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Nigerian men are now living the devils in their lives behind.
Don't go abroad with a devil

elipheleh:
She can service herself with anyone she wants. But she can't birth their child. Lol because I will always do DNA test on all my children.

Done DNA for the 1st and 2nd already. Waiting for the unborn child for his own DNA too.

Plus any time I catch her, or another friend catches her, she's gone.

Na Man you be Bro...
I share Same mentality and sentiment with you...
Naso one dey tell me say what if my wife begins to fuçk around in Nigeria.. I tell am say E better make she dey Fok around for naija than for me to spend millions to bring her abroad and she wrecks me over there and takes half of what I got, force me to pay child support which would be expensive compared to naija and chase me from my home that I paid for....
Moreover whenever I come to naija I can always get fresh university girls to service me compared to her pussy that is after 4 by then...
Omo.. person wey dey ask me questions Open mouth waaaaaaaaaaaah..

Many Men don't know the power and privileges they have when they have money especially in Africa... And it's a shame.

Well said.
Normally, an enlightened naija woman is rarely loyal & also disrespectful.

Lalami3232:

In Nigeria, there are 5 grievous mistakes that a man can ever make, here are the list:
1. Marrying a non-virgin aka borehole and not going for a DNA test.
2. Taking your wife abroad. Oga, the chances of you crying is higher than a Nigerian politician to deliver on their promise.
3. Believing in a politician.
4. Thinking that a woman's past is past after her olosho phase. Why do you think your preeq is the sweetest she has ever had? One day, she will always crave for the sweetest
5. Training a woman through school or setting up a business for a woman. Oga, between you and a man wey plant corn by the roadside, no difference atall.
What do I even know sef aside enlightening my fellow men nationwide with the good news

Oga if you no meet your wife as a virgin, oga go for DNA test oooooooo because non-virgins aka boreholes can't be trusted atall atall oooo

elipheleh:
You're welcome. Don't mention.
I am that kind to my baby nannies. If I can pay a nanny to take care of my children and they live their life too. Why can't I pay an upgraded nanny who I sleep with to birth and take care of my kids while I flex abroad?

It's win win for every body

Bro you dey burst my brain...
I think say na only me get this mentality wey you get...

Whenever I see super rich and famous men get married I laugh at them...
E get money wey I go touch eeh.. the first thing I go do na to divorce my wife and possibly get restraining order against her ..
Out men are too laid back and unaware hence their wives keep on keeling dem and enjoying their wealth...
E get money wey you go make, wetin go dey your wife mind na how to Kèel you and enjoy that money with small small boys... Especially if your wife is young and fresh ....

Two women for my area keel their husbands codedly and are now enjoying their wealth.. one of them her husband left over 5 landed properties and hotels ... She go just drive off everytime with one of her SUV and carry one different boy wey she dey go Fuçk naso people go just dey look her...

My submissions are as follows:

- Owing to financial challenges or constraints. They are unable to provide for their wives abroad, in the meantime.

- In order to freely cheat on their wives with other women they will meet abroad. Saves them the hassle of always going around wearing a wedding ring.

- They have devised a plan with thier wife back in Nigeria to get abroad and cunningly marry or start a romantic relationship with some financially stable white woman (sometimes it's a black woman they go for ). This way, the man is siphoning money from his abroad lover and sending it down to his Nigerian wife turned scam partner, and they use the money for whatever tickles their fancies.

- He is ashamed of bringing his mgbeke or locally behaved wife abroad, in order for her not to cause him any embarrassments. He feels she's just too unexposed and local ( Where is the love In my Black Eye Peas voice ).

- lastly, he knows the kind of wife he married, that she lacks self control and may become carried away when they relocate abroad, which would lead her to frolic to other men, mostly those who have been living in the country they have just relocated to. " Do you know Mrs Olabisi, Kunle's wife, is now following onyibo men ? " Is what the man is trying to prevent people back in 9ja from saying. 😁

Well there goes my thoughts. As for me, I'll never try to relocate abroad without my sweetheart by my side. Nah, I just can't see myself doing that. We're besties and gummy dummies and won't stand being away from each other that long. Nah ah.

GboyegaD:
Canada and US also do. These are the ones I can talk about. What makes PhD so competitive?

US: Your spouse can't work.
For all: Do you have the required pof?

PhDs are competitive because you literally have 1000 applications for 2 vacancies.

Samantha125:
Why wait when you can get yourselves a side dudes to keep you well fed? It's not like the husbands are faithful wherever they are...🏃🏻‍♀️🏃🏻‍♀️🏃🏻‍♀️

Borehole

virtual husbands / daddies.... many of such marriages are under understanding. cause as long as u as a man wnt b loyal her loyalty would also b ?? many way their husbands dey sef dey cheat let alone who no dey

I live in Europe and my girlfriend is in Nigeria,28years....
I plan to get married to her next year.

