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My sister has been pushing me to renovate my dad's house rather than renting a house. I am the last born and all my siblings are married and also have their own houses which they built already. I also asked a close friend, he said I should rather renovate than rent.

The thing is, I have been in that area a long time ago, like 20years and I'm just so bored of that area, so I have been thinking of renting a house. If I consider renovation, I'll spend nothing less than 700k to 1.2M.

Please I need your opinion and I think of settling down very soom.

dboY1123:
My sister has been pushing me to renovate my dad's house rather than renting a house. I am the last born and all my siblings are married and also have their own houses which they built already. I also asked a close friend, he said I should rather renovate than rent.

The thing is, I have been in that area a long time ago, like 20years and I'm just so bored of that area, so I have been thinking of renting a house. If I consider renovation, I'll spend nothing less than 700k to 1.2M.

Please I need your opinion and I think of settling down very soom.

Renovate and stay there. You don't know the amount of nonsense you'll face in the hands of agents, landlords and co-tenants until you become a tenant. It is better to maintain what you have so that you can have the extra funds (and peace of mind) to plan for your own house sooner than later.

All the years you lived in your father's house, did you pay a dime as rent? Now cos money don enter hand, to go rent house dey sweet you. Hope after two years or so, you no go run back to free rent at your father's house. Ungrateful generation.

thesicilian:
Renovate and stay there. You don't know the amount of nonsense you'll face in the hands of agents, landlords and co-tenants until you become a tenant. It is better to maintain what you have so that you can have the extra funds (and peace of mind) to plan for your own house sooner than later.

Ok thanks

U get wetin people dey find, u won troway am. U'll learn the hard way if u go rent house outside.

Better go and renovate that house, it's technically yours now.

If by rent, you mean exploring another city (aside the place you grew up), I'd advise you to rent.
My people will say you don't stand at one spot to watch the masquerade. [something like that sha]

Mariangeles:
If by rent, you mean exploring another city (aside the place you grew up), I'd advise you to rent.
My people will say you don't stand at one spot to watch the masquerade. [something like that sha]

I don't understand u sha

dboY1123:
I don't understand u sha

I mean, you should explore other areas/cities, especially if you're still single.

Mariangeles:
I mean, you should explore other areas/cities, especially if you're still single.

I am single.

I would actually suggest that you move out and rent your own apartment if you think you have the money, why not?

You had better put pen to paper cause they might sell that house one day and you will get nothing..I would make sure every child sign on paper before you do that ooo..It’s a good idea to renovate but make sure it’s on paper and they accept to refund if they think of selling the house..

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If u want to succeed beyond the current level u are ,pls do yourself a favour by moving out.

It doesn't stop u from also renovating ur fathers house.

dboY1123:
My sister has been pushing me to renovate my dad's house rather than renting a house. I am the last born and all my siblings are married and also have their own houses which they built already. I also asked a close friend, he said I should rather renovate than rent.

The thing is, I have been in that area a long time ago, like 20years and I'm just so bored of that area, so I have been thinking of renting a house. If I consider renovation, I'll spend nothing less than 700k to 1.2M.

Please I need your opinion and I think of settling down very soom.

2m will not even be enough to renovate that house,

That same amount will be used to rent an apartment for two years and after two years, will you be able to keep paying the rent

Are you aware your family already left that house for you since they all have their own house

I will suggest you inform them that you want to renovate the house, of course they will give you the go ahead, then start putting it to your state

Forget about the area concentrate on putting your apartment to your taste and enjoy a rent free apartment

Stay their and plan for yourself and your family for the time being before you finally get to a level that you will know that, it doesn't benefit you any longer

That's what you call humble beginning

A year lasts barely seventy two hours these days and most landlords are rottweilers because of the useless economy. I'll advise you to renovate your dad's place and stay in hotels once in a while if you need a different environment. There's nothing like peace of mind to focus on other things when you're still young and growing, you'll surely buy your own property somewhere different and better by God's grace but save that money now

KillahPriest:
A year lasts barely seventy two hours these days and most landlords are rottweilers because of the useless economy. I'll advise you to renovate your dad's place and stay in hotels once in a while if you need a different environment. There's nothing like peace of mind to focus on other things when you're still young and growing, you'll surely buy your own property somewhere different and better by God's grace but save that money now

Thank you very much for the brotherly advice and prayers..I appreciate

Weighing the Options
Let's break down the pros and cons of renovating your dad's house versus renting a new one.

