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Babatunjo:
My bro, choose a woman based on her deep character, not just vibes or beauty. Also, never be with a woman who sees submission as oppression, no matter how beautiful she is.

This advice is good but it's for young guys that just want to start a relationship or get married newly.


I am a happily married old man. I am married to the right and best woman already, but I will marry a second and third wife and those ones have nothing to do with good character or career, na purely for beauty, hotness, and vibes nothing more or less, so I no need advice kowai

I am not that forgiving...

Babatunjo:
My bro, choose a woman based on her deep character, not just vibes or beauty. Also, never be with a woman who sees submission as oppression, no matter how beautiful she is.

Your last sentence Hits hard bro 👌💯

Chilipepper:
What's your biggest ick about yourself?

People, ICK is an expression of DISGUST. Just saying.

Chilipepper:
What's your biggest ick about yourself?

Not reaching out. If only they know that I keep malice with myself

folake4u:
I am not that forgiving...

For petty issues or deep ones ?

glaber:
E get one big one. E even good maybe person fit tell me wetin Dey sup.

Speaking with people or chatting sef doesn’t excite me at all , I get like 70+ unread messages on WhatsApp. Plenty missed calls. I no Dey even know wetin I wan talk most times. I don delete my WhatsApp reach 4 times.

I no say people go don tire for me, but no be say I hate pple.

I don't know why I find the emboldened funny.

But on a serious note, as adults, knowing how to communicate is one thing we get better at till we age. So I don't know if you have a psychological disorder (no insult intended) that is holding you back from communicating effectively.

I despise following rules and conforming to norms.

Sulele04:
For petty issues or deep ones ?

Deep stuff.

I don't follow trends. Because of that, people branded me as a family man and a father!

I’ll always call u out if it involves me.

Tjra:
No let your brothers see this

Nothing dey happen

Suicidal

poshestmina:
I don't give myself the kind of pampering I deserve .

I agree with this.

glaber:
E get one big one. E even good maybe person fit tell me wetin Dey sup.

Speaking with people or chatting sef doesn’t excite me at all , I get like 70+ unread messages on WhatsApp. Plenty missed calls. I no Dey even know wetin I wan talk most times. I don delete my WhatsApp reach 4 times.

I no say people go don tire for me, but no be say I hate pple.

Na me be this... Na only my business WhatsApp I dey respond to business messages.

Normal chat or calls it's a no no for me, calls sef na only my mama I dey pick ones. Any other calls na 5 days later or whenever my spirit push me to call you back

folake4u:
Deep stuff.

That's fair enough tbh, shows you are an emotional person if not anything.

Just that nowadays people like keeping grudges/malice over petty irrelevant issues.

I overthink things. I don't vet actions, I vet intentions. For this reason, I find it quite hard to relate with average-thinking people who are quite careless with their actions and intentions.

As an INTJ-E, it is also very hard to find or maintain meaningful friendships, hence I have chosen the path of certified lonership. Better that than **************


I am not stubborn, but I am not a conformist.

Lastly, I am quite difficult to understand. Blame it on my INTJ-E persona. The few people who understand my personality, however, know that a Dove's meekness doesn't come anywhere close to mine.

DrPurple:
I don’t celebrate my wins, I just move on to the next...

That is human nature at play. Humans are wired to desire so bad and once the desired has been attained, the itch for bigger wins beclouds the need to celebrate "small" wins. Sometimes, it could be due to the fear of complacency or perfectionism.

Exousiang01:
I am very difficult person to understand.
But I am the simplest person once you understand me.
Generally I am an ass at first site

Hello, my fellow colleague in a** at first sight

I am too selfless, always forgetting myself

I use days or months to process an offense then react after I'm certain. It's a crazy loop

Softmen:
Go school U say no say na Tinubu U dey support

You may be educated but you sound unreasonable. What makes you think he isn't educated because he doesn't know the meaning of the word? Do you know the meaning of all words in the dictionary?

Proserpina:
I use days or months to process an offense then react after I'm certain. It's a crazy loop

I am like this too. I've just been looking at someone who offended me since, I never get the person time YET.

Totally indifferent now, many things no dey surprise me again.

