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It took me a lot of guts to come here to write this. I would have chosen to remain perpetually silent on this, but in order to free myself, I am compelled to spill out the matter.
I wish my dad was still alive. He died 22yrs ago when I was just 7yrs. My mum had to remarry after a year of my dad's death. I didn't live with them cos it is an abomination for a male child to live under same roof with his mum in another man's house particularly when they live in the village.
To cut the long story short, I will describe my mum as someone who cares less about her children. She has never supported me financially all my life. From primary, secondary, university till graduation, she never supported. I felt it's because she isn't educated & therefore saw no need to invest in me or any of her children. What she's most concerned about is to extort money from the children. Most times when people talk sweet stuffs about their Mums, I cry inside me. She doesn't feel responsible to her children. I ask God why mine is different. 4/5 of her calls are for monetary reasons even when she knows we are still struggling after sch. No job yet.
I have a younger sister who's already married, we live in same city(port Harcourt). Now, my mum is coming to Port Harcourt to visit my sister. My sister's husband is in the village cos he lost his mum a few days ago. Though He travelled home before the mum died. It was joblessness that made him travel home, he wants to be recruited into the state civil service & he's pursuing it, reason he travelled.
Being the first born, I had expected my mum to first discuss about her plans of coming here with me so we can plan & make necessary arrangements. She only just informed me three days ago that she would be visiting us on Monday(tommorow). I told her that she should postpone the trip for now until later to enable us arrange adequately for her visit, but she's still insisting on coming. She's coming to stay in my kid sister's house who isn't working or doing any business and has two kids. I'm the one who sends my kid sister money for upkeep most of the time since her hubby isn't working and especially now that the husband isn't around.
You are coming to visit people and same people are telling you to hold on for now & u don't want to listen? I'm not even working now thats the worst part. I was mad when she said it was my sister's hubby that gave her transport to come, and that when she will be going back, the guy promised to send another transport fare. This is a young guy who just lost his mum, why should he be the one to give u transport fare? I wasn't happy to hear it. There is hardly a thing she requests for that I don't buy for her. Even if I don't have at the time, I either ask her to borrow funds or I borrow and send to her. When she borrows, I find every means to get and send back to her.
After NYSC, I went back to the village & was thinking of the next step in life. Everyone who promised to accommodate me in cities had reneged on their promises, I was stuck. In the end, I got someone who would accommodate me in port Harcourt. Before leaving, I pleaded with my mum to get me a loan of 20k from their women's cooperative, but she kept giving excuses. I had to go meet my mum's friend who acted as a surety for me so I could secure the loan. My mum had even gone behind to tell her colleagues not to approve the loan. When I heard this, I was so sad. My mum even travelled back to her husband's place & left me stranded. It was same woman who secured the loan for me that prayed for, & wished me well as I embarked on that journey.
After a month, she started requesting for monetary help.
I still remember when I needed 5k to do my clearance so I could submit the clearance form and get mobilized for NYSC. I had tried to raise the money, I had spent all I had on paying off all outstanding debt I owed the sch. My mum had over 15k in her bank account but this woman acted like she had nothing. I was shocked when I checked her phone & saw messages of her transactions. When my kid sister(the one she's visiting now) was just 6 yrs old, and was living with my mum's husband, my mum sent her back to ur grandmother that she(My sister) was causing her problems in her husband's house.
I'm just tired and frustrated with everything

Damn 😔
This is a whole lot.

