, because of my faith and also my health, there are so many times I have to be there with him in the hospital, but when I have to be in the hospital, he just sends money, even when I have settled my bills, he just ask for the total and pay. And atleast once a month, he must keep malice. I didn't see this as big deal before marriage because its usually 2 or three days but right now, it has moved to another level.

He can keep malice with you for a month...?? Or he actually kept malice with you for a month?? .....u even tried to invalidate his role as a finance provider by claiming u can get money from anywhere.....

I don't know your husband oooo...but the average man is not wired to keep malice with a woman he's fucking that long and one of the reasons is sex among other things......if ur man was not like that from the start, then he probably switched into that mode for reasons u are refusing to see

Make I ask you....Are you claiming u frequently try to break ice when u are not on same page and he actually chooses to remain in the malice??
..or u to claim baby girl .... "the man should be the one to beg and say sorry to me, weda I'm right or wrong" ... Last I checked, malice is a double lane road when no one is initiating peace, I bet he's accusing u of the same thing.

This man doesn't beat you, he provides, but somehow, the nigga ain't good enough because he doesn't quickly come and beg u and he's supposedly emotionally not there.....Madam you too make effort and see if you will get the change you want....are u emotionally there too?? Or u just want a man that will always anticipate ur needs and decipher your mood and make u happy .....

If u know u married a loner or an introvert, then u suppose know u say u must be the initiator of lots of things and find what works for your relationship....

If he was not like that from the start ...then it's a coping mechanism that started at some point and you probably need to ask him..

.I'm not accusing u of anything, and I am not saying he's right....I'm just saying, uve not described a horrible person... Maybe he's just a guy that desire more effort from his partner.

advanceDNA:
am the spark of my relationship, if I travel just a week with my family, he will turn all of them to enemy because he believed a week is long. Do you want to know I have organised birthday for him twice, he has never reciprocated. Recently I stopped saying sorry because he doesn't say sorry too

Lol....most women will never be the first to talk but accuse you of same thing, and claim u are toxic, immature and childish......they will not initiate sex but accuse u of neglecting them

One of the things I've noticed with most women is, they expect the man to always be the spark of the relationship, be the peace maker, always be there for them, always anticipate their needs, plan surprise like holly wood romance movies, be the one that's funny, initiate sex, be all over them like nolly wood men.....but whenever they meet a man that also desires to be wanted, that expects significant effort from his woman, their brains suddenly can't function.....they see it a bad relationship...

EmperorIsaac:
Be submissive...learn to genuinely apologize (meaning you will desist from what he hates)...don't be manipulative. That's all you need!

Rhassidy360:
Since you understand say he get PHD for keeping malice anytime way anything sup be the first to talk. Turn everything to play no worry nobody de count scores for una let him win. Small small he will drop the bad behavior.

TinubuCriminal:
Rubbish

When he repeatedly warned you against sleeping around like a harlot did you listen? No.

You wanted to prove that you are independent & no man can control you.

Now he has moved on from you & probably gotten your replacement all of a sudden you want to become serious & even play victim by gaslighting him with "emotional unintelligence" because he called your bluff.

So you need & crave his attention?
I thought you were Agu Nwanyi??
Oh so you are nothing without your husband's regard?
I didn't know oh

Lol

Correct your dirty self for your next hubby, that's if any man will still find you desirable.
You've fumbled this one.


Real men need to know that they hold their woman's existence in his hand.

advanceDNA:
Lol....most women will never be the first to talk but accuse you of same thing, and claim u are toxic, immature and childish......they will not initiate sex but accuse u of neglecting them

One of the things I've noticed with most women is, they expect the man to always be the spark of the relationship, be the peace maker, always be there for them, always anticipate their needs, plan surprise like holly wood romance movies, be the one that's funny, initiate sex, be all over them like nolly wood men.....but whenever they meet a man that also desires to be wanted, that expects significant effort from his woman, their brains suddenly can't function.....they see it a bad relationship...

Choiceme:
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Choiceme:
I talk to him but he fail to respond, and i respond when he talks. The point is he's more of a woman, im more of a man

advanceDNA:
Lol....most women will never be the first to talk but accuse you of same thing, and claim u are toxic, immature and childish......they will not initiate sex but accuse u of neglecting them

One of the things I've noticed with most women is, they expect the man to always be the spark of the relationship, be the peace maker, always be there for them, always anticipate their needs, plan surprise like holly wood romance movies, be the one that's funny, initiate sex, be all over them like nolly wood men.....but whenever they meet a man that also desires to be wanted, that expects significant effort from his woman, their brains suddenly can't function.....they see it a bad relationship...

Choiceme:
if I choose to call 3 or four people now for financial assistance, I will get their support within an hour.


Can somebody advice a lonely married woman?

Choiceme:
He doesnt accept sorry, until when he finish the programme, when he's ready to mingle.

ecolime:
This exactly is the reason the young man is distancing himself from you. Call those people so they can also give you emotional support within an hour.

MrSamsung:
When you say sorry, is it that kind of sorry in which you try not to repeat the same thing again or anything close to it that made you say sorry in the first place.

OR is it the kind of "sorry" in which you quickly want to close or sweep the matter under the carpet because it comes easy to you and you will repeat the same thing again or anything close to it, and the cycle continues rather stop or breaking. If it is this second one, then sorry to say you are the problem.

Choiceme:
I talk to him but he fail to respond, and i respond when he talks. The point is he's more of a woman, im more of a man

TinubuCriminal:
Rubbish

When he repeatedly warned you against sleeping around like a harlot did you listen? No.

You wanted to prove that you are independent & no man can control you.

Now he has moved on from you & probably gotten your replacement all of a sudden you want to become serious & even play victim by gaslighting him with "emotional unintelligence" because he called your bluff.

So you need & crave his attention?
I thought you were Agu Nwanyi??
Oh so you are nothing without your husband's regard?
I didn't know oh

Lol

Correct your dirty self for your next hubby, that's if any man will still find you desirable.
You've fumbled this one.


Real men need to know that they hold their woman's existence in his hand.

Mariangeles:
Enough of this nonsense!
Enough of the gaslighting!!
Enough!!!

What sort of men are some of you in this generation?
Who raised men like you and the op's husband? WHO?
Weak lily-livered men!!!

TinubuCriminal:
Rubbish

When he repeatedly warned you against sleeping around like a harlot did you listen? No.

You wanted to prove that you are independent & no man can control you.

Now he has moved on from you & probably gotten your replacement all of a sudden you want to become serious & even play victim by gaslighting him with "emotional unintelligence" because he called your bluff.

So you need & crave his attention?
I thought you were Agu Nwanyi??
Oh so you are nothing without your husband's regard?
I didn't know oh

Lol

Correct your dirty self for your next hubby, that's if any man will still find you desirable.
You've fumbled this one.


Real men need to know that they hold their woman's existence in his hand.