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Love will always exist, its the central theme of creation itself, its the essence of the Creator.

And there have been loving families and homes, and it will continue to exist.

It does not matter what we think, Love is what brought us to reality.

I am not referring to sexual intercourse though sexual intercourse is potent, I am talking about love, which is a shared experience of kindness, selflessness, Joy, patinece, etc

Kobojunkie:
1. What proof do you have that it is possible to marry for love—kind, not self-seeking, patient, enduring, love is costly, money cannot buy it? If the majority of what you know is marriage for selfish reasons, then tell us, have you ever in fact witnessed or experienced this marriage for love that you speak of?

2. You claimed that people should or can marry for love, and you define love as a selfless act that focuses on the benefit of others rather than on self. And I am asking you how you came about the conclusion that men can, in fact, marry for this love?

SeriouslySense:
That is part of the investment, if one wants peace of mind very important, some people are not fit for partners.

lol..

I once dated one Del-ta lady.. Omo, everyday quarrel... We can't have good conversation and wanting to be the man of the relationship and I can't say anything that makes sense only her was is cool for us but mine..? She will down trash it.. She is still begging bumbing me with calls. I no send again ooo

SeriouslySense:
➜ Love will always exist, its the central theme of creation itself, its the essence of the Creator. [/b]And there have been loving families and homes, and it will continue to exist. It does not matter what we think, [b]Love is what brought us to reality.

Is a murder an act of love? Is rape an act carried out in love? 🙄🙄🙄
If no, then I suggest you kindly stop distracting from and focus on answering the question asked.

1. Again, what proof do you have that it is possible to marry for love—kind, not self-seeking, patient, enduring, love is costly, money cannot buy it? If the majority of what you know is marriage for selfish reasons, then tell us, have you ever in fact witnessed or experienced this marriage for love that you speak of?

2. You claimed that people should or can marry for love, and you define love as a selfless act that focuses on the benefit of others rather than on self. And I am asking you how you came about the conclusion that men can, in fact, marry for this love?

PRINCESSFCFANSs:
OK ,


some people when they are frustrated will just be looking for how to make others share from their frustrations.




by sharing negative advice.




if love does not work for you ,



it will work for others.



For God so love the world.



God Is Love.



Princess Faith Chukwu.

The man made important points love is not enough there are other things inclusive

Maybe she has not grown to appreciate love, which is a connection. She is probably still immature. And has a lot of men chasing her. After certain age, she will not be chased and she will appreciate Love.

Emma1Oj:
lol..

I once dated one Del-ta lady.. Omo, everyday quarrel... We can't have good conversation and wanting to be the man of the relationship and I can't say anything that makes sense only her was is cool for us but mine..? She will down trash it.. She is still begging bumbing me with calls. I no send again ooo

Most men think with their konji filled gbola and take life altering decisions. Marriage is like signing for a football club but most men look at yansh and toto and enter sorrow

saros, or sallows

Especially when the woman sees him as a bank or great investment and if he does not make money there will be saros.

VaginaAcademic:
Most men think with their konji filled gbola and take life altering decisions. Marriage is like signing for a football club but most men look at yansh and toto and enter sorrow

The poverty of the soul is the reason for the majority of problems we have.
Why only marriage.... anything sacred is being attacked yet the exposed on what the Western world has meted Africa, for example, has never been looked into.
Who can quantify the amount of value a human alive since birth has spent....?!
The air, water, food, and every other thing.....
Promiscuity is for the stagnant soul......sleep with all the holes...men and women.....
Your soul will still seek salvation.
Marriage came to do so.......
Like na jeep and house be benefit of marriage....?!
Don't be fooled

Faposky95:
➜The poverty of the soul is the reason for the majority of problems we have.
Why only marriage.... anything sacred is being attacked yet the exposed on what the Western world has meted Africa, for example, has never been looked into. Who can quantify the amount of value a human alive since birth has spent....?! The air, water, food, and every other thing.....
Promiscuity is for the stagnant soul......sleep with all the holes...men and women..... Your soul will still seek salvation. Marriage came to do so... Like na jeep and house be benefit of marriage....?! Don't be fooled

. This gobbledegook makes absolutely no sense!

Marriage came to quantify the amount of value a human life holds since birth? This value is only realized by those who enter into a marriage. Are you people incapable of reasoning outside of that damaged religious box your brainwashed minds have been carved from, or what?

If bride price is a traditional requirement for marriage, court marriage a prospective value(monetary /properties) given up for marriage and church wedding, a medium to always provide for your wife or be termed an infidel,


What is the difference between prostitution and marriage?