Olorunjoe:
It took me a lot of guts to come here to write this. I would have chosen to remain perpetually silent on this, but in order to free myself, I am compelled to spill out the matter.
I wish my dad was still alive. He died 22yrs ago when I was just 7yrs. My mum had to remarry after a year of my dad's death. I didn't live with them cos it is an abomination for a male child to live under same roof with his mum in another man's house particularly when they live in the village.
To cut the long story short, I will describe my mum as someone who cares less about her children. She has never supported me financially all my life. From primary, secondary, university till graduation, she never supported. I felt it's because she isn't educated & therefore saw no need to invest in me or any of her children. What she's most concerned about is to extort money from the children. Most times when people talk sweet stuffs about their Mums, I cry inside me. She doesn't feel responsible to her children. I ask God why mine is different. 4/5 of her calls are for monetary reasons even when she knows we are still struggling after sch. No job yet.
I have a younger sister who's already married, we live in same city(port Harcourt). Now, my mum is coming to Port Harcourt to visit my sister. My sister's husband is in the village cos he lost his mum a few days ago. Though He travelled home before the mum died. It was joblessness that made him travel home, he wants to be recruited into the state civil service & he's pursuing it, reason he travelled.
Being the first born, I had expected my mum to first discuss about her plans of coming here with me so we can plan & make necessary arrangements. She only just informed me three days ago that she would be visiting us on Monday(tommorow). I told her that she should postpone the trip for now until later to enable us arrange adequately for her visit, but she's still insisting on coming. She's coming to stay in my kid sister's house who isn't working or doing any business and has two kids. I'm the one who sends my kid sister money for upkeep most of the time since her hubby isn't working and especially now that the husband isn't around.
You are coming to visit people and same people are telling you to hold on for now & u don't want to listen? I'm not even working now thats the worst part. I was mad when she said it was my sister's hubby that gave her transport to come, and that when she will be going back, the guy promised to send another transport fare. This is a young guy who just lost his mum, why should he be the one to give u transport fare? I wasn't happy to hear it. There is hardly a thing she requests for that I don't buy for her. Even if I don't have at the time, I either ask her to borrow funds or I borrow and send to her. When she borrows, I find every means to get and send back to her.
After NYSC, I went back to the village & was thinking of the next step in life. Everyone who promised to accommodate me in cities had reneged on their promises, I was stuck. In the end, I got someone who would accommodate me in port Harcourt. Before leaving, I pleaded with my mum to get me a loan of 20k from their women's cooperative, but she kept giving excuses. I had to go meet my mum's friend who acted as a surety for me so I could secure the loan. My mum had even gone behind to tell her colleagues not to approve the loan. When I heard this, I was so sad. My mum even travelled back to her husband's place & left me stranded. It was same woman who secured the loan for me that prayed for, & wished me well as I embarked on that journey.
After a month, she started requesting for monetary help.
I still remember when I needed 5k to do my clearance so I could submit the clearance form and get mobilized for NYSC. I had tried to raise the money, I had spent all I had on paying off all outstanding debt I owed the sch. My mum had over 15k in her bank account but this woman acted like she had nothing. I was shocked when I checked her phone & saw messages of her transactions. When my kid sister(the one she's visiting now) was just 6 yrs old, and was living with my mum's husband, my mum sent her back to ur grandmother that she(My sister) was causing her problems in her husband's house.

I really understand your situation and how bitter all these feel.
Firstly, just continue to do the best you can for her irrespective of the way she treated you... Forgive and ignore!

Secondly, I pray God blesses you and may fortune smile at you to wipe away the pains and struggles of the past...

Let her come to PH... Don't worry about the expenses. Reach out to me if you dont mind.

dawnomike:
I really understand your situation and how bitter all these feel.
Firstly, just continue to do the best you can for her irrespective of the way she treated you... Forgive and ignore!

Secondly, I pray God blesses you and may fortune smile at you to wipe away the pains and struggles of the past...

Let her come to PH... Don't worry about the expenses. Reach out to me if you dont mind.

Thanks for your words of hope and Encouragement. God bless you so much Sir.
Could u pls drop ur email?

Amen to your Prayers Sir 🙏

You checked your Mums phone spying on her bank account and you say that she is disrespecting you!
You are a worthless child and should go down on your knees praying to your mother that she does not throw you out onto the streets for your disgusting behaviour.

dawnomike:
I really understand your situation and how bitter all these feel.
Firstly, just continue to do the best you can for her irrespective of the way she treated you... Forgive and ignore!

Secondly, I pray God blesses you and may fortune smile at you to wipe away the pains and struggles of the past...

Let her come to PH... Don't worry about the expenses. Reach out to me if you dont mind.

I quoted u earlier Sir

You too like stress fa.

Let her visit o....just lock up while she's here sebi no be your house she go dey. It's is that simple. People too dey over think small matter.

It's really interesting how the human mind work.... over thinking small matter.

Meanwhile,may God bless your family....una need to change una strategy o so you don't keep having the same issues over and over again. It is well.

sisisioge:
You too like stress fa.

Let her visit o....just lock up while she's here sebi no be your house she go dey. It's is that simple. People too dey over think small matter.

It's really interesting how the human mind work.... over thinking small matter.

Meanwhile,may God bless your family....una need to change una strategy o so you don't keep having the same issues over and over again. It is well.

It's well indeed.
Thanks for your concern

sisisioge:
You too like stress fa.

Let her visit o....just lock up while she's here sebi no be your house she go dey. It's is that simple. People too dey over think small matter.

It's really interesting how the human mind work.... over thinking small matter.

Meanwhile,may God bless your family....una need to change una strategy o so you don't keep having the same issues over and over again. It is well.

It's hard not to overthink but it keeps human sane.

dawnomike:
I really understand your situation and how bitter all these feel.
Firstly, just continue to do the best you can for her irrespective of the way she treated you... Forgive and ignore!

Secondly, I pray God blesses you and may fortune smile at you to wipe away the pains and struggles of the past...

Let her come to PH... Don't worry about the expenses. Reach out to me if you dont mind.

I guess you are Busy?

You don't owe her a dime especially when she is extremely selfish. You will never make it in life if you don’t cut off from such a woman.

Sorry, I had to be blunt.

May be I'm not working alone here.. Bro lock up and face your problems

Please why did your sister get married to a man without means of income and burdening you.

Esthered:
Please why did your sister get married to a man without means of income and burdening you.

That's a story for another day. She married against our wish.

Olorunjoe:
That's a story for another day. She married against our wish.

It is well.

Esthered:
It is well.

