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Wetin concern you between a man and his mother, Genz wife

Nicenancy:
Good evening

So my husband was visited by his mother. My husband has a habit of praying at night. He began praying (not loud) at midnight. His mother who was in the other room rushed in and said

"stop that, so something doesn't enter your mind."

There have been several instances where my mother in law has treated my husband like he is a stranger

One Christmas, my husband bought clothes for his mother — his mother rejected them, "they are not quality, why don't you use them yourself?"

She is used to assassinating my husband's character to virtually everybody.

Is this normal?

You no well

As far as say na him Mama
No put mouth
Make Dem no come reason your matter.
Leave them oooooooooooo
Na mama and pikin matter
If you shook head lasan
Your head go bald badly
Na you go use head carry everything.
Throw face Abeg

Even if mothers give birth from pressure of society norms, there is no love greater than mothers love!

Yeah, because she feels obligated to do it since it's her child and responsibility.

Have you also not heard cases of women selling their own biological children or subjecting them to harsh treatment?

DaddyCoool:
Well, it starts with pleasing societal norms but it almost always ends up with the mother ready to give her life for the child - even if the child was an accident or from rape or disabled!

WHO OWN house? if na ur MATRIMONIAL HOME, make una TECHNICALLY, AFFIRMATIVELY in an ASSERTIVE MANNER boot mama out!
ah ah werin u suppose dey DO, make ur man OPEN THREAD HERE cos of YOU, MAMA come dey do ur JOB

Nicenancy:
Could it be spiritual?

Maybe she be winch 😁 who might have tried towing something to your husband on multiple occasion but failed and as a result she's never going to be happy with him

Some people were subjected to Stockholm syndrome from a very young age to a point that they no longer cannot differentiate the difference between harsh treatment and love.

They now regard being insulted and yelled at by their mothers as love.

Love800:
Even if mothers give birth from pressure of society norms, there is no love greater than mothers love!

Nicenancy:
Good evening

So my husband was visited by his mother. My husband has a habit of praying at night. He began praying (not loud) at midnight. His mother who was in the other room rushed in and said

"stop that, so something doesn't enter your mind."

There have been several instances where my mother in law has treated my husband like he is a stranger

One Christmas, my husband bought clothes for his mother — his mother rejected them, "they are not quality, why don't you use them yourself?"

She is used to assassinating my husband's character to virtually everybody.

Is this normal?

its best he forgets that he has a mother. Life is not hard. How about his father and sinlings? Is he good with them? Once that’s sorted, he needs not worry about one mother that refused to be sensible. Not every woman that birthed kids is a mom.

Didnt say whether she was widowed, could be lack of sex. You marrying her son have denied her what she needs most.

Wealthoptulent:
WHO OWN house? if na ur MATRIMONIAL HOME, make una TECHNICALLY, AFFIRMATIVELY in an ASSERTIVE MANNER boot mama out!
ah ah werin u suppose dey DO, make ur man OPEN THREAD HERE cos of YOU, MAMA come dey do ur JOB

Abi?

One of my friend's mother always gets angry, and starts cursing her children at the slightest provocation. Whenever I go visiting, and shes around, I always mind myself before she go descend on me too. Some mothers are not it abeg!

She is used to assassinating my husband's character to virtually everybody.

She is fond of speaking against the fact that my husband speaks in tongues, "always praying in tongues meanwhile it doesn't reflect in your life, even Satan won't listen to your prayers."

She is fond of casting aspersions at my husband "some people always read the Bible yet are very dirty"

My mother in-law has a son who has suffered epilepsy for 30 years now; my husband and his kinsmen have spent so much money on this epilepsy yet no cure. My mother periodically will recommend a new place for the healing of this epileptic but the monies will always go down the drain.

My husband has since resolved not to contribute to that epilepsy scheme again since he believes it is spiritual and a scheme to drain the family.

We once lived with her in my husband's late father's home where my mother in law also lived. My mother in law always picked quarrels with us including our little children, finally we parked out. The day we finally left, my mother-in law literally swept were our feet had touched with a broom.

My husband had a single room apartment in that compound that he gave out for rent. No tenant could live in that room. All tenants complained of strange and scary encounters at night in that room. When they all inquire, they are told that there is a spiritual dispute over ownership of that room between my husband and his mother. Eventually, my husband gave this keys to the room to his mother and now tenants can occupy the room.

All the other siblings of my husband are faced with serious life challenges and my mother in law has brainwashed all of them against my husband.

Madam just ignore your husband and his mother's personal Wahala, they have been like that before you came into the picture. If any complaints could be made, it would have been done by your hubby tay tay. Why do you want to bring wahala on yourself? Wahala de rest you wan wake am.
That relationship between your husband and his mother, na them sabi, it is like husband and wife matter, you put mouth inside only you go regret.

gigabyte13:
As far as say na him Mama
No put mouth
Make Dem no come reason your matter.
Leave them oooooooooooo
Na mama and pikin matter
If you shook head lasan
Your head go bald badly
Na you go use head carry everything.
Throw face Abeg

Exactly my thoughts too.

Yes, its also love.
Anything they can do to put their sons in the right direction is love!

But honestly, i don't whether this love is shown from a mother to the girl-child. But mother and boy-child love is very strong!

Samantha125:
Some people were subjected to Stockholm syndrome from a very young age to a point that they no longer cannot differentiate the difference between harsh treatment and love.

They now regard being insulted and yelled at by their mothers as love.

All my enemies Oya come an hear.

