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Racoon:
When offering help, don't be fixated on being thanked or otherwise. Let love in doing something good be a sacrificial thing.

Stop promoting ingratitude.
There's nobody who doesn't like being properly appreciated.
Even God wants us to give Him thanks...
Even our parents would be pissed when we don't show appreciation.
It's not about expecting anything in return but about having an attitude of being grateful.

blacksam01:
There is nothing bad here

Nothing bad, really?
To say “Guy thank you for the phone, you really came through for me. God bless you" is bad abi?

helinues:
Mr Layi the law. My man

I sent a guy money around middle of last year he was complaining of his generator not working, and I sent him money to repair his gen, buy fuel, subscribe internet and have something extra. Annoyingly,this guy didn't even ask me directly, he said he wanted to go and carry generator somewhere which I asked him what would the person be using again. I was like instead of inconveniency others, make I assist voluntarily .

Less than 24 hours, my guy was telling me he has exhausted the money that I should assist with more. I just simply told him I sent the last money in my account to him

100k in less than 24 hours when no be say na so I dey see money

Modified: All the people who are calling me a liar on this thread, is that how N100k is just so big to them. I swear to almighty God, I have made more than N100k today, Aje.

Dashing someone N100k na even manageable considering the Nigeria economy.

We be Omo ologo latipe, we no be Omo ologogoro like Portable who have landed himself in another trouble. He was in court today, probably reminded.

Alhamdullilahi for the grace because no be about being sabi, na just abundance grace

Nice gesture boss.
Come and patronize my hustle. Check my nature paintings and portrait paintings on my profile for ya love ones at affordable price. Thanks

Socratiz:
I have discovered that you just have to decide that you'd be a good person in his life whether you're appreciated or not.

Let me share my experience.

There's this guy who's a graduate teaching in one primary school where he was being payed 20k per month in the village. His mum is a friend to my wife.

We just thought about the woman and the son and my wife suggested we try to help. So we asked him to come to Lagos.

He lived with us for 7 months before we got him a job with one of the big 4 by God's grace. After 5 months he moved out closer to their office.

Now this guy doesn't bother to say Hi when we meet in church. He just throws away his face and avoids us.

Not that anyone expects a worship if they have been good to you but please show that you appreciate their sacrifice.

Please stop this sense of entitlement.

You lose nothing by acknowledging those who have been good to you.

Even God expects that you say "Thank you" when he blesses you.

An elderly man, a sexton in my Church in a Cantonment collapsed in a bathroom. He stays in the church.
I came around and learnt he was hospitalized...blood shortage and many other ish.
He doesn't really do much work. They just placed him on salary and gave him accommodation based on the benevolence of one of our former Vicars.

He even pooped on himself. An assistant Vicar cleaned him up. Some other civilian staffs helped take him to the hospital. I came around and learnt he needed urgent blood donation. I'm a donor. I donated 2 pints to him.
The Vicar/Church paid his bills and fed him.
He lived a useless life in his younger days birthing children with multiple women and being unable to train any to the university.
He was practically abandoned.

Baba came back from the hospital and all he did was grumbling till today. No thank you to anybody.

Grumbling and complaining. Keeping malice. I don't know what he wanted us to do differently ooo.

The Church is already talking about settling him with some amount of money and getting full time younger sextons.

DMCY:
Lent someone 100k since last year February. People around kept telling me not to lend the money to the person but the crying and gnashing of the person’s teeth made me feel they really needed it. Omo! Till now shishi I never see, instead na fight dem deh follow me fight for adugbo.
I don leave and forget even tho I dey pained.

the sad truth is when you offer help to most people there don’t see it as help, some feel there have put something in their mouth

ObiPandora:
E no go beta for ypu n your papa for this comment.

Unto say wetin happen?

kentokay71:
There a lot of ingrates in this country and they are always complaining, they are never contented all they know how to do is complain and they are very lazy as well , not ready to work and you see them blaming government for everything that happen to them

So if ur receiver does not lie on the ground he has not appreciated u...abeg park well Mr. Hepp

LOVEGINO:
I borrow person 100k for neighborhood since 2017 to complete house rent. Na with fight I take collect 50k last yr December.

Anytime someone says he wants to come and spend some few weeks at my place, it triggers PTSD.
Helped a friend with money as loan in 2019. Baba ghosted me.
He got into good money at PH and just fashi me ooo.

Relocated back to Abuja and was lodging in an hotel while house hunting. When money start to finish...he reached out to me ... begging for forgiveness and promising to do better.

I hosted this guy in my house for almost two years....wetin I no see?
Once money enter, he go travel to go see woman.
Set me up for trouble in my Cantonment.
Na God just save me.
When I summoned the willpower to chase him out with the debt he was still owing me, na serious fight...I don't just want to say a lot of things here...

But people can be very ungrateful.
Baba come dey follow underage girls...wan put me for trouble...dog lifestyle.

