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Re: We Spent Almost N500,000 At Mortuary": Man Whose Wife Died During Labour by Burshh: 7:47pm On Apr 06, 2025

Maternity care is heavily discounted and it is almost free in Lagos. I enjoyed their services in the past, from Ante-natal to post-natal. It is pathetic this happened to this woman and the unborn baby. Obviously, a lot of negligence, ignorance are in the mix of this story.

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Re: We Spent Almost N500,000 At Mortuary": Man Whose Wife Died During Labour by favour32(m): 7:48pm On Apr 06, 2025

That hospital wicked!

Re: We Spent Almost N500,000 At Mortuary": Man Whose Wife Died During Labour by bukatyne(f): 7:50pm On Apr 06, 2025

How was a man unable to raise N500k for his wife's emergency capable of raising N500k for burial?

I totally align with Kobojunkie's thoughts on this.

Women SHOULD
1. birth the number of kids they can care for.
2. Prepare for emergencies
3. Walk into a government facility and get birth control.

Biko engage the brains you have and stop this senseless death/loss.

The said man will wipe his tears (if any), marry after six months and expose the other kids to danger.

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Re: We Spent Almost N500,000 At Mortuary": Man Whose Wife Died During Labour by PussyMiners: 7:50pm On Apr 06, 2025

Typing:
Tinubu has caused too much hardship on many South Westerners.

May God comfort the family

You are right my favourite nairaland almanjiri

Re: We Spent Almost N500,000 At Mortuary": Man Whose Wife Died During Labour by boldsleek: 7:50pm On Apr 06, 2025

Dogalmighty17:
The question I want to ask is this. Where did his wife do her antenatal? Because one of the things you get to know beforehand during antenatal is if surgery will be scheduled or not. You are even given a date where you come in and this date comes a few days before your EDD.

I know emergency surgery does happen sometimes. But it is very rare.

Let's not sugar coat anything. This man was negligent in every way assuming of course his story should be believed.

you are knowledgeable about how this things work.

Even surgery fee in govt hospitals are like 150k, which couples will have like 6/7 months to start working towards how to raise it before the day of CS.

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Re: We Spent Almost N500,000 At Mortuary": Man Whose Wife Died During Labour by nairalanda1(m): 7:51pm On Apr 06, 2025

God1000:
what do you mean by self inflicted tragedy? Why blaming them instead of the hospital, Where is your good heart

I once worked in a hospital where the owner in cases like this will treat the patient and collect money later.

Some paid, the majority did not.

Final straw was when he started having issues with salaries and so forth

I even know of one village hospital where the doctor was doing same. Hospital shut down in two years. No money. Too much free service because doctor na our brother

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Re: We Spent Almost N500,000 At Mortuary": Man Whose Wife Died During Labour by fyneboi79(m): 7:51pm On Apr 06, 2025

Very stupid and lazy man! Your wife went through a nine month ordeal and you didn't have an emergency account for such occurrences? See as he was snapping pictures up and down with the unfortunate woman instead of hustling...

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Re: We Spent Almost N500,000 At Mortuary": Man Whose Wife Died During Labour by yomi007k(m): 7:51pm On Apr 06, 2025

Burshh:
Maternity care is heavily discounted and it is almost free in Lagos. I enjoyed their services in the past, from Ante-natal to post-natal. It is pathetic this happened to this woman and the unborn baby. Obviously, a lot of negligence, ignorance are in the mix of this story.

Did your maternity care require an emergency cesarean section?
If not then your case is different.

Re: We Spent Almost N500,000 At Mortuary": Man Whose Wife Died During Labour by nairalanda1(m): 7:53pm On Apr 06, 2025

Hussein035:
I don't think you are fine. It's not your fault it's all because you have a job that is giving you over 200k salary

How many people in Lagos has a job paying more than 120k salary even for Bsc holders

This is reality so stop typing nonsense

So because most people are poor, private hospitals should offer services for free

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Re: We Spent Almost N500,000 At Mortuary": Man Whose Wife Died During Labour by yomi007k(m): 7:53pm On Apr 06, 2025

boldsleek:
you are knowledgeable about how this things work.

