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Finally I did it and I’m proud of myself. I reported my narcissistic, abusive, manipulative EX to immigration and he will be deported back to Nigeria. This will probably rub some the wrong way but if you know what he’s put me through for the past 3.5 years and what I’ve sacrificed for him, you would say “well done my sister”.
Now I can exhale and move on with my life knowing I taught him a big lesson.
This is at the end of the day very sad but most of it I didn’t cause or start. I’m just the one finally ending it.

Hmmm it's well with you pls just take it easy.

Noted. May just prevail in all cases. Let innocent people rejoice. Let offenders pay for their offences.

But try to tell us what he did to you, and what you sacrificed for him. Don't just tell us that you have reported him. If you are bold to tell us that you have reported him, also be bold to tell us what he did to you and the sacrifice you've made for him. Your profile has no previous thread that tells anything about your relationship with him.

No vex ooo ..please tell us what u sacrificed? I want to check something

What are you ending again, it won't be more than destruction na una way

why not let go and move on with your life?

What if he don collect him 📃 over there 🤔? They'll not do him anything unless he breaks their laws.

Dnt invite further 😒 🙄 😑 😕 trouble to yourself/family. Make dem nor do u strong tin/kpai u for yo parents. May u NOT see EVIL.



Move on...

I don go beyond 40 sef

Please give us a backstory to why you reported him

Gosh I didn’t think anyone would want to know the backstory.
Well. I gave up my nice upper middle class life, beautiful flat, my furniture, my new car, my family, all the clothes, shoes and handbags a girl could want. I gave away alot and sold some. I took on a 2nd job for a year to save and prepare for the move, ended up saving equivalent of 20k usd. I left my own country to move to Nigeria after 2.5 years of long distance. We planned for me to move to him because you know it’s hard for a Nigerian to japa. We were to get married, stay in Nigeria a while then switch countries. Not long after I arrived he started acting weird, like ignoring me and just being very different than the previous years of long distance. & yes, I visited him 3 times that long distance time. When I relocated, It was to rebuild again with him for us.
We had some major issues adjusting to being together and I realized it was because he never really wanted a full relationship. He had always had situationships and this was his preference, even though he never said this. It was clear to me.
But I was stuck, I had already gotten rid of my whole life and relocated. So I hung on, we stayed in and out, while he breadbeumbed me to keep me attached and he went on to keep exploring other people while also entertaining me and telling me he loves me, he wants us to be a family etc but we needed to “heal” he kept saying. Basically giving me a bs excuse of why he could t commit to me.

That went on for 2 years, we’re both living separately but still in and out together, he’s still doing what he needed to do to give me “false hope”.
He went on vacation to another country, alone, to return in a month. After that month, he told me he was not coming back to Nigeria ever. So he left me in his country. I was of course devastated, almost killed myself tbh. And I lost probably 25 kg, so I was a skeleton. That was the lowest I’ve ever been in my life. A week or so later, I was investigating and saw he was in the new country boo’d up with a girl.
So we fought back and forth and that was it, we did not talk or anything for 4 months. He was blocked everywhere and I was in Nigeria alone.

After 4 months out of the blue, he sent me 5 million naira. Then a few weeks later, he sent another 3 million. He was still blocked. After that 2nd transfer of $$, we started communicating again via email then I unblocked him. He sent $$ out of guilt I later realized.
Long story short. He got me to go to the country he had Japa to and when I got here, we make up and said we’re re-starting with a clean slate, leave the past in the past, forgive and forget.


2 months went by, everything was great, perfect in fact.
Then one day he got a call at midnight feom a number with a pink bow, now name. I asked him who that was and no answer from him. So my antenna’s went up again.
He was storing one of his suitcases at my flat for whatever reason I can’t remember and when I saw that phone call and he was being secretive about it , I decided to open the suitcase just to “see”, nit thinking I would find anything.
To my horror, I found printed pictures of him and the girl that I caught him with while I was still in Nigeria. I asked him and he confessed that he moved to the new country and started a new relationship with her within the 2-3 weeks AND when I arrived to the new country and we were supposedly starting anew, fresh start, he was still seeing her, juggling and rotating us, essentially having 2 relationships going.