ExAngel007:
X users are sharing their experiences with
ingrates after skitmaker Layi Wasabi raised a
question via his tweet.

https://alexis.lindaikejisblog.com/photos/shares/Screenshot_20250414_111310_X_1744635592.jpg

"I know say heartbreak dey pain o but you don
help ingrate before?" Layi wrote on X.
One woman shared how she paid NGN430,000
for someone's rent and all the person said was
thanks.

https://alexis.lindaikejisblog.com/photos/shares/20250414_135335_1744635610.jpg

https://alexis.lindaikejisblog.com/photos/shares/Screenshot_20250414_111614_X_1744635610.jpg



One man shared a chat with someone he gave
money and it shows the person acknowledging
receipt with just "T". When he asked, the
recipient told him T is for thanks.

See below.

https://alexis.lindaikejisblog.com/photos/shares/Screenshot_20250414_111957_X_1744635631.jpg

https://alexis.lindaikejisblog.com/photos/shares/20250414_112008_1744635645.jpg

https://alexis.lindaikejisblog.com/photos/shares/20250414_112013_1744635671.jpg


https://www.lindaikejisblog.com/2025/4/man-shares-message-he-received-from-an-ingrate-he-gave-money-2.html

Is thanks not good enough, what else do they want. I don't even like to be thanked. Just acknowledged that you have received it. The thanks won't bring the money back or multiply what I have left

You have a point, here.

Yet even the Lord expects us to approach His gates with thanksgiving. E get why.

Racoon:
When offering help, don't be fixated on being thanked or otherwise. Let love in doing something good be a sacrificial thing.

Racoon:
When offering help, don't be fixated on being thanked or otherwise. Let love in doing something good be a sacrificial thing.

This is the ideal standard bro. But we are humans, and we mostly look forward to appreciation in any form. Gratefulness beautifies our character as humans.

God Almighty himself wants to receive thanks for the bounties he gives us, not to talk of
a mere human. Notice that a lot of the commenters where not explicitly expecting praise, but the show ungratefulness still hurts them somehow.

If someone is thankful to God and the people, he'll regularly receive more. But if you're the ungrateful type, even on the your deathbed, many would never want to help you again.

Socratiz:
I have discovered that you just have to decide that you'd be a good person in his life whether you're appreciated or not.

Let me share my experience.

There's this guy who's a graduate teaching in one primary school where he was being payed 20k per month in the village. His mum is a friend to my wife.

We just thought about the woman and the son and my wife suggested we try to help. So we asked him to come to Lagos.

He lived with us for 7 months before we got him a job with one of the big 4 by God's grace. After 5 months he moved out closer to their office.

Now this guy doesn't bother to say Hi when we meet in church. He just throws away his face and avoids us.

Not that anyone expects a worship if they have been good to you but please show that you appreciate their sacrifice.

Please stop this sense of entitlement.

You lose nothing by acknowledging those who have been good to you.

Even God expects that you say "Thank you" when he blesses you.

This is very painful. I wouldn't be surprised if the same person starts spreading tales about you and your family.

These days, you'll hardly help people with out regretting it almost instantly. For those telling others not to expect as much as a simple thanks are just being unrealistic.

'T' for thanks.

Goo0dHardDick:
I have no sympathy for ediots who waste their money on a girl disguising as a girlfriend.

That girl billing you is currently billing 10 other guys on her contact list. Anyone that pays becomes her mugu

Obobs!

That one only put a T emoji. WTF!! How long will it take you to write the complete word?. People sef

Tried accessing the painting, but not sure where to check it out.

Please send your WhatsApp contact to brythtv@gmail.com, so I could reach out and check it out.

Regards

quote author=Riqueleme post=134997343]

Nice gesture boss.
Come and patronize my hustle. Check my nature paintings and portrait paintings on my profile for ya love ones at affordable price. Thanks[/quote]

helinues:
Mr Layi the law. My man

I sent a guy money around middle of last year he was complaining of his generator not working, and I sent him money to repair his gen, buy fuel, subscribe internet and have something extra. Annoyingly,this guy didn't even ask me directly, he said he wanted to go and carry generator somewhere which I asked him what would the person be using again. I was like instead of inconveniency others, make I assist voluntarily .

Less than 24 hours, my guy was telling me he has exhausted the money that I should assist with more. I just simply told him I sent the last money in my account to him

100k in less than 24 hours when no be say na so I dey see money

Modified: All the people who are calling me a liar on this thread, is that how N100k is just so big to them. I swear to almighty God, I have made more than N100k today, Aje.

Dashing someone N100k na even manageable considering the Nigeria economy.

We be Omo ologo latipe, we no be Omo ologogoro like Portable who have landed himself in another trouble. He was in court today, probably reminded.

Alhamdullilahi for the grace because no be about being sabi, na just abundance grace

Make i see 4k manage myself baba, it will o a very long way 🤲🏿

DMCY:
Lent someone 100k since last year February. People around kept telling me not to lend the money to the person but the crying and gnashing of the person’s teeth made me feel they really needed it. Omo! Till now shishi I never see, instead na fight dem deh follow me fight for adugbo.
I don leave and forget even tho I dey pained.

