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Damn this is deep, I will travel out of Nigeria and I will get married to best husband in the world ( I speak this into existence)

geechy:
Do I have multiple accounts.??...that's where you're wrong

Goddamn bot.

Okay. Let’s hear from Tunde

englishmart:
My own case is quite the opposite. I lost my Canada the day I met my girlfriend

You sacrificed going to Canada for a local banny.

Na your life.

The way you spread your bed is the way you will lie on it.

Woman know how to cook sweet story person wey relocate you go abroad you disgrace your self make e sha dey sweet na watin woman no when the sweet stop d woman done stop too

At first, Tunde was frustrated. Back home, he had been an executive at a bank, respected, admired. But in Canada, no one cared about his title. His degree meant nothing here. He was just another immigrant with no "Canadian experience."

"I can't be doing these menial jobs, Lara. Me, a whole branch manager, working in a warehouse? It’s embarrassing."

He is a FOOL and has been since but you didn't know or enjoyed it since it's naija where he sees himself as a demigod.
Only God knows how many people he has trampled with pride.
He is a FOOL with his position not knowing details about what and where he is venturing into profs back home wash toilet abroad.
His true personality just plays out where you are real yourself.

That is why I said one needs to relocate to where the jobs are cos I had a friend who was already a medical consultant in Nigeria when she came but because her husband is living in Ontario and unwilling to move then then she had to retrain as a nurse.

While another who went to the outskirts was able to get a medical job straight away.

For some people, The quality of life at times is sufficient but most of us are under employed only the degree to which this happens is what differs

christopher123:
that is under employment and never a fulfilling job


It's only an idiot that will be happy if he is a senior manager in Nigeria and he is a warehouse worker in Canada ...it's shameful


Why even relocate when you are in 40s? It will take another 10 + 15yrs to rise up then when will you have time for retirement?

nams77:
My brother stop this nonsense. Nigerians are fvcking hard working folks. The politicians stole everything and keep this country the way it is. My grouse is that Nigerians have refused to revolt and take back their power. Ethnicity and religion is also a big problem

Which part of the "Children refused to renovate" the mansion you don't get?

Or the "leaking roof and cracked walls" what do you think those are?

sorry japa crew...I can't leave my current job and be working in a wharehouse.

I manage a team of IT professionals...i work with a financial institution....

you see that your japa...kole work for me oooo...I live like king here...can't be a nobody na.

I am building my second house na...wetin I want again? even my canadian friends are envy of me...

their only achievement is taking pictures with Oyinbos in the snow...na that one we wan chop?

I no fancy your canada jare

Laird:
Your husbamd slapped You in Canada, a western country

This sounds so fake

It’s very possible. She may decide not to report it for the sake of love and her marriage. No one will know if she didn’t say it out.

Offpoint1:
Which part of the "Children refused to renovate" the mansion you don't get?

Or the "leaking roof and cracked walls" what do you think those are?

You make it seems as if the children refusing to renovate is that easy. Why don't you go to Aso rock and "renovate " and see if these demonic politicians won't shoot your arrse back to the stone age with their hired guns.

christopher123:
they are very daft and they don't know that they are daft and shallow

people hate reading now.i remember how hard we read those days.

meobizy:
Pay me to read that. If not, post a summary. I no kill Jesus, abeg.

What does Jesus have to do with ur comment. Just post and move on. Is that how u drag ur father's name for any comment u make?

GetSenseNow:
Even if it's fiction, does that negate the message it passes?

Not if it is based on a false premise

christopher123:
Tiny is relative

Not in the way this article was written.

The article didn't showcase the family as poor in Nigeria, so using the word 'tiny' defeats the purpose of his job's narration.

Nelochukwu:
What does Jesus have to do with ur comment. Just post and move on. Is that how u drag ur father's name for any comment u make?

Jesus is my favourite fictional character. Maybe your father is fictional too.

gabbytabby:
The reality for a lot of immigrants is that they have to step down career wise and even retrain in a lot of situations. That is why Canada is best suited to people in their twenties at the beginning of their career.

Canada is reported to have the highest amount of people with PHD driving a taxi so often times one needs to calculate a 3 to 5 years step back before stepping forward and be ready to move initially where the job is, to have any opportunity to thrive.

Unfortunately some of our men are too proud especially when they have risen through the ranks in Nigeria imagine a consultant medical doctor coming to do a nursing assistant job. In that sense UK and US are usually better than Canada. It got a little better when a lot of Chinese went back to China.

