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Sequel to the above post which I made here a few days ago, I'll like to inform this noble platform that my mum has at last, remarried. The rites were carried out yesterday. She remarries as a second wife of her new husband.

My earlier post generated a lot of controversies. I was misconstrued, misunderstood and my post misrepresented and taken out of context.
It is always easier to berate people when you're not the one directly involved in a matter. I'm not sure anyone, especially a male child, would be happy seeing his mum remarrying to another man. But who am I ?
I can't question God. I can't ask God why my dad had to die at such a young age leaving nothing to us to live on. Not even a house. I hear no illwill or animosity towards my beloved mum, as it wasn't her fault that she lost her husband six years ago.
Though the marriage is going to truncate the bond and relationship between her and my siblings but no problem. It is well. I will also try to make myself happy. Going forward, I'll now have to focus on my younger siblings and myself so we can strive hard to better our lives . I'm now their father and I hope God will see me through this journey. Life's challenges are almost always inescapable and inevitable. May God grant us the ability to withstand the storms of life.
I wish her all the best in her new abode.

The only positive thing about the archaic and barbaric tradition is that, I can decide to take my mum back whenever I want. That is, after discussing with my mum, and she's ready to quit the Marriage, I can consult my father's people and inform them, then, my mother's family will return the dowry to my stepfather. Afterwards, I and my father's people would carry out the necessary rituals and finally bring my mum back to my father's house.
At the moment, I can't interfere in anything that happens in her new husband's house. For instance, if there's a misunderstanding between them, I can't wade in to settle the duo. Doing so would make my late father's ghost to haunt me. Any issue that can't be resolved between them should be taken to my maternal grandfather and family.
I can't visit and sleepover or eat there.

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This boy with his never ending lies.

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Chram:
https://www.nairaland.com/8446546/mum-wants-remarry-six-years

Sequel to the above post which I made here a few days ago, I'll like to inform this noble platform that my mum has at last, remarried. The rites were carried out yesterday. She remarries as a second wife of her new husband.

My earlier post generated a lot of controversies. I was misconstrued, misunderstood and my post misrepresented and taken out of context.
It is always easier to berate people when you're not the one directly involved in a matter. I'm not sure anyone, especially a male child, would be happy seeing his mum remarrying to another man. But who am I ?
I can't question God. I can't ask God why my dad had to die at such a young age leaving nothing to us to live on. Not even a house. I hear no illwill or animosity towards my beloved mum, as it wasn't her fault that she lost her husband six years ago.
Though the marriage is going to truncate the bond and relationship between her and my siblings but no problem. It is well. I will also try to make myself happy. Going forward, I'll now have to focus on my younger siblings and myself so we can strive hard to better our lives . I'm now their father and I hope God will see me through this journey. Life's challenges are almost always inescapable and inevitable. May God grant us the ability to withstand the storms of life.
I wish her all the best in her new abode.

Congratulations to your mom.



Kudos

Good thing.
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I saw your post the day you made it, I felt your pain and I understand perfectly what you're going through.

I av been there, though it was my dad.

Long story short, looking back today, he is grateful, he didn't make the move.

You're intelligent enough, I see that you av already prepare your mind for the future.

Kudos👍 to you.

It will definitely get better.

Foodqueen:
I saw your post the day you made it, I felt your pain and I understand perfectly what you're going through.

I av been there, though it was my dad.

Long story short, I am glad that looking back today, he is grateful, he didn't make the move.

You're intelligent enough, I see that you av already prepare your mind for the future.

Kudos👍 to you.

It will definitely get better.

God bless u so much for these words. I really appreciate you the food Queen.
Wish u had some food for me to eat

How do people cope with having total strangers marrying their parents and now being obliged to refer to them as their parents?

With the way I'm stubborn, I don't think I'd have gotten along with any of them... ... I only recognise two people as my parents and that's my biological mother and father.

Let her marry nau haha why are you now singing all about the whole trend like Johnny cash, do you have I mind to marry your mother before? 😏

Samantha125:
How do people cope with having total strangers marrying their parents and now being obliged to refer to them as their parents?