I made this very mistake the first week of this year. The idiot couldn't even confirm the transaction. Even if someone is dying, I'll never make the mistake of lending them beyond what I can give them without expecting a repay, never.
Anyone that needs money should download OKash or any of the lending app. That way, they'll appreciate when you lend them interest-free loan.

helinues:
What exactly is some of you problem?

Why are you not allowing others to express themselves even if you don't have opinion of yours?

Make una stop this uninspiring attitude jare. Una go dey troll others senselessly inside this beautiful life. Stop being an opinion killer

Radarada

Pls ignore these trolls, they feel everybody can't afford what they cannot afford.

richiemcgold:
I gifted one guy in my hood my second phone after he lost his phone. Till today he did not even say thanks. What really pained me most was that few days later, my own sister asked for the same phone but I'd already given it out to this guy. He used that phone for almost 2 years before he bought a new one but there was never a time he thanked me for the gesture.

Bro, don't relent in doing good ok

ChiefOkporghe:
Anytime someone says he wants to come and spend some few weeks at my place, it triggers PTSD.
Helped a friend with money as loan in 2019. Baba ghosted me.
He got into good money at PH and just fashi me ooo.

Relocated back to Abuja and was lodging in an hotel while house hunting. When money start to finish...he reached out to me ... begging for forgiveness and promising to do better.

I hosted this guy in my house for almost two years....wetin I no see?
Once money enter, he go travel to go see woman.
Set me up for trouble in my Cantonment.
Na God just save me.
When I summoned the willpower to chase him out with the debt he was still owing me, na serious fight...I don't just want to say a lot of things here...

But people can be very ungrateful.
Baba come dey follow underage girls...wan put me for trouble...dog lifestyle.

it is well brother.

janeedema:
Tried accessing the painting, but not sure where to check it out.

Please send your WhatsApp contact to brythtv@gmail.com, so I could reach out and check it out.

Regards

quote author=Riqueleme post=134997343]

Nice gesture boss.
Come and patronize my hustle. Check my nature paintings and portrait paintings on my profile for ya love ones at affordable price. Thanks

My whatsapp digit: 07032521377
U can message me there for sure 👍

helinues:
Mr Layi the law. My man

I sent a guy money around middle of last year he was complaining of his generator not working, and I sent him money to repair his gen, buy fuel, subscribe internet and have something extra. Annoyingly,this guy didn't even ask me directly, he said he wanted to go and carry generator somewhere which I asked him what would the person be using again. I was like instead of inconveniency others, make I assist voluntarily .

Less than 24 hours, my guy was telling me he has exhausted the money that I should assist with more. I just simply told him I sent the last money in my account to him

100k in less than 24 hours when no be say na so I dey see money

Modified: All the people who are calling me a liar on this thread, is that how N100k is just so big to them. I swear to almighty God, I have made more than N100k today, Aje.

Dashing someone N100k na even manageable considering the Nigeria economy.

We be Omo ologo latipe, we no be Omo ologogoro like Portable who have landed himself in another trouble. He was in court today, probably reminded.

Alhamdullilahi for the grace because no be about being sabi, na just abundance grace

Based on what I have bolded, I would presume - you are a professional freelancer.

If I may ask, not doubting your earnings, what do you do as a freelancer?

If you check the two cases, it is a case of girl vs girl and boy vs girl. The givers, na girl and boy, the ingrates, both na girls. Relax man. No be everything be primitive gender war.

Goo0dHardDick:
I have no sympathy for ediots who waste their money on a girl disguising as a girlfriend.

That girl billing you is currently billing 10 other guys on her contact list. Anyone that pays becomes her mugu

Samantha125:
What else do they want to get aside from a thanks?

O common! What you said isn't even necessary - just walk out on him or spit in his pitiful face.

Someone should lend me..I promise I will forever be grateful.

Verily verily I said unto you,na why I no dey like help people especially girls

Old twitter gist.

helinues:
Mr Layi the law. My man

I sent a guy money around middle of last year he was complaining of his generator not working, and I sent him money to repair his gen, buy fuel, subscribe internet and have something extra. Annoyingly,this guy didn't even ask me directly, he said he wanted to go and carry generator somewhere which I asked him what would the person be using again. I was like instead of inconveniency others, make I assist voluntarily .

Less than 24 hours, my guy was telling me he has exhausted the money that I should assist with more. I just simply told him I sent the last money in my account to him

100k in less than 24 hours when no be say na so I dey see money

Modified: All the people who are calling me a liar on this thread, is that how N100k is just so big to them. I swear to almighty God, I have made more than N100k today, Aje.

Dashing someone N100k na even manageable considering the Nigeria economy.

We be Omo ologo latipe, we no be Omo ologogoro like Portable who have landed himself in another trouble. He was in court today, probably reminded.

Alhamdullilahi for the grace because no be about being sabi, na just abundance grace

God bless you more. Keep assisting people if you can, you don't need anybody's endorsement to do so.

Racoon:
When offering help, don't be fixated on being thanked or otherwise. Let love in doing something good be a sacrificial thing.

I agree, but sometimes little appreciate will give other people chances of getting helped