Sulele04:
That's fair enough tbh, shows you are an emotional person if not anything.

Just that nowadays people like keeping grudges/malice over petty irrelevant issues.

Lol did I ever come across as a stoic person?
But yeah, I mostly put logic first before my emotions come to play.

Oh well, in my own case, it's quite different.

folake4u:
I am like this too. I've just been looking at someone who offended me since, I never get the person time YET.

So I'm not weird after all. Like do you replay scenarios after they happen to analyze if you were at fault or the person was outrightly offensive without provocation? Because I do that

As a matter of fact sometimes I replay scenarios to be sure . Like subtle insults or actions I wasn't sure of when they happened at first, I can conclude on them days later

The funniest part it after going through this stress I may later let go but if not omooh heaven help that person if there's a reoccurrence of the scene oooo. Sometimes I talk about it other times I just do my own back

Proserpina:


So I'm not weird after all. Like do you replay scenarios after they happen to analyze if you were at fault or the person was outrightly offensive without provocation? Because I do that

As a matter of fact sometimes I replay scenarios to be sure . Like subtle insults or actions I wasn't sure of when they happened at first, I can conclude on them days later

The funniest part it after going through this stress I may later let go but if not omooh heaven help that person if there's a reoccurrence of the scene oooo. Sometimes I talk about it other times I just do my own back

No Pina, you are not weird at all.

Mine is even worse. I'm naturally a bubbly person, you can feel it when I'm chatting or talking to you. The moment you start feeling a shift of energy more than three times, just know something is bothering me and need to solve a puzzle.

Yes, I replay scenarios over and over, even in my sleep. Sometimes, I also try to involve a neutral 3rd party to analyze said scenario to know whether I'm being overly sensitive or at fault.

folake4u:
Lol did I ever come across as a stoic person?
But yeah, I mostly put logic first before my emotions come to play.

Oh well, in my own case, it's quite different.

The thing with me is I always have people beefing with me over petty stuffs. Well atleast to me it is "Petty".

The thing is the type of person I am I a very loose mouth & care free person so I just be saying anything without deeping it. Most of my close guys know that about me.

But with people that don't really know me they tend to take things personal & overthink every little things. & it makes me feel bad I really don't like malice/bad belle/grudges.

I literally had somebody started unnecessarily targetingh me at my last internship because I said his favourite anime is "mid".

One other started frowning at me & giving me negative vibez, after we had one long argument about a Twitter viral story. Meaningless argument that even my opinions weren't even real, I was just arguing for argument sake & to pass time.
He started taking it personal, despite tell him I was trolling he wasn't having it.

It is something that is making me reflect nowadays that maybe I need to get more reserved atleast when in the midst of people that don't know me enough.

Sulele04:
The thing with me is I always have people beefing with me over petty stuffs. Well atleast to me it is "Petty".

The thing is the type of person I am I a very loose mouth & care free person so I just be saying anything without deeping it. Most of my close guys know that about me.

But with people that don't really know me they tend to take things personal & overthink every little things. & it makes me feel bad I really don't like malice/bad belle/grudges.

I literally had somebody started unnecessarily targetingh me at my last internship because I said his favourite anime is "mid".

One other started frowning at me & giving me negative vibez, after we had one long argument about a Twitter viral story. Meaningless argument that even my opinions weren't even real, I was just arguing for argument sake & to pass time.
He started taking it personal, despite tell him I was trolling he wasn't having it.

It is something that is making me reflect nowadays that maybe I need to get more reserved atleast when in the midst of people that don't know me enough.

Well, to be honest with you, I don't think you should hide under the umbrella of being reserved when in the midst of people. Instead, your best bet is "Reading the room" and acting accordingly.

Emotional intelligence also comes in play when dealing with unknown people. The fact that you have a loose mouth doesn't mean you should start giving careless capping when you're with others. You have to put yourself in their shoes sometimes, "Is this conversation/bad mouth suitable for my audience or not?" If it is, and you have gauged that your bad mouth will rightly fit the mood and create laughter or more conversations from everyone, by all means you can proceed. But if you sense otherwise, it is the wisest to stop.