Even surgery fee in govt hospitals are like 150k, which couples will have like 6/7 months to start working towards how to raise it before the day of CS.

Which government hospital dey collect 150k and what year?

Remember this case happened in Lagos.

Re: We Spent Almost N500,000 At Mortuary": Man Whose Wife Died During Labour by RodgersAkpafu: 7:54pm On Apr 06, 2025

ClassicEvilSpir:
Why should a poor man even nurse dubious ideas of bringing children into the world? The idiot couldn't even plan ahead, even the woman did not apply common sense. Private Hospitals are profit first. If you don't work in the hospital, you won't understand how people take, or took advantage of the Health Facility generosity; you know Nigerians are evil people naw. They utilized the hospital's services, then refused to pay. Some will even run away.

After poor man and woman don breed, multiply like rabbits, Dem go begin dey curse der children, dey blame them, blame leaders, blame hardship for their dumb decisions. Fk poor fertile people for stunting the growth of innocent souls. Fk em, fk em, fk em....

what are u saying ?

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Re: We Spent Almost N500,000 At Mortuary": Man Whose Wife Died During Labour by nairalanda1(m): 7:54pm On Apr 06, 2025

autoez:
Reading through this thread honestly breaks my heart and makes me lose hope in Nigeria. A country where a man loses his wife because he couldn’t afford emergency hospital bills, and instead of compassion, people rush to call him irresponsible and useless. Do you know how many families in the North live in worse conditions yet still raise children with whatever little they have? But no one shames them.
We live in a society where people contribute millions to vote for Big Brother Naija housemates, yet when it comes to helping someone in real need, someone desperate and helpless, silence. Mockery. Blame.
If life is good for you today, thank God, but never forget it can all change in a moment. Instead of mocking those who are struggling, try to help. Show empathy. Because tomorrow, it could be you no matter how prepared you think you may be.
It pains me to say this, but many Nigerians especially in the South have become cold, selfish, and shockingly heartless. May God help us all.

And many of those excess kids are running on the street up North. Never ends well

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Re: We Spent Almost N500,000 At Mortuary": Man Whose Wife Died During Labour by APOPTOSIS: 7:54pm On Apr 06, 2025

emmaodet:
I don't know why people who are poor and struggling like adding more to their life.
You can't raise 500k yet trying to have 3rd baby, does it really make any sense?
Like, surfer no dey tire una?
At the end of the day, they start putting unnecessary pressure on a close relative or family member for help and start throwing jabs at him if he doesn't.
They will say he doesn't want to help despite having or are they not seeing the kind of car, house and party or vacation he goes to? So why can't he stop those things for them? Entitled people.

Honestly it's saddening.
Even those wey get money no dey born like this.
Why can't people use their tongues to count their Teeth
Is it difficult?

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Re: We Spent Almost N500,000 At Mortuary": Man Whose Wife Died During Labour by Acidosis(m): 7:56pm On Apr 06, 2025

It is easy to blame the man or the hospital until you realise that, in emergency situations, you really can’t blame anyone. A proper hospital will usually inform you of their charges and bills, even during antenatal visits, giving you enough time to hustle and save up. All things being equal, everything should go well until you encounter a situation where you have to use another hospital for an emergency at the peak of your third trimester - a hospital without your medical history. So, if this new hospital charges the emergency patient 100% more than the hospital he registered with, what should he do aside asking for more time to get the money? We should be considerate when judging such matters.

500,000 seems like a small amount until you face an emergency where the closest hospital demands 2 million upfront for delivery, surgery, or anything else. Being an emergency already reduces the patient’s survival rate. I believe though that a hospital could be more lenient in cases like this, but knowing how Nigerians often undermine the best ideas and try to cut corners, it’s hard to place the blame on one party.

The sad reality is that even with 500k paid upfront, only God knows whether she would have survived, unfortunately. One place I don't wish to visit ever again is that place they call "labour room/theater" or "post-natal" ward.