Manage your expectations appropriately cos to me, Canada seems some invested in the application fees.


Don’t take it personal cos even their own degree holders do what people with GCSE ie administrative roles do in most countries. It is a country with too many educated people so oftentimes one has to stand out via work ethics or a masters program to get ahead.

Walahi you no lie.
So many of their graduates working in Walmart, Sobeys, Costco, etc doing normal shelf stocker/forklift driver like someone that only went to highschool.
Infact in places like Costco, a cleaner with high school certificate that has been with Costco for 20yrs will earn way higher than a graduate employed today as a financial Clark.

meobizy:
Jesus is my favourite fictional character. Maybe your father is fictional too.

Iz all well and good. An atheist. As u were

muyico:
Let me hears Tunde side too?

Very correct...

Men aren't that complicated as women thinks that we are..!

Tunde already planned his exit plan ... Many years ago...

It only came into existence later...

There is something Tunde isn't enjoying in his marriage...

Possibly he tried to communicate it but because it's a monogamy affair... The woman won't tried to change ..

Many Tunde are on this table, right now.. patiently waiting for the perfect moment to execute there escape plan of so called monogamous marriage...

Laird:
Your husbamd slapped You in Canada, a western country

This sounds so fake

This particular story may be fictional but things like this do happen.

[quote author=christopher123 post=134327460][/quote]Many assume that western movies portray life in the west. They don’t. The reality is different. It’s closer to what Charles Darwin declared to be his truth: survival of the fittest, and If you don’t adapt, you go extinct.
Western societies, especially the Anglo ones are fiercely unemotional. And bitterly cold, as their climates are. They’ve built societies with robust institutions but with little to no interpersonal relationships or support. The human connection aspect that our culture is big on isn’t a big part of their culture, so immigrants from here will struggle without that sense of interpersonal support.
Then the economics! You know, he who pays the piper dictates the tunes. So when men from here find themselves not being able to fully provide for their homes, as well as having to take on significant amounts of household chores in a man-bashing culture where the justice system is tilted to women in matters that pertain to marriage, it can be a whole lot to fathom.
So yeah, the guy say answer is to say that the men who find themselves in these circumstances should adapt. Simple. Not that simple after all.

What about this however? How about learning the difference between our societies and deciding to stay in your small pond and be the big fish in it?

Given that the present widespread narrative about how terrible a place Nigeria is drives the rush to move abroad, you could say that a sizable number of Japarians based their decisions to move abroad on “peer pressure” and not on considered logic, which lends credence to why some, if not many regret their decision, couples may want to sit back and consider the many things that could go wrong and brace themselves for impact. Things could go right too! How would one know if they never took the plunge?

Know what class you belong to; the ready to face reality group or the unrealistic expectations group, and stay where your interests are best met.

nairalanda1:


You will be surprised if it was not his idea.

Forget. If you want to japa, check if the jobs are avaialble. Looks like tunde and lara did not check if there were jobs that fit them over there.

Seriously, as i learned ages ago...migrating to Canada only works for students and nurses. Doctors self no get chance like that.

This your second paragraph is very sha, how will you know if there are available jobs in Canada, when you are not there?

Also your third paragraph about only students and nurses getting a job is actually not true, depending on the profession you are opting for different

[quote author=christopher123 post=134327460][/quote]may God give u the strength to push through. Please don't give room for depression, ur children need u. Don't blame relocation for what is happening.

[quote author=christopher123 post=134327460][/quote]Hmmm, this is the sad reality about moving to the western world for married couples, fortunately and unfortunately, it's a two-edged sword it can either profit or destroy the home

A lot of people want to JAPA without focusing on the reality of what the western world looks like, the harsh reality about the Western world is it will stretch you and drain you as a person, now you're still coping as a person talk less of when you're married, it will stretch your marriage by a mile, from things like when both are looking to secure jobs, how do you monitor the kids and schooling, who ensures when the kids are back from school who do they meet, how do you handle the bills when they come, when one party is not working how do you resolve that part to prevent the home front from suffering, who handles what, household chores who does it, so many questions full ground


Now, another reality that most people don't seem to understand is western world is driven by blue collar jobs, YES, a bit of white collar does but more of blue collar and if in doubt, just take a look at the service sector, hospitality, food, transportation etc. Hence the reason why their economy never sleeps, they're working 24/7 to ensure services are up and running, unfortunately our economy in Nigeria partially run a similar model but not enough, hence why our economy is smaller, we go talk about this one another day