With the way I'm stubborn, I don't think I'd have gotten along with any of them... ... I only recognise two people as my parents and that's my biological mother and father.

Its not easy I swear. I feel really pained honestly

columbus007:
Let her marry nau haha why are you now singing all about the whole trend like Johnny cash, do you have I mind to marry your mother before? 😏

Sorry, what are you really saying Bro. ?

So your mom now married as a second wife? Oh Chim!! This polygamy sef. I hope she can endure sha?
It is well o!!

Beremx:
So your mom now married as a second wife? Oh Chim!! This polygamy sef. I hope she can endure sha?
It is well o!!

I'm heartbroken, so sad. But what can I say or do?

Some circumstances are beyond our control.

Some circumstances are beyond our control.

A widow is entitled to happiness also.

You tried to hack my email!
Guys beware of this guy

Wow, so you finally bowed to pressure

God will be with you brother,he won't give you more than you can handle

Chram:
Sorry, what are you really saying Bro. ?

how many siblings do you have? If they are in secondary schools, enable them to learn one trade or vocational skills or the other.

Chram:
I'm heartbroken, so sad. But what can I say or do?

Cheer up bro, everything will work out. Other widows are messing up themselves but your mom did the honorable thing. Try to check her welfare periodically, make sure they are treating her good.

If she is being maltreated, don't fear to take her back immediately. That's what I would do.

press9jatv:
how many siblings do you have? If they are in secondary schools, enable them to learn one trade or vocational skills or the other.

Exactly, that's what I want them to do. Its very important even before they proceed to tertiary institutions of study

Talkisneeded:
God will be with you brother,he won't give you more than you can handle

Thank you so much for your kind words Sir

delugadou:
Cheer up bro, everything will work out. Other widows are messing up themselves but your mom did the honorable thing. Try to check her welfare periodically, make sure they are treating her good.

If she is being maltreated, don't fear to take her back immediately. That's what I would do.

Exactly. The tradition also states that when I've come of age and I want, I can decide to consult my paternal uncles and elders that I want to return my mum back to her late husband's, my own father house. So we will have to now as tell my maternal grandfather to return my stepfather's dowry paid in the process of marrying my mum. After that is done, I will take a life goat to my father's house for elders to eat and also buy drinks signifying that I have returned my mum Back to her late husband's house. Also remember that before she married her new husband, she already returned the bridprice my own late dad paid back to my father's people

Chram:
Exactly, that's what I want them to do. Its very important even before they proceed to tertiary institutions of study

exactly. Thank God you have finished university, you will lay a great foundation and examples for your siblings. Once they got it right in vocational skills or tech skills, they will appreciate you more and with that they will never depend on people.

press9jatv:
exactly. Thank God you have finished university, you will lay a great foundation and examples for your siblings. Once they got it right in vocational skills or tech skills, they will appreciate you more and with that they will never depend on people.

Truth in totality.
Thank you Sir 🙏
I appreciate.

Chram:
Truth in totality.
Thank you Sir 🙏
I appreciate.

you are welcome bro, God Almighty is your strength. Also to add, enable your siblings to study profitable courses in university like medicine, nursing, law, computer engineering, tech courses too. With this, they will be productive more in their academic career.

Chram:
God bless u so much for these words. I really appreciate you the food Queen.
Wish u had some food for me to eat

Are you hungry?

We can't even ask simple question anymore. It must be epistle before we would be allow to post.

CJStarz:
You tried to hack my email!
Guys beware of this guy

Which guy pls..

Is it the poster.

Story time oooo

Foodqueen:
Are you hungry?

We can't even ask simple question anymore. It must be epistle before we would be allow to post.

Honestly. Its boring o.
I just noticed it Today.

Yes I am. Its really difficult with me now

Congratulations 🎊🍾🎈🎉 to them.
It’s her life at the end of the day.

Foodqueen:
Which guy pls..

Is it the poster.

Story time oooo

Yes
The poster.
I have the proof.
Scammers prowling this forum!

The only good fight u need now is to strive and be successful and everything shall be settled.

I really felt bad after reading the initial story,but may God bless and increase u especially in the areas u are lacking.

Be positive brother.