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FuckYeyeMods:
If you allow her go, she won already..
Change your mindset and stop accepting her as a wife. See her as a nanny to the kids.
Don't be weak,you can turn the ball around and enforce everything that is lacking in the marriage.
Cancel sex for now. The moment you start gaining upper hand, she would want to give it to you and manipulate you again.
Don't complain , do as if she's not doing anything wrong. Give the order and leave. Don't talk too much, don't try convincing her to do something and don't try to impregnate her again.
Imagine yourself in your mid fifties, the loneliness will traumatising. If you can manage her till your kid can defend themselves and do little things around the house, then set her free.
Stop being a peaceful man. Tell her to teach the kids and turn away without another word.
Please give any order without saying anything again. No matter how much she insulted you or think it's just for that moment.
Pretend as if she had done what you instructed her to do, let hell loose when you discovered she had not after a while.
Don't concern yourself whether she stand-up immediately to do it or if she ignor you at that moment. All you need is to go check after a while.
Take charge and leave emotions alone. Your wife is not a good lady. Their type don't have any solid or good background.
They feast on your emotions to give themselves power. She's weaker than you thought if you can seize to be emotional person.
Stop accepting her as your wife. Treat her the way you will treat a known runz girl with zero emotions. Stop attaching any future to the marriage.
Many sure to expand your income because you will spend more when you're with the kids without her. So concentrate on making more money and directing her to do your needs.
Tease her playfully when you want sex and make sure it's once in a while. If you see sign of refusal, don't beg for it. Change the topic and go to bed. Don't let her win interms of sex issues, don't make it a big deal. Even if she's trying to seduce you, please don't often fall for it and while you do that, pretend as if you did not notice.
You have to sacrifice, start fantasising about having another woman in your life in the next 8 to 10 years when she's no more with you. Look at women/girls and admire their beauty and shapes while you go out. You don't have to endulge in extramarital affairs.
Set yourself free from that feeling you attach to the lady in your house.... Change how you see her and focus on the future.
You're lonely now that you're strong and capable, imagine yourself in your early sixties when you will need a close partner because men loose friends as they grow older.

busariabeyx24:
I hear you, and I really appreciate you trying to look out for me. You're right about one thing—I need to stop letting my emotions blind me to what’s real. I’ve been too soft, hoping things would fix themselves. That’s over now.

But I also don’t want to become cold or bitter. I want to detach without turning into someone I won't respect later. My goal now is peace, not power. I’ll start setting clearer boundaries, stop chasing love where it doesn’t exist, and focus on my kids and my future. I’ll make my moves with calm and intention—not noise.

Thanks again, bro. Your words gave me clarity. I’m taking control now, but I’ll do it in a way that keeps my soul intact.

FuckYeyeMods:
You're truly intelligent and know what you want. I actually have inturn learn something from you. But please while you embrace peace path, don't become shadow of yourself in your house.
Let hope it works without making to much noise.
Once again, please take care of your mental health.

SisterAnn:
Killaboi, why do you write this long epistle without paragraphing? Is it because you don't want me to read it?

placeofallure:
These days, many women work and contribute to the financial strength of the family. Apart from this, they still do the rest of the things required of the woman of the house. Would you ask such women what they bring to the table?

busariabeyx24:
Not an article, I actually sat down and wrote all before coming on nairaland

busariabeyx24:
We've done that already.

omooba969:
I think you guys should have a chat, communicate your grievance and allow her to bear her mind as well. Never dismiss her feelings no matter how silly she may sound. Na ya wife, so approach the matter with love, I mean try to demonstrate a decent level of understanding, empathy, and show a desire for resolution rather than conflict.

My 2kobo. ✌️

Spinflow:
Na until person die abi, this marriage scam no go rest. Na only women this marriage scam dey favor. Man complain, na man get problem. Woman complain, man na him be evil. Wetin man do? Devil no touch Job wife for una bible ooo. Na Job, him children and business, na dem suffer. Since 2010, anybody wey you marry, na either hook-up or entitled narcissist.

