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Please lawyers in the house! I need your advice! Please forgive my typo, My head no carry book like that…

So my story starts from here: Our late father own a house in Lagos, land Measuring 640S/meters with a story building inside plus an Uncompleted building at the back fenced in the same compound.

Now we are 7, 5boys which am the first son, with 2 girls one is older than me, but both female are married, all my siblings are living aboard Except my elder sister n myself. We live in Nigeria!

So, around last year I had Financial issue, I came up with the ideal to sale the Uncompleted building at the back of our house to raise funds, but then I knew I couldn't do this alone, so I contacted my Immediate younger brother told him of my plan, Note the remain of my siblings we don’t talk like that! Some it been years I saw or heard from them! The family had never been together thot.

I then told my younger brother to try and see if he could reach the rest and inform them, at some point after like say 3weeks he told me he had reached out to them and since none of them can help me with funds that I should go ahead to sell.

Please note! I wasn’t selling the whole house, but a cut, a piece of land Measuring about 200sqmer from the full plot which is 640sqmer.

During the time I inform my brother about this, he was still in Nigeria then, so I kept on looking for buyer, when I later find one I could no longer get a hold on my brother! For weeks his number wasn’t Reachable.

Only for him to msg me out of the blue that his now in the UK: I was happy for him in my mind at least he Escaped this Nigeria Economy, I then asked him about what we Discussed n how I find buyer and wanted him to co-sign! He went off line and the next time I hear from one of my siblings again is through my younger brother who is in Canada, he is actually our last born! Now he came with Attacks and I believe Most have spoken with the rest and they made a decision to Intimidate me with Nigeria army…

The army visited where I live and Invited me with them to meet one of their OGA! I believe that was the person my siblings contacted to do the job, to Harass an intermediate me on a property I also had right on.

When we got to where the oga was, it was like a Military bar around my area there at command! The oga was taking sides , they used fan belt on my head while telling me he will Cripple me if I go ahead to sell the house. My siblings already sold me Cheaply to him.

After the Intimidation, the oga handled me to his boys to finish talk with me, they wanted me to write an Undertaking which I reused, after much talk I Realized my younger sister was involved, she wouldn’t have done this herself but with the help of her husband, They both live in the UK.

My immediate younger brother is also in the UK with them, this my sister also knows the way she connects with my Remaining brothers even with my sister here in Nigeria ! The Amry said they will try to speak with them to help me with money after what they did to me!


At this point I do not need any help from them, since it Obvious they are also interested in the property and as the first son it seem that all the money I spent on the house I can’t make Decision on it in the future.

Since this property is the only thing that joins us together, I kind of want my own share of the property, because I see this property becoming a problem in the future and I don’t want to be part of this anymore.

So lawyers in the house, is it possible to Request for my rights through the court? What do u think I should do, I know my case is not first of a kind, so what step do u think the law is going to take since the property is in Lagos, my dad died about 20yrs ago, my mum also died 4years ago! Dad doesn’t have a (WILL) my siblings are my blood same parents.

I just want my share and please the family for them!

The family no be one get that clear
U too get ur past error same as everybody
And more over its looks embarrassing to some people instead of developing what their father left they are selling it
No look am like bad person
If you need money it's shouldn't be the late father property na Una gather get am na there be Una family house
Ur bro might have plans to develop it so that your children and his can have a place to show people as their family house

They've given you a sign to find a job. You cannot sell something that everybody is sharing.

Emmau0091:
Our late father own a house in Lagos, land Measuring 640S/meters with a story building inside plus and Uncompleted building at the back.

Now we are 7, 5boys which am the first son, with 2 girls one is older than me, but both female are married, all my siblings are living aboard Except my elder sister n myself. We live in Nigeria!

So, around last year I had Financial issue, I came up with the ideal to sale Uncompleted building at the back of our house to raise funds, but then I knew I couldn't do this alone, so I contacted my Immediate younger brother told him of my plan, Note the remain of my siblings we don’t talk like that! Some it been years I saw or heard from them! The family had never been together thot.