Renovating Dad's House
Pros
- Emotional Value: Renovating your dad's house can be a meaningful way to preserve family memories and history.
- Cost-Effective: In the long run, renovating the house might be more cost-effective than paying rent.
- Customization: You can design and renovate the house to fit your preferences.

Cons
- High Upfront Costs: Renovating the house will require a significant investment (700k to 1.2M).
- Attachment to the Past: The house might hold memories that are hard to change or might not fit your current lifestyle.

Renting a House
Pros
- Flexibility: Renting allows you to move more easily if you change your mind or circumstances.
- Less Financial Risk: You won't have to invest a large sum of money upfront.
- New Environment: You can explore a new area and experience a different community.

Cons
- No Long-Term Control: As a renter, you might not have control over the property long-term.
- Rent Increases: Rent can increase over time.

Your Situation
Considering your situation:

- You've been away from the area for a long time and might not have strong ties to it.
- You're looking to settle down soon.
- You have a significant amount to invest in renovations.

Decision Factors
- Personal Preferences: How important is it for you to stay in your dad's house versus exploring a new area?
- Financial Situation: Can you afford the renovation costs, and how will it impact your finances?
- Future Plans: Are you looking for a long-term solution or something more flexible?

Guy you better move out.

And before you do. Make sure the place is part of your plans and future. Like the change of state and cities. Amd tine of work or investment you need to do there.

Don’t just move because you want to rent a house. But because you want to plan it with your future especially if you need a new people and meet new single girls alike.

mjblinks:
Weighing the Options
Let's break down the pros and cons of renovating your dad's house versus renting a new one.

Renovating Dad's House
Pros
- Emotional Value: Renovating your dad's house can be a meaningful way to preserve family memories and history.
- Cost-Effective: In the long run, renovating the house might be more cost-effective than paying rent.
- Customization: You can design and renovate the house to fit your preferences.

Cons
- High Upfront Costs: Renovating the house will require a significant investment (700k to 1.2M).
- Attachment to the Past: The house might hold memories that are hard to change or might not fit your current lifestyle.

Renting a House
Pros
- Flexibility: Renting allows you to move more easily if you change your mind or circumstances.
- Less Financial Risk: You won't have to invest a large sum of money upfront.
- New Environment: You can explore a new area and experience a different community.

Cons
- No Long-Term Control: As a renter, you might not have control over the property long-term.
- Rent Increases: Rent can increase over time.

Your Situation
Considering your situation:

- You've been away from the area for a long time and might not have strong ties to it.
- You're looking to settle down soon.
- You have a significant amount to invest in renovations.

Decision Factors
- Personal Preferences: How important is it for you to stay in your dad's house versus exploring a new area?
- Financial Situation: Can you afford the renovation costs, and how will it impact your finances?
- Future Plans: Are you looking for a long-term solution or something more flexible?

Thank you very much..
1. It is a (possible) two bedroom flat
2. The roofs (iron roof/pan) are very bad and probably leaking
3. It is beside our church, my dad is a pastor(I don't think of becoming a pastor)
4. My dad also stays there, since my mum is late, I had to leave where I rented(lived) and return back home because He won't be able to live alone.
5. My dad monitors me too much,I must not stay outside beyond 7pm,he starts complaining.. going to work early na wahala and I know I won't settle down anytime soon if I decide to remain there.
I am in my early 30s and I'm planning to have a serious relationship but how can I have one if they can't visit me due to how the place looks and I cannot afford to renovate right now.
You know all these old parent wahala.. they are the hardest to live with!

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thesicilian:
Renovate and stay there. You don't know the amount of nonsense you'll face in the hands of agents, landlords and co-tenants until you become a tenant. It is better to maintain what you have so that you can have the extra funds (and peace of mind) to plan for your own house sooner than later.

Please allow him to go and Learn.