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Re: We Spent Almost N500,000 At Mortuary": Man Whose Wife Died During Labour by femi4: 7:56pm On Apr 06, 2025

God1000:
sometimes you don't make sense at all

Most times he doesn't. He's always looking for engagement

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Re: We Spent Almost N500,000 At Mortuary": Man Whose Wife Died During Labour by nairalanda1(m): 7:58pm On Apr 06, 2025

favour32:
That hospital wicked!

It's because you never work for hospital where salary is delayed for staff because patient will beg to be treated first and pay later, only to vanish.

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Re: We Spent Almost N500,000 At Mortuary": Man Whose Wife Died During Labour by Kobojunkie: 7:59pm On Apr 06, 2025*

nairalanda1:
➜ And many of those excess kids are running on the street up North. Never ends well

You forgot to include the agberos and the many gangsters recruited by people like asari dokubo , the fat pig in the riverine area. undecided

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Re: We Spent Almost N500,000 At Mortuary": Man Whose Wife Died During Labour by SAMBARRY: 8:01pm On Apr 06, 2025

Hussein035:
If we check your background now your great grand father might had 25 children even with only 5 plot of land farming job yet he raised all the children

If you think people must be rich BEFORE having children go and ask those who earn over 500k before having children but their source of income hit a big rock should they return their children back to God since there's no MONEY again

Stop typing nonsense on people's situation you are only covered by grace

another poor mam talk.yes my grandfather had 8 children and he had the financial means to take care of them because my grandfather was a lawyer and my grandmother was a jewelry and fabric trader so both of them took care of their kids well and that's why they have sensible children not like you whose pen1s is doing the job of his brain.

Am I against having kids,no.i am absolutely against having kids you have no financial resources to cater for.if you like be having 20 kids every 3 eke market days that's your cup of tea as long as you can take care of them and cater to their wellbeing- food,clothing, health care and education. You cannot afford N200k yet you're breeding children like rabbits so tomorrow they can be nuisance. You nor get sense? undecided

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Re: We Spent Almost N500,000 At Mortuary": Man Whose Wife Died During Labour by Blackdisciple(m): 8:01pm On Apr 06, 2025

First I condemn the hospital for their nonchalant act. They should have make sure she put to birth safely first at least then any other thing can follow.
Just imagine same money he couldn't pay or provide that led to the demise of his wife now he has to use it at the mortuary, were was that money before she died probably contribution from well wishers but You see this life no one is coming to help you but will be willing to help the dead. Yes whatsoever needed to be use and help her in making sure she put to birth safely is available in store, they bought those items so why not make use of the ones needed and tender your bill afterward which for sure he will do the needful afterward.

I blame government, there came a time in my life I get to realized that human lives doesn't matter in Nigeria...
May she and the unborn continue rest in the Lord cry

Re: We Spent Almost N500,000 At Mortuary": Man Whose Wife Died During Labour by ennon92(m): 8:03pm On Apr 06, 2025

The experience is unpalatable...That's how i lost my twins last year September, my wife gave birth prematurely at home, I wasnt even around cos I travelled so had to tell her to go to her mom's place with my son...She didn't even know it was labor prior to that day tho she was feeling uneasy, it was around 2am she delivered them, thank God she was stayed with her mom, if not how she would have done it by herself and my 3 years old boy...After the delivery, they had to rush her down to MCC but they rejected her outrightly despite how she was bleeding profusely...they were told to go to General Hospital at Akodo or Island Maternity on the island, despite outrageous charges Mother and Child at Abraham Adesanya collected for antenatal yet they couldn't attend to my wife, they had to sent them away..On getting to Island Maternity they discovered one of the twins already died while the second one was refered to Masssey Children's hospital, we stayed there for 25 days, we spent a lot, over 500k, buy these buy that, we paid for oxygen 3k a day, incubator 1,500 a day, and some other mumu expenses, different drugs, injections, blood transfusion nko...omo it was a terrible experience...still lost the other twin, but thank God my wife is hale and hearty now...Person wey hin wife born without stress or difficulty no knw wetin God do am...This country is terrible, nothing is working, just pray you don't have challenges beyond your power, if not eh, u go wail tire,

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Re: We Spent Almost N500,000 At Mortuary": Man Whose Wife Died During Labour by SIRTee15: 8:04pm On Apr 06, 2025

Pls let's leave sentiment aside and ask real questions.