Can we say marriage is the legalized form of prostitution?

N B: There are several cases where a wife denies a husband sex because he refused to give her money for one frivolity or the other.....

Love is literally the thing that gives marriage meaning. People just spew rubbish these days.

BondRiv:
➜Love is literally the thing that gives marriage meaning. People just spew rubbish these days.

Define this love you speak of?

Kobojunkie:
Define this love you speak of?

Check your dictionary.

BondRiv:
➜Check your dictionary.

My dictionary says nothing of what you claim, though. This is why I asked that you define this subjective love of yours, which you suppose gives marriage meaning.

Kobojunkie:
My dictionary says nothing of what you claim, though. This is why I asked that you define this subjective love of yours, which you suppose gives marriage meaning.

A profound emotional connection between two individuals, characterized by deep affection, trust, mutual respect, and a strong commitment to build a life together, through life's joys and challenges.

Image123:
It is like urgent CBEX for some. Natasha Akpos comes to mind.

Natasha Akpos ,🤣🤣

BondRiv:
➜A profound emotional connection between two individuals, characterized by deep affection, trust, mutual respect, and a strong commitment to build a life together , through life's joys and challenges.

But the reports of bad marriages, divorce rates(including rates of abandonment), reveal that the majority of marriages lack these basic ideas you spew here. Essentially, you argue that marriages that are lacking in any of the above have no meaning whatsoever, and these seem to be the vast majority of unions out there.

For instance, how many men do you know who marry their girlfriend because they trust them or have mutual respect towards them?

Stop being the one as a man shouldering all responsibilities for her. Let her make huge sacrifices as well. A word is enough for the wise.

Kobojunkie:
But the reports of bad marriages, divorce rates(including rates of abandonment)reveal that the majority of marriages lack these basic ideas you spew here. So, are you saying that those marriages are not marriages because they don't have all of these elements that you insist give meaning to marriage?

For instance, how many men do you know who marry their girlfriend because they trust them or have mutual respect towards them?

Love gives marriage meaning in the sense that it is what holds it together. It is the foundation. Anyone heading into marriage without this love I defined and all the elements therein, has no business getting married to that person. It is doomed to fail. Love is the foundation.

BondRiv:
➜Love gives marriage meaning in the sense that it is what holds it together. It is the foundation.
➜ Anyone heading into marriage without this love I defined and all the elements therein, has no business getting married to that person. It is doomed to fail. Love is the foundation.

1. Love is the foundation but millions of marriages, as I pointed out, lack elements of this very foundation, which you defined earlier. So, how can marriage be said to get its meaning from something that it can exist without?

2. So, this foundation, which you defined, provides the guarantee that a marriage will not fail. Well, I asked you earlier, do you know of any man who married his girlfriend because he fully trusted her and/or had mutual respect for her? We need at least a case study for this claim of yours.

Kobojunkie:
1. Love is the foundation but millions of marriages, as I pointed out, lack elements of this very foundation, which you defined earlier. So, how can marriage be said to get its meaning from something that it can exist without?

2. So, this foundation, which you defined, provides the guarantee that a marriage will not fail. Well, I asked you earlier, do you know of any man who married his girlfriend because he fully trusted her and/or had mutual respect for her? We need at least a case study for this claim of yours.

Why would you marry someone you don't trust or respect? Obviously, that's why the so-called marriages fail. The foundation is faulty. If there's no love, especially as I have defined it with all those elements, the marriage is meaningless. This is my last exchange in this section, as I have spent enough time here. No need going back and forth because the point has been made.

Kobojunkie:
Storyland... In how many relationships where the word "love" is thrown around can you honestly say that you have identified any or all of these in action? 🙄🙄🙄🙄

Thrown around is different from reality.

I have been preaching this to young unmarried people I know, if they like let them listen.


If you marry because of beauty or romantic love or vibes, na you go regret later.


Financial status and background
What does he or she do for a living?
Who are his or her parents, uncles, aunts?


You see the above 3 things are more important than physical looks in marriage, you can quote me anywhere because when sapa hold you, you go hate that your beautiful wife abi handsome husband

press9jatv:
Marriage is an investment and a contract, Don’t marry based on love - Nigeria Man explains

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YLKchD08XO8

Sad as it may sound,he is right.

Love is not enough

LordIsaac:
➜Thrown around is different from reality.

Pay attention to your definition of love there.

LordIsaac:
Empathy, care, seeking the others' well-being in all ways conceivable...

