₦airaland Forum

Sharpsharp00123:
Op I understand your point n I followed your story n I can deduce something's from your story so I will advise u to focus on yourself primarily for now.

No wife or child can reject a rich father, ask yourself how do u intend to send them upkeep when u yourself get stranded to the extent of begging for 500 naira?

So just assume they enrolled those children in school like u want and at this moment u are down they call u to send 10k for upkeep, how do u get it when u self don't even have it?

They might even use it as more excuse y they don't want to give u those kids, they will just cite your financial situation n they will win.

Go n work on yourself n make better money, once they start hearing about u n how well u are doing from people, they will b d ones to call u n then u can dictate things at your own pace but now that u don't have much nobody will release those kids to u cos it's obvious u can't take care of them

Babangidapikin:
Technology should make things easy, wonder why we are not practicing egoverment .. just yesterday I saw a dead body on Ibadan express way between a church and an industry with head and hand chopped off, drying in the sun of a lady with stripes cloth ... At least in Lagos you have a short code number to call, I don't know who to call in Ibadan .. no day I pass that express way towards that direction I don't see dead body.

funmibi29:
✓ Good afternoon Nairalanders,
I had an encounter like this at the same office. I went to their office to make a former report and to invite my wife and mother in law. I paid the same amount you paid. They even directed me to a man like that at the government house to give the money to buy The following week my wife responded to the invitation and came. I met with the officer a woman named Mrs Adenrele at the welfare office. To cut the long story short , what we concluded there with in the presence of my wife was that I will be paying money for the upkeep of my daughter and she will be coming to their office to collect it every 2 months because she stays at Ijebu Igbo and whenever she is coming she will come with my child for me to see . I did it for sometimes but I couldn't see my child and the welfare continue giving her the money contrary to our agreement not knowing that the welfare officer name Aderenle Mrs has collaborated with my wife and mother in law. I stopped sending money once I noticed and the woman started calling me that I have not send the previous month. I told her straight that am not sending since am not seeing my child. She is so callous, it's an office that should be eradicated since is not giving results. All what they know is money,and money. I will advice you not to waste your precious time and money. Just say a prayer for your child.

funmibi29:
Good afternoon Nairalanders,
I had an encounter like this at the same office. I went to their office to make a former report and to invite my wife and mother in law. I paid the same amount you paid. They even directed me to a man like that at the government house to give the money to buy The following week my wife responded to the invitation and came. I met with the officer a woman named Mrs Adenrele at the welfare office. To cut the long story short , what we concluded there with in the presence of my wife was that I will be paying money for the upkeep of my daughter and she will be coming to their office to collect it every 2 months because she stays at Ijebu Igbo and whenever she is coming she will come with my child for me to see . I did it for sometimes but I couldn't see my child and the welfare continue giving her the money contrary to our agreement not knowing that the welfare officer name Aderenle Mrs has collaborated with my wife and mother in law. I stopped sending money once I noticed and the woman started calling me that I have not send the previous month. I told her straight that am not sending since am not seeing my child. She is so callous, it's an office that should be eradicated since is not giving results. All what they know is money,and money. I will advice you not to waste your precious time and money. Just say a prayer for your child.

Kobojunkie:
This is a very cold response from a human being who wants us to believe he is a caring father. I don talk am say Nigeria, as a majority, do not understand what love is or how the love their own flesh and blood. 😩😩😩😩😩

JomasisTech:
He dropped 2 links to his previous posts at the beginning of his post.
Since you're asking for an introduction, you should try reading it to know where the whole issue started from.

Sunmars:
Like seriously? You expect him to start the narration all over again because you are here? Some of you are unbelievable!
The man has given links to previous details. If you interested, go and read up, if not keep shut and leave the thread. Black people with mental laziness.
Dnt bother to quote me as this right here, will suffice. Bye

MufasaLion:
➜He did what he had to do. Stop rushing to comment under people's post without a logical thought.

salem1996:
Can you drop your WhatsApp contact for me please?

