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Last time I checked, my dad wasn't my husband... So what point are you trying to make and what does this has to do with him?🤔🤔🤔

tiswell:
I was thinking you were close to your dad,until I read this

Hallelujah Amen...🤣🤣🤣

123yes:
You wife will do it to you in this your life time. Say Amen!

louken:
➜ Meaning that the man is justified in initiating the divorce

If you wish to divorce because you can not longer stand your partner's fart, that is your prerogative. I have said it so many times before that marriage no suppose be do-or-die affair! 🥱🥱

Obviously the wife was already silently planning to exit that marriage, hence she bought the property in secret... So he's free to bring in as many wives as he likes.

iLegenddd:
What about no one stopping him to bring in second and third wife?

Jesuspistol:
That's not the right thing to say. Buying properties without telling each other is not excusable in marriage. They're not in marriage anymore that way.

What should be done instead, is to find out why she hid it from him. There's likely an underlying problem that has been left unsettled or undiscovered before this ensued. Divorce isn't the solution to just any problem

It is not necessary that there is underlying problem for the wife to do that. I have seen it being done like this one by women many times. In fact, It is most common in the families where husband is sacrificing too much for the family.

dkidd:
➜And U are avoiding speaking on the first part which is the real problem. U see urself now?

Which part is the problem? I am not a mind reader, and if that is a problem for you, then I can't help at all.

Kobojunkie:
If, according to the same you, they are no longer in a marriage anymore once the conditions of marriage were breached, why should it matter her reason for purchasing the property without informing the man?

Lol. See your hypocritical question . Your question should have been, why is she still with him? And thank God, the husband already knew what to do about it

My husband and I are already married out of community of property, meaning what is his, it's his and vice versa... No stress...😃😃😃

We're trying to avoid instances like this one.

Nonexisting1:
Learn to identify topics you chook mouth on and the ones you don't. Before you comment sit down and think first. If your husband secretly buys a property in his name alone, I'm sure you will be the first to shout that he bought it for his secret wife.

I didn't know...🤷🏿‍♀️🤷🏿‍♀️🤷🏿‍♀️

SmartyPants:
You know fully well that there's no such thing as a property bought in a man's name. The Courts will split it in half without thinking twice

maasoap:
➜Lol. See your hypocritical question . Your question should have been, why is she still with him? And thank God, the husband already knew what to do about it

. Why would I have had need to ask such an obviously stewpid question given that the only reason they remain together to this minute has to do with the fact that they have not made up their minds to quit each other? Try to begin engaging that brain of yours abeg!

Helpout12345:
I support her. Everyone should keep their money and properties to themselves.

This rubbish of "marital properties" is a scam. 99pct of times don't favor men.

Women will not do "marital properties" nonsense when they have more money than the man in marriages. They only support this nonsense when it will benefit them.

Men should wake ooo. Women are always in business in relationship and marriages. AND they constantly re-evaluate the "business" relationship until death or they leave you.

You didn't analyse this very well before you supported her. In many cases, husbands use their own income to sustain the family including the wife. So, how would such husbands compete with their wives if everyone should buy and own properties separately. Besides, many people including you don't even understand the concept of marriage

Kobojunkie:
. Why would I have had need to ask such an obviously stewpid question given that the only reason they remain together to this minute has to do with the fact that they have not made up their minds to quit each other? Try to begin engaging that brain of yours abeg!

You still didn't get it, do you, half smartass? One party was blindsided by the other, wasn't like both of them already knew what's up. Biatch was still enjoying some free stuff

Samantha125:
Last time I checked, my dad wasn't my husband... So what point are you trying to make and what does this has to do with him?🤔🤔🤔

A girl child that is close to her dad learns how to treat her man first hand from her dad.

The lady who bought a property without consulting her hubby was a clear indication of 'father issues" .

A girl's first boifren is her dad.

maasoap:
➜You still didn't get it, do you, half smartass? One party was blindsided by the other, wasn't like both of them already knew what's up. Biatch was still enjoying some free stuff

Again, Why would I have had need to ask such an obviously stewpid question given that the only reason they remain together to this minute has to do with the fact that they have not made up their minds to quit each other? Try to begin engaging that brain of yours abeg!

Well, that's your opinion and you're entitled to it.

tiswell:
A girl child that is close to her dad learns how to treat her man first hand from her dad.

The lady who bought a property without consulting her hubby was a clear indication of 'father issues" .

A girl's first boifren is her dad.

Kobojunkie:
Again, Why would I have had need to ask such an obviously stewpid question given that the only reason they remain together to this minute has to do with the fact that they have not made up their minds to quit each other? Try to begin engaging that brain of yours abeg!

