₦airaland Forum

Dukeolumidemans:
I no dey fear their tax and health insurance. Na country wey things dey work so I will be more than happy to pay for those things. I told u earlier that I studied Business Administration and am trying to switch to programming. Am also learning Spanish and hope to succeed eventually.

You want to migrate to a country and continent where Nigerians and Africans are not known for migrating?
https://www.nairaland.com/7788707/memoirs-chile/4#124873532

A lot of you young people in Nigeria don't understand that due to the colour of your skin, it's not every country you should visit or migrate to. Una no dey hear

How I wash my car in chile. I use the auto servicing stations. The first one is the one that comes with the soap, brush and the water. The last one has a vacuum cleaner, perfume and a detailer.

This one has the vacuum cleaner, the perfume sprayer and the detailer

Putting my friend to work

Akpaamunsi:
You want to migrate to a country and continent where Nigerians and Africans are not known for migrating?
https://www.nairaland.com/7788707/memoirs-chile/4#124873532

A lot of you young people in Nigeria don't understand that due to the colour of your skin, it's not every country you should visit or migrate to. Una no dey hear

If you made the country better when you were a politician, they probably won’t see the need to migrate.

tensazangetsu20:
Putting my friend to work

Nice one

tensazangetsu20:
If you made the country better when you were a politician, they probably won’t see the need to migrate.

Dr Akpa,

Please do well to respond to this. You mentioned migrating to "unknown places" and you and everyone knows it's majorly Igbo youths, mostly male and increasingly female, that are notorious for japaing to dem Iraq, Pakistan, Indonesia etc.

What did you do to proffer economic developments in the southeast while as a member of the national assembly?

Gerrard59:
Dr Akpa,

Please do well to respond to this. You mentioned migrating to "unknown places" and you and everyone knows it's majorly Igbo youths, mostly male and increasingly female, that are notorious for japaing to dem Iraq, Pakistan, Indonesia etc.

What did you do to proffer economic developments in the southeast while as a member of the national assembly?

The fool is even a pdp member. Despite all the support the southeast had for pdp, they couldn’t even deliver a seaport in 16 years 😂😂 and people shouldn’t japa.

Treadway:
I get you💯.

I was also shocked and almost wanted to comment when I saw that post at the time it was made, BUT seeing as it was a personal one to him, I didn't see the need to be the one doing defender of the universe on this topic.

I do know I heard a similar comment from one of my before babes, married and all, but brought up the comment while we were gisting on broad topics one day, literally same description..and I asked her some questions like how you take know say no be your papa dey give your mama your school fees, shey you dey there when they have those kain discussions enough to know the full picture, and other questions which she didn't give satisfactory answers for , but since na her papa she dey call useless, I decided there was no need to drag things further, BUT I made some changes following that conversation. Prior to that conversation, I would always send money for school fees and upkeep money to my wife, who then would pay to the school and all that. So to the school and to my kids, na Mrs D dey pay. It hit me that just like my former babe, my kids, the school, the market people, the street people we buy things from, all get trfs from my wife, and hypothetically if things were to go south between us, no one would believe that I was the one funding everything. They would believe her. How many people I go show bank statements say I have been bankrolling every as a responsible father and head of the home? That day I sat my daughters who were both less than 5 at the time and told them explicitly the role I play as the financier of everything as far as the home is concerned, and got my wife to also corroborate same, and for every single thing I do, my wife tells them so they say Daddy thank you. Beyond just care, I saw clearly that I also need to let them know what I do for them, not cos I need their thanks, but just so one child will not grow up to believe my mummy was paying for everything. Till today I send the school fees directly and they bring the school receipt to me, not my wife o, my kids gangan. It appears if you don't toot your horn, you run the risk of being grossly misjudged..............not talking about the deadbeat dads

Then there is the place of dads who are struggling and doing the best they can with the cards they have been dealt. Life's full of ups and downs. If you know a man is doing all he can, he shouldn't be despised cos he isn't rich. If you know a man is working assiduously to provide something, no matter how small, the size of the heart is what should matter, not the gift......

Uncle Henry na the richest person wey I know as per family ties. Has been in Mobil since 2000., bro is mad liquid. His younger sister a radiographer is in the UK. Their baby of the house, na Facebook she meet the person wey marry am, came in from the USA, wife am and carry am go. She don born three now....but they grew up even poorer than us..his mum fried those coconut chips they boil with sugar by the roadside, their dad got retrenched at some point from Nepa. Man was doing what he could, but na mum's petty business proceeds was at least 60% of what funded the family and Uncle Henry university bills for Ife. She was the one bringing in the bread for some time. Same in my family, for a good number of years my mum too was the one bringing in the bread, but in both cases our dads were doing whatever they could to add something, albeit little to the bread. Today, and for many years now sef, for both families, we are all nowhere near poor.