I'm just frustrated

Fake story that you copied

I have read this same story here 3-4 years ago

Uchuu

I've read same story on Nairaland before. Yes, I can remember?

This serial beggar and his multiple sob stories. Can't you find something better to do with your life that creating multiple accounts to beg indirectly?

Your message entered before mine. The lines just gave him out, purely verbatim.

Young03:
Fake story that you copied

I have read this same story here 3-4 years ago

Uchuu

Olorunjoe:
It took me a lot of guts to come here to write this. I would have chosen to remain perpetually silent on this, but in order to free myself, I am compelled to spill out the matter.
I wish my dad was still alive. He died 22yrs ago when I was just 7yrs. My mum had to remarry after a year of my dad's death. I didn't live with them cos it is an abomination for a male child to live under same roof with his mum in another man's house particularly when they live in the village.
To cut the long story short, I will describe my mum as someone who cares less about her children. She has never supported me financially all my life. From primary, secondary, university till graduation, she never supported. I felt it's because she isn't educated & therefore saw no need to invest in me or any of her children. What she's most concerned about is to extort money from the children. Most times when people talk sweet stuffs about their Mums, I cry inside me. She doesn't feel responsible to her children. I ask God why mine is different. 4/5 of her calls are for monetary reasons even when she knows we are still struggling after sch. No job yet.
I have a younger sister who's already married, we live in same city(port Harcourt). Now, my mum is coming to Port Harcourt to visit my sister. My sister's husband is in the village cos he lost his mum a few days ago. Though He travelled home before the mum died. It was joblessness that made him travel home, he wants to be recruited into the state civil service & he's pursuing it, reason he travelled.
Being the first born, I had expected my mum to first discuss about her plans of coming here with me so we can plan & make necessary arrangements. She only just informed me three days ago that she would be visiting us on Monday(tommorow). I told her that she should postpone the trip for now until later to enable us arrange adequately for her visit, but she's still insisting on coming. She's coming to stay in my kid sister's house who isn't working or doing any business and has two kids. I'm the one who sends my kid sister money for upkeep most of the time since her hubby isn't working and especially now that the husband isn't around.
You are coming to visit people and same people are telling you to hold on for now & u don't want to listen? I'm not even working now thats the worst part. I was mad when she said it was my sister's hubby that gave her transport to come, and that when she will be going back, the guy promised to send another transport fare. This is a young guy who just lost his mum, why should he be the one to give u transport fare? I wasn't happy to hear it. There is hardly a thing she requests for that I don't buy for her. Even if I don't have at the time, I either ask her to borrow funds or I borrow and send to her. When she borrows, I find every means to get and send back to her.
After NYSC, I went back to the village & was thinking of the next step in life. Everyone who promised to accommodate me in cities had reneged on their promises, I was stuck. In the end, I got someone who would accommodate me in port Harcourt. Before leaving, I pleaded with my mum to get me a loan of 20k from their women's cooperative, but she kept giving excuses. I had to go meet my mum's friend who acted as a surety for me so I could secure the loan. My mum had even gone behind to tell her colleagues not to approve the loan. When I heard this, I was so sad. My mum even travelled back to her husband's place & left me stranded. It was same woman who secured the loan for me that prayed for, & wished me well as I embarked on that journey.
After a month, she started requesting for monetary help.
I still remember when I needed 5k to do my clearance so I could submit the clearance form and get mobilized for NYSC. I had tried to raise the money, I had spent all I had on paying off all outstanding debt I owed the sch. My mum had over 15k in her bank account but this woman acted like she had nothing. I was shocked when I checked her phone & saw messages of her transactions. When my kid sister(the one she's visiting now) was just 6 yrs old, and was living with my mum's husband, my mum sent her back to ur grandmother that she(My sister) was causing her problems in her husband's house.
I'm just tired and frustrated with everything

Two different people have just accused you of regurgitating another person's story, what do you have to say for yourself?!

worry357:
You checked your Mums phone spying on her bank account and you say that she is disrespecting you!
You are a worthless child and should go down on your knees praying to your mother that she does not throw you out onto the streets for your disgusting behaviour.

Who's this goat??
Must you comment even on things you do not understand?

Free2Fly:
Who's this goat??
Must you comment even on things you do not understand?

Honestly, I was so shocked to see that comment. I had to keep my cool so I dnt go extreme with my response

dawnomike:
I really understand your situation and how bitter all these feel.
Firstly, just continue to do the best you can for her irrespective of the way she treated you... Forgive and ignore!

Secondly, I pray God blesses you and may fortune smile at you to wipe away the pains and struggles of the past...

Let her come to PH... Don't worry about the expenses. Reach out to me if you dont mind.

You asked that I reach out to you. I located ur number, called u for a whole day, but you never picked or tried to call back.
I sent a text messages, no replies.
I chatted u on WhatsApp, you didn't reply.
I mentioned you here, this is the 6th time I'm quoting u but you're yet to respond. This is not nice at all Sir. Try to put yourself in my shoe. We are humans. And we should treat each other as humans. People sha.