You are a liar and manipulator. Only one party was playing the game. But we're glad that the husband is serving her fresh and hot, I hope she didn't see that coming

Kobojunkie:
If you wish to divorce because you can not longer stand your partner's fart, that is your prerogative. I have said it so many times before that marriage no suppose be do-or-die affair! 🥱🥱

What kind of advice other than this would anyone expect from someone who tried it and failed woefully? Such people would automatically be pro broken homes and nothing would give them more happiness than plenty broken homes

Tomorrow now, if the man dies, his people will want to come and claim the property saying it belonged to their son of brother.

maasoap:
You didn't analyse this very well before you supported her. In many cases, husbands use their own income to sustain the family including the wife. So, how would such husbands compete with their wives if everyone should buy and own properties separately. Besides, many people including you don't even understand the concept of marriage

My analysis and believe about marriages and relationships are based on what is obtainable in today's world. Today's women are different from women of 4 decades and beyond.

So, we Men need to change our mentality as well. DON'T do community or marital properties with any woman because today's women will NEVER do it with you if they have money more than you.

Men should STOP marrying down. Men should marry ladies close to them in status. STOP marrying liabilities as women so that you as the man don't have to use only your money to sustain the family and the liability of a "wife".

Samantha125:
My husband and I are already married out of community of property, meaning what is his, it's his and vice versa... No stress...😃😃😃

We're trying to avoid instances like this one.

I have no issues with your choice but it baffles me that you keep your properties separate while your "privates" are shared with abandon. There was a marriage.

Helpout12345:
My analysis and believe about marriages and relationships are based on what is obtainable in today's world. Today's women are different from women of 4 decades and beyond.

So, we Men need to change our mentality as well. DON'T do community or marital properties with any woman because today's women will NEVER do it with you if they have money more than you.

Men should STOP marrying down. Men should marry ladies close to them in status. STOP marrying liabilities as women so that you as the man don't have to use only your money to sustain the family and the liability of a "wife".

It has more to do with values and not status. We live in a selfish world and that has infiltrated into our marriages. If you can't do marital properties with your spouse what's the essence of getting married in the first instance? I see that as self-deception.

Mmaita:
Tomorrow now, if the man dies, his people will want to come and claim the property saying it belonged to their son of brother.

We have seen that take place so many times before now too. 😂😂😂😂😂

studyless123:
✓ I have no issues with your choice but it baffles me that you keep your properties separate while your "privates" are shared with abandon. There was a marriage.

Does this not equally apply to men who purchase properties in their name without indicating their wife as co-owner of the property? If you listen to the video, the narrator indicated that the man had a house in his name --- no mention of his wife being co-owner.

Kobojunkie:
Does this not equally apply to men who purchase properties in their name without indicating their wife as co-owner of the property? If you listen to the video, the narrator indicated that the man had a house in his name --- no mention of his wife being co-owner.

I was not exonerating any sex. I've blamed men more for failed marriages because many failed to show love, leadership and being exemplary. This in-turn have created a generation of loveless couples that have made marriages to be a charade. There was a marriage.

studyless123:
✓ I was not exonerating any sex. I've blamed men more for failed marriages because many failed to show love, leadership and being exemplary.
✓ This in-turn have created a generation of loveless couples that have made marriages to be a charade. There was a marriage.

A system that has failed should be done away with not encouraged. The marriage property system of our ancestors did not work during their time for the majority and will definitely not work in this current era of ours. Whatever values where attached to it all turned meaningless in the end, if you will agree.

2. Loveless? Exactly how do you go about concretely defining love abeg? And how do you determine the number of marriages it applied to back in the days as opposed to today?

Anyways, I disagree as far as the loveless conclusion of yours. Marriage has always been a sort of business agreement between families/couples. Love is a relatively new idea that has yet to be concretely defined as far as marriage relationships are concerned.

Kobojunkie:
A system that has failed should be done away with not encouraged. The marriage property system of our ancestors did not work during their time for the majority and will definitely not work in this current era of ours. Whatever values where attached to it all turned meaningless in the end, if you will agree.

2. Loveless? Exactly how do you go about concretely defining love abeg? And how do you determine the number of marriages it applied to back in the days as opposed to today?

Anyways, I disagree as far as the loveless conclusion of yours. Marriage has always been a sort of business agreement between families/couples. Love is a relatively new idea that has yet to be concretely defined as far as marriage relationships are concerned.

It has failed because of our pre-conceived ideas, understanding, media, training experiences, etc.
Marriage is not about property and the fact that properties continues to be an issues points to a deeper problem. I stated earlier that humans by nature are selfish.

