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abbey621:
People really think divorce just comes out of the blue, it is a build up of marital degradation, either the wife becomes undesirable through her physical and emotional traits or the man becomes undesirable due to his nonchalant and emotionally inept behavior!

Marriage is not all about sex, it starts with communication, if you spend majority of the day ignoring each other or fighting, how will you be comfortable in the bedroom enough to do the do?

As a woman, you uwant your man to touch you but you dey nag all day and behave like witches from your village, you don't shave, your PH is out of whack and so on!

As a man, you want your woman's touch but you killed her mood, she dey smell Amaka's perfume on your body and saw lipstick stain on your shirt, NO BE JUJU BE THAT?

Dancebreaker:
➜When the hubby finally finds out her dirty habits, behaves like a log of wood in bed or never takes the initiative, the dude will tire.
➜ Especially if you let a good girlfriend, to marry current one due to tribal or religious preference, the dude dey regret.
➜ In any case, in our clime, love has no place in marriage. It has become a transaction. So, most are doomed from the beginning.

CodeTemplarr:
And so what. Will you feed them if they produce 50 children?

DrAda:
➜ If there is no love or mutual respect, if the man or woman is physically and emotionally abusive, then what exactly is the sex intended to achieve?

Vergovert:
If your husband refused to touch you, were you forbidden from touching him.


Is he not your husband?

Samantha125:
It seems like the only thing the jollof bros are capable of doing in a marriage is making money because I've also heard those SA ladies who've been married to them also complaining about the same issue... Allegedly they hardly touched them, even when they did, they were not experimental in the other room and lacked affection as well.

I'm not trying to gaslight anyone here, but money alone won't build a marriage... She'll enjoy your money and get a side dude.

Samantha125:
It seems like the only thing the jollof bros are capable of doing in a marriage is making money because I've also heard those SA ladies who've been married to them also complaining about the same issue... Allegedly they hardly touched them, even when they did, they were not experimental in the other room and lacked affection as well.

I'm not trying to gaslight anyone here, but money alone won't build a marriage... She'll enjoy your money and get a side dude.

EmperorIsaac:
You just told us what a women say, how about men? You are part of the problem, madam lawyer.

Samantha125:
But money alone doesn't and will never build a marriage.

Only desperate women from disadvantaged backgrounds fall for this trick, only to realise later on that money alone isn't everything in a marriage, that's when they'll start having an affair with that family gardener you've put on your monthly payroll... Not only will you be paying him for doing the landscaping around your house and mowing the lawn, but you'll also be paying him for servicing your wife.

CodeTemplarr:
And so what. Will you feed them if they produce 50 children?

OMEGA009:
Most do not have time for segz and mostly chop colleagues on the go (I have a friend who chops his colleague regularly in the car park and toilet). Thus again, the sexless marriage.

Broveens42:
Stop deceiving yourself... The urge to have sex with a particular woman wanes down over time because of nature.

You work your ass all day in a multinational company, but your penis rises whenever you see I T students.

Sunmolar:
What led to her been untouched for 2yrs. Blame game tactics that ends in crocodile tears

Samantha125:
But money alone doesn't and will never build a marriage.

Only desperate women from disadvantaged backgrounds fall for this trick, only to realise later on that money alone isn't everything in a marriage, that's when they'll start having an affair with that family gardener you've put on your monthly payroll... Not only will you be paying him for doing the landscaping around your house and mowing the lawn, but you'll also be paying him for servicing your wife.

autoez:
Love no dey anywhere jare. Only few marriages are genuine

CodeTemplarr:
And so what. Will you feed them if they produce 50 children?

Gabrielshow24:
One thing, I have come to know in this life is that you can never satisfy everyone. If the man doesn't have money it's a problem 🤨, when he doesn't touch her, it's also a problem🤨. Everything these days can be weaponized as a problem 👀. How can I work to provide and my wife will be worrying me with "emotional dramas" related to sex after producing two already? Is it sex that will provide food on the table? It's just a fleeting desire! These women are not like our mothers that their husbands will not touch for over six years and still they won't cheat, neither will they throw tantrums👀. Modern women and sex are like five and six🤨.