When you migrate as a PR to Canada for example, you 're applying and getting selected from the pool as a professional not as an unskilled person, which is what no one is ever told, because our system back home is roaming round white collar jobs, so we believe when we get to Canada then it must be office job and you have to be on the same level as you left Nigeria, this is where people get it wrong

Lara and Tunde should have sat down to discuss the prospect of moving abroad, they should have prepared their minds for the journey ahead, simulate all the scenarios and even the worst outcome for their journey, this way they would have been mentally prepared for it..
Once you zero your mind that omo, we fit no get job wey we dey expect or suit us between 3- 6 months period , then they should have analyzed the risk and mitigate it, how do you mitigate such , 1. either you must have enough money to pull you through until you get a job or 2. one person stays back in 9ja to work (never resign your job because say visa don land) and support the other in Canada, even this number 2 get as e be but it's an option

Then, if option 1 is what you decide to go for, then when you land cut your coat according to your material, no go follow people wey dey here to drag, some people have good investment back home to fall back on if things go south or some people have good jobs here, every one's story can never be the same, just no do pass yourself, as per job levels well anything you can lay your hand on like Lara said, Tunde should have tried one at least, e for even show concern to hin wife but he left her all alone to carry the load which is wickedness even though he was job hunting but there are multiple ways to hit a target all he had to do was at least pick up any job then he should rigorously start looking for another one while he was on the first

All you need for your big break into the Canadian job market or professional is your ability to pick something first understand their work culture and ethics which they subtly call "Canadian Experience", don't get it wrong some people are lucky enough to get the professional jobs but the probability is like 1 out of 5k or more, Tunde should have continued to work while he was seeking professional job. For those saying you must have a Canadian degree to get a job, I kinda of disagree with this, what if you don't have the financial capacity for it?? Even to get student loan no be beans

Both parties must constantly keep the communication lines open between them and always looking out for the interest of each other, if not na problem. Well there are plenty single married men and single married women + also single ladies around due to many factors, so when na why Tunde fit get company in no time, but he was a stupid guy sha because on top say wife dey work and give you money to settle rent the werey was spending the money, at least to make him look responsible but he decided to be unfortunate

There are so many things to write but the experience you want to get in the Western world depends on what you set out with, they're families who moving on with life and no noise about it, it's also about maturity, understanding, comprising, sacrifice, once both parties understand this part then there won't be problem

Finally, wahala no dey finish for everywhere and if you deiced to move to the western world, always ask yourself the questions, am I mentally stable for the stress, physically, mentally, financially etc.? If you're now married, you have to incorporate your wife and kids into the equation because everybody get hin own emotions, talk plenty on top this matter .. Peace jare and Mr. Tunde and mend your ways

octavian:
This your second paragraph is very sha, how will you know if there are available jobs in Canada, when you are not there?

There is something called the internet...you know, the thing that enables nigerian doctors to apply for UK jobs once plab is done...from Nigeria...

Also your third paragraph about only students and nurses getting a job is actually not true, depending on the profession you are opting for different

It's the truth. Other professions...Canadian qualifications first, or Canadians first.

nairalanda1:
There is something called the internet...you know, the thing that enables nigerian doctors to apply for UK jobs once plab is done...from Nigeria...


It's the truth. Other professions...Canadian qualifications first, or Canadians first.

Nah, searching for jobs online and being there are two different realities, they're not the same... if you like apply for 1k jobs this week, by next week they will recycle the same jobs back again so in reality applying over the internet in some cases is not the true test of jobs in Canada

[quote author=christopher123 post=134327460][/quote]madam the best you can do is to find a way for him to be deported

"This is it, Lara! We’ve made it!" he had said, lifting me in his arms as we danced around our tiny living room in Lagos.

At first, Tunde was frustrated. Back home, he had been an executive at a bank, respected, admired. But in Canada, no one cared about his title. His degree meant nothing here. He was just another immigrant with no "Canadian experience."

See the excitement when visa was procured and how they degraded their living condition when in Nigeria in the first quote!

Now look at the second quote. How they hyped their living style while in Nigeria! Anybody seeing contradiction?

Laird:
Your husbamd slapped You in Canada, a western country

This sounds so fake

He might get away with it if the wife doesn't report it to the authority for a reason. It happens that way

Laird:
Your husband slapped You in Canada, a western country. This sounds so fake

So it never happens, and if it does, it is fake?

Shut up!

meobizy:
Jesus is my favourite fictional character. Maybe your father is fictional too.

JESUS CHRIST IS KING!

Mariangeles:
Shut up!



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