She placed so much expectations on her son. The problem with human beings especially women is placing so much expectations on themselves and relationship.

It doesn't work that way because life will never give you what you want, how you want it, exactly where and when you want it.

Life only give you what it has at the time, it is left for humans to utilize it to his advantage.

No you are not.

Nicenancy:
I am one flesh with my husband, remember

Thank you.

gigabyte13:
As far as say na him Mama
No put mouth
Make Dem no come reason your matter.
Leave them oooooooooooo
Na mama and pikin matter
If you shook head lasan
Your head go bald badly
Na you go use head carry everything.
Throw face Abeg

Samantha125:
Motherhood is a talent not every woman has... Some of them only have children to please the sociatal norms.

Calm down, this is a woman that has been in the man's life for God knows the number of years. The wife that has not spent up to a quarter of those years is the one youre now believing, may you be wise.

Exactly. Know your boundaries.

nedekid:
Madam just ignore your husband and his mother's personal Wahala, they have been like that before you came into the picture. If any complaints could be made, it would have been done by your hubby tay tay. Why do you want to bring wahala in yourself? Wahala de rest you wan wake am.
That relationship between your husband and his mother, na them sabi, it is like husband and wife matter, you put mouth inside only you go regret.

Nicenancy:
Good evening

So my husband was visited by his mother. My husband has a habit of praying at night. He began praying (not loud) at midnight. His mother who was in the other room rushed in and said

"stop that, so something doesn't enter your mind."

There have been several instances where my mother in law has treated my husband like he is a stranger

One Christmas, my husband bought clothes for his mother — his mother rejected them, "they are not quality, why don't you use them yourself?"

She is used to assassinating my husband's character to virtually everybody.

Is this normal?

Like you don't already know and understand what is going on and like you have not used style to him that his mother hates him.

Which I know you are afraid of doing because you already know that mama is ahead of and if you say that, mama and her daughters and all the women in mama's life would brand you a witch.

And the simp man may still listen to his evil mother over you, who he is still right not to trust. After all it is not trust that made him marry you

Asonaijaaso:
If she has always devalued him like that.....She is a narcissist (They get worse with age)

If this is new and she was never like that in the past, it most likely dementia.

The story of my life.

Nicenancy:
She is used to assassinating my husband's character to virtually everybody.

She is fond of speaking against the fact that my husband speaks in tongues, "always praying in tongues meanwhile it doesn't reflect in your life, even Satan won't listen to your prayers."

She is fond of casting aspersions at my husband "some people always read the Bible yet are very dirty"

My mother in-law has a son who has suffered epilepsy for 30 years now; my husband and his kinsmen have spent so much money on this epilepsy yet no cure. My mother periodically will recommend a new place for the healing of this epileptic but the monies will always go down the drain.

My husband has since resolved not to contribute to that epilepsy scheme again since he believes it is spiritual and a scheme to drain the family.

We once lived with her in my husband's late father's home where my mother in law also lived. My mother in law always picked quarrels with us including our little children, finally we parked out. The day we finally left, my mother-in law literally swept were our feet had touched with a broom.

My husband had a single room apartment in that compound that he gave out for rent. No tenant could live in that room. All tenants complained of strange and scary encounters at night in that room. When they all inquire, they are told that there is a spiritual dispute over ownership of that room between my husband and his mother. Eventually, my husband gave this keys to the room to his mother and now tenants can occupy the room.

All the other siblings of my husband are faced with serious life challenges and my mother in law has brainwashed all of them against my husband.

Pray alongside your husband, don't fight her else you will be called a witch even though she's obviously one. Epilepsy has no treatment, stop wasting resources from place to place. It's not every sickness that's spiritual 🤷

Your husband is dumb for still hanging around such mother , no pun intended

That's because she wants to be the only one benefitting from the son's money... She's a woman after all...

Love800:
Yes, its also love.
Anything they can do to put their sons in the right direction is love!

But honestly, i don't whether this love is shown from a mother to the girl-child. But mother and boy-child love is very strong!

Samantha125:
Some women are just not meant to be mothers and there's nothing spiritual about it.

In fact, some people, men and women, were never cut out to be parents. QED.

I don't need to believe her to know that some women are not meant to be mothers, and I say this as a woman myself.

7upnigeria:
Calm down, this is a woman that has been in the man's life for God knows the number of years. The wife that has not spent up to a quarter of those years is the one youre now believing, may you be wise.

Nicenancy:
I am one flesh with my husband, remember

Lol, guess you are recently married. As vdm will say, you will learn the hard way.
This statement you made "I am one flesh with my husband" was exactly what my egbon who married late said when I heard he was about to open joint account with his newly married wife and I warned him. Love de sweet am, besides they had programmed him during church pre marrage classes.
Anyway we shared heavy money, I warned him again not to tell madam or pay it into his personal Acct, then give her some normally not making her know big money entered. Bros no hear. Omo, what he saw that period ehh.. Even to buy baby stroller, the ones of $150-200 de ohh, na the designer ones of $1200 she want etc. He learnt the hard way. No body tell am, next time we share big money, na him de advice me make I no tell my madam so she no go tell him wife too. Lol
Him learn the hard way

Love800:
Yes, its also love.
Anything they can do to put their sons in the right direction is love!

But honestly, i don't whether this love is shown from a mother to the girl-child. But mother and boy-child love is very strong!

Mothers mostly replicate the love they have/had for their dads to their sons.
Fathers see their daughters as mini-mums.

I don't joke with my daughter whose habits resemble my late mum's so much.