So again, I wa devastated, distraught, so many things I can’t even put into words. So I retreated again. This time for 2 months. I was again in a foreign country alone, he’s with the girl. I spent Xmas & new years alone.
Then after 2 months, he emailed me and begged me again.
Now mind you, I love this man with all of me, so it’s easy to be dumb stupid when it comes to him. Plus my being alone in a foreign country worked in his favour. I wanted him around but I was trying to maintain some dignity for myself.
So again, we got back together in February. We were good March, April and May. Then he got a new car, a new Mercedes, his dream car. Soon as I saw it, I knew what was coming next.
The next week, we had planned a road trip for Saturday. Saturday morning he called and said he had drank too much on Friday night and he was broke. So I sent him $$ and told him to rest, drink water and we can reschedule the road trip.

He came to my place that Monday-Wednesday and that’s the last time we saw each other.
I felt he was OFF again, his energy. So I investigated and saw that that Friday he went out, he had dm’d a girl on IG, for her an Airbnb for the weekend in the city, took her out to dinner, clubbing and whatever else. So that’s why he was broke and asking me for $$. Which is just low down dirty of him.
So I contacted the girl and told her he’s not single. She didn’t care. She preceded to brag to me how much $$ he spent on her.
Then I told all of his friends what he did becazue he told the girl I was a leech, lazy and crazy. She told me this.
Which I am none of those things, I work and make my own money and I never ask him for a penny.


Some sought back and forth via text becazue he wasn’t man enough to even pick his phone, for about 3 days we fought then just blocked him everywhere again.


So this is the 3rd time he had blindsided me after begging me tio come back and making all these promises.
Mind you, when we met, I was at the too of my
Game, I made good $$, had a good lifestyle and i helped him to elevate himself giving him $$ every month before I relocated. When we met he was washing clothes in a bucket, living in a tiny tiny studio flat and he had no car. Before long, with my help, he had a new iPhone, new MacBook, a car and he was on his way up.
And today, we have 100% switched places. I am the poor one, no car,no decent clothes, my flat is reddest and this is becazue I keep having to take
A month or two to recover from the shxt he does to me. So
The energy I would use to “build” was going to picking myself off the floor after he blindsided me.
Today he had a new Mercedes, all designer clothes, lived in a high rise in the city and he had $$ in his bank account. It’s like he did
Juju on me and sucked my life force and used it doe him. Becazue we are literally switched from what we were when we met.

So after some thought. I would normally just be the bigger person and walk away as I have done many times before. But this time, I feel I need to yeah him a hard lesson to not play with people and play with peoples life like he has done.
Mind you, I can’t even write everything he had done to me here but just know, I am severely traumatised from him, I’m nervous all the time, like a scared abused dog shaking in the corner.

And why should I just walk away and take months again to HEAL from him while he goes on with his life with this new person. I want him to feel how it feels to lose EVERyTHING like I have.

So I decided to report him and have him deported. Then we are even, I have nothing, he will lose everything and be where I’m at and feel what I feel.
I’ve never ever been in such poverty as I am today and it is because of him and his lies and manipulation.
I hope this makes gives an idea of my WHY.

I’m not a bad person. I’ve just reached the end of my rope of being abused repeatedly. I’ve been good to him despite how he’s treated me.

I gave all of his info, how he obtained his fake visa, how much he paid and his passport copy to them and I expect they will act on it soon.
I told him I was going to report him but he believes I’m too soft to do so, so he blew me off.
Even worse, the girl that he took out this last time is posting pictures online taunting me, pics of her in his new Mercedes, etc.
I feel right or wrong, I cannot just walk away this time.
I’m here alone, scared to death, stressed and I need to figure out what to do next.
I’m changed forever because of this man and his disrespect and abuse.

Wow. I'm lost for words and hearing from the second party for a balanced view is impossible here.

