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bukatyne:
Only sex?

Your wife is super duper lucky

No domestics, house keeping, child raising, family management..... Just sex!

You are doing well.....

Helpout12345:
This mentality of women believing that usefulness of a man to them is solely based on money and ability to provide for them is why women have no moral standing to demand monogamy from a man who is financially capable.

If I am nothing to you when I am broke, then you are nothing to me too when I make money and capable.

bukatyne:
So you are not providing yet cannot do chores.

What is your usefulness at that point in the marriage?

bukatyne:
➜There is nothing wrong with the traditional marriage system; just make sure you never lose the ability to provide and provide well if you want to maintain that model.
It is a travesty if you want to maintain a traditional model while you are broke. Then you become like 'P' in psychology.

Love800:
And who told you am just sitting down in the house? At that duration of no job, i go on job hunt, networking, purchasing skills, getting hints about business. These are my usefulness!

bukatyne:
@bold:

What does relegating the husband to a domestic partner mean?

And I haven't seen a wife who contributes NOTHING to the emotional/ domestic aspect of the marriage.

None.

Kobojunkie:
That is the major problem with the traditional marriage system. It is too rigid in requiring that the man provide all of the time while the woman submits all of the time. We now find ourselves living in a time when that model can no longer hold as it used to, and it follows that a more flexible system that insists that the man becomes the submitter whenever the woman becomes the provider, and another that allows both to share provider and submitter responsible is what is needed.

Acidosis:
Relegating him to a domestic partner means assigning him primarily to household tasks, like cooking or cleaning, mainly because he is unemployed or perceived as idle. Intention/motive is key.

bukatyne:
@ bold:

Absolutely on point.

Especially becoming easily replaceable as soon as the wife can care for herself alone financially.

Anyways, they are in luck. Some women would rather be single married women with useless husbands than be single mothers.

Maeve7:
Going by this thread The Association of Single Married Women is ever growing.

bukatyne:


May God help us.

bukatyne:
Ok.

All those activities above does not translate to money; you are still depending on your wife to fund the home and your job hunting. She is fuelling the car, putting money in your pocket etc. It is all motion and no movement.

Imagine this:

Your wife is not earning and the domestic partner. Instead of cooking, she roams the market and comes home folding her hands. Instead of doing the kids homework, she flips open their books and closes it back. Instead of making the home warm, she notes what needs to be done and does nothing. Instead of cleaning the home, she scatters the whole house as if she wants to sweep and does nothing.

What value is she really bringing to the family?

Flip it to yourself and tell us the actual value you are bringing to the home.

Acidosis:
Relegating him to a domestic partner means assigning him primarily to household tasks, like cooking or cleaning, mainly because he is unemployed or perceived as idle. Intention/motive is key.

bukatyne:
@ bold:

Absolutely on point.

Especially becoming easily replaceable as soon as the wife can care for herself alone financially.

Anyways, they are in luck. Some women would rather be single married women with useless husbands than be single mothers.

Love800:
I didn't digest the bolded well. But i still downloaded what you are pointing at.

What i want to say is, come rain come shine, wedar things are bad or not, i can't take mother role responsibilities. A critical thinking woman should know that now its her function to take over, feeding, subscribing the bills, tending the children, etc... These should be her stuffs till i rise back. Am too sourcing and adventures when it involves getting the numbers(money), finding my feet back. No time for partnering to home affairs!

Love800:
I didn't digest the bolded well. But i still downloaded what you are pointing at.

What i want to say is, come rain come shine, wedar things are bad or not, i can't take mother role responsibilities. A critical thinking woman should know that now its her function to take over, feeding, subscribing the bills, tending the children, etc... These should be her stuffs till i rise back. Am too sourcing and adventures when it involves getting the numbers(money), finding my feet back. No time for partnering to home affairs!

Maeve7:
What are father role responsibilities?

Love800:
To purchase Greenlands(money).

GloriousGbola:
goddam science

yes this also happened in the replacement olympics

GloriousGbola:
interestingly, this may be why women are sometimes better at managing business

because if you run a business you also have to 'subscribe the bills', and be able to get the best prices for different services or materials for the office, rather than just pay for the first one that comes your way.

interesting that you consider paying bills solely as a womans responsibility

Love800:
I don't understand that your last line. The bolded.

GloriousGbola:
goddam science

yes this also happened in the replacement olympics

Maeve7:
In case he has no source of income?

bukatyne:
➜As a Christian, it is love and submission; not provision and submission however, I get your point.
➜ I honestly don't have a problem with the traditional system; it is actually better than what a lot of men offer.
➜ My problem is that you are traditional, fine. And then life happens, you can't provide for a while. You can't decide to ease the burden off your wife as a show of solidarity. You want her to keep up her part and play your part while you do nothing. Like how is someone in a marriage and content to do nothing? Even if it is I will prepare the kids for school and make dinner when you are back home while the wife continues every other thing just to show love and empathy? It is well. Later, they will say women think they don't need men when they make money.

Love800:
Then the conquest to purchase Greenlands becomes activated. Driving, flying, sailing, navigating, till you arrive!

GloriousGbola:
What don't you understand? You wrote it yourself. Subscribing to bills is a woman's responsibility. All a man is supposed to do is make money

bukatyne:

Love800:
I didn't say administering bills is a woman's responsibility please. I meant she will be doing it at my wretched state. Am in charge of the bills on a normal!

A critical thinking woman should know that now its her function to take over, feeding, subscribing the bills, tending the children, etc... These should be her stuffs till i rise back

Kobojunkie:
... all with the woman's money since the man is unemployed, right? I blame women who put up with this bullsheet in the name of marriage.

Love800:
Then the conquest to purchase Greenlands becomes activated. Driving, flying, sailing, navigating, till you arrive!

Love800:
➜Yes na. Her money is our money! Why will you blame dem. She suppose to be my shoulder in times of trials!