I JUST FOUND OUT THAT MY WIFE WAS NOT A VIRGIN B4 I MARRIED HER, RIGHT NOW I AM SHOCK AND DEVASTATED COS SHE SWORE TO ME THAT SHE WAS A VIRGIN, BUT I WAS IN THE MIDST OF SOME PPLE IN A GATHERING, AND THEY WERE GISTING ABT HER AND EVEN HER HUSBAND(IE ME) AND THE WAS TELLING HIS FRIENDS HOW HE DISVIRGINED HER( MY WIFE) THIS WORLD IS REALLY A SMALL PLACE, I SCHOOLED IN BENUE STATE BUT I AM HEARING THIS GIST IN KADUNA, IN A PLACE THAT NO ONE KNOWS ME, WHAT A COINCIDENCE I TELL YOU. I MADE SURE I CONFIRM MY WIFE NAME, HER MAIDEN NAME, AND EVEN HER HUSBAND NAME, AND ALL BOUNCED BACK TO MY WIFE(CONFIRMED). I AM SICK, COS I KEPT MY SELF PURE FOR MY WIFE, EVEN AFTER A YEAR OF MARRIAGE, I STILL FELL CHEATED.

PLS WHAT DO I DO I AM SAD, SICK, AND DEVASTATED.

PLS ADVICE ME

Talk to your wife.

pls i need advice

MODEMAN:

I JUST FOUND OUT THAT MY WIFE WAS NOT A VIRGIN before I MARRIED HER, RIGHT NOW I AM SHOCK AND DEVASTATED because SHE SWORE TO ME THAT SHE WAS A VIRGIN, BUT I WAS IN THE MIDST OF SOME people IN A GATHERING, AND THEY WERE GISTING about HER AND EVEN HER HUSBAND(IE ME) AND THE WAS TELLING HIS FRIENDS HOW HE DISVIRGINED HER( MY WIFE) THIS WORLD IS REALLY A SMALL PLACE, I SCHOOLED IN BENUE STATE BUT I AM HEARING THIS GIST IN KADUNA, IN A PLACE THAT NO ONE KNOWS ME, WHAT A COINCIDENCE I TELL YOU. I MADE SURE I CONFIRM MY WIFE NAME, HER MAIDEN NAME, AND EVEN HER HUSBAND NAME, AND ALL BOUNCED BACK TO MY WIFE(CONFIRMED). I AM SICK, because I KEPT MY SELF PURE FOR MY WIFE, EVEN AFTER A YEAR OF MARRIAGE, I STILL FELL CHEATED.

please WHAT DO I DO I AM SAD, SICK, AND DEVASTATED.

please ADVICE ME

On the night of ur wedding u didnt find out she was not a virgin?
U must be some guy who doesnt know anything about sex, virginity and women before marriage, i really feel for u.

My advice for you is just to talk to her about the incidence and u guys get along.

its no big deal my brother, na dis world we met am and we go leave am, just make peace with ur wife and urself and enjoy each other,

algood:



On the night of ur wedding u didnt find out she was not a virgin?

and just how is he supposed to do that?

no big deal.

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iice:

https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-210642.0.html

^^ Your healing strategy?

ask him one more time

Really that is no big deal, just talk to her she is your wife.

@ poster,this is serious marital issue that nairaland as a community cannot solve becos of the fact that many ideas u wud get wud be coming from teenagers or wud be coming from in-experienced married folks or frm folks who have not gotten a degree in marriage
So my advice for you is that you shud have a heart to heart talk wiv ur wife and sort things out pls dont take advice here go home talk wiv ur wife she wud have a reason for her action and i bet u that u wud forgive her actions

I advice u call ur wife and tell her about it, but that doesn't mean u should think forther,(I mean, take a divorce out of this) she is ur choosen one, for better and for worse, what happend was her past, u should try to make her know that she has liad to u, maybe this will make her tell u more about her past and this could build u both up. Good luck.

You married her because you thought she had a hymen?