I then told my younger brother to try and see if he can reach the rest and inform them, at some point after like say 3weeks he told me he had reached out to them and since none of them can help me with funds that I should go ahead to sell.

Please note! I wasn’t selling the whole house, but a cut, a piece of land Measuring about 200sqmer from the full plot which is 640sqmer.

During the time I inform my brother about this, he was still in Nigeria then, so I kept on looking for buyer, now I find one I could no longer get a hold on my brother! For weeks his number wasn’t Reachable.

Only for him to msg me out of the blue that his now in the UK: I was happy for him in my mind at least he Escaped this Nigeria Economy, I then asked him about what we Discussed n how I find buyer and wanted him to co-sign! He went off line and the next time I hear from one of my siblings again is through my younger brother who is in Canada, he is actually our last born! Now he came with Attacks and I believe most have spoken with the rest and they made a decision to Intimidate me with Nigeria army.

The army visited where I live and Invited me with that to meet one of their OGA I said! I believe that was the person my siblings contacted to do the job, to Harass an intermediate asked me to meet with me

meobizy:
They've given you a sign to find a job. You cannot sell something that everybody is sharing.

Abi. Na common wealth.

I don't recommend selling that property, even if the property is to be shared. Do you think you will get up to the plot you intend to sell? The least you can do is try to make your siblings understand by letting them allow you to have access to the funds accrued from leasing the land or house for 1, 2, or even 5 years, not an outright sale.

And for your siblings to have involved the military I believe you must have made some threats of selling the said property without their approval. They must have felt using the military would be their best line of defense, and scaring you not to harbor the thought of selling the property.

The military will likely take sides with them because, to them, you are a lazy brat who wants to live on his father's inheritance while his siblings are working very hard. Because so many Nigerians consider living abroad as an achievement and being successful.

I once had this same issue with my siblings. After much argument, we all settled on rotating the rents annually, biannually, or quarterly, depending on how severe the financial struggle of particular siblings is. Dad's compounds were more like osusu among us then.

Emmau0091:
Please lawyers in the house! I need your advice! Please forgive my typo, My head no carry book like that…

So my story starts from here: Our late father own a house in Lagos, land Measuring 640S/meters with a story building inside plus an Uncompleted building at the back fenced in the same compound.

Now we are 7, 5boys which am the first son, with 2 girls one is older than me, but both female are married, all my siblings are living aboard Except my elder sister n myself. We live in Nigeria!

So, around last year I had Financial issue, I came up with the ideal to sale the Uncompleted building at the back of our house to raise funds, but then I knew I couldn't do this alone, so I contacted my Immediate younger brother told him of my plan, Note the remain of my siblings we don’t talk like that! Some it been years I saw or heard from them! The family had never been together thot.

I then told my younger brother to try and see if he could reach the rest and inform them, at some point after like say 3weeks he told me he had reached out to them and since none of them can help me with funds that I should go ahead to sell.

Please note! I wasn’t selling the whole house, but a cut, a piece of land Measuring about 200sqmer from the full plot which is 640sqmer.

During the time I inform my brother about this, he was still in Nigeria then, so I kept on looking for buyer, when I later find one I could no longer get a hold on my brother! For weeks his number wasn’t Reachable.

Only for him to msg me out of the blue that his now in the UK: I was happy for him in my mind at least he Escaped this Nigeria Economy, I then asked him about what we Discussed n how I find buyer and wanted him to co-sign! He went off line and the next time I hear from one of my siblings again is through my younger brother who is in Canada, he is actually our last born! Now he came with Attacks and I believe Most have spoken with the rest and they made a decision to Intimidate me with Nigeria army…

The army visited where I live and Invited me with them to meet one of their OGA! I believe that was the person my siblings contacted to do the job, to Harass an intermediate me on a property I also had right on.

When we got to where the oga was, it was like a Military bar around my area there at command! The oga was taking sides , they used fan belt on my head while telling me he will Cripple me if I go ahead to sell the house. My siblings already sold me Cheaply to him.

After the Intimidation, the oga handled me to his boys to finish talk with me, they wanted me to write an Undertaking which I reused, after much talk I Realized my younger sister was involved, she wouldn’t have done this herself but with the help of her husband, They both live in the UK.

