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One of the reason why a woman must follow her husband to his church after marriage is for her to be more respected and valued in her former church. If she decides to still be attending her former church, familiarity won't make her to be valued and respected. Imagine her visiting her former church with her husband after about two years or so, it will be so exciting and joyful than still be with them.

Me don't care

InfernoNig:
Honestly, stuff like this is why couples need to stop skipping the real convos before the wedding. Love is great, but it won’t fix deep differences like this. I don’t think it’s fair to expect the woman to just switch churches—marriage should be about compromise, not control. Both need to meet halfway, or it’s gonna be problems down the line.

No. Maybe the woman should also start staying in her fathers house after marriage to proves you right

You see this church issue of a thing, it is simply because Christians are not United. Some denominations believe they are the ones serving God right, others are not. In fact they criticise the mode of worship of other churches, dressing of members and all of that. I don't care which ever church you go, after all we serve the same almighty God. My wife and children attend a different church and I don't have problem with that and we have been living peacefully. Heaven didn't fall. I believe the fanatics are the ones taking this so serious.

Guestmale:
So far both of them are christians it's not compulsory but necessary and important especially for their children sake.

Good response. I will add to it by saying that the woman should demonstrate submission by carrying the man along in her reasons and decision to attend another church. The man should also extend kindness and grace by reasoning with her.

Last last, I have concluded that marriage is not hard if both individuals are true followers of the teachings of Jesus.

PS - My point of view is strictly on Christian marriage.

InfernoNig:
Lol abeg no be every issue be “woke generation” matter. Sometimes, respect na mutual thing — no be by force or old school mentality. If a woman no dey respect you, maybe check yourself too. Everything no be “women bad,” sometimes na the person wey no get sense.

You are taking it to another level entirely. Are you supporting a woman going to husband church or not simple. Which one is check yourself when the two of them just married..? How do you start your family? If you are not supporting them what if they have kids, which church would the kids go to.?

InfernoNig:
Honestly, stuff like this is why couples need to stop skipping the real convos before the wedding. Love is great, but it won’t fix deep differences like this. I don’t think it’s fair to expect the woman to just switch churches—marriage should be about compromise, not control. Both need to meet halfway, or it’s gonna be problems down the line.

You're right on point, communication is the key.it is good to attend same church but it's not mandatory.

I have seen people from different religions that have successful marriage.

If a woman cannot follow a man to his church,she should as well not follow him to his house

Tit4Tat1:
What are you saying!
A woman who's getting married already knows that she must switch church, unless the man doesn't care... These are long standing practices so I don't understand what you mean by you don't think it's fair to expect the woman to just switch church..

This is very simply.
Men this days are too weak to be called men.
They can do anything to satisfy a woman, but will come online to cry when their wives stops respecting them , Because they are too weak to react

Tit4Tat1:
What are you saying!
A woman who's getting married already knows that she must switch church, unless the man doesn't care... These are long standing practices so I don't understand what you mean by you don't think it's fair to expect the woman to just switch church..

Must....?

InfernoNig:
Ah ah, but not every time na! So because it's "long standing" it means it must remain like that forever? Abeg, if both partners can't talk it through and find common ground, how marriage wan take work? Not every woman go just waka change church like that—some people are really committed to where they worship. Communication and compromise still dey important o.

What do u mean by "It's not Everytime nah" ?
When is the perfect time?

Who raised u?

LawWithEbele:
Vanguard, 7th April edition, reported how a wedding was called off because the bride allegedly refused to follow the groom to his church. Both were Christians but of different denominations.

This is a sober reminder of the need to address certain issues before saying “I do.”
Don’t assume all is well just because you’re in love. Infatuation fades, but the issues you ignore today may become the cracks in your marriage tomorrow.

Ask the hard questions:

What church will we both attend?

How will we handle finances, joint account or separate?

How involved will in-laws be in our decisions?

What’s our stance on parenting and discipline?

Are we on the same page about roles and expectations in marriage?

Most divorce cases don’t start with big fights. They begin with these “little foxes” that go unchecked and gradually eat away at the foundation.

So what’s your take, must a woman follow her husband to his church? Or should they both find a common ground?

What other important matters do you think couples should settle before tying the knot?

Let’s talk. You just might help someone avoid a broken engagement or a broken home.

if d man Dey go church na.me no Dey go.na this mumu ibiyeomi church person wan Dey go?

Absolutely not, trust me.

Chummynoni:
Why must husband and wife attend the same church? Which law says that? Some people and stupidity sha.

Honestly, man.

No
It's not a must

I don't know why you guys keep banned my account

Una wahala too much ooo

Yes!!!!

“The greatest weapon against stress is our ability to choose one thought over another.”― William James

Don't make any mistake in agreeing to Mary anyone who prioritizes her place of worship over yours even if there is an agreement between you two about were to go.
Reason:
As a matter of fact dont even worship in any church that encourages thoer spouses to remain in their churches while in marriage.

Isn't in bible that the husband is the god over the women and or spiritual head of the wife and family?, as a Christian asking this kind of question exposes such person tint of righteousness or even a total zero knowledge about this matter of question supposedly.

A good church or believer knows better to do than say and encourage to do the right things,which is preparing ahead of this matter, and in church with council.

If you missed this or other red flags as a result of your self righteousness or worldliness be warn you will bare grievous burdens in marriage than one can ever imagine.

Lastly any lady bringing up this details as church as a parameter in marriage will have more than a hundred reason why she will not be there for you or why you didn't measures up but considers you for a reason.

Simply ask her to marry from her church instead ,which advisable and encouraging.