Bukola94:
No conflict, just normal argument and shouting

omooba969:
But it's obvious you're not pleased with some stuff, maybe I'm mistaken.

advanceDNA:
In my comment that you mentioned, did u see me asking a woman that is significantly contributing to her home what she's bringing to the table?? because I'm trying to get why this ur comment is thrown my way...?? ......Or am I missing something??

placeofallure:
Wò ó, mi o r'áyè ejọ́ wẹ́wẹ́. To ba n ta ẹ l'ojú ko f'àlùbọ́sà sì.

advanceDNA:
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Lol....
Be like this one get issués oooo....

EndRape2:
➜Is your father married to a good woman? If yes ask him the benefits of marriage Your old age will tell you that life is more than children

pedrilo:
➜I thank God for giving me a good wife. I won't tolerate this from any woman. Your wife is already satisfying herself outside maybe a colleague

placeofallure:
Mi o ni issue, just let me be.

Bukola94:
➜ I'm not really a saint or gentle man, but people that knows me, say am simple, caring and peace loving, but you know our wives, no matter how cool headed you are, they will get on your nerves and take your love for granted. U keep complaining about the same thing over and over again

Bukola94:
Yh, like fighting our neighbors and not taking to corrections, so lousy too

busariabeyx24:
Not a bot, I wrote it all by myself .

Westerhoffe:
Oga calm down.
I quoted the Bible for him, yes.
Did I hold his hand? No.
GOD said, "Don't divorce." I repeated, GOD said don't divorce; and here you are attacking me.

Does he want to tell he doesn't see any sign before getting married to her?

Marriage is not all about attraction, love, or sex. Observe your partner very well. If he/she hide their true colours, go to their house. Observe how they interact at home. If she hides there still, take it to GOD for inquiry. That way, you can never marry the wrong person.

But no, you guys won't listen. Once you start pounding each other, you'd think the next thing is marriage.

kpankpangolo:
Is that a journal or you write for fun with the hope of monetizing it later?

tempex88:
Topic should be "WHY I WANT TO SEPARATE FROM MY HUSBAND"

Spinflow:
You are very funny...God said...so these Chinese printed documents from your slave master is now your God. Africa is a forest.

busariabeyx24:
I think it’s natural to shape my story. I went through a lot—felt unloved, unheard—and writing about it helps me make sense of things. It’s not about performance or trying to gain anything. It’s about staying grounded and not letting the weight of it drag me into depression. This is how I process, how I protect myself. No plan to monetize

whytediamond:
You've said it all. I bet the young man has figured his finances. No Nigerian woman will treat a rich husband this way. She has got everything to loose.

When a man cries like a baby instead of taking drastic actions, it's a pointer to one thing. Baba no hold side, hence the see finish.

No man deserves to stay under the same roof with the sort of woman he described. Na untimely death.

He isn't a man yet. My opinion though.

Mansa6:
Some of you "kids" just like the sound of your voice..

How many years have you been married with kids

Dangote was married 4 good times..

ALL his ex wives had one damaging report about him,as expected of scorned women..

So what do we say here? Dangote no hol' him side

You are a KID obviously in this matter..

The richest men in the world today...how many are still married?Bill Gates,Jeff Bezos,Warren Buffett (his wife left and bought a house close to his,as a neighbor),Ortega,Elon Musk......and they almost ALL broke up from their wives with scandalous issues...peep Pepe Guardiola lately...so what you take in these men?Is it money that's the issue

Or you dont know you get to a stage and money doesn't mean shit

Well...

You won't know ..

0neal:
For the children's sound mental health into adulthood.

It has been shown by research it is better to raise Children in a Two parent household, than a single parent household.

Also most single fathers make the best parent than single mothers.

So except you'll be more present in your kids lives other than just paying their bills, you are good to go.