Did his wife register for antenatal? If yes, which hospital? Did they go to the hospital during thos emergency?

Most hospital normally admit and attend to their REGISTERED PREGNANT PATIENTS AND WHO ATTENDED ANTENATAL REGULARLY even during emergency.
It's very rare for a hospital to reject their registered pregnant patient during emergency except of the case is beyond what they could cope with.

Besides, I can't remember Nigeria govt has any plan for free delivery or antenatal. Most couple plan towards it, how much did he keep aside for such antenatal emergency or he was hoping everything will go uneventful.

Finally, why did he even think of going to private hospital in emergency. Most private hospital don't have facilities to manage emergency in the first place. His first thought should have been taken his wife to a govt hosp.

It's a pity a beautiful life is lost due to negligence and callousness of all parties involved.

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Re: We Spent Almost N500,000 At Mortuary": Man Whose Wife Died During Labour by nairalanda1(m): 8:05pm On Apr 06, 2025

Blackdisciple:
First I condemn the hospital for their nonchalant act. They should have make sure she put to birth safely first at least then any other thing can follow.
Just imagine same money he couldn't pay or provide that led to the demise of his wife now he has to use it at the mortuary, were was that money before she died probably contribution from well wishers but You see this life no one is coming to help you but will be willing to help the dead. Yes whatsoever needed to be use and help her in making sure she put to birth safely is available in store, they bought those items so why not make use of the ones needed and tender your bill afterward which for sure he will do the needful afterward.

I blame government, there came a time in my life I get to realized that human lives doesn't matter in Nigeria...
May she and the unborn continue rest in the Lord

Don't blame hospital.

Hospitals have shut down because ' they were treating people without payment '.

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Re: We Spent Almost N500,000 At Mortuary": Man Whose Wife Died During Labour by nurudeen181(m): 8:05pm On Apr 06, 2025

Hussein035:
I don't think you are fine. It's not your fault it's all because you have a job that is giving you over 200k salary

How many people in Lagos has a job paying more than 120k salary even for Bsc holders

This is reality so stop typing nonsense

Honestly all this people posting this things are imbeciles, i really feel cold reading this comment section like are they human beings or bots, how many of their own goons have upto a milli in their account out of 300m nigerians? What makes them think their account balance will solve their problems, why do they think if they plan ahead it must work according to their plans, why do they think having a certain amount in account can offset their future problems? Do they even understand that inflation will keep rising, I'm certain they are not humans or probably they're those lucky type who doesn't know how Life can turn around for people within seconds. I pity myself sharing this platform with people without empathy

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Re: We Spent Almost N500,000 At Mortuary": Man Whose Wife Died During Labour by Evercurious(f): 8:08pm On Apr 06, 2025

God1000:
sometimes you don't make sense at all

He is very correct...

Re: We Spent Almost N500,000 At Mortuary": Man Whose Wife Died During Labour by ogascomax: 8:09pm On Apr 06, 2025

Kobojunkie:
I don't blame the hospitals for the mistakes of the man and his wife. As a matter of fact, I would recommend that the man be investigated to be certain he did not intend to kill his wife and kids in all of this.

Some of una are still babies in thought. Pray that you don't enter some emergency that is when you will understand life.

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Re: We Spent Almost N500,000 At Mortuary": Man Whose Wife Died During Labour by ClassicEvilSpir: 8:09pm On Apr 06, 2025

SalamRushdie:
Your Grandfather poor , your father poor , you poor but suddenly it's unacceptable for Poor people to have kids .. 10 years ago 500k childbirth was the preserve of hospitals like Reddington , with his 200k he should be able to give birth to his kid

There is no virtue in making life harder for oneself and unwilling participants. The Koreans, the northern Europeans; most western countries in general, despite their better standard of living, are facing a decline in population thanks to reduced breeding. Many are smart to realize if they do not have certain resources to birth and raise a child or children, then they are better without.