Take it easy OP.

Just take it easy and get back up where you belong at the top,it's never too late.

FAKE VISA to enter wic country ? Online country I guess 🤔 😕 .Continue

He has fake papers. I know for a fact. So when they check it and look in the system, he won’t be there. He went through a back door and paid 4000 USD for it.
And I am moving in with my life NOW, I will. But he will also feel the same pain he has inflicted on me this time. Never before have I held him
Accountable but this time I will.

We will never see each other again after 5.5 years, it’s actually sad this is how we end but he created this thinking he won’t face any consequences.

MaziObinnaokija:
why not let go and move on with your life?

What if he don collect him 📃 over there 🤔? They'll not do him anything unless he breaks their laws.

Dnt invite further 😒 🙄 😑 😕 trouble to yourself/family. Make dem nor do u strong tin/kpai u for yo parents. May u NOT see EVIL.


Move on...

I don go beyond 40 sef

He entered the country on a visitor visa. Then he got his status switched to a 3 year fake student visa. He can go in and out of the country but if they look closely, with the info they I gave to them, they will see the visa is indeed ill gotten fake.

MaziObinnaokija:
FAKE VISA to enter wic country ? Online country I guess 🤔 😕 .Continue

u registered this account last week and knack us story today. Yo man dey picked money on tree top/ground "abroad" and send u 5M and 3M sharp sharp just like dat . Abeg! Nah wic country person dey enter with "OLUWOLE" visa ?.

Person wey read this story shud summarise am for person 🙄 😑 😒 😐

It’s my life, I lived it and I can’t summarise it for you. The money he sent was to get back in my good graces again after he abandoned me in his country. And for me to use to get to the new country he was in.

MaziObinnaokija:
u registered this account last week and knack us story today. Yo man dey picked on tree top/ground "abroad" and send u 5M and 3M sharp sharp just like dat . Abeg! Nah wic country person dey enter with "OLUWOLE" visa ?.

Person wey read this story shud summarise am for person 🙄 😑 😒 😐

Fake news

Fake story

Fake characters

Fake theme

Fake setting

Fake story of a scarma.. chai.. the werey femenist go create another account sef..

Bro I wish it were a fake story. I would
Give my right arm for it to be fake. Unfortunately it’s my life.

SeeWahala:
Fake news

Fake story

Fake characters

Fake theme

Fake setting

I no fit read again abeg. Just tell us waiting happen





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Why are you guys saying that the story is fake?......is there something I'm not getting?
Even if it is fake story.....how e take affect Una?
Some people sef

The funny part is what do I have to gain by sitting and taking 20 minutes of my life to write a fake story? Nothing. So why would I
Bother.

Nigerians are so skeptical about everything. Aomw things are indeed real.

Nemesis0147:
Why are you guys saying that the story is fake?......is there something I'm not getting?
Even if it is fake story.....how e take affect Una?
Some people sef

Let's move on together jare...

The guy na bad man.
Me ama good man.

Thomthom:
I no fit read again abeg. Just tell us waiting happen

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Banny meet naija demon....claim she upgrade demon

U know naija demon go everly behave like naija demon...but still dey run things with banny, dey tidy her up with millions here and there

But banny don tire for naija demon side runs, so she decide to run the matter street by reporting n!gga to US immigrations hoping they will deport him....

The matter na greys anatomy shaaa.....the season never end...

NjaFoodie:
I gave all of his info, how he obtained his fake visa, how much he paid and his passport copy to them and I expect they will act on it soon.
I told him I was going to report him but he believes I’m too soft to do so, so he blew me off.
Even worse, the girl that he took out this last time is posting pictures online taunting me, pics of her in his new Mercedes, etc.
I feel right or wrong, I cannot just walk away this time.
I’m here alone, scared to death, stressed and I need to figure out what to do next.
I’m changed forever because of this man and his disrespect and abuse.

Sorry that's not how things work there.

Granted you gave them all the right info but he will simply show he has been sending you money and you've blackmailed him.