LawWithEbele:
Vanguard, 7th April edition, reported how a wedding was called off because the bride allegedly refused to follow the groom to his church. Both were Christians but of different denominations.

This is a sober reminder of the need to address certain issues before saying “I do.”
Don’t assume all is well just because you’re in love. Infatuation fades, but the issues you ignore today may become the cracks in your marriage tomorrow.

Ask the hard questions:

What church will we both attend?

How will we handle finances, joint account or separate?

How involved will in-laws be in our decisions?

What’s our stance on parenting and discipline?

Are we on the same page about roles and expectations in marriage?

Most divorce cases don’t start with big fights. They begin with these “little foxes” that go unchecked and gradually eat away at the foundation.

So what’s your take, must a woman follow her husband to his church? Or should they both find a common ground?

What other important matters do you think couples should settle before tying the knot?

Let’s talk. You just might help someone avoid a broken engagement or a broken home.

Sometimes we say we are christians but we are just far from such and are only just a religious people who have no relationship with Jesus Christ and the Holy Spirit.



This is what the Scripture says.....


Eph.5.22 - Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord.
Eph.5.23 - For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church; and He is the Savior of the body.
Eph.5.24 - Therefore, just as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything.
Eph.5.33 - Nevertheless let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.




The moment a woman is bond to a man in marriage she can't make any decision on her own whatsoever without the man agreeing to i and i mean critical decisions aa it affects the family. Such issues affects the family if not properly handled.

Except the man has given her the go ahead to operate as she likes.


Only those who understands spiritual things will know what I'm saying.


If a woman has the intention of attending a separate church (her church different from that of the husband) assuming the husband has a church he attends and a member of such, then such should be discussed and agreed upon by them and no external interference before they settle down to marry.


The real question to ask is if both husband and wife attends different churches, whose church will the children attend till they are of mature age to attend theirs assuming they are still leaving in the same house with their parents?



All of us claim we are christians but we do know that all churches have different doctrines and beliefs systems even though we may say that our roots is of Christ Jesus. Many don't believe in the Holy Spirit and miracles.

Now, the Scripture says, "train up a child in the way he should go so that he would not depart from it when he is old."

Now, if both parents attend different churches, which way( doctrine) would you teach your child to abide to and walk in.....
We do know most of us beliefs are tied to our churches and not necessarily what is written in the Scripture.

My wife and my family will definitely follow me to my church

Don't marry a man you can't follow. Stop frustrating men in marriage please.

Most of these problems are caused by women because they REFUSED to marry from dia same church instead go for dia heart. Now dia heart has condition of which church they should go or d hrt doesn't include attending man's church

Children are practicing different religion from their parents, their father and mother are not loving them less.the children are not loving their parents less

Siblings are practicing different religion, they are going through life together loving one another and sacrificing for one another.

But when it comes to marriage, even inside same religion, it suddenly becomes a problem to go to a different church as your spouse.

majority of the people in marriage just want to fulfill the expectations of the society. Are you really in a marriage or in a camp.

If your partner MUST attend the same church as you, why not marry your church member

InfernoNig:
Honestly, stuff like this is why couples need to stop skipping the real convos before the wedding. Love is great, but it won’t fix deep differences like this. I don’t think it’s fair to expect the woman to just switch churches—marriage should be about compromise, not control. Both need to meet halfway, or it’s gonna be problems down the line.

So on a Sunday morning the husband faces one direction while the wife faces a different direction leaving the children confused.

Mr woke man, you should have as well say the woman should not have left her house at once and go to her husband's house, they should start by meeting halfway......

InfernoNig:
Honestly, stuff like this is why couples need to stop skipping the real convos before the wedding. Love is great, but it won’t fix deep differences like this. I don’t think it’s fair to expect the woman to just switch churches—marriage should be about compromise, not control. Both need to meet halfway, or it’s gonna be problems down the line.

You have said it all, they will certainly learn the hard way

Tit4Tat1:
You guys are the enablers of these women taking you for granted all in the name of been in a woke generation by tolerating certain things which are paramount then come online to cry about how ur wife doesn't respect/regard you..

If you don't agree with a man's faith and doctrine, why enter into marriage with him? How will you raise your kids? If you don't like his church, move on abeg. TomorrowI, one child will follow mama to her church, the other one will follow papa to his church, I don't like that arrangement in marriage. And most times they will end up not attending their different churches cos no one is pushing the other.

Tit4Tat1:
What are you saying!
A woman who's getting married already knows that she must switch church, unless the man doesn't care... These are long standing practices so I don't understand what you mean by you don't think it's fair to expect the woman to just switch church..

Honest question here and i am asking you this respectfully, why MUST husband and wife attend the same church. What is the trouble that is likely to happen if they don't attend same church, and why

Any woman who cannot switch church because of marriage is not ready for marriage.

InfernoNig:
Ah ah, but not every time na! So because it's "long standing" it means it must remain like that forever? Abeg, if both partners can't talk it through and find common ground, how marriage wan take work? Not every woman go just waka change church like that—some people are really committed to where they worship. Communication and compromise still dey important o.

Sirtee19:
One of the reason why a woman must follow her husband to his church after marriage is for her to be more respected and valued in her former church. If she decides to still be attending her former church, familiarity won't make her to be valued and respected. Imagine her visiting her former church with her husband after about two years or so, it will be so exciting and joyful than still be with them.

My honest thought is that in 2025, what outsiders think about us should be very very very secondary. Even the Bible must have said somewhere(which I don't know ) that we shouldn't care what people say or think about us and just focus on how God sees us.