Have you ever wondered why conversations pertaining to bad government always elicit outbursts from people in a bus? Everyone is willing to lash at the government including the bus driver and conductor. You cannot really say the same when you engage in convos preferring Ronaldo or Messi, there will be chaos.

It is the same tactic used when communicating with strangers.

I literally had somebody started unnecessarily targetingh me at my last internship because I said his favourite anime is "mid".

Well, you cannot just deliberately talk down on his favourite anime and expect a handshake from him. People are kinda sensitive about what they like, and maybe that's the only thing giving him joy in this world.

#MyOpinion.

folake4u:
Well, to be honest with you, I don't think you should hide under the umbrella of being reserved when in the midst of people. Instead, your best bet is "Reading the room" and acting accordingly.

Emotional intelligence also comes in play when dealing with unknown people. The fact that you have a loose mouth doesn't mean you should start giving careless capping when you're with others. You have to put yourself in their shoes sometimes, "Is this conversation/bad mouth suitable for my audience or not?" If it is, and you have gauged that your bad mouth will rightly fit the mood and create laughter or more conversations from everyone, by all means you can proceed. But if you sense otherwise, it is the wisest to stop.

Have you ever wondered why conversations pertaining to bad government always elicit outbursts from people in a bus? Everyone is willing to lash at the government including the bus driver and conductor. You cannot really say the same when you engage in convos preferring Ronaldo or Messi, there will be chaos.

It is the same tactic used when communicating with strangers.



Well, you cannot just deliberately talk down on his favourite anime and expect a handshake from him. People are kinda sensitive about what they like, and maybe that's the only thing giving him joy in this world.

#MyOpinion.

Hmm, I get you sha & I agree it is that emotional intelligence I lack, I will work on it sha.

It is just that I don't take things religiously, like I am Messi fan but you could see me argue for Ronaldo in a instance & you wouldn't know. I might even say something like 'Messi is a fraud' just for the plot, because I could just feel like rocking that boat in that instance.

But if somebody says Messi is a fraud to me I couldn't be less bothered, talkless of animes or shows/clubs/ individuals, infact it is same reason why I am always surprised when I see people throwing abuses & issuing death threats online over music artists stanship, somebody like me now can never do that cause I don't really care. You can say anything about my favourite artist I would never really deep it or take it personal to you.

Even though I would never start beefing somebody for stuff like attacking my religion/ personal beliefs, I would never attack somebody religion or even political opinions, infact I avoid sensitive topics like this anywhere. Cause I know people can get real violent over stuffs like that.
It is just the non-sensititve ones I like to have a loose mouth on.

But sha everybody is not like me, so I understand now that I need to be watch what I say.
Thanks for this. 💙

Sulele04:
Hmm, I get you sha & I agree it is that emotional intelligence I lack, I will work on it sha.

It is just that I don't take things religiously, like I am Messi fan but you could see me argue for Ronaldo in a instance & you wouldn't know. I might even say something like 'Messi is a fraud' just for the plot, because I could just feel like rocking that boat in that instance.

But if somebody says Messi is a fraud to me I couldn't be less bothered, talkless of animes or shows/clubs/ individuals, infact it is same reason why I am always surprised when I see people throwing abuses & issuing death threats online over music artists stanship, somebody like me now can never do that cause I don't really care. You can say anything about my favourite artist I would never really deep it or take it personal to you.

Even though I would never start beefing somebody for stuff like attacking my religion/ personal beliefs, I would never attack somebody religion or even political opinions, infact I avoid sensitive topics like this anywhere. Cause I know people can get real violent over stuffs like that.
It is just the non-sensititve ones I like to have a loose mouth on.

But sha everybody is not like me, so I understand now that I need to be watch what I say.
Thanks for this. 💙

I'm a Ronaldo fan, I enjoy football bants a lot but don't take it to heart. There are others that might take it personally and carry the matter on their head like gala seller and throw death threats (which I find unnecessary). Same goes for the Wizkid/Davido, Nicki Minaj/Cardi B stanship.

It's best to avoid sensitive topics especially religious beliefs if you're not aligned to their takes and whatnots. In a world we live today, Religious tolerance needs to be practiced.

And yeah, everybody's not like you. I am also not like everyone but God will help us all.

Cheers.