Sunmars:
While I went want to agree with you, these are his kids we are talking about right here. Children are like buildings. If the foundation is not well laid, there might be problems in future and then the opportunity is lost to correct it. All he wants is just to for his kids to be attending school. What kind of evil mother will resist this?
My brother op, just do your best as God has enabled you. I wish you luck. Dont relent

Sunmars:
Jeez! Some of you have comprehension problem. He wants the kids to go to school. He is not fighting for custody.

showboy2301:
If I can tell you the truth, I will ask you to either leave the kids with your MIL. Firstly, they will use the kids to drain you because they know that you are emotionally attached to them. (I know what I'm saying here) Another thing is that you should start a new life and ignore your past, if you don't want to kill yourself. Start doing what gives you joy. Don't think about talking to the kids anymore. The MIL and your woman will soon start running after you. Also get yourself a friend, possibly a woman.

Sharpsharp00123:
she will win op anywhere so far op isn't financial buoyant that everyone can see, when it comes to cases like this, the woman tend to have upper hand cos nature believe women are wired to take care of young ones men are wired to go out n bring money

HaneefahRN:
Something you should have gone to Agidigbo instead so they can be called out. Keep disturbing yourself with police and welfare

elmagnifico411:
don’t how we humans became this unfair to ourselves.. from your comment, it shows you didn’t read his previous posts on the matter which he even posted the link before rounding the story up. You’d have seen where wrote that he sent money, clothes and other stuff to them, where he even mentioned paying their fees directly to the head teacher of the school they would be attending, just so that their mom don’t tell lies about their schooling.


Going back and forth from Ilorin to ibadan has cost him a lot, one of the reasons he became flat the last time he went there, and had to ask for 500 naira to get to his area. Make Una Dey calm down for nairaland. All the comments before yours were “go and make money. Get rich and see them coming back for you” na so e easy?
And it’s not as if he is not working. Make Una Dey calm down digest people story well before commenting. He even mentioned that he’s tried setting her up business wise 3-times, all wasted. all the people saying go and work on yourself, go and make money, how much Una don get??

Sunmars:
➜While I went want to agree with you, these are his kids we are talking about right here. Children are like buildings. If the foundation is not well laid, there might be problems in future and then the opportunity is lost to correct it. All he wants is just to for his kids to be attending school. What kind of evil mother will resist this?
➜ My brother op, just do your best as God has enabled you. I wish you luck. Dont relent

IsellSmartTvs:
There’s a reason why there are only women left in their family houses,you too are also embarking on part of the reason
Give yourself peace,Time heals lot of our problem

Kobojunkie:
Abandoning his children — his DNA i.e., flesh and blood—to the whims of others is of logical thought is yours, right? You people never cease to amaze with the sort of conclusions you come up with.

xavuv:
Great observation. Toymax, pls take note

MufasaLion:
➜Stop this blackmail. He was showing care and he was denied the audience with his child. He stopped the financial aid just for a while just to show he is not a fool! You can't keep collecting money from someone and still be denying him the right to his "flesh and blood!" Stop talking with both sides of your mouth.

Kobojunkie:
Ever heard the saying, "Action speaks louder than words?" OP says that is what he says wants; it is up to him to ensure his actions are equally guided in the direction of that which he says he desires. 🤔

sainthumble:
Abeg calm, no be so!

altteemy:
➜In his furst post, he mentioned sending money for school fees, school bag and shoes. He also mentioned that he would prefer making future payments directly to the school. With this alone, he has a good stand with the welfare department. Even if he is not given the kids, the fact that the welfare could compel his wife to register the kids in school would be a great step.
➜ If he leaves them now to chase more money, the harm of a spoilt basic education would have been done to the innocent kids.

shortgun:
Don't bother to quote you?
But you quoted me in ignorance.
There was no links to his previous posts when i commented, he only did that after my comment.
For someone who claims to be smart, you should have easily seen that

Toymax88:
➜Update. I received another call today from NSCDC Agodi that they would come to my place of work to arrest me if I failed to come to IBADAN on Monday 12th May, 2025.
➜But the KWARA STATE command of the NSCDC (gender unit and tracking unit) were fully aware of the matter right from the beginning. I even paid #20k for tracking her when their whereabouts was not known. After 5 weeks of unsuccessful tracking, my money was refunded. I would find time to visit the KWARA STATE Command of the NSCDC