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Mikespecialone:
Then you make everything worst …. Someone that travel to the village for a change and better living , now comes home to discover his wife, kids and properties are gone , no b depression go kill ham

Procashtips:
Addiction with no name?

dominique:
My own advise is you should find a way to reduce your level of dependency be it husband or brother. Your brother has been responsible for your upkeep under your husband's roof says you should leave that toxic environment, you pack your bags and gtf out of that environment, that could be the turning point your husband needs to put a stop to his addiction habit.

Savingrace678:
No one is taking any properties along here.
Besides, he has sold all the valuables in the house and waste the money already

dominique:
you should find a way to reduce your level of dependency be it husband or brother

Savingrace678:
Hello nairalanders, pls I need matured mind on this.


My marriage has been stressful and draining.

I have really suffered if not for the help of my elderest brother, we would have died by now.
My husband has been in addiction since we got married 5yrs ago. that has never allowed him to take care of us. In 5yr we married, he has changed More than 5 jobs all wasted effort. We have two twine children. A boy and a girl.

His addiction has been the reason I never want to have another child ever since then.


my brother has asked me to pack my things and the children, as soon as my husband left for the village, he will relocate us and my husband will not have access to us again.
And he said, if I declined, he will take his hand off my matter. He has been the one taking care of our rent, school fees and upkeep as my husband's money goes to addiction.

My fear now is, my children are so used to their father and I'm afraid if they can cop without their father. Especially my son.
Secondly, I'm so scared that I don't know how I'm going to handle more brokness in my life
My life is so scattered right now.
And lastly, I don't want my brother to take off his hands off me. He's the only person helping me out with my mistake.

Savingrace678:
Wasting any money away playing games.

Savingrace678:
No one is taking any properties along here.
Besides, he has sold all the valuables in the house and waste the money already

Procashtips:
This is even more confusing. I don't understand.

If it's gambling, then it's manageable.

First, do you guys have who he respects?

If yes, threaten to report him to the person

Secondly, have a heart to heart discussion with him but you must be ready to work with him... Let him open up completely.

Then both of you be ready to move into action.

Question though, seems you also have nothing doing if it's your brother that's paying all the bills.

Since you don't have same addiction, why are you not making money?

Mikespecialone:
Gambling addiction is far better than drug addiction, better days ahead , I tell u …. My advice

Gloriagee:
You guys sef, what is so manageable about gambling tori Olorun

@ op - Have you reached breaking point? Only you can respond. Just dont put yourself in a position where pent up anger and frustration will make you resort to violence cos in my mind youre the only functioning parent, your children have.

Procashtips:
Sometimes it's better to ask questions than just assert.

Yes, gambling can be managed, meaning it can be resolved, a gambler can stop gambling if he or she meets the right people for the right prescriptions or did they tell you it doesn't have a solution?

It's not a disease nor an affliction but an habit that was picked up.

There are millions of ex-gamblers that are doing well today including some of your religious and political leaders.

id4sho:
This is a tough decision, I can see you still love your husband. I hope things get better. Your big brother has a point too

Magicalsineros:
Stop saying nons.ense. if it were to be a woman doing this to her husband, would you have said the same thing?

A man who loves his wife wouldn't involve himself in a lifestyle that brings schame and disgrace to his family. What kind of husband can not pay for house rent, school fees and you still expect her to stay with him.
@op, listen very attentively to your big brother. He loves you more.
Addict hardly change. That's the truth

Villa12:
you're dumb if you think her brother wouldn't love her far more and better than the addiction husband. You're more dumber if you think people hasn't raised other people's children successfully. You're even more dumbest if you think single mothers don't get accommodation.

Magicalsineros:
So, who will be paying house rent, feeding and caring for the children now that she's going to keep managing her husband? Because I'm sure the brother might hands off from narration.

silibaba:
Nonsense and low thinker.

You think your brother can love you like your husband do?
You think your brother can father another man's children?
What is the addiction?


Single motherhood is never the best option. go and verify from Annie Macaulay and the likes.

Provided your husband is not beating or handling you rough, stay put.

Landlords have stop renting their properties out to single mother oo

floss:
Please do, run away from your husband and land in another man’s bed and have freedom to explore without restrictions, na your kuntus go hear ram

debbydams:
hummm

Villa12:
you're dumb if you think her brother wouldn't love her far more and better than the addiction husband. You're more dumber if you think people hasn't raised other people's children successfully. You're even more dumbest if you think single mothers don't get accommodation.

silibaba:
You are naive if you don't know that most landlords don't give house to single mother anymore.

A woman came on nairaland and gave you a half - baked information about what is going on in her home and you immediately draw to conclusion.

Have you heard the husband side of the story?

This makes you less than an kid.

genZ everywhere on nairaland.

silibaba:
I have no argument with genZ like you.

What do you know about marriage?

Not to talk of fathering another man's child.

Talk is cheap.

Savingrace678:
Wasting any money away playing games.

Uche559:
Women, as d man no blow, u want to run. But d addiction was there still u decided to marry him. It's for better for worst. U made d decision to marry, u made d decision to have only two kids, d ball is in ur court.

silibaba:
Nonsense and low thinker.

You think your brother can love you like your husband do?
You think your brother can father another man's children?
What is the addiction?


Single motherhood is never the best option. go and verify from Annie Macaulay and the likes.

Provided your husband is not beating or handling you rough, stay put.

Landlords have stop renting their properties out to single mother oo

NexLoaded:
Oga shut up joor. If it's your sister, would you advise her to continue living with an addict in this condition? I wish your sister such a man. Osunde