Should I bring her over or establish a business for her?

abobote:
Me that brought my wife and kids after some years, I'm regretting it now.
That is the worst decision I ever taken

It's almost always the worst decision.
It's always better to settle for women in diaspora of other ethnic nationalities.
Variety is the spice of life.

MERCHANDISER:
I live in Europe and my girlfriend is in Nigeria,28years....
I plan to get married to her next year.

Should I bring her over or establish a business for her?

The question should be
Of what economic value would she be to you in Europe?
Is she more likely to get you into trouble or salvage an already dying situation?
Answer these questions yourself and take your decision.
Don't give me sexxxxx as a reason, please

APOPTOSIS:
The question should be
Of what economic value would she be to you in Europe?
Is she more likely to get you into trouble or salvage an already dying situation?
Answer these questions yourself and take your decision.
Don't give me sexxxxx as a reason, please

She can work here as an English teacher,she is already teaching in primary school in Nigeria but I am scared because I don't know if she's going to change once she get here.

I plan to impregnate her in Nigeria and establish her but I am also scared that she may cheat on me.Although I plan to be coming back once in a month every year for 5years before I leave Europe.

I am just here to gather small money,i have long term plan in Nigeria after 5years

Will they hear?

Lalami3232:

In Nigeria, there are 5 grievous mistakes that a man can ever make, here are the list:
1. Marrying a non-virgin aka borehole and not going for a DNA test.
2. Taking your wife abroad. Oga, the chances of you crying is higher than a Nigerian politician to deliver on their promise.
3. Believing in a politician.
4. Thinking that a woman's past is past after her olosho phase. Why do you think your preeq is the sweetest she has ever had? One day, she will always crave for the sweetest
5. Training a woman through school or setting up a business for a woman. Oga, between you and a man wey plant corn by the roadside, no difference atall.
What do I even know sef aside enlightening my fellow men nationwide with the good news

Oga if you no meet your wife as a virgin, oga go for DNA test oooooooo because non-virgins aka boreholes can't be trusted atall atall oooo

You may be punishing yourself o

FitCorper:
Me I feel some do it as a form of punishment to their wives. If a girl I’m to marry cheats on me and she has good genes. I can forgive her birth all my kids with her and then travel abroad keep sending her money and look for another wife over there.

laivwire:
US: Your spouse can't work.
For all: Do you have the required pof?

PhDs are competitive because you literally have 1000 applications for 2 vacancies.

Are you taking your spouse with you just because s/he can work? Your spouse can't work but can give you the emotional stability you need. For others, it requires planning and I don't think I know anyone who paid for his/ her doctoral studies. That said, one should consider to apply to programs where one has great chances of admission and funding.

yemmit90:
May God bless you.

No man will willingly leave his lovely family behind if he has the opportunity.

Those claiming they can't are mostly singles or are having bad relationships with their wives before the opportunity comes.

Many are dysfunctional as they grew up in dysfunctional homes and had no role model of a good marriage.

MERCHANDISER:
She can work here as an English teacher,she is already teaching in primary school in Nigeria but I am scared because I don't know if she's going to change once she get here.

I plan to impregnate her in Nigeria and establish her but I am also scared that she may cheat on me.Although I plan to be coming back once in a month every year for 5years before I leave Europe.

I am just here to gather small money,i have long term plan in Nigeria after 5years

Why not just let her be? Please don't marry her since you already have such plans or inform her ahead and let her make her choice.

[quote author=ezra1990 =]You may be punishing yourself o[/quote]If I am to encounter such, I would do the simpish behaviour, I.e cry, feel hurt, and watch if she apologizes, then boom we get married, after birthing 3kids for me, I travel out of the country, while abroad i do everything possible to get a citizenship, then I invite all my kids over there and leave her alone in Nigeria. After the birth of my 3rd kid I won’t sleep with her again nor eat any food prepared by her. I just need her as a baby factpry and once I’m satisfied she don’t matter no more. She can stay in Naija and continue her youthful lifestyle I don’t care.

GboyegaD:
Are you taking your spouse with you just because s/he can work? Your spouse can't work but can give you the emotional stability you need. For others, it requires planning and I don't think I know anyone who paid for his/ her doctoral studies. That said, one should consider to apply to programs where one has great chances of admission and funding.

Just because you don't know doesn't mean doctorates are free. You can pay for your PhD in all these countries you mentioned but that's if you can. If you truly know about these things, you won't be speaking this way.

What's the essence of carrying the whole family and kids when you are the only income source in a expensive country? To each his own anyway.

laivwire:
Just because you don't know doesn't mean doctorates are free. You can pay for your PhD in all these countries you mentioned but that's if you can. If you truly know about these things, you won't be speaking this way.

What's the essence of carrying the whole family and kids when you are the only income source in a expensive country? To each his own anyway.