Say person poor today, no mean say he no fit bench you tomorrow. Seen it play out so many times, so I try as much as possible not to dismiss or despise those who are struggling.

you are actually the one at fault here imho - because you have chosen to outsource everything related to the children to your wife., how often do you go grocery shopping? do you take the children with you when you do this? do you go with them to school to buy books or school uniform? why would you give your wife the money to pay for school fees when you can do this yourself?


how often do your children come to disturb you about an assignment they have to do, or worn out shoes or bag, etc? do you pay attention? do you buy your kids school supplies, or clothes? do you know what they are into? do they ever come to talk to you about anything? you have to actively build a relationship with your children, and the earlier you do it the better

if you have decided to play the role of an atm only dont be surprised that that is what you are seen as. you can complain that women manipulate children against their fathers - but lazy men walk right into it when they completely remove themselves from any part of running the home/ family.

but this is not tensas story. tensa's story is one of active indifference by his father. there is no need to pretend that being a father automatically conveys a sense of responsibility onto an individual. you have to actively be a part of your children's lives on every level.
children can also see when their parents are struggling, even if they don't fully understand at the time.

thats why you hear people say - our parents did the best they could. tensa is saying - his dad did not do that. his dad did nothing.

GloriousGbola:
you are actually the one at fault here imho - because you have chosen to outsource everything related to the children to your wife., how often do you go grocery shopping? do you take the children with you when you do this? do you go with them to school to buy books or school uniform? why would you give your wife the money to pay for school fees when you can do this yourself?


how often do your children come to disturb you about an assignment they have to do, or worn out shoes or bag, etc? do you pay attention? do you buy your kids school supplies, or clothes? do you know what they are into? do they ever come to talk to you about anything? you have to actively build a relationship with your children, and the earlier you do it the better

if you have decided to play the role of an atm only dont be surprised that that is what you are seen as. you can complain that women manipulate children against their fathers - but lazy men walk right into it when they completely remove themselves from any part of running the home/ family.

but this is not tensas story. tensa's story is one of active indifference by his father. there is no need to pretend that being a father automatically conveys a sense of responsibility onto an individual. you have to actively be a part of your children's lives on every level.
children can also see when their parents are struggling, even if they don't fully understand at the time.

thats why you hear people say - our parents did the best they could. tensa is saying - his dad did not do that. his dad did nothing.

So much wisdom in this. Fatherly responsibilities go beyond money. Even without the were withal to handle things financially, you can still get involved in the other aspects of their lives. I totally understand and empathize Tensazangetsu20. Fine you no get money no mean say you no go still dey involved.

GloriousGbola:
you are actually the one at fault here imho - because you have chosen to outsource everything related to the children to your wife., how often do you go grocery shopping? do you take the children with you when you do this? do you go with them to school to buy books or school uniform? why would you give your wife the money to pay for school fees when you can do this yourself?


how often do your children come to disturb you about an assignment they have to do, or worn out shoes or bag, etc? do you pay attention? do you buy your kids school supplies, or clothes? do you know what they are into? do they ever come to talk to you about anything? you have to actively build a relationship with your children, and the earlier you do it the better

if you have decided to play the role of an atm only dont be surprised that that is what you are seen as. you can complain that women manipulate children against their fathers - but lazy men walk right into it when they completely remove themselves from any part of running the home/ family.

but this is not tensas story. tensa's story is one of active indifference by his father. there is no need to pretend that being a father automatically conveys a sense of responsibility onto an individual. you have to actively be a part of your children's lives on every level.
children can also see when their parents are struggling, even if they don't fully understand at the time.

thats why you hear people say - our parents did the best they could. tensa is saying - his dad did not do that. his dad did nothing.

Your head is very very correct.

Gerrard59:
Dr Akpa,

Please do well to respond to this. You mentioned migrating to "unknown places" and you and everyone knows it's majorly Igbo youths, mostly male and increasingly female, that are notorious for japaing to dem Iraq, Pakistan, Indonesia etc.

What did you do to proffer economic developments in the southeast while as a member of the national assembly?

its benin before igbos.

GloriousGbola:
you are actually the one at fault here imho - because you have chosen to outsource everything related to the children to your wife., how often do you go grocery shopping? do you take the children with you when you do this? do you go with them to school to buy books or school uniform? why would you give your wife the money to pay for school fees when you can do this yourself?


how often do your children come to disturb you about an assignment they have to do, or worn out shoes or bag, etc? do you pay attention? do you buy your kids school supplies, or clothes? do you know what they are into? do they ever come to talk to you about anything? you have to actively build a relationship with your children, and the earlier you do it the better

if you have decided to play the role of an atm only dont be surprised that that is what you are seen as. you can complain that women manipulate children against their fathers - but lazy men walk right into it when they completely remove themselves from any part of running the home/ family.

but this is not tensas story. tensa's story is one of active indifference by his father. there is no need to pretend that being a father automatically conveys a sense of responsibility onto an individual. you have to actively be a part of your children's lives on every level.
children can also see when their parents are struggling, even if they don't fully understand at the time.

thats why you hear people say - our parents did the best they could. tensa is saying - his dad did not do that. his dad did nothing.

there was a caveat I wrote 'Not referring to deadbeat dads'

Yes, I actually do all this, and I'm very present in my children's lives. I have quit jobs and made otherwise crazy decisions just for family cohesion. I write about my family on here, if you check my history. I got an appointment
in October in Lagos, subsequently locked up my house in Ibadan in December and moved my family to Lagos just cos I can't be away from them....ordinary Ibadan for here ooo. That should give you some insight.