His refuser to give in led to all these and guess what anty he has someone there to collaborate his stories.

Just move on and pray for the better

Una get time oo, person. Wey just registered NL on the 6th de use una catch cruise.

Actually I have already spoken to the Home Affairs people in person and in writing. Gave them his info and they have to verify his visa is fake then he will be contacted and picked up. I’m not playing games, I did my research. & this is not the US I am speaking about, it’s an African country who will happily deport him I was told.
He sent me money in Nigeria almost a year ago now.
I also reported his other unscrupulous activities that he does to get money.
So no doubt, he will get what he has coming.

haggai247:
Sorry that's not how things work there.

Granted you gave them all the right info but he will simply show he has been sending you money and you've blackmailed him.

His refuser to give in led to all these and guess what anty he has someone there to collaborate his stories.

Just move on and pray for the better

Where is there?? Did I even mention a country? No I didn’t.

haggai247:
Sorry that's not how things work there.

Granted you gave them all the right info but he will simply show he has been sending you money and you've blackmailed him.

His refuser to give in led to all these and guess what anty he has someone there to collaborate his stories.

Just move on and pray for the better

NjaFoodie:
Gosh I didn’t think anyone would want to know the backstory.
Well. I gave up my nice upper middle class life, beautiful flat, my furniture, my new car, my family, all the clothes, shoes and handbags a girl could want. I gave away alot and sold some. I took on a 2nd job for a year to save and prepare for the move, ended up saving equivalent of 20k usd. I left my own country to move to Nigeria after 2.5 years of long distance. We planned for me to move to him because you know it’s hard for a Nigerian to japa. We were to get married, stay in Nigeria a while then switch countries. Not long after I arrived he started acting weird, like ignoring me and just being very different than the previous years of long distance. & yes, I visited him 3 times that long distance time. When I relocated, It was to rebuild again with him for us.
We had some major issues adjusting to being together and I realized it was because he never really wanted a full relationship. He had always had situationships and this was his preference, even though he never said this. It was clear to me.
But I was stuck, I had already gotten rid of my whole life and relocated. So I hung on, we stayed in and out, while he breadbeumbed me to keep me attached and he went on to keep exploring other people while also entertaining me and telling me he loves me, he wants us to be a family etc but we needed to “heal” he kept saying. Basically giving me a bs excuse of why he could t commit to me.

That went on for 2 years, we’re both living separately but still in and out together, he’s still doing what he needed to do to give me “false hope”.
He went on vacation to another country, alone, to return in a month. After that month, he told me he was not coming back to Nigeria ever. So he left me in his country. I was of course devastated, almost killed myself tbh. And I lost probably 25 kg, so I was a skeleton. That was the lowest I’ve ever been in my life. A week or so later, I was investigating and saw he was in the new country boo’d up with a girl.
So we fought back and forth and that was it, we did not talk or anything for 4 months. He was blocked everywhere and I was in Nigeria alone.

After 4 months out of the blue, he sent me 5 million naira. Then a few weeks later, he sent another 3 million. He was still blocked. After that 2nd transfer of $$, we started communicating again via email then I unblocked him. He sent $$ out of guilt I later realized.
Long story short. He got me to go to the country he had Japa to and when I got here, we make up and said we’re re-starting with a clean slate, leave the past in the past, forgive and forget.


2 months went by, everything was great, perfect in fact.
Then one day he got a call at midnight feom a number with a pink bow, now name. I asked him who that was and no answer from him. So my antenna’s went up again.
He was storing one of his suitcases at my flat for whatever reason I can’t remember and when I saw that phone call and he was being secretive about it , I decided to open the suitcase just to “see”, nit thinking I would find anything.
To my horror, I found printed pictures of him and the girl that I caught him with while I was still in Nigeria. I asked him and he confessed that he moved to the new country and started a new relationship with her within the 2-3 weeks AND when I arrived to the new country and we were supposedly starting anew, fresh start, he was still seeing her, juggling and rotating us, essentially having 2 relationships going.