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Re: We Spent Almost N500,000 At Mortuary": Man Whose Wife Died During Labour by ennon92(m): 8:11pm On Apr 06, 2025

SIRTee15:
Pls let's leave sentiment aside and ask real questions.

Did his wife register for antenatal? If yes, which hospital? Did they go to the hospital during thos emergency?

Most hospital normally admit and attend to their REGISTERED PREGNANT PATIENTS AND WHO ATTENDED ANTENATAL REGULARLY even during emergency.
It's very rare for a hospital to reject their registered pregnant patient during emergency except of the case is beyond what they could cope with.

Besides, I can't remember Nigeria govt has any plan for free delivery or antenatal. Most couple plan towards it, how much did he keep aside for such antenatal emergency or he was hoping everything will go uneventful.

Finally, why did he even think of going to private hospital in emergency. Most private hospital don't have facilities to manage emergency in the first place. His first thought should have been taken his wife to a govt hosp.

It's a pity a beautiful life is lost due to negligence and callousness of all parties involved.

Bro, my wife attended antenatal whenever they gave her appointment...A week before she gave birth prematurely, she still went there, she complained of how she was feeling, they said it's normal cos she's carrying twins...

Not until you experience these things, you wouldn't know how fvcked up this country is

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Re: We Spent Almost N500,000 At Mortuary": Man Whose Wife Died During Labour by jojothaiv(m): 8:11pm On Apr 06, 2025

nurudeen181:
Honestly all this people posting this things are imbeciles, i really feel cold reading this comment section like are they human beings or bots, how many of their own goons have upto a milli in their account out of 300m nigerians? What makes them think their account balance will solve their problems, why do they think if they plan ahead it must work according to their plans, why do they think having a certain amount in account can offset their future problems? Do they even understand that inflation will keep rising, I'm certain they are not humans or probably they're those lucky type who doesn't know how Life can turn around for people within seconds. I pity myself sharing this platform with people without empathy

Thing is Nairaland reality differs from what's obtainable outside, so it's best you skip some comments for Pete's sake.

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Re: We Spent Almost N500,000 At Mortuary": Man Whose Wife Died During Labour by ClassicEvilSpir: 8:12pm On Apr 06, 2025

RodgersAkpafu:
what are u saying ?

Africans took the "be fruitful and multiply" literally. It is all about fking, breeding, and "God will provide" to them.

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Re: We Spent Almost N500,000 At Mortuary": Man Whose Wife Died During Labour by ozo13(m): 8:12pm On Apr 06, 2025

Dogalmighty17:
The question I want to ask is this. Where did his wife do her antenatal? Because one of the things you get to know beforehand during antenatal is if surgery will be scheduled or not. You are even given a date where you come in and this date comes a few days before your EDD.

I know emergency surgery does happen sometimes. But it is very rare.

Let's not sugar coat anything. This man was negligent in every way assuming of course his story should be believed.

The man only talking about the one that will favor his argument.
He didn't tell us about antenatal care and all that happened before they rushed her to the hospital because he doesn't want anyone to blame him.

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Re: We Spent Almost N500,000 At Mortuary": Man Whose Wife Died During Labour by BlocksNG(m): 8:12pm On Apr 06, 2025

who is this animal?

Kobojunkie:
I don't blame the hospitals for the mistakes of the man and his wife. As a matter of fact, I would recommend that the man be investigated to be certain he did not intend to kill his wife and kids in all of this.

Re: We Spent Almost N500,000 At Mortuary": Man Whose Wife Died During Labour by ennon92(m): 8:12pm On Apr 06, 2025

ogascomax:
Some of una are still babies in thought. Pray that you don't enter some emergency that is when you will understand life.

that guy or lady you quoted is mentally deranged

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