Whenever i see "Comfortable Young People" (Excluding Yahoos and Other Vices) in Nigeria.

My mind and heart goes straight to their Beloved Parents because these Lads have no Idea of the "Real World" They have no Idea of what either their Great Grand Parents/Immediate Parents went through before they could break even and paved way for the comfort they are enjoying.

The most Useful Lessons in Life are always learned the Hard Way.

Afterall Experience they say is the best teacher.

dboY1123:
Thank you very much..
1. It is a (possible) two bedroom flat
2. The roofs (iron roof/pan) are very bad and probably leaking
3. It is beside our church, my dad is a pastor(I don't think of becoming a pastor)
4. My dad also stays there, since my mum is late, I had to leave where I rented(lived) and return back home because He won't be able to live alone.
5. My dad monitors me too much,I must not stay outside beyond 7pm,he starts complaining.. going to work early na wahala and I know I won't settle down anytime soon if I decide to remain there.
I am in my early 30s and I'm planning to have a serious relationship but how can I have one if they can't visit me due to how the place looks and I cannot afford to renovate right now.
You know all these old parent wahala.. they are the hardest to live with!

Modified

Now i understand your Situation better.

One thing which really caught my attention in your epitsle and you keep hammering on is "Serious Relationship & Settling Down" Now i get it. I'm sure this is the reason why you want to move out.

I also noticed you are not yet "Financially Buoyant" as a man.

I have no advice for you though since my first paragraph appears in your gallery.

But my Take and what i believe in is any man who hasn't got his Life together at least to some clear extent shouldn't be thinking about Relationships talkless of Settling Down. I understand the "Age Pressure and All" But i can't force my perception on other people.

All i can say is God be with you.

Evolutionism:


Please allow him to go and Learn.

Whenever i see "Comfortable Young People" (Excluding Yahoos and Other Vices) in Nigeria.

My mind and heart goes straight to their Beloved Parents because these Lads have no Idea of the "Real World" They have no Idea of what either their Great Grand Parents/Immediate Parents went through before they could break even and paved way for the comfort they are enjoying.

The most Useful Lessons in Life are always learned the Hard Way.

Afterall Experience they say is the best teacher.

Lol. With the benefit of hindsight, I think I should have stayed longer in my parents house before jumping out to become "independent." The illusion of independence where you're free of your loving parents while being eternally indebted to the government and narcissistic bosses

Evolutionism:
Now i understand your Situation better.

One thing which really caught my attention in your epitsle and you keep hammering on is "Serious Relationship & Settling Down" Now i get it. I'm sure this is the reason why you want to move out.

I also noticed you are not yet "Financially Buoyant" as a man.

I have no advice for you though since my first paragraph appears in your gallery.

But my Take and what i believe in is any man who hasn't got his Life together at least to some clear extent shouldn't be thinking about Relationships talkless of Settling Down. I understand the "Age Pressure and All" But i can't force my perception on other people.

All i can say is God be with you.

Do you stay alone or with your parents? how do you cope with life? How old are you? above 30? if you're above 30, when do you want to start life independently because you won't live with them forever.

I am 32years and if not because I am the last born and I had to return home to stay with my aged dad, I was already fighting my life to be independent and I was already living alone since I was in School and after service I already got an apartment.. not until my aged mum passed away.

I don't believe in staying where you're for many years, What If I get better job offers in another state? my life should rather remain stagnant for how many years?

dboY1123:
Thank you very much..
1. It is a (possible) two bedroom flat
2. The roofs (iron roof/pan) are very bad and probably leaking
3. It is beside our church, my dad is a pastor(I don't think of becoming a pastor)
4. My dad also stays there, since my mum is late, I had to leave where I rented(lived) and return back home because He won't be able to live alone.
5. My dad monitors me too much,I must not stay outside beyond 7pm,he starts complaining.. going to work early na wahala and I know I won't settle down anytime soon if I decide to remain there.
I am in my early 30s and I'm planning to have a serious relationship but how can I have one if they can't visit me due to how the place looks and I cannot afford to renovate right now.
You know all these old parent wahala.. they are the hardest to live with!

Modified

Yo! You are a man act like one.