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Media personality Tunde Onakoya offers multimillion naira scholarship to the daughter of the woman who was exposed for taking her child to Work at 4:00AM in Ikoyi

Chess player Tunde Onakoya said he was sad when he saw the video of a mother being embarrassed in front of her daughter who was helping her sweep.

He said he is going to sponsor the girl's education up to university level.

Tunde said: "My mother used to sweep people’s houses and gutters in 2016. I often insisted on going with her just to help fetch the water she needed so we could finish quicker and get back home before daylight."

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God shamed the Olosho

good gesture

Nice one brother

The a place in a Abuja that people work 24 hours I was a victim

Lovely gesture from Tunde. Love must always win at the end of the day. ❤️

Good helinues copy such acts

nice

Good things, usually comes from Omoluabis.
Proudly Afonjas, from non terrorist region.


I think I don't mention names, or insult any tribe




only proud of my Origin.
Gbayi

Such a wonderful gesture. God bless him more. I hope I get privileged enough to sponsor several scholarships in my lifetime.

Great one from a great guy

Good one.

Peace god 🙏🏿

Wicked woman you want to help your fellow woman but must you embarrass her in the presence of her daughter?May God uplift the woman

She was right to condemn child labour.
She was right to protect the child.
She was right to hold her accountable.
She was right to raise awareness.

You and others are not right to bully her. Calling her cruel and uncompassionate.
And Adetoun was not right to cave in, as she did.

A child should not be waking up at 3AM to sweep an estate when they should be resting and preparing for school. The mother continues to give birth, and she must care for all of them in this crazy economy. Enough to rebuke her for being selfish and not having parental responsibility. She can’t possibly provide for the four children: education, healthcare or stable upbringing, -and the children are put in the cycle of poverty.

But it doesn’t matter to us all. And it never matters to us all, unless it’s an opportunity for us to proclaim ourselves some form of messiah. Or it will matter to some of you, only because you will fancy your parents or parents struggles in that woman. So, this will not merely seem to you to be detached from reality, but an attack on your ideals or parents. And you will say, how can one not sympathize with the poor mother? You were successful, but millions more have failed just coz of this shared hardship you perpetuate and justify. You became stronger and wiser, but millions more were permanently harmed and lost their future. Your experience of the struggle does not drive an iota of awareness to share an advocacy for the children. Rather, than pointing out the gaps in the woman’s behavior and having an outrage for the systemic issues that have caused hardship, your sense is wired to think ‘hardship is a rite of passage, because from it, I gained my resilience.’ It’s this mindset that creates an ideology that does not resist systemic issues. And one must not question or challenge an oppressive system that is perpetuated by ignorance just because she is a poor woman. A child helping a struggling parent in small ways is one thing, but you all think waking up at 3 AM for labour is right. You don’t care what sleep deprivation could do to her physical health, her concentration. a girl that is already malnourished must be further exposed to harsh conditions, and when she is exhausted, to poor academic performance, to limits in future opportunities.

So he tells us that the child is working out of economic necessity. And that the mother needs compassion.

So others will argue that the focus of the video, should have been on the economic hardship that people have to endure.
Instead, Adetoun was just a villain, an oppressor, as she could have engaged the cleaner/mother privately and not publicly shame her, or be condescending in her approach. she had not cared about the dignity of the mother, and she only humiliated her, rather than empower her.

Adetoun capitulated coz the validation from social media matters. That was why she did the video in the first place. Not because she gave a damn about the child’s life. Than the aftermath. The crying and kneeling and wailing. All in the very manipulative lots.

Folks pushed her to reveal her performative righteousness.

And because validation matters to her- she rewarded this woman after the backlash. It alleviated her immediate struggles.

The country also shows its false outrage, as though her situation is not the lots of millions of people in the country. We pretend that suffering is not the norm for the lots. Or that the mother was justified.

Adetoun received more outrage than we give to those who orchestrated policies that have entrenched sufferings.

Now, there are other struggling women who have not made their children work, but remain unseen and unsupported. And nobody cares about them. They were unsure about the tactics of giving birth to many kids, then using those kids or maiming them to generate some form of income on the streets.

Now, Onakoya, who is another person wired for validation sees an opportunity, to enrich his own social capital. And yes, I must thank him. Someone else can cater for the 3 siblings or for the children and their mothers that now sweep and wash the gutters that his mother washed, the children from the north that are your domestic servants, or the children I won’t see tomorrow, for they already died in hazardous child labour.

There are several children, women in this country, with much worse fate. But they are not on social media or the source of any social capital: Mr Onakoya and all of us can’t care as there’s no social recognition. Performative altruism which doesn’t fix the individual choices/ structural conditions that have birth the situation or made suffering into some spectacle is what we are enthralled. A miracle, a divine intervention.

What have I ever done to contribute to the alleviation of situations of people??
Nothing superficial and performative.

And you would find folks out there creating awareness and bringing about genuine changes for thousands of lives. Even saving them from death. Not just jumping in spaces, and using these vulnerable lots to enrich themselves.

Many Nigerians knw how to criticise without taking any action, she probably followed her mum to work during dis salah break, some of us been hawk bread and fish, go farm sef for our parents during holidays, nobody called it child labour, we even use it to brag in class.....

Even for Yankee you'll see children selling lemonade in their front yard.. Shey dat one 2 na child labour..... And nobody do child labour reach dis Abuja and lagos rich clique oh.... Yeye
Thumbs up to oga Tunde

Hmmmmm

It's the last line for me... 😥 Who no go, no go know. If you can't help others, get out of their way and don't complicate life for them. It is that simple. May people that seek to shame us be disgraced and shamed.
God bless you immensely Tunde, your type is rare.

When God bless you,you inturn bless others....that's what makes life beautiful

This is highly commendable.
Shame on the OS.

Congratulations little girl & family.

That woman who made a mockery of that woman and went ahead to post the video online should be arrested and prosecuted. She is a very stupid woman. Humiliating someone in such manner all in the name of activism is absolutely nonsense and no one deserves that

Please house I really need assistance am a graduate with Nysc certificate but never see anything doing up till now You can check my profile and see my post...May God assist you and your children where ever you are

God bless you, Tunde. I watched the stupid video made by that mean woman. It was annoying seeing the poor mother being embarrassed by a fellow woman. To correct the mother in front of the daughter, without hearing her out, was one thing, then making and posting a video of her over sabi action was uncalled for, and a testament of her meanness.
All these adults behaving like kids.
Most parents cry inside of them when they see their children assisting in their parental duties. They don't want it, and it does not give them joy.
But many good hearted children do understand the challenges facing their parents, and would offer to help. Even, some of those who don't render help, often see the efforts of their parents, and would often celebrate them, when the time comes.
You could see the girl's worried expression, when she saw how her mother was being scolded by this stranger.
Once again, thank you, Tunde

Why is it always girls and women meanwhile boys and men don't always get this kind of favour,are we born to surfer?This wicked world 🌎🌍 doesn't favor men at all.

This is highly commendable.

God bless those who try

Good

No "earlier" thread?
I don't know the full gist!