My question to you is simple! Even in situations where the word is thrown around, can you realistically give us the number of relationships you have encountered or experienced where those attributes are found in the pure sense? For instance, how many men do you know of who married their wives based on a desire to seek in all conceivable ways, her well-being?

People keep saying things like marriage does not work without love, and when asked to define "love", they put forth ideas that defy even human nature. And I wonder, when folks will begin to realistically approach these things; dump the fairy tale delusions to embrace reality as they ought to.

Marriage is, in and of itself, a selfish endeavor; those who marry do so to claim a higher level of possession over the object of their desire. Both men and women enter into marriage for selfish reasons— they don't want to share the one they love with others. So, saying that marriage is founded on a selfless idea is a crock of bull. 😂😂😂😂

eastOFwest:
Whether you like it a not, marriage is a CONTRACT, that is why you sign papers. Why go into one of the biggest contracts that you will ever make in your life, just because of love? Love is just a feeling, the same way the effects of alcohol and drugs are just feelings too. Yes, love usually takes a longer time to fade, but just like alcohol and drugs, you will have to face the consequences of your good or bad choices when the effects fade away.

It's best to first actually understand what marriage means and the responsibilities, duties and expectations of each partner. With your eyes fully open, you can then choose a partner that is suitable. Marrying someone just because the person is fine and you love them is a wild gamble and can be a recipe for disaster. Most women understand this, that is why they will marry a man who they are not attracted to but they feel can provide for them. But men....

One bottle of wine for you.

Very well said

Kobojunkie:
Love is a contract. If you leave it vague, then you will never realize when it has ceased. However, defined, you are better able to monitor its progress!

How could/do we create this contract? 😂 you just reminded me of Sheldon from the show the big bang theory! He draws up a contract for his girlfriend and his friend. Please elaborate though how would a defined love contract look like? What do you mean?! 😢

Brandiebird:
➜How could/do we create this contract? 😂 you just reminded me of Sheldon from the show the big bang theory! He draws up a contract for his girlfriend and his friend. Please elaborate though how would a defined love contract look like? What do you mean?! 😢

Sheldon's idea isn't a bad one. People come up with prenuptial agreements/contracts these days for similar reasons.

Stating beforehand what you will tolerate and/or not tolerate is a good way of drawing out the details of the contract for the relationship. It is also a great way to help one realize when the relationship has indeed ended; If you have it in writing that you will not tolerate cheating from your partner, the moment that agreement is violated you know that the relationship already ended; you would need to consciously blindfold yourself to wish to continue after that, but it is harder to fool oneself when the terms have been predefined.

femi4:
All relationship/friendship are Investments

They get attached to you for one gain or the other

Free ride, assignments help, financial help etc

Let the truth be told.

Kobojunkie:
Sheldon's idea isn't a bad one. People come up with prenuptial agreements/contracts these days for similar reasons. Stating beforehand what you will tolerate and/or not tolerate is a good way of drawing out the details of the contract for the relationship.

How is that any different to all the promises made, and sweet nothings whispered in the honeymoon period. There's no court that will implement the contract because its not legally binding. Nobody goes into a relationship declaring that they will cheat, lie and steal from you or that you want to be cheated on, lied to etc.

Brandiebird:
➜How is that any different to all the promises made, and sweet nothings whispered in the honeymoon period.
➜ There's no court that will implement the contract because its not legally binding.
➜ Nobody goes into a relationship declaring that they will cheat, lie and steal from you or that you want to be cheated on, lied to etc.

A contract is documented and signed by both parties in the agreement. Your verbal promises and sweet nothings as just that which you could deny, or even convince yourself were never really meant to be believed. The content of a signed, sealed agreement is not easily denied.

2. Court? You don't need a court to implement such a contract. You simply need the agreement of both parties; if penalties are defined in the contract, however, then you may wish to invoke the power of the court if one of the parties attempts to reneg on the agreement.

3. Wait a second... a contract isn't meant to keep anyone from cheating, lying, or any of the sort. No, you can't keep humans from doing what humans would do. A contract instead defines the terms under which the relationship can be defined as valid, and includes possible penalties for violation of the agreement. For instance, a man could indicate that if, during the relationship, the woman is found to have cheated on him, at that point the relationship is terminated and she is liable to pay him Naira 1,000,000 for damages &/or give back all of the gifts he gave her during the relationship. A love contract is merely to state the terms and conditions under which the relationship is to be considered valid or terminated, and what should follow from there.