My immediate younger brother is also in the UK with them, this my sister also knows the way she connects with my Remaining brothers even with my sister here in Nigeria ! The Amry said they will try to speak with them to help me with money after what they did to me!


At this point I do not need any help from them, since it Obvious they are also interested in the property and as the first son it seem that all the money I spent on the house I can’t make Decision on it in the future.

Since this property is the only thing that joins us together, I kind of want my own share of the property, because I see this property becoming a problem in the future and I don’t want to be part of this anymore.

So lawyers in the house, is it possible to Request for my rights through the court? What do u think I should do, I know my case is not first of a kind, so what step do u think the law is going to take since the property is in Lagos, my dad died about 20yrs ago, my mum also died 4years ago! Dad doesn’t have a (WILL) my siblings are my blood same parents.

I just want my share and please the family for them!

it's the same thing that is happening to me where I have the 4 of my younger ones abroad but they no send me and I am there first son, brother don't be in a hurry to sell that house, they will think you aren't serious with your life. Instead go get a job

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columbus007:
it's the same thing that is happening to me where I have the 4 of my younger ones abroad but they no send me and I am there first son, brother don't be in a hurry to sell that house, they will think you aren't serious with your life. Instead go get a job

I'm suprised ó. This your younger siblings are not same father same mother?

The matter is somehow to me, but my worry is how come you not in good terms with your own blood? because if you were this issue wouldn't have emanated to this level of them using a third party to scare you off a joint property.please amend things , As eldest son you ought to be enjoying proceeds from them knowing they likely be doing well abroad .Take your mind off selling any property for now and create an atmosphere of peace and love that way it's a win win for you, but if you decide to feel intimidated and abused by their actions,I can tell you freely that more will come your way.Earn that RESPECT by bringing that family to be a unit.
NB: Using your brother (your closest pal) as your mouth piece to talk to others on the sale of a joint property was wrong, for God sake they are your family not outsiders.

Ex0rrcist:
I'm suprised ó. This your younger siblings are not same father same mother?

to be candid, same dad but different mom, what actually happened was because my mom died earlier when I was very little I think about 2 years. But the first son.

columbus007:
to be candid, same dad but different mom, what actually happened was because my mom died earlier when I was very little I think about 2 years. But the first son.

Thought as much, this kind of situation is occasionally seen in our society, and the fault is mostly from the mother. I hope you find your footing, no be everybody go travel before dey make am. You can still be keeping in touch with them like siblings do while not having any expectations of them helping you, that might also make your relationship with them stronger, and be a proper family unit. It takes nothing away from you, also shows your status as the eldest.
Sorry about your mom, you never got to know her quite well not to talk of bond, that's so sad to imagine.

Psady:
The matter is somehow to me, but my worry is how come you not in good terms with your own blood? because if you were this issue wouldn't have emanated to this level of them using a third party to scare you off a joint property.please amend things , As eldest son you ought to be enjoying proceeds from them knowing they likely be doing well abroad .Take your mind off selling any property for now and create an atmosphere of peace and love that way it's a win win for you, but if you decide to feel intimidated and abused by their actions,I can tell you freely that more will come your way.Earn that RESPECT by bringing that family to be a unit.
NB: Using your brother (your closest pal) as your mouth piece to talk to others on the sale of a joint property was wrong, for God sake they are your family not outsiders.

Well said. I was suprised to read everything he said and then finish off with "they're same blood". Op take this advice serious.

Ex0rrcist:
Thought as much, this kind of situation is occasionally seen in our society, and the fault is mostly from the mother. I hope you find your footing, no be everybody go travel before dey make am. You can still be keeping in touch with them like siblings do while not having any expectations of them helping you, that might also make your relationship with them stronger, and be a proper family unit. It takes nothing away from you, also shows your status as the eldest.
Sorry about your mom, you never got to know her quite well not to talk of bond, that's so sad to imagine.

they have taken side with their mom's family as in sisters and brothers so we don't even talk.

columbus007:
they have taken side with their mom's family as in sisters and brothers so we don't even talk.

That's bad, but it's fine. Life happens.