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InfernoNig:
Honestly, stuff like this is why couples need to stop skipping the real convos before the wedding. Love is great, but it won’t fix deep differences like this. I don’t think it’s fair to expect the woman to just switch churches —marriage should be about compromise, not control. Both need to meet halfway, or it’s gonna be problems down the line.

Tit4Tat1:
What are you saying!
A woman who's getting married already knows that must switch church, unless the man doesn't care... These are long standing practices so I don't understand what you mean by you don't think it's fair to expect the woman to just switch church..

InfernoNig:
Ah ah, but not every time na! So because it's "long standing" it means it must remain like that forever? Abeg, if both partners can't talk it through and find common ground, how marriage wan take work? Not every woman go just waka change church like that—some people are really committed to where they worship. Communication and compromise still dey important o.

Tit4Tat1:
You guys are the enablers of these women taking you for granted all in the name of been in a woke generation by tolerating certain things which are paramount then come online to cry about how ur wife doesn't respect/regard you..

Mindlog:
That should be thoroughly explored and talked about when dating, which Church do they both want to attend as a married couple.

InfernoNig:
Lol abeg no be every issue be “woke generation” matter. Sometimes, respect na mutual thing — no be by force or old school mentality. If a woman no dey respect you, maybe check yourself too. Everything no be “women bad,” sometimes na the person wey no get sense.

Justbehave:
Crab

Chummynoni:
Why must husband and wife attend the same church? Which law says that? Some people and stupidity sha.

Chummynoni:
Why must husband and wife attend the same church? Which law says that? Some people and stupidity sha.

LawWithEbele:
Vanguard, 7th April edition, reported how a wedding was called off because the bride allegedly refused to follow the groom to his church. Both were Christians but of different denominations.

This is a sober reminder of the need to address certain issues before saying “I do.”
Don’t assume all is well just because you’re in love. Infatuation fades, but the issues you ignore today may become the cracks in your marriage tomorrow.

Ask the hard questions:

What church will we both attend?

How will we handle finances, joint account or separate?

How involved will in-laws be in our decisions?

What’s our stance on parenting and discipline?

Are we on the same page about roles and expectations in marriage?

Most divorce cases don’t start with big fights. They begin with these “little foxes” that go unchecked and gradually eat away at the foundation.

So what’s your take, must a woman follow her husband to his church? Or should they both find a common ground?

What other important matters do you think couples should settle before tying the knot?

Let’s talk. You just might help someone avoid a broken engagement or a broken home.

Tit4Tat1:
You guys are the enablers of these women taking you for granted all in the name of been in a woke generation by tolerating certain things which are paramount then come online to cry about how ur wife doesn't respect/regard you..