MODEMAN:

please i need advice

Oya, take advice. . . . just cry

don't ever talk to her about this on phone is an eye to eye issue. but try to have forgiveness at the back of your mind because getting together is for better and to stand against the worst. make sure she told you her own part and press her to confess in other for you to know where you stand with her when it comes to trust.

Oh please get OVER IT,
You married her, so what is the BIG DEAL
So what will this achieve for you but a relationship filled with dissapoinment, she lied
and so you found out on the night of the wedding why think about it and kill yourself slowly
There are so many things to think about , family ,future together e.t.c
The sooner you learn to heal , forgive and forget the better for you.
Get over it and move on Please, and please don't go on bringing up that issue cos it creates nothing but emptiness and mistrust
You need to move on

I see no BIG DEAL in this, you are just crying over a spilt milk. Since you couldn't discover she was a virgin on the night of your wedding,then why the bruhaha ? Everybody has got a bad past. Ok let me ask you; what if you married a virgin and she becomes so so unfaithful after so many years of wedding what are going to do then ? Please move on and plan your future man !

@ poster

if what u discovered will make you to die, then fire her immediately


**************as simple as A, B, C**********

Mr. poster is marrying virginity more important to you than marrying a good wife?

igwe usa .y ur wife dey troble u tell me i want 2 know

igwe.no big deal bout ur wife not being a virgn.tink dat d fact dat she lied to u is d issue!

outlaw.no big deal bout ur wife not being a virgn.think that d fact that she lied to u is d issue!

daylae:

igwe.no big deal bout ur wife not being a virgn.think that d fact that she lied to u is d issue!

@ daylee

Since her pre marital lies wont kill me, i will definetly forgive her and move on.


***********we all are no saints******************

You need to talk this over with your wife and be prepared to forgive her. Marriage is for life.
It is usually advisable to prepare for the shocks of marraige.
I understand how painful and hurting this can be. But you must resolve to forgive her and carry on as if this never happened.

stories that touch the heart,

please do calm down and take it easy on urself being a Virgen is not a big deal to u or is it? the main problem here should be why she lied about it in the first place ,do sit her down and clear it out and concentrate on ur marriage.

Now lemme tell you one thing I know about some stupid men. You probably heard that when you guys where drinking beer! Some fucking idiot don't do anything with women they only had fantasies of doing it ,  then come to their friends with stories of how they did something they didn't really do. Just to make them think they're good at getting women to lay with them. WHOLE story might be LIES!

I've had similar case back in the days. When this stupid immature idiot bragged about how he used to Bleep someone I was loving , I later found out it was a lie. Real dudes don't really discuss that. They keep fcking your wife in the backgruond till you discover some ways lol.

Men be careful dude. And you didn't catch her. And you weren't even able to know if you this-virgined her in the first place. So just forget about it. Its LAME!

I dis-virgined several girls and eventually got married to woman I'm sure been fcked inside out for real. Man me GROW up. I'm sure if I divorce tomorrow someone else will see my wife that already got 2 kids for me as BRAND new. LOL =))

GROW UP

Sick dude!

big father:

I see no BIG DEAL in this, you are just crying over a spilt milk. Since you couldn't discover she was a virgin on the night of your wedding,then why the bruhaha ? Everybody has got a bad past. Ok let me ask you; what if you married a virgin and she becomes so so unfaithful after so many years of wedding what are going to do then ? Please move on and plan your future man !

Na Big deal. .she lied
D wife's smarter because she knows dis poster is inexperienced.

How naive is dis guy!how come he didn't know d truth b4 now.
It beats me! abeg tell me another lie. .

@poster,
Is your wife a good wife to u, prior to your discovery? if yes GBAM!!! case dismissed.
Many husbands today would reverse thier cases in having a loving and caring wife instead of marring a virgin.
i suggest u live with it cos confronting your wife on this issue wont yield the much anticipated result. afterall you no catch am redhanded. by the way how are u so sure the bragging guy does not know you(that you dont know him is not enough)

PLS take your wife