Love has no basic definition but it's evident by actions. There have been many individuals who literally took their lives to save others and that should be a norm for couples. If I love you, I'll die for you. I hope you get the definition.

Again, the psych of our generation has changed. I grew in a close-knit family where love and happiness thrived and we were taught to be selfless and observant. I also witnessed the euphony and harmony between many beautify couples. While I cannot change the way others live their lives, I am in control of my life and know what I want. Some couples have approached me for counselling and some have witnessed the magic that love can have on their relationships. Life should not be faked.

studyless123:
✓ It has failed because of our pre-conceived ideas, understanding, media, training experiences, etc.
Marriage is not about property and the fact that properties continues to be an issues points to a deeper problem. I stated earlier that humans by nature are selfish.
✓ Love has no basic definition but it's evident by actions. There have been many individuals who literally took their lives to save others and that should be a norm for couples. If I love you, I'll die for you. I hope you get the definition.
3. Again, the psych of our generation has changed. I grew in a close-knit family where love and happiness thrived and we were taught to be selfless and observant. I also witnessed the euphony and harmony between many beautify couples. While I cannot change the way others live their lives, I am in control of my life and know what I want.
✓ Some couples have approached me for counselling and some have witnessed the magic that love can have on their relationships. Life should not be faked.

1. 🤔

2. What you described there sounds more like stewpidity of the utmost kind to me. 🫤

3. Well, you happen to be in the minority given the reality of life and living for many raised by Nigerian parents.

4. Lol... Love🫤

Kobojunkie:
1. 🤔

2. What you described there sounds more like stewpidity of the utmost kind to me. 🫤

3. Well, you happen to be in the minority given the reality of life and living for many raised by Nigerian parents.

4. Lol... Love🫤

It's the power of love Kobo. There have been many real-life incidents where husbands risked their lives to save their wives and vice versa.

In 2017 Las Vegas shooting, Sonny Melton, shielded his wife, Heather, from gunfire and died in the process.

In 2013 Boston bombing, James Costello was injured in the bombing but used his body to shield his then-girlfriend (now wife), Krista D’Agostino and they later married.

In August 2020, Mark Rapley punched a shark repeatedly until it let go of his wife Chantelle’s leg

My cousin's babe (from US and only child) defied all orders to live with him in a riverine city in Nigeria despite her influential background.

While I was hiking along a certain trail, I put my life on the line to save a kid from a bear attack.

I don't have issue with transactional sex if that's what I want, I don't have issues with friends with benefits if that's what I desire and I'll roll with a sugarmum if it tickles my fantasy but when it comes to marriage it's 100% commitment. That commitment on both parties creates a unique bond that makes you willing to do anything for the other party.

By the way do you hike? I was shocked to see LakeShore Trail as your location.

studyless123:
➜ It's the power of love Kobo. There have been many real-life incidents where husbands risked their lives to save their wives and vice versa.
In 2017 Las Vegas shooting, Sonny Melton, shielded his wife, Heather, from gunfire and died in the process.
In 2013 Boston bombing, James Costello was injured in the bombing but used his body to shield his then-girlfriend (now wife), Krista D’Agostino and they later married.
In August 2020, Mark Rapley punched a shark repeatedly until it let go of his wife Chantelle’s leg
My cousin's babe (from US and only child) defied all orders to live with him in a riverine city in Nigeria despite her influential background.
While I was hiking along a certain trail, I put my life on the line to save a kid from a bear attack.
I don't have issue with transactional sex if that's what I want, I don't have issues with friends with benefits if that's what I desire and I'll roll with a sugarmum if it tickles my fantasy but when it comes to marriage it's 100% commitment. That commitment on both parties creates a unique bond that makes you willing to do anything for the other party.
➜By the way do you hike? I was shocked to see LakeShore Trail as your location.

1. Why the switching of context? The OP and I were on marriage in Nigeria and with Nigerians? Why you come switch things to the U.S?

2. Bike.

Samantha125:
Someone needs to tell this man to trim his beard, because what kind of a bush is this?

But anyways, if tables were turned, they'd have said the woman is a gold digger... The husband feels emasculated simply because the wife didn't include his name as well, like no one is stopping him from also buying his own property in his name.

Are you a beardless man behind a female account?

A lion with fur around the head is always better-looking.

I'm woman and I have to say some women are brave... Imagine diving into that kind of a tropical rainforest that probably has bats and snakes in the name of kissing your man...🤦🤦🤦

You can't be comparing a lion's fur with that Amazonian forest.

Caseless:
Are you a beardless man behind a female account?

A lion with fur around the head is always better-looking.