Oga, as someone who schooled in both countries i used as examples and have a PhD, not one person I know ever paid for PhD by themselves. Except for those who get scholarships/fellowships, they aren't free because your stipend in most cases require you to do some work in return for either your professor or department. If you are smart enough to get into a PhD program, you sure will have funding. Most schools wouldn't admit you if you have to pay yourself for a PhD.

What is the extra cost of carrying your family abroad? The difference in rent between a one and a two bedroom isn't much and ditto for a two and a three bedroom. What is the cost of feeding extra mouths? If you know, I'm sure you know it isn't much.

Why then would you leave the joy and great support it gives because of the little extra cost? The opportunity cost of leaving them behind is way too much compared to that of taking them along. Like you said, to each his own.

GboyegaD:
Why not just let her be? Please don't may her since you already have such plans or inform her ahead and let her make her choice.

I have already informed her and she agreed to wait for me for 5years.

Within that 5years,I will be spending a month each year..
I plan to move back to Nigeria finally after 5years.

APOPTOSIS:
The question should be
Of what economic value would she be to you in Europe?
Is she more likely to get you into trouble or salvage an already dying situation?
Answer these questions yourself and take your decision.
Don't give me sexxxxx as a reason, please

When men start to question things this way, they will realize how selfish, entitled these women are. Women will rarely contribute in seeing u succeed even if they can.. they bring nothing to the table.. but rather even see to ur downfall in these countries when you bring them there once they see they can now survive without ur money. These women are after what they can get and how you can improve their life. They are very patient when they’ve not gotten what they want from u to live without you..giving birth to baby fir u while abroad is another way to secure their investment (if you know u know

MERCHANDISER:
I have already informed her and she agreed to wait for me for 5years.

Within that 5years,I will be spending a month each year..
I plan to move back to Nigeria finally after 5years.

Glad you informed her and both of you are okay with it as such, no deceit here.

GboyegaD:
Glad you informed her and both of you are okay with it as such, no deceit here.

Yeah, Although I trust her but human being can change,that's my fear...
I wouldn't want her to be sleeping around when I am not there.

Kobojunkie:
You don't want to carry her abroad where she will be forced to work alongside you to fend for the kids. Rather, you will leave her back in Nigeria, and work like slaves abroad so you can send money back to her so that she can continue to live her life as she pleases. And then you go about convincing yourselves that by living like a slave, you have somehow one-upped the mgbeke in that equation how?

I really don't understand how many of you reason at all. 🤐🤐🤐🤐🤐

Is working as a slave not better than being escorted out of your house you laboured to have by the Police just because one useless woman believes she's wiser than you now

MERCHANDISER:
Yeah, Although I trust her but human being can change,that's my fear...
I wouldn't want her to be sleeping around when I am not there.

In that case, take her to where you are. It is obvious you are concerned about her and your relationship. You know her better than anyone else and if you are at peace dating her, I want to presume you will have same peace in marriage. It doesn't mean there wouldn't be challenges however, you both will overcome.

infofta:
Is working as a slave not better than being escorted out of your house you laboured to have by the Police just because one useless woman believes she's wiser than you now

How many have been walked out of their homes?

Yomit71:
How much does each one cost you please

First one was 200k.
2nd child was 300k.
Now the price is 500k

abobote:
Me that brought my wife and kids after some years, I'm regretting it now.
That is the worst decision I ever taken

please sir, throw more light. What changed after bringing them over? Why the regrets? I am also in dis situation but yet to decide.

infofta:
✓ Is working as a slave not better than being escorted out of your house you laboured to have by the Police just because one useless woman believes she's wiser than you now

Have you considered that maybe marriage is all together not a good choice for someone like you? Just a question .

I don't know why we have so many dick heads nowadays on Nigeria here are the reasons since you want one


1 so many Nigerians living abroad. Majority of them are living illegally... So many are undocumented and to add a woman to that journey is not only stressful but risky and tricky because if anything happens you are not only fighting for your survivor but that of your wife
2 cost of living, most of abroad guys are squatting, Living in abandon houses, while majority cramped in single rooms with co workers is that the kind of place U wishes to bring ur wife into If you chooses to live that kind of luxury believe me you will be in abroad for 2000 years without erecting ordinary 3 rooms bungalow
3 abroad is stressing and tiring , you dont even have space or time of your own, even to knack nah war, 90 percent of guys living abroad are sex starved, that's why if they manage to come to home they will Bleep their brain off as if their lives depend on it
4 abroad it's only work work work , you barely think about women, it's not easy socially, abroad is like mini open prison.. abroad is war and you don't go to war with your wife...
5 so many reasons... For instance someone who works for 15hrs shift, when will you have time for that woman, most of ppl living in abroad manage to achieve great because they are only fending for their head alone
. Add two heads U go know khaki no be leather stop asking this stupid questions