The point is, I didn't think it a big deal trfing lump sum money to my wife to pay for these things like school fees etc esp since she was the one taking them to school and doing those runnings more. Till today I don't know the names of the teachers of my daughters nor am in any WhatsApp group, but my wife does/is. I have my area of specialty and focus in the home and I don't worry about all those other things she is handling, just like she doesn't worry about the bills, or about the car, or fixing of this and that, or even how we manage the bills. I'm the chief handyman and financial controller of my household, I draw up the budgets and everything. So innocently giving my wife money to execute things wasn't a big deal, and still is not a big deal even now. It's just that I also realized it was better to let the kids explicitly know how e dey go, so there is no distortion whatsoever. They are kids, they didn't know anything, they were just 5 and 3. Now that they are 7 and 5 THEY KNOW cos I made it abundantly clear. No one, not even my wife can distort that one. The conversation with that babe gave me perspective, and that perspective was enough for me to make those changes.

I think I found my song of my year


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=a1Femq4NPxs

FEGEITOK:
Words on marble.

But he faces a chicken egg situation.

Learn code on an empty stomach or not.

That is to say without a means to survive he will find it very difficult to give learning to program the undivided attention it deserves.

Does he even have a laptop?

Access to the internet?

A stable accommodation?

He didn't say but you get my drift.

That said never were truer words spoken in response to his question.

Then the other issue.

It takes a while to learn to solve problems when school taught the majority to learn to follow directions. (The conflict between being self directed and following directions)

Finally, you need to realize that you will need to learn to solve several problems before you hit the one that is the equivalent of striking gold. He must bear this in mind.

Very rarely will the first problem you solve be the problem that results in a financial breakthrough

Brilliantly said! The first few paragraphs highlighted some of the pressing issues facing youths passionate about tech in Nigeria - heaps of challenges left, right and centre. In fact, passing these hurdles, let alone becoming a good programmer cashing out, has become increasingly difficult by the day.

Following me on others threads just shows you are fustrated in Chile.

tensazangetsu20:
My number 3 hater how you Dey? I miss tensazangetsu20 foolishness on my thread. Come back and keep on entertaining me.

If I apply for an E-visa this week (tourism) to Chile, how fast would I get notified about the outcome? Do I need a physical visa stamp to travel or transit the airport. Thanks!

Centrix:
If I apply for an E-visa this week (tourism) to Chile, how fast would I get notified about the outcome? Do I need a physical visa stamp to travel or transit the airport. Thanks!

No idea about visitors visa but the few Nigerians I know who tried to applied all got denied.

Bro you're still updating this thread till now 😯 I'm happy 😊 that you're still updating this thread for us japanarians 😁 i left this thread some time ago But am Back again full time 👌

I hope all is going well with you bro, men are making move on low 🗝️, Make i complete this proof of funds first others na history

I wish you well man
@tensazangetsu20

Just discovered that my car can park itself. Who need benz o. Though I must drive benz sha. Once i have benz money, I am getting benz

tensazangetsu20:
Just discovered that my car can park itself. Who need benz o. Though I must drive benz sha. Once i have benz money, I am getting benz

nice one, how far with your Pr

tensazangetsu20:
No idea about visitors visa but the few Nigerians I know who tried to applied all got denied.

I know I'd get the visa, nothing in my travel history is questionable. But I just want to know whether it's 2 weeks or 2 months so I can plan adequately that's all

Centrix:
I know I'd get the visa, nothing in my travel history is questionable. But I just want to know whether it's 2 weeks or 2 months so I can plan adequately that's all

Just apply. No one can say if it will be short or long to get.

hammed71:
nice one, how far with your Pr

Still in process bros.

JAPAHTML:
Bro you're still updating this thread till now 😯 I'm happy 😊 that you're still updating this thread for us japanarians 😁 i left this thread some time ago But am Back again full time 👌

I hope all is going well with you bro, men are making move on low 🗝️, Make i complete this proof of funds first others na history

I wish you well man
@tensazangetsu20

Omho I am rooting for you. No one deserves to be under agbado.

Chileans are fucking lucky. Visa free to USA, Russia and now china. Can’t wait to be a millionaire in dollars when I finally acquire Chilean nationality

I sometimes wonder if I am the only one who migrated out of Nigeria and doesn’t miss Nigeria one bit. I don’t even want to visit Nigeria. I know some Nigerians in chile and they keep on reminiscing about Nigeria. When I think about Nigeria all that comes to my mind is Bleep Nigeria

Countdown to my first 1000km