Gabrielshow24:
One thing, I have come to know in this life is that you can never satisfy everyone. If the man doesn't have money it's a problem 🤨, when he doesn't touch her, it's also a problem🤨. Everything these days can be weaponized as a problem 👀. How can I work to provide and my wife will be worrying me with "emotional dramas" related to sex after producing two already? Is it sex that will provide food on the table? It's just a fleeting desire! These women are not like our mothers that their husbands will not touch for over six years and still they won't cheat, neither will they throw tantrums👀. Modern women and sex are like five and six🤨.

Kobojunkie:
Are these equally conditions that must be in place before a client and a prostitute can engage in sex? Do all sexual encounters need to be geared towards achieving the same goal every time?

sisisioge:
Well...most people marry because it is time, by societal/family definition, to do so. So, they end with available partners not people who truly align with them.

Imagine deeply caring for someone you do not really care about after the euphoria of getting married has died down? Haaaa.....e no go easy o.

After this our generation, may God help the next generation do better

njokuuche77:
This is a sad reality many don’t talk about. A lot of marriages dey alive legally but dead emotionally. It’s not just about sex but about the deep disconnect that grows when partners stop nurturing each other emotionally, mentally, and physically.
To those in marriages, please don’t ignore the small signs. Talk, touch, forgive, listen, and be present. Marriage isn’t just cohabiting or raising kids together, it’s about growing together. Don’t let silence and routine bury your bond oooo. Abeg seek help early if things don dey drift.
Peace for home is worth fighting for.

njokuuche77:
This is a sad reality many don’t talk about. A lot of marriages dey alive legally but dead emotionally. It’s not just about sex but about the deep disconnect that grows when partners stop nurturing each other emotionally, mentally, and physically.

To those in marriages, please don’t ignore the small signs. Talk, touch, forgive, listen, and be present. Marriage isn’t just cohabiting or raising kids together, it’s about growing together. Don’t let silence and routine bury your bond oooo. Abeg seek help early if things don dey drift. Peace for home is worth fighting for.

myrates:
Hmm! Man dey try o! You go hustle get money to give woman financial orgasm yet you must not relent to give her steady sexual orgasm without compromising fatherly role to the children.Tell me why man no go die quick?

bukatyne:
Well, the women left so the men can get women who will not play the blame game

DrAda:
➜This right here answers my question. The abused party gets to feel like the prostitute forced into a situation he or she does not want. How does that solve anything?

bukatyne:
➜The problem is that our ancestors kept normalising trauma that we no longer know what is normal.

Kobojunkie:
Are all prostitutes abused by their clients?

We are talking here of your claim that sex can only serve when certain conditions are met, as though sex can not and should not take place outside of those stated conditions. Some women use intimacy gadgets to please themselves sexually, where possible, are those conditions stated equally met, or do you assume they are abused in doing so?

Akalia:
➜You are not entirely spot on. Take myself for example, I have being married for 5+ years and I still have a strong sexual attraction for my wife. In such on a few occasions that I cheated in the past, came to the realization that the women I slept with didn't give me the high level orgasm I usually get when I do it with my wife.
Unfortunately,my wife seems to have realized that I am sexually drawn to her strongly even after birthing two male children, she deprives me sex often citing tiredness or comes up with some flimsy excuses. She has weaponized sex. I no gbadu cheating because of the fear of GOD and I also do not get the same high level satisfaction with other women like I do get when I do it with my wife. So it's not entirely true for all men that their sexual drive towards their partners wane with the passage of time.
Where I work I have a lot of female IT intakes and colleagues but I have never being moved to approach them discreetly with a sexual motive, just don't find them sexually attractive even through they got all the right features.

DrAda:
➜I am exhausted by this exchange. Let's agree to disagree please