So again, I wa devastated, distraught, so many things I can’t even put into words. So I retreated again. This time for 2 months. I was again in a foreign country alone, he’s with the girl. I spent Xmas & new years alone.
Then after 2 months, he emailed me and begged me again.
Now mind you, I love this man with all of me, so it’s easy to be dumb stupid when it comes to him. Plus my being alone in a foreign country worked in his favour. I wanted him around but I was trying to maintain some dignity for myself.
So again, we got back together in February. We were good March, April and May. Then he got a new car, a new Mercedes, his dream car. Soon as I saw it, I knew what was coming next.
The next week, we had planned a road trip for Saturday. Saturday morning he called and said he had drank too much on Friday night and he was broke. So I sent him $$ and told him to rest, drink water and we can reschedule the road trip.

He came to my place that Monday-Wednesday and that’s the last time we saw each other.
I felt he was OFF again, his energy. So I investigated and saw that that Friday he went out, he had dm’d a girl on IG, for her an Airbnb for the weekend in the city, took her out to dinner, clubbing and whatever else. So that’s why he was broke and asking me for $$. Which is just low down dirty of him.
So I contacted the girl and told her he’s not single. She didn’t care. She preceded to brag to me how much $$ he spent on her.
Then I told all of his friends what he did becazue he told the girl I was a leech, lazy and crazy. She told me this.
Which I am none of those things, I work and make my own money and I never ask him for a penny.


Some sought back and forth via text becazue he wasn’t man enough to even pick his phone, for about 3 days we fought then just blocked him everywhere again.


So this is the 3rd time he had blindsided me after begging me tio come back and making all these promises.
Mind you, when we met, I was at the too of my
Game, I made good $$, had a good lifestyle and i helped him to elevate himself giving him $$ every month before I relocated. When we met he was washing clothes in a bucket, living in a tiny tiny studio flat and he had no car. Before long, with my help, he had a new iPhone, new MacBook, a car and he was on his way up.
And today, we have 100% switched places. I am the poor one, no car,no decent clothes, my flat is reddest and this is becazue I keep having to take
A month or two to recover from the shxt he does to me. So
The energy I would use to “build” was going to picking myself off the floor after he blindsided me.
Today he had a new Mercedes, all designer clothes, lived in a high rise in the city and he had $$ in his bank account. It’s like he did
Juju on me and sucked my life force and used it doe him. Becazue we are literally switched from what we were when we met.

So after some thought. I would normally just be the bigger person and walk away as I have done many times before. But this time, I feel I need to yeah him a hard lesson to not play with people and play with peoples life like he has done.
Mind you, I can’t even write everything he had done to me here but just know, I am severely traumatised from him, I’m nervous all the time, like a scared abused dog shaking in the corner.

And why should I just walk away and take months again to HEAL from him while he goes on with his life with this new person. I want him to feel how it feels to lose EVERyTHING like I have.

So I decided to report him and have him deported. Then we are even, I have nothing, he will lose everything and be where I’m at and feel what I feel.
I’ve never ever been in such poverty as I am today and it is because of him and his lies and manipulation.
I hope this makes gives an idea of my WHY.

I’m not a bad person. I’ve just reached the end of my rope of being abused repeatedly. I’ve been good to him despite how he’s treated me.

On what ground is he gonna be deported ?

Front page ,this is a lamentation of a lover whose bf is a usurper

NjaFoodie:
Finally I did it and I’m proud of myself. I reported my narcissistic, abusive, manipulative EX to immigration and he will be deported back to Nigeria. This will probably rub some the wrong way but if you know what he’s put me through for the past 3.5 years and what I’ve sacrificed for him, you would say “well done my sister”.
Now I can exhale and move on with my life knowing I taught him a big lesson.
This is at the end of the day very sad but most of it I didn’t cause or start. I’m just the one finally ending it.

Are you from Ghana and if I may ask,what do you do that makes